ttc after a d&c

[aaronswoman79]

yea lilesmom im lucky enough to have 3 boys 2 are 11 and 13 and my youngest is 2 and half x x

Oh my gosh, 3 boys!! I have 2 daughters, one is almost 13 and the other is 6. I want to have a baby boy so badly now! I didn't care so much while I was pregnant, even though I kind of wanted a boy, but as soon as I miscarried and saw my little boy, now I want a son so badly, especially because my husband is the only man in the house and we are all girls here even down to our dog! We need some more testosterone here. I am turning 33 this month, I hope I am pregnant by the time of my birthday. I would have been over 6 months on my b-day. I just want to be pregnant again. I had the rest of the year planned out until this miscarriage happened. I hope all our dreams come true very soon.

 

[lilesMom]

i had planned to write lots and keep up with the convo but i read it all and forgto what i wanted to say had to come back home from work , kidney infection back with a bang, my brain is mush again .
thanks for info on soft cups, i wasnt too sure what they r i might get to use um some time this century

 

[jen435]

Hugs laura i feel so bad for you we just want our laura healthy. Please get lots of rest. I wonder if those doctors know what they are doing because they loss ur results your bloodwork and now your not better many hugs to you laura your in my prayers for a speedy recovery. Your very strong for all u been through and i know you will fight through this and be healthy soon. I hope your well taken care of at home. get lots of rest.

 

[lilesMom]

thanks jen, i dont think they have a clue, i feel awfull today, im so down , im sick of being sick, im startin to feel like il never be well enough to ttc. now i be on another round of antibs prob and out of work again, i feel like the worst employee in the world and feel like i have no life, i am so fed up of it all. sorry for ranting but i dont have it in me to be happy today, i just want to be relatively healthy and have my baby, i dont think im asking for the world. im abit cross with god, im being as positive as i can, im living the best i can and asking or help all the time and i dont feel like im gettin it .

 

[lilesMom]

ive had a bit of a cry and a whinge and ive decided that im gonna try be upbeat again, i prefer being that way. being down does me no good so it can f**k off talk to ye later guys x

 

[jen435]

Laura hugs you have every right to complain and be upset. Is ur db treating you well and being helpful? I hope so. Your excused from work so please rest and take care yourself. My dh always tells me my health comes first. Same applys to you. So dont stress it wont help you. Many hugs to you. Use this as ur complaining venting thread as long as u need to we are here for you and will try our best to make you have pma.

 

[lilesMom]

thanks jen ur a sweetie, i just had a sleep and lots of tea and i feel a bit better. he is gone to buy my bday present so i cant complain too much.
he is a bit weird with sick people, he has no time for them, he never goes to doc himself and is hardly ever sick, i think it pees him off a bit cos im sick all time and he cant fix it. plus i cant do anything with him cos im always sick, . we used to go do things any time we were off together now if i do, il be too tired for work so i dont do anything much on m y days off. i think i need to work part time, i dont think full time work is good for me anymore but my work isnt flexible like that and i cant afford to leave just yet. im goin to doc again tomro and i hope its one of my 2 nice docs and il ask um possibity of fighting for part time instead of full time. also my blood test may be back tomro so i might know more. thanks for stopping me from going insane ha ha xxxxxxx

how ru babe? im very selfish today sorry xxx

 

[lilesMom]

bit of a weird qs but i looked up soft cups. u can bd with a new one in but if u do, does it not block the swimmers from gettin in if it covers ur cervix?

 

[Storked]

Re: softcups...I don't think I could BD with one in. It would hurt my husband lol. They go in at kind of an angle, hooking behind your pubic bone? So hard to explain but because it is at an angle it is easy to get out. I think the moon cup and diva cup have string like pullers on their cups for you to jerk em out. But for the soft cup you just curl a finger over the lip and pull it out
Now, Laura! Oh no to being sick! I am so sorry honey! I hope they put you on some incredibly powerful meds that will defeat it once and for all. And Jen is right dear, you can vent here until you get your PMA back. We love you

Daily dose of to all my sweet ladies

 

[lilesMom]

i watched a vid on them and they reckon u can Bd with them in, sounds bit weird though they say to adjust ur position

 

[Storked]

I'd be too scared hehe

 

[lilesMom]

it could be pushed somewhere u wouldnt find it

 

[Storked]

Exactly!

 

[Storked]

My cat hates his hairball medicine. I have to smear it on his paws to make him eat it. Poor boy

 

[jen435]

I work part time because of.getting worn out. Laura what do u do? I assumed your a nurse at a hospital? I hope your better docs are there and you can get whats best for you. Hugs just want u better. Happy birthday!! Hope db cuddles you lots and nurses you back to health with love. Hope u get a strong med that works for good this.time

yes i hear u can wear em amd dtd with no problem. Think ill try it. I have a tilted cervix though so got to call ob just to see what they think.

Went to nephews football game it rained whole time. I hope i dont get sick im cold and drenched no one told me to bring chair blanket umbrella and it was nice qhen we left. All well. Cant complain. Im good otherwise

 

[jen435]

Aww so hard to get animals to take meds.

to all!

Amy and horseypants how are you?

 

[Storked]

Tell me what OB says! Hope you don't get sick Jen

 

[jen435]

Will do. Calling them tuesday since its a holiday mon. My ears hurt n head but it just be because of the kids being loud n the air conditioner on after being drenched from rain. I kept it together all day and i finally. Couldnt take it when i got back to my sil house and let them know i am not feeling well. dh is now going to be angry with me the rest of the night and itll go into the week. Exactly what i was tryin to avoid. His family i love but i cant take watchin jen brag about how she has great kids and just wait til your a parent youll see how it is. All day long. Totally see why its easier to avoid sad situations but could never tell dh or the fam how i feel. Sorry was hiding it well til just now.

 

[Storked]

Oh Jen I am so sorry your husband doesn't understand
There are some things that my husband gets angry about too. He was mad when I had the D&C- he said I imagined the extreme pain from my miscarriage and didn't need the D&C. They get very upset over things that they should be able to empathize over. So sorry sweetie

 

[aaronswoman79]

Will do. Calling them tuesday since its a holiday mon. My ears hurt n head but it just be because of the kids being loud n the air conditioner on after being drenched from rain. I kept it together all day and i finally. Couldnt take it when i got back to my sil house and let them know i am not feeling well. dh is now going to be angry with me the rest of the night and itll go into the week. Exactly what i was tryin to avoid. His family i love but i cant take watchin jen brag about how she has great kids and just wait til your a parent youll see how it is. All day long. Totally see why its easier to avoid sad situations but could never tell dh or the fam how i feel. Sorry was hiding it well til just now.

aww Jen, I am so sorry for what you are going through. I will say that it is probably a little insensitive for her to be bragging about how great her kids are and just wait till u are a parent, especially considering all that you have gone through with the miscarriage. I think what is most important right now is that you protect yourself and your health, and try to stay away from all that is negative. I know that is easier said than done. And I am sure when she is bragging she is not trying to make you feel bad. It is hard for people to understand that we are extra sensitive because all we have gone through. I had an incident with my mom yesterday. We went to the store together, and I saw this cute little boy, and I later told my mom, that my son would have been that cute or cuter. I wasn't trying to insult the baby or anything, I guess I was just putting my baby on a pedestal. I guess it was my grief talking. Well then my mom starts lecturing me on how its not nice to say that my baby is cute or would have been cuter. It got me really annoyed seeing as how she has done that many times and has said how me and my brothers were cute than so and sos babies. So to make a long story short, I snapped at her and yelled, "my baby is dead, he is dead, he is dead!! What does it matter if I said he would have been cuter! I will never have my baby. Let me think what I want!" The bad thing about this incident is that my 2 daughters were right there in the car, when all of this happened. Then my older daughter started crying and saying she didn't like it that I kept saying the baby is dead. So on top of my snapping I was left with a huge guilt trip and felt like the worst mother in the world.