ttc after a d&c

[jen435]

Goodnight amy! Work tom yucky. Dreading it but not the check. Hopefully i enjoy the office ill be at since im there for three days this week. Cant say im not nervous. As for mt weds job with the new girls im kinda worried he is cleaning out staff since only me and another girl is left. I hope i dont loss that job (business is slow there)

just got my bd in for the day on to cd 17. 12-13 days before af or bfp hopefully. Dh was tough to convince tonight. I even mentioned he promised. Then i threatened to buy ovacue and told him the price. He ran right in the bedroom so i propped for lil with softcup watching 2012. itll have to be bedtime i guess as i have 6 hours before work. Cant wait til thurs ha im starting to ramble like im writing in a journal!

lovely ladies

wishing you all a good day tomorrow! Hopefully ill get a lunch break and ill be on. If not til tom night

 

[aaronswoman79]

Off to Walmart tonight, going to buy me a soft cup, have used it during af, but not while ttc. It is worth a try, makes lots of sense. Also going to buy pre-seed (have never tried lube before, so have no idea what to expect). So does this actually help or bring up the likeliness of conception, because if it does, then I am all for it!! No the difficult part trying to find out when I am ovulating. In the past it was always halfway through my cycle. Like day 14 or 15. But now I'm not sure if my cycle will be shorter or longer, because this is my first AF. So is it good to bd every day until ovulation, or every other day? Don't want to tire out the dh. I want some healthy swimmers!

 

[Storked]

Amy, g'night! I can't sleep until I make the bed and put away clothes. I am exhausted. Can't wait to have an apartment with my own washer and dryer. Yippee!

Jessica, how scary! Is your daughter doing ok? I have asthma too but luckily I do respond to inhalers. I need to get a new one actually.
What did the doctors suggest for you? Counseling? I completely understand just wanting to fill that hole inside you where once there was sweet life. I feel it too. the rainbow is coming
How did you like the softcups for AF? Pre-seed just mimics your most fertile cervical mucus so it helps the swimmers along. I put a bit in my softcup before insertion. I think it is great- beats spit and is good for swimmers. This is my first cycle using it. It is also not weirdly sticky like other lube. I balked at the price but a little goes a long way. You can also insert it closer to your cervix if you like.
I have read that BD in the days before O are best because it gives the swimmers plenty of time to get to the final location and fertilize that egg ASAP! And I think the SMEP (Sperm Meets Egg Plan) calls for using OPKs. You BD every other day and when you get that positive OPK you BD that day and the next 3 I think. I was going to try it but my hubby is weird about sex being "planned". I know, doesn't make sense.
GOOD LUCK AND MORE

Jen, boo to Mondays and work! Will keep you in my thoughts that you don't lose that job- reliable paycheck is nice. I use to worry about my old job all the time. Worked at a lumber store and you bet that business slowed way down. Worked there for 6 years. Miss everyone. Now I am the rambler
So glad you convinced DH! Gah why must they fight it? I actually haven't BD today and it is the first in a bit. I told DH at the laundromat that I was beginning to think he didn't love me any more because we hadn't had sex. He couldn't stop giggling about that lol
Can't wait to hear from you tomorrow!

 

[aaronswoman79]

Amy, g'night! I can't sleep until I make the bed and put away clothes. I am exhausted. Can't wait to have an apartment with my own washer and dryer. Yippee!

Jessica, how scary! Is your daughter doing ok? I have asthma too but luckily I do respond to inhalers. I need to get a new one actually.
What did the doctors suggest for you? Counseling? I completely understand just wanting to fill that hole inside you where once there was sweet life. I feel it too. the rainbow is coming
How did you like the softcups for AF? Pre-seed just mimics your most fertile cervical mucus so it helps the swimmers along. I put a bit in my softcup before insertion. I think it is great- beats spit and is good for swimmers. This is my first cycle using it. It is also not weirdly sticky like other lube. I balked at the price but a little goes a long way. You can also insert it closer to your cervix if you like.
I have read that BD in the days before O are best because it gives the swimmers plenty of time to get to the final location and fertilize that egg ASAP! And I think the SMEP (Sperm Meets Egg Plan) calls for using OPKs. You BD every other day and when you get that positive OPK you BD that day and the next 3 I think. I was going to try it but my hubby is weird about sex being "planned". I know, doesn't make sense.
GOOD LUCK AND MORE

Actually it doesn't make sense to me either, but my husband is the same. He doesn't like the sex being "planned" either. He is actually getting annoyed by it and is saying that it puts pressure on everything. He doesn't want to buy the pre-seed. According to him, we have never used it before, so why now. I think he thinks it insults his manhood in some way. He definitely does not want to buy any opks. So don't know what to do. Just want to get pregnant right away. He is totally not for this planning.

 

[Storked]

Any way you can purchase them without him knowing? When you pick up groceries maybe? Hate you having to hide them though. But the pre-seed you could hide. Then just insert some ad seduce him. Doubt he would know the difference.

I sneak some purchases past my husband by just getting cash back and then getting what I want with that.

 

[lilesMom]

Just took dh away from football and dtd.. heheh

So random question, after you bd does anything leak out? I cant fully remember from last time but I feel like I leak alot of his men even though I dont get up right away. It could just feel like a lot but I thought Id ask you girls if you have the same thing going on.

yeah lots does babe but it must get some in since we all got preggers in the first place

havin nice catch up with my niece, its good

 

[lilesMom]

bethany yeah im close in age to loads o my nieces and nephews, i have them ranging from 2 months of age to 31 its fun when we go out together and people get all confuced trying to guess our ages cos im the aunty i have 11 older bros and sis and they all have kids , hence the range a big family is nice though, always someone to visit
and yeah i think putting cold feet under someones butt is totally acceptable, i do it with OH all d time and owuld do it to my sises too

 

[lilesMom]

jessica i hope u feel better soon babe , this hwole thing def wrecks u mentally xxx big hugs xxxx
Thansk, galway was lovely but i was on antibiotics so i didnt have the energy i normally would but was nice. shearing isnt a very common name where i am from but some names occur more in pockets around ireland so maybe it is a common name else wwhere in ireland when we all have our babas , ye could come visit and show them off

 

[lilesMom]

jen fx for u on ur job xxx

 

[Storked]

Big families are nice Laura. And usually very close
I love that my siblings still view me as a sibling even though I am a lot younger than them- I am actually closest to the oldest too. But yeah I think butts are acceptable feet Warner's for sure but my DHs family has boundaries lol. They also wear more clothes around the house than we ever did. I can't imagine LOL

 

[mommylov]

Hi ladies!

Laura, glad you had a nice time with your niece. I love my family too... definitely are close but do like MY time too hehe. We are actually trying to get my parents to move out to CO which they sound on bored but just have to figure some things out. It would be great for our lo's to have one set of grandparents close by.

Bethany, dh does the same thing to me with his feet. His feet are ALWAYS cold and I told him that he should take something to help with his circulation then his feet wouldnt be so cold. He said "No, I like your butt better" ... oye lol How are you doing hun? When are you testing? Is it this week or next week?

Jessica, to you. Im so sorry that you are having a hard time. How is your daughter doing? Did they find something to help with her asthma? How are you doing?? I hope you guys are feeling better.. that had to have been pretty scary. Wishing you well!!

Jen, fx for your job!!!! I hope that they dont do anymore "downsizing" You should move here! My dentist's office always seems busy! I have to schedule my semi-anual cleaning everytime I have an appt!

My boss got our company's suite for tonight Rockies game (baseball for those that dont know lol). Got a limo to take us down there so should be fun. There are like 10 of us going. I dont know that I really care for these people but there is one girl that I like that is going. The last time I went a couple of month ago, I remember they had great food in the suite so Im looking forward to that! heheh

I better get my cup of coco (btw, thats ok to drink when ttc/pg right?) I stopped the coffee and tea a bit ago but have to have something warm in the morning to wake me up.

Daily to you girls and hope everyone has a nice day/night!

 

[xoxo4angel]

 

[Storked]

Amy, haha my feet are usually cold too. Only part of me really. Though they aren't cold ATM
I'll test next week on the 18th. 17th at the earliest. I want to test now but can't handle a BFN so I shall wait patiently lol.
Even if I didn't like any of those people..I'd attend for free food. My mom always ropes me into social events when she mentions a meal
Unsure about cocoa

What CD are you on now and when will you be testing?

 

[mommylov]

Angel, The soft cups do sound like a great idea, go and get those !!! I hear ya on wanting to argue about the term "Old" . I felt the same way when dh was trying to tell me to follow drs orders but I am glad that I did. I feel more confident knowing I waited for that one cycle to pass so I guess Im glad I listened .

Bethany, I can be convinced to go to almost anything if it invovles some yummy food. I remember they even had icecream last time which was soooo yummy! lol Ya I dont know about the hot chocolate either but from what I read, it depends on the kind you drink. The one they have at my work is just the regular swiss miss hot chocolate which is suppose to be fine. My last pregnancy, I wanted choc all the time! Almost anything else would make me . How exciting you are going to test next week. If you test on monday and get that that would be a great bday gift for me heheh. FX for you hun!!! I added a cycle tracker to my signature because I keep forgetting and have to count and I saw Laura had it and thought "Good Idea!!". I am on CD

 

[mommylov]

Oh and Angel, yes I am Amy heheh

 

[lilesMom]

bethany my OH family r d same, they dont seem to have pj days. crazy
amy that would be great to have grand parents near by , grest support and great for the kids too hope it works out for ye xxx
company suite and yummy food sounds good enjoy.
i never heard anything about hot choc being bad ??
i like ur ticker i had the buzzy bees on my previous one
angel i agree with ur DH and the girls, it gives a bit more peace of mind to follow docs orders

they dont sell soft cups in ireland , i would have to order them from england and im hoping that i get bfp before they would arrive

 

[xoxo4angel]

 

[aaronswoman79]

jessica i hope u feel better soon babe , this hwole thing def wrecks u mentally xxx big hugs xxxx
Thansk, galway was lovely but i was on antibiotics so i didnt have the energy i normally would but was nice. shearing isnt a very common name where i am from but some names occur more in pockets around ireland so maybe it is a common name else wwhere in ireland when we all have our babas , ye could come visit and show them off

Wouldn't that be great, like some type of reunion of some type. We are connected through the tragedy of miscarriage, and we could also be connected through the joy of childbirth So what day of the month does your birthday fall all, Mine is on the 26th. I turn 33

 

[aaronswoman79]

I think the only concern about any drink is caffeine and cocoa generally has less than 15mg (the max allowable amount recommended is 200mg when TTC), so enjoy!

And I'm so grateful for the support you all provide! I suppose if we didn't follow the Dr's orders we'd be labeled "non-compliant."

I wish you all BFPs...it will be very inspirational for me to watch the journey.

While I was diagnosed with a threatened miscarriage I had an advice nurse telling me that high dosage of caffeine (more than 200mg) can be connected to miscarriage. That shocked me, never knew that. Now I am so scared of caffeine while pregnant. I will try to avoid it all costs, even though I know I am allowed a bit.

 

[aaronswoman79]

Thank you all for the information about softcups. I read back a few post and caught on to the "softcup trickery." I think its genius! If only I had softcups this morning! hehehe

Amy (I think I've caught on to names??)~~My Dr spoke with DH while I was in recovery. She told him old literature suggests an increased chance in mc if fell pg right after a d&c, so she told him to wait until 1st AF. I tried to argue the term "old" with him, but lost when I caught on to he was afraid to risk mc #3 (shocked b/c he showed feelings!). Isn't it interesting how there is not a uniform or international standard to anything related to pregnancy or loss?

Aaronswoman~~my DH does not want me change or buy anything to aid us. He said we managed just fine getting pg on our own, twice. However, I'm with Bethany, I'll be buying softcups with my groceries this afternoon. It seems that since we had pg #2 with my obsessive timing/planning he gets it...that and the oracle, I mean the Dr told him the importance of timing.

Yeah, maybe I should have the Dr. tell him that there is planning involved. I want to buy the pre-seed, he is also against that. He thinks that buying the pre-seed means he can't turn me on anymore.lol. I just wanna buy it because I heard it helps the process go more smoothly.lol. Anything that will help me fall pregnant is worth the try. I am almost 33, he has to understand that things might not be as easy as before.