ttc after a d&c

[aaronswoman79]

Laura enjoy your get away! Happy birthday!! And most importantly fxd for tom!!! Praying for good news!!! Up! We will definately miss you!

Amy yay!!! Dh needs no surgery!! feel better girl! You need to be healthy for that bfp you'll have soon! I'm definately staying positive!

Bethany thank you for your tip! dh makes me mad! But all well ij still gonna try anything I can. Also breath try not to think about tww play with you kitty workout cook talk with us enjoy dh love ya! You'll have your bfp soon also I just know it! Btw which CD are you now?

Jessica hi!! Thank you for your kind words! Your still waiting for af??? Hang in there took me a little over 6wks the witch will come. (Sorry if i messed that up I just read 4-5pgs and brain dead plus on my cell)

Horseypants must agree with u and other ladies I think we will all be super cautious. I wasn't aware dtd could cause MC or harm to baby. I thought they were safe. Guess ill be second thinking that know. Good to know.


What a day I had. Very sad and bazaar... went to work 8:40am for two pts.... next two pts couldn't come in due to a fatal accident right outside our building road blocked off etc. Rescheduled em for afternoon. Dentist hired two new young girls and fired the two married girls he had. (Just t oday) I ended up driving my whole office to lunch since my car was the cleanest. Dentist is definatelyfeelingthem out (he's single). Two ppl and a doggy died in crash so sad.

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So sorry for your sad day. Earlier this year we were on our way to take the kids out, and we saw the most horrific accident, like out of a movie, a car flew right off an overpass around 70 feet in the air, it landed on its nose flipped over several times and literally metal was flying everywhere. Of course we pulled over, it happened right on the over pass right over us. So the car landed on the freeway we were on. My husband ran over to the car and him and a few other women were there and couldn't find the victim, well it turned out that the poor young woman was ejected while the car was flying 70 ft down and the car landed on top of her. My husband had to lift the back end of the car while the 2 women pulled her from under. One was a nurse, thankfully. He came back to our car and got our coats to cover the body of the poor young lady. I felt horrible though because the police came and told us to move our car forward. I told my daughters not to look but my older daughter did, and saw the body of the woman, and she started bawling. Well, as we waited in the car, my husband stayed to help with anything he could. He watched as they tried to revive her. When they pulled her from under the car, she still had a weak pulse miraculously. But she ended up passing away right in front of all of them. What really is a reminder though, is that my coat was covering half of her body, and my husbands was covering the other half. They told us we had to take our coats back. We have never wore the coats again, too sad and awkward. What is so sad is that she was only 25 years old with her whole life ahead of her, and her one wish in life was to get married and have children. This accident really reminded me of just how precious life is, and how it can leave us in a flash. Hearing about what you went through today brought memories of that young lady.

 

[jen435]

Oh my im so sorry you witnessed that. So very sad. Your dh is so strong. the lady driving a station wagon died after being cut out of her car and her son died 30 mins after. The man in the truck it was completely flipped and he had to be cut out thru bottom of truck floor the dog was in the back seat of truck died shortly after being rescued. It was very sad and numbing. But thank god for other vehicles not being involved. We heard the crash in our office but lady next store called police. Ambulance was already there bc it happened right outside there building. I couldnt imagine watching such a young girl lose her life so sad. Is your dd okay or does she still remember?

 

[horseypants]

hey aaron's woman, thanks for kicking us off the paranoid boat sorry i've missed so much, but are you in sf? i spend a lot of time there. stoked, sweety PIE!!!!!!!!! i know how you feel, but dont! hugs hugs hugs. laura, HAPPY BDAY! happy scan day, happy vacay. jen, oh my goodness................................. everyone i missed, lots of love. must. get. off. computer. and really to recap, about the orgasms, i really think it could be either way. it's could be good or have no effect. i was having a threatened miscarriage and said, meh oh well and went ahead, and the baby continued living for longer than expected. as sad as it is, im counting that as one good notch in the belt of orgasms during early pregnancy. also, STRESS! i swear. i have 'em to keep my stress levels reasonable. it's for health reasons! ok im off.

 

[aaronswoman79]

Oh my im so sorry you witnessed that. So very sad. Your dh is so strong. the lady driving a station wagon died after being cut out of her car and her son died 30 mins after. The man in the truck it was completely flipped and he had to be cut out thru bottom of truck floor the dog was in the back seat of truck died shortly after being rescued. It was very sad and numbing. But thank god for other vehicles not being involved. We heard the crash in our office but lady next store called police. Ambulance was already there bc it happened right outside there building. I couldnt imagine watching such a young girl lose her life so sad. Is your dd okay or does she still remember?

Is it just me or does today feel depressing. I don't know if its the weather or what. I went to our local health food store, parked the car and saw a pregnant woman from outside. She was probably as far along as I would have been right now. Believe it or not, I started crying and couldn't go into the store, and I was with my daughters in the car. So I tried to cry as quiet as I could. Its not that I was jealous of her, it just reminded me of how far along I should have been. back to the horrible accident, My daughter still remembers because she was 12 at the time. The little one doesnt seem to recall. My husband handled it well, he has seen many deaths in his life. He grew up during civil war in El Salvador, so he saw many people killed execution style right in front of him, and he was a child at the time. I on the other hand would totally freak out and be traumatized if I witnessed anything like that.

 

[aaronswoman79]

hey aaron's woman, thanks for kicking us off the paranoid boat sorry i've missed so much, but are you in sf? i spend a lot of time there. stoked, sweety PIE!!!!!!!!! i know how you feel, but dont! hugs hugs hugs. laura, HAPPY BDAY! happy scan day, happy vacay. jen, oh my goodness................................. everyone i missed, lots of love. must. get. off. computer. and really to recap, about the orgasms, i really think it could be either way. it's could be good or have no effect. i was having a threatened miscarriage and said, meh oh well and went ahead, and the baby continued living for longer than expected. as sad as it is, im counting that as one good notch in the belt of orgasms during early pregnancy. also, STRESS! i swear. i have 'em to keep my stress levels reasonable. it's for health reasons! ok im off.

I was born in sf, but now live in the east bay. Where in ca are you from?

 

[Storked]

Jessica, do we really want to be off the paranoid boat? Is it even possible? I love soda but I haven't touched caffeinated drinks since about a week before ovulation. Because in my head it can make me more likely to have bad eggs and perhaps miscarry. Total paranoia on my part but still natural. If something goes wrong ever again we want to say "this is actually not my fault. I did everything in my power to save my child." You know?
Also, thank you so much for the orgasm advice.
Is your daughter afraid of corpses after what she saw? I attended a funeral at a young age and I cannot be around dead things :-/
Today was pretty depressing I think. So sorry about the health food store. I have the hardest time with anything pregnancy or infant related. Sister texted me a pic of her newborn and was so jealous. I try to just be happy but some days you can and others you can't. Take each day slow.

Jen, hi girl! I am sorry that you are mad at DH. Seduce him and steal his sperm I say
I found watching tv shows and texting sisters and cooking all distract a bit from TWW. I am getting there lol! In an hour I will be on CD22
That is sad about the crash what do you think of the new girls?

Horseypants, sex totally helps me cope and it was so hard knowing that my baby was most likely dead inside me and that I couldn't even be close to my husband in the way that I needed. Sucked all around :-/
But when we had sex again it was spectacular

 

[aaronswoman79]

Jessica, do we really want to be off the paranoid boat? Is it even possible? I love soda but I haven't touched caffeinated drinks since about a week before ovulation. Because in my head it can make me more likely to have bad eggs and perhaps miscarry. Total paranoia on my part but still natural. If something goes wrong ever again we want to say "this is actually not my fault. I did everything in my power to save my child." You know?
Also, thank you so much for the orgasm advice.
Is your daughter afraid of corpses after what she saw? I attended a funeral at a young age and I cannot be around dead things :-/
Today was pretty depressing I think. So sorry about the health food store. I have the hardest time with anything pregnancy or infant related. Sister texted me a pic of her newborn and was so jealous. I try to just be happy but some days you can and others you can't. Take each day slow.

Jen, hi girl! I am sorry that you are mad at DH. Seduce him and steal his sperm I say
I found watching tv shows and texting sisters and cooking all distract a bit from TWW. I am getting there lol! In an hour I will be on CD22
That is sad about the crash what do you think of the new girls?

Horseypants, sex totally helps me cope and it was so hard knowing that my baby was most likely dead inside me and that I couldn't even be close to my husband in the way that I needed. Sucked all around :-/
But when we had sex again it was spectacular

Well, you are right, we probably won't get off the paranoia boat. I guess wishful thinking on my part. I just hope that with my next pregnancy I don't get too paranoid, to the point that I give myself a whole bunch of unwanted stress. It is so hard to control. I remember one torturous part of my pregnancy, since I started spotting from the very beginning because of the blot clot, I remember almost getting an anxiety attack sometimes right before using the bathroom for the fear of seeing blood on my underwear or seeing blood in the toilet. I didn't bleed for many weeks, thinking I was out of the danger zone, and that last time I bled, I knew something was seriously wrong. So with the next pregnancy I will always have that paranoia about going to the bathroom and seeing blood. I think my daughter will probably always be scared to see corpses, most children should be! lol. Unless they are like my husband who basically saw them all the time. And about the caffeine issue, do you at least drink soda that is decaffeinated, or do you avoid that too. Guess what, now I am going to go off soda, because you made a good point. Thank u!

 

[Storked]

Jessica, I wish I could advise you on ways to manage stress but I haven't even gotten there myself. A loss is so traumatic that I am not sure that I will ever be the same. I bet you feel that way too. I really like the thought of meditation and inner peace but I am just too controlling and attached to specific outcomes to ever achieve zen. I do hope that we cope well though with our rainbow pregnancies
Yeah corpses still scare the living hell out of me. I can't stand viewings. (shudders) and when I lose someone close I have nightmares for a time. Wish I could conquer that fear but haven't yet. I don't fear death, just fear what is left behind.
As for soda, I don't drink decaffeinated. It makes me feel very Molly Mormon and when I drink soda I want the good stuff lol. Lately I have been mixing my grapefruit juice with water and it is pretty darned tasty. I don't even miss soda anymore. Though I know if I get AF that I will immediately buy some to drown my sorrows. Cope the best you can right?


I was in tears tonight. DH was talking politics which only peeves me off to the point that I cry. But he apologized and I am hoping the flow of emotion is a good thing. Though there is no way at this point that I can have symptoms to spot. Lame

 

[aaronswoman79]

Jessica, I wish I could advise you on ways to manage stress but I haven't even gotten there myself. A loss is so traumatic that I am not sure that I will ever be the same. I bet you feel that way too. I really like the thought of meditation and inner peace but I am just too controlling and attached to specific outcomes to ever achieve zen. I do hope that we cope well though with our rainbow pregnancies
Yeah corpses still scare the living hell out of me. I can't stand viewings. (shudders) and when I lose someone close I have nightmares for a time. Wish I could conquer that fear but haven't yet. I don't fear death, just fear what is left behind.
As for soda, I don't drink decaffeinated. It makes me feel very Molly Mormon and when I drink soda I want the good stuff lol. Lately I have been mixing my grapefruit juice with water and it is pretty darned tasty. I don't even miss soda anymore. Though I know if I get AF that I will immediately buy some to drown my sorrows. Cope the best you can right?


I was in tears tonight. DH was talking politics which only peeves me off to the point that I cry. But he apologized and I am hoping the flow of emotion is a good thing. Though there is no way at this point that I can have symptoms to spot. Lame

Molly Mormon? I heard of Jack Mormon. So what exactly is a Molly Mormon? My husband use to be lds so, I remember him telling me about Jack Mormons. He still loves a lot of the principles that he was taught and still lives a lot of them believe it or not.
Oh, and he didn't have his 1st cup of coffee until he was 30, but I must say they have been a Godsend for his migraines. The interesting thing is that he has no attachment to coffee, alcohol, and he doesn't even like tea. I think it is all the years that he went without it maybe. I think I mentioned he came from Utah. So California was a huge culture shock for him, but he does love it here. He just got a few shockers the first time I took him to San Francisco. He was like who are these people? lol. And all of his family are still in Utah.

Oh by the way I think AF finally came. Im not going to get too ahead of myself, but I think I got it! It took almost 5 weeks. Oh and the politics, thankfully him and I see eye to eye politically. We are kind of like this, we question everything, research together, see the facts and usually come to the same conclusions. So we basically are neither republican or democrat, we just follow who we feel to be the best candidates. It could be from either party. Right now I have no idea who to trust, what to believe because I know these candidates are going to sweet talk us, and make a whole bunch of promises, I have seen it over and over. Oh, by the way, my husband actually loved Texas, he served his mission there. He actually wanted to move there.

 

[Storked]

 

[lilesMom]

I was doing so well as then all if a sudden I want to cry. Stupid emotions. Stupid TWW

it hits us all from time to time chick hope u feel better,
i went for U/s no results till tmoro, but that is fast money talks ha ha
off to galway now, i feel much better but stil weird so will do my best to enjoy the break adn forget the crap talk soon xxxxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

love to all im on the run xxxx

 

[Storked]

We will impatiently be awaiting your return Laura. As well as your test results
Have fun!

 

[mommylov]

I was doing so well as then all if a sudden I want to cry. Stupid emotions. Stupid TWW

Oh my im so sorry you witnessed that. So very sad. Your dh is so strong. the lady driving a station wagon died after being cut out of her car and her son died 30 mins after. The man in the truck it was completely flipped and he had to be cut out thru bottom of truck floor the dog was in the back seat of truck died shortly after being rescued. It was very sad and numbing. But thank god for other vehicles not being involved. We heard the crash in our office but lady next store called police. Ambulance was already there bc it happened right outside there building. I couldnt imagine watching such a young girl lose her life so sad. Is your dd okay or does she still remember?

Is it just me or does today feel depressing. I don't know if its the weather or what. I went to our local health food store, parked the car and saw a pregnant woman from outside. She was probably as far along as I would have been right now. Believe it or not, I started crying and couldn't go into the store, and I was with my daughters in the car. So I tried to cry as quiet as I could. Its not that I was jealous of her, it just reminded me of how far along I should have been. back to the horrible accident, My daughter still remembers because she was 12 at the time. The little one doesnt seem to recall. My husband handled it well, he has seen many deaths in his life. He grew up during civil war in El Salvador, so he saw many people killed execution style right in front of him, and he was a child at the time. I on the other hand would totally freak out and be traumatized if I witnessed anything like that.

So sorry girls. I dont know whats in the air thats making things emotional right now. "hughs: to you both... and to everyone. Jessica, its still so hard for me to see pg women. I too do the same thing and say "I wouldve been __ far along by now". Our rainbow babies are on thier way, I can feel it! I now try and look at these women and think "What if they were in the same situation and me and now are pg with thier rainbow baby". I know its still so hard but the day will come when its our turn and we will have our little ones. Stay strong!

 

[mommylov]

Jen, OMG!! That is terrible and sorry that you had to see that. I really pray for those affected by the accident and my hearts go out to them.

How are you holding up hun?

Oh, dh says thank you for all the well wishes heheh

 

[mommylov]

Oh and HAPPPY BIRTHDAY TO LAURA!!! Enjoy your time away and hope the us goes/went well this morning!! xoxo

 

[TTCSecrets]

Quick question people, i am repeating myself kind of in case my last post was missed, i think i may be wishing myself pregnant but ive only just noticed actually..

3 weeks ago, dnc, have had negative pregnancy tests for two weks so hormones have gone. Pregnancy symptoms disappeared a week before dnc.

Just noticed, i have a runny nose and keep sneezing but i dont feel full of cold, i had a slight spotting yesterday, which if i calculated right, is about 5 dpo , i have itchy bumps on my tummy, and i cant stop peeing, just suddenly realised these are all symptoms i had literally as soon as i conceived with my last pregnancy, could it be possible?? We have bene actively trying at the go ahead from my doctor, we have been trying since 19th August, every night bar two i think as i feel fine physically. But i have just noticed these symptoms, i know i might be wishing myself pregnant, but i have the bumps that are itchy on my belly like i had the first three weeks of my last pregnancy... When would be earliest i could test if i have no idea when my period should be due after dnc??

I dont even mind if i get a BFN to be honest i will just have to speak to the doctor but id just like to try it

Please help xx

 

[jen435]

Hi!! First off im so sorry for your loss Ttcsecerts you could be pregnant as i hear your most fertile after a d&c that is as long as.uovulated. Fxd for you i would test when your ready. Af usually comes btw 5-6 wks after d&c so maybe then?

 

[jen435]

Laura we will miss u!!! Enjoy your getaway! Happy birthday!! Anxiously awaiting the news!!!

 

[jen435]

Jessica must agree with amy try to be positive when i see pg ladie. Its the teens i get upset about. But trying not to. Your poor daughter i guess her a bethany will always have that fear