TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[Oasis717]

That's so lovely, I think it helps, we have a corner of the garden with some lovely flowers and windmills and a plaque we had made with dates etc and a beautiful poem, no you never, ever forget and although I want to move on I never want to forget. That's brill about the 11+ re your son my middle one took hers also but didn't pass unfortunately but is in all the top sets and loves her school so that's something else good. I'm so sorry for your losses. Yes if it wasn't for my husband who's my rock I wouldn't be able to cope with what life has thrown at me recently no it's not all bad xxxxx

 

[Creative]

Well this month will not be the one for me. I ovulated really early but managed to get a migraine and really couldn't face DTD so didn;t bother.
Probably just as well as we are in the thick of doing the audition runs with our middle lad. Yesterday spent 11 hours in the car going there and back to Glasgow. Monday we are down and back to London and both of these runs meant 3am starts. I don''t travel well.

Next friday we are down to Cardiff and then in early December we are at Manchester and then we sit back and wait and if none of them accept him, we start with university applications.

 

[lilblossom]

Well my husband and I had stopped trying in August and he just left this morning for his annual hunting trip and I believe he may come back to a surprise. I ovulated early this month. It like a fluke that I actually even know when I ovulated as I had purchased opks just to make things a little easier to avoid the fertile times. We bd'ed on cd 9 then I tested on cd 10 and got a positive opk. So instead of ovulating on cd 13 or 14 like normal, I ovulated on 11. I immediately got that 'feeling' but discounted it as I have felt like that before when we were actively trying only to be crushed. I decided to go on as normal but around 8 dpo I had light cramping, am suffering with constipation and having leg cramps which are unusual to me when not pregnant. Also had some weird head aches last night. Today is 11 dpo and I am resisting the urge to run out and purchase a hpt. I took an opk this morning and it was way darker than it usually is for this late in the cycle but some people get a surge right before af so not sure if I should read anything into it.

Ok rant over. Guess I will test in the morning.

 

[Oasis717]

Sounds promising lilblossom, fingers crossed, hope you get that bfp!! Am on cd11 waiting to ovulate, bit worried mc has thrown it off but here's hoping! Xxx

 

[crazymam]

I am 10 dpo, and feel sick as a dog
I started with mild cramps thursday, they got worse yesterday and had sharp pains in right side, and felt sick, been feelign sick since thursday. was convinced period was going to arrive.
Woke up this morning and cramps subsided but tummy feels bloated and I feel sick as a dog all day, have to get ready as going for a meal tonight but dont think I can face any food.
I took a test this morning, but know it was too early so got a BFN. Going to try and stop thinking about it now and wait until next week. see if this sick feelign passes as it may just be a bug?

 

[crazymam]

Sounds promising lilblossom, fingers crossed, hope you get that bfp!! Am on cd15 and waiting to ovulate, bit worried mc has thrown it off but here's hoping! Xxx

i ovulated late this time, second cycle after miscarriage. think it was cd17, thats late for me. I am usually cd12-14. Think it is common to be alittle bit later after a miscarriage. x

 

[Oasis717]

I thought I was cd 15 but I was actually 11, cd12 today, I used to ovulate around this time before my mc's but I'm all out of sync now and I have no idea. I had a positive around cd15 last month on opks but wether or not I ovulated or it was just a surge I'm not sure as loss was 28/09. I'm getting negs on opks right now, have a feeling ovulation will be later or not at all, wish I could just go with the flow but it all seems to have taken over my life right now xxxx

 

[Oasis717]

I am 10 dpo, and feel sick as a dog
I started with mild cramps thursday, they got worse yesterday and had sharp pains in right side, and felt sick, been feelign sick since thursday. was convinced period was going to arrive.
Woke up this morning and cramps subsided but tummy feels bloated and I feel sick as a dog all day, have to get ready as going for a meal tonight but dont think I can face any food.
I took a test this morning, but know it was too early so got a BFN. Going to try and stop thinking about it now and wait until next week. see if this sick feelign passes as it may just be a bug?

Really hope it isn't a bug and you're just too early for bfp, I was terribly bloated both my last pregnancies, here's hoping for you xxxxx

 

[Mammalee]

Hi there, I am 41 in February, I have two beautiful girls aged 7 & 5. I miscarried in October at 16 weeks. Am waiting to see my doctor to see what he says about ttc as my ad was erratic. Am impatient to ttc as I can feel the clock ticking & I'm not getting any younger.

 

[Oasis717]

Hi there, I am 41 in February, I have two beautiful girls aged 7 & 5. I miscarried in October at 16 weeks. Am waiting to see my doctor to see what he says about ttc as my ad was erratic. Am impatient to ttc as I can feel the clock ticking & I'm not getting any younger.

Hey, totally understand that, I'm 41 this month and feel that clock ticking too. I would be due on 7th Jan 2013 had I not lost my first in June so finding that hard, trying to be positive! Xxxx

 

[dancareoi]

Welcome mammalee and sorry about your loss.

Lilblossom, nice to hear from you, any news?

Crazymam, keep us updated, sounds promising.

The clock is constantly there ticking away in my head, I think at our age it is all we can think about.

As you know I am waiting to OV to get this test done. Missed last month OV and am now on CD17 and I don't know what is going on.

I have all the signs of OV, Increqsed cm and I think EWCM on Friday but I can't be too sure, there wasn't much and it was tinged with blood?

My opk are negative, but there is a slight line showing. Yesterday am I had quite a good line, but it was negative and a clear blue didn't have a smiley face, but last night and this morning the line has gone back to being faint.

My temps are still low, so I really don't know what to think. It would be just my luck not to OV and then I will have to wait another month and then be worrying there is something wrong and it won't happen.

Why do these things happen, haven't we been through enough, why can't out bodies just be kind to us?

 

[ghanagirl]

Hey ladies! I just turned 42, lost my first and only pregnancy in july 12, would have been due in February 13... Everytime AF has come roaring round these last 3 months (and thankfully its here and still regular) instead of normal PMS ive been having extreme pregnancy symptoms. Bloating and distention, nausea tingling nipples, backache, headache and oddly enough, belching, all of which I had when preggo. And its distressing hoping, hoping then the first flush of red on the tissue washes all the hope away. Today feeling like it might not happen, that i left it too late. Focused on going to college and starting a career and marrying a good guy (who turned out not to be a good guy 14 years later). I thought I was being smart, avoiding becoming a statistic, I didnt want to be like my mom, pregnant and unmarried at 15 (even though she was extremely fertile, 10 live healthy births). So I waited, and waited thru college and jobs, marriage and divorce. I had finally reached the stage in my life at age 40 where I was accepting I might be alone for the rest of it, that I might not have children when I meet this exceptional man, this good and honorable man and without even trying, totally an oops moment-- I get pregnant. I want to have this man's child so badly it hurts, and he loves me sooo much it amazes me everyday he puts up with my mountains of shit and loves me still. Give me hope that I might still have my little family, that Whoever is in charge will be kind to us.

 

[Creative]

welcome to our little place of solace Ghanagirl!

 

[crazymam]

I am 10 dpo, and feel sick as a dog
I started with mild cramps thursday, they got worse yesterday and had sharp pains in right side, and felt sick, been feelign sick since thursday. was convinced period was going to arrive.
Woke up this morning and cramps subsided but tummy feels bloated and I feel sick as a dog all day, have to get ready as going for a meal tonight but dont think I can face any food.
I took a test this morning, but know it was too early so got a BFN. Going to try and stop thinking about it now and wait until next week. see if this sick feelign passes as it may just be a bug?

Really hope it isn't a bug and you're just too early for bfp, I was terribly bloated both my last pregnancies, here's hoping for you xxxxx

well 11 dpo and still no sign of a period! the wait is killing me! sore breasts now too. still feelin sick and my tummy feels heavy and umcomfortable yet i cant stop eating and no pmt either! i must stop symptom spotting for my own sanity. going to try another test in the morning. its not too early at 12dpo is it? x

 

[Oasis717]

I know I did the same!!! Its so hard, every little symptom or twinge had me thinking!! I don't think I'll test at 12 dpo anymore (she says lol) promised DH I would wait til AF due as I seem to be a little poas crazy of late AF due date is only a guess though as mc has thrown everything off. Loads women do test at 12 dpo though. Gl hunni xxxx

 

[Xanth]

Hi to all the new ladies.

12dpo today. Did a test on Saturday but have resisted the urge since as it was a BFN. I expect AF either later today or tomorrow.

One of us needs some good news for Christmas. Last Christmas was so depressing for us as well

 

[crazymam]

Welcome mammalee and sorry about your loss.

Lilblossom, nice to hear from you, any news?

Crazymam, keep us updated, sounds promising.

The clock is constantly there ticking away in my head, I think at our age it is all we can think about.

As you know I am waiting to OV to get this test done. Missed last month OV and am now on CD17 and I don't know what is going on.
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I have all the signs of OV, Increqsed cm and I think EWCM on Friday but I can't be too sure, there wasn't much and it was tinged with blood?

My opk are negative, but there is a slight line showing. Yesterday am I had quite a good line, but it was negative and a clear blue didn't have a smiley face, but last night and this morning the line has gone back to being faint.

My temps are still low, so I really don't know what to think. It would be just my luck not to OV and then I will have to wait another month and then be worrying there is something wrong and it won't happen.

Why do these things happen, haven't we been through enough, why can't out bodies just be kind to us?

come to the conclusion mother nature is a bitch!
hope you get that smiley face soon x

 

[Oasis717]

Welcome mammalee and sorry about your loss.

Lilblossom, nice to hear from you, any news?

Crazymam, keep us updated, sounds promising.

The clock is constantly there ticking away in my head, I think at our age it is all we can think about.

As you know I am waiting to OV to get this test done. Missed last month OV and am now on CD17 and I don't know what is going on.
i
I have all the signs of OV, Increqsed cm and I think EWCM on Friday but I can't be too sure, there wasn't much and it was tinged with blood?

My opk are negative, but there is a slight line showing. Yesterday am I had quite a good line, but it was negative and a clear blue didn't have a smiley face, but last night and this morning the line has gone back to being faint.

My temps are still low, so I really don't know what to think. It would be just my luck not to OV and then I will have to wait another month and then be worrying there is something wrong and it won't happen.

Why do these things happen, haven't we been through enough, why can't out bodies just be kind to us?

come to the conclusion mother nature is a bitch!
hope you get that smiley face soon x

Totally agree!!! Have an almost positive on opk today, just done another few hours later to see xxxxx

 

[dancareoi]

Welcome mammalee and sorry about your loss.

Lilblossom, nice to hear from you, any news?

Crazymam, keep us updated, sounds promising.

The clock is constantly there ticking away in my head, I think at our age it is all we can think about.

As you know I am waiting to OV to get this test done. Missed last month OV and am now on CD17 and I don't know what is going on.
i
I have all the signs of OV, Increqsed cm and I think EWCM on Friday but I can't be too sure, there wasn't much and it was tinged with blood?

My opk are negative, but there is a slight line showing. Yesterday am I had quite a good line, but it was negative and a clear blue didn't have a smiley face, but last night and this morning the line has gone back to being faint.

My temps are still low, so I really don't know what to think. It would be just my luck not to OV and then I will have to wait another month and then be worrying there is something wrong and it won't happen.

Why do these things happen, haven't we been through enough, why can't out bodies just be kind to us?

come to the conclusion mother nature is a bitch!
hope you get that smiley face soon x

Totally agree!!! Have an almost positive on opk today, just done another few hours later to see xxxxx

Well my lines have totally disappeared now, so i`m wandering whether the good line i got Sat am was just after the surge and that the surge happened in the night.

My temps are still low, 36.1 for 4 days running.

I am really upset though as i am assume i am OV today so called to get an appointment for this test i am having done and they have booked me in for next mon as it needs to be done 7-10 days after OV.

however, they only do the tests in clinics on a monday or friday and next friday, the 30th, the clinic is not running.

AS long as i OV today or tomorrow or if not after saturday i will be alright, if not i will have to wait for the next cycle.

i really dont want to have to wait and have got myself all worked up.

Sorry if TMI but my CM has changed slightly from watery to creamy, so I think i have OV today. Hoping and praying that i have because I really dont want to wait any longer!

will check temp in morning and just hope it goes up.

At the end of last week I was gettin glines on OPK which got a little darker and was a good line on sat, but not positive and now as i say, they have gone again.

Any thoughts?

welcome ghanagirl.

 

[crazymam]

well 13dpo and got a BFN this morning, so guess just waiting now, very much doubt will a BFP this time. just wish it would show its ugly face now so I can start next cycle and try again.