TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[crazymam]

good luck for your sons auditions creative, and you never know sometimes miracles happen when you least suspect, fingers crossed for you x

 

[dancareoi]

Good luck to your son creative. maybe if you are travelling around and are getting busier at work with xmas coming, it may take your mind off the TTC journey and maybe help.

i have been distracted the last few days with my son`s 11+. As already posted he has done very well in his warks. he got his Bham results today and it looks like he will get the school of his choice.

Some good news at last.

Hoping this good luck keeps coming for all of us.

 

[Creative]

Well, my body hadn't let me down all together. I was beginning to think I must be entering the menoupause because I hadn't got pregnant.
This month is my first month of using OPK's and I was beginning to think I wans't going to Ovulate. I've had EWCM for two days and no +OPK, but today has given me a +OPK so OH better be on form for the next few days!!!
incidently I was so excited about getting the + that I dropped a huge pile of pots and smashed them all......... but I don't care because I am going to Ovulate!

 

[dancareoi]

Well, my body hadn't let me down all together. I was beginning to think I must be entering the menoupause because I hadn't got pregnant.
This month is my first month of using OPK's and I was beginning to think I wans't going to Ovulate. I've had EWCM for two days and no +OPK, but today has given me a +OPK so OH better be on form for the next few days!!!
incidently I was so excited about getting the + that I dropped a huge pile of pots and smashed them all......... but I don't care because I am going to Ovulate!

whoo hoo for OV - who cares about the pots!!!

My body is taking a while to sort itself out. It`s been 3 weeks since my D & C and i am still getting positive OPK! I think the hcg is reducing slightly, because i was waiting for about 2 hours and then testing and getting a positive, however if I do it after 2 hours i get a negative, but get a positive if i save my wee for 4 hours!!

i suppose it`s still early days.

i am actually quite good in myself and believe it has something to do with the acupuncture, i have had 2 sessions now and i am booked in for another 5!

creative -

 

[crazymam]

well looks like my cycle has been all over the place this month after miscarriage. According to opk and temp chart i only ovulated 9/10 days ago but started spotting today with cramps. would say its a very light bleed now, not heavy enough though to use anything other than a thin pantyliner. But the cramps feel more like a heavy period.
oh well suppose i know where my cycle is starting from now so have to wait until next ovulation again.

 

[Xanth]

well looks like my cycle has been all over the place this month after miscarriage. According to opk and temp chart i only ovulated 9/10 days ago but started spotting today with cramps. would say its a very light bleed now, not heavy enough though to use anything other than a thin pantyliner. But the cramps feel more like a heavy period.
oh well suppose i know where my cycle is starting from now so have to wait until next ovulation again.

CD1 for me today as well

 

[dancareoi]

Hi all,
Well I don't know what my body is doing and could do with some advice .

I am still getting positive opk even after 2 hours of wee, and the other day got a faint positive hpt. Usually we would be desperate to see that second line, but at the moment I just want it to go.
Due to the test I will be undergoing, I need to tell the hospital when I OV, but at the moment I don't know how I will be able to tell!
Can I OV when I am still getting a positive hpt?
Also yesterday, sorry if tmi, but I had a large blob of something when I wiped, it was quite sticky and slightly brown tinged, I had a little more later that would I suppose would be a bit more like egg white, but I really don't know what to think.
I can't rely on temps as I think I have this norovirus, dd sick sat, DS sick mon night, me sick yesterday and eldest DS sent home today as sick at school. So my temp has gone through the roof.
Can anyone offer any help, I really need this test done this month so we can try again next month, it's been almost 4 weeks since my d & c, can anyone offer any advice?

Just did a clear blue hpt and got a pregnant result which I guessed, but it said 1-2 weeks so I think that's good because I was 9 weeks when baby died, so that suggests the hcg levels have fallen.

 

[crazymam]

I dont think you can actually ovulate until hormones are back to 0. Have you had any bloods done? There isnt a possibility you are pregnant again already?
I have started using the clear blue fertility monitor.

 

[dancareoi]

I dont think you can actually ovulate until hormones are back to 0. Have you had any bloods done? There isnt a possibility you are pregnant again already?
I have started using the clear blue fertility monitor.

I am definately not PG again. My opk seem now to be negative but pg test on Friday still showed positive, but just a faint line.

Can't rely on temps for OV because I now have a heavy cold which has live me a temp.

However I am getting signs OV is coming, skin outbreak last wed, which usually occurs approx 1 week prior to EWCM. Also getting watery cm.

I also believe that yo can OV with raised levels of hcg as long as they are falling!

Not really sure what to think.

 

[crazymam]

I dont think you can actually ovulate until hormones are back to 0. Have you had any bloods done? There isnt a possibility you are pregnant again already?
I have started using the clear blue fertility monitor.

I am definately not PG again. My opk seem now to be negative but pg test on Friday still showed positive, but just a faint line.

Can't rely on temps for OV because I now have a heavy cold which has live me a temp.

However I am getting signs OV is coming, skin outbreak last wed, which usually occurs approx 1 week prior to EWCM. Also getting watery cm.

I also believe that yo can OV with raised levels of hcg as long as they are falling!

Not really sure what to think.

fingers crossed you are about to ovulate then at least your cycle is getting back on track. rwason i asked about pregnancy is i had a d and c 15 years ago and i must have ovulated two weeks later as i conceived my lovely daughter! Wasnt happy at the time as realised marriage was over after the miscarriage so she wasnt planned at all. Lets just say a drunken night with husband and i was pretending he was brad pitt really haha.

 

[crazymam]

Anyone else using the clearblue fertility kit? I got my first high today but i cant tell if i hav any fertile cm.so looks like the preseed i bought off amazon is getting its first outing tonight.

 

[dancareoi]

Anyone else using the clearblue fertility kit? I got my first high today but i cant tell if i hav any fertile cm.so looks like the preseed i bought off amazon is getting its first outing tonight.

Never used pressed so can't help.

Negative opk today again, so hopefully I can tell when OV so I can contact hospital to have my womb biopsy. Then it will be all systems go for next month.

 

[crazymam]

Anyone else using the clearblue fertility kit? I got my first high today but i cant tell if i hav any fertile cm.so looks like the preseed i bought off amazon is getting its first outing tonight.

Never used pressed so can't help.

Negative opk today again, so hopefully I can tell when OV so I can contact hospital to have my womb biopsy. Then it will be all systems go for next month.

Well hopefully it shouldnt ne long now for you. O spoke to my doctor last week. She said she could refer me fro preconception advice but didnt think I needed it . she said where I live they wont consider a referral until I have had three miscarriages in a row. so fingers crossed third one goes all the way and i never need that referral.
This is starting to become an unhealthy obsession now

 

[dancareoi]

Anyone else using the clearblue fertility kit? I got my first high today but i cant tell if i hav any fertile cm.so looks like the preseed i bought off amazon is getting its first outing tonight.

Never used pressed so can't help.

Negative opk today again, so hopefully I can tell when OV so I can contact hospital to have my womb biopsy. Then it will be all systems go for next month.

Well hopefully it shouldnt ne long now for you. O spoke to my doctor last week. She said she could refer me fro preconception advice but didnt think I needed it . she said where I live they wont consider a referral until I have had three miscarriages in a row. so fingers crossed third one goes all the way and i never need that referral.
This is starting to become an unhealthy obsession now

I know what you mean about an obsession, I can think of nothing else part from getting a rainbow. It isn't suppose, bordering on unhealthy, but unless someone has experienced what we have, they can never ne'er stand the deep sense of loss and longing. Even my DH, although having suffered as well, can not understand my obsession. I know he would now like a fourth as we have come so close, but if I said tomorrow, that's it no more, he would be happy with that as well. He just wants me to be happy.

This time last year I was 6 weeks PG and since then have had 2 mc.

My GP refered me after first one ( although I had one 3 years ago before my youngest)

I am in good hands and getting the best care and advice possible so let's see what happens.

Fingers crossed for rainbows for us all

 

[Creative]

it is obsession stuff though and the pressure is really on. I'm somewhat comforted by the positive opk results on two days running around the time where it should have been. I had been fearing onset of menopause, but it certainly was a relief to be BD to the tune of the OPK's rather than utter guess work.

Now if I was symptom spotting this month, I'd say my boobs keep tingling and I have certainly got increased cm today and I have tasted metallic several times. but I have several more days to go possibly till the end of this cycle although the lengths of them has been erratic.

Today I met my nephew for the first time. he is 8 weeks old and adorable and cuddley and I didn't cry and didn't feel angry "why noty me" feelings. i just enjoyed cuddling him.

 

[dancareoi]

it is obsession stuff though and the pressure is really on. I'm somewhat comforted by the positive opk results on two days running around the time where it should have been. I had been fearing onset of menopause, but it certainly was a relief to be BD to the tune of the OPK's rather than utter guess work.

Now if I was symptom spotting this month, I'd say my boobs keep tingling and I have certainly got increased cm today and I have tasted metallic several times. but I have several more days to go possibly till the end of this cycle although the lengths of them has been erratic.

Today I met my nephew for the first time. he is 8 weeks old and adorable and cuddley and I didn't cry and didn't feel angry "why noty me" feelings. i just enjoyed cuddling him.

That's a big step forward. Enjoy him and hopefully it will be you soon!

 

[crazymam]

it is obsession stuff though and the pressure is really on. I'm somewhat comforted by the positive opk results on two days running around the time where it should have been. I had been fearing onset of menopause, but it certainly was a relief to be BD to the tune of the OPK's rather than utter guess work.

Now if I was symptom spotting this month, I'd say my boobs keep tingling and I have certainly got increased cm today and I have tasted metallic several times. but I have several more days to go possibly till the end of this cycle although the lengths of them has been erratic.

Today I met my nephew for the first time. he is 8 weeks old and adorable and cuddley and I didn't cry and didn't feel angry "why noty me" feelings. i just enjoyed cuddling him.

I think the fact we are over 40 is what puts the pressure on. Had this been me ten years ago I think I wouldnt have been as obsessed!

Fingers crossed it will be you very soon xx

 

[dancareoi]

it is obsession stuff though and the pressure is really on. I'm somewhat comforted by the positive opk results on two days running around the time where it should have been. I had been fearing onset of menopause, but it certainly was a relief to be BD to the tune of the OPK's rather than utter guess work.

Now if I was symptom spotting this month, I'd say my boobs keep tingling and I have certainly got increased cm today and I have tasted metallic several times. but I have several more days to go possibly till the end of this cycle although the lengths of them has been erratic.

Today I met my nephew for the first time. he is 8 weeks old and adorable and cuddley and I didn't cry and didn't feel angry "why noty me" feelings. i just enjoyed cuddling him.

I think the fact we are over 40 is what puts the pressure on. Had this been me ten years ago I think I wouldnt have been as obsessed!

Fingers crossed it will be you very soon xx

I think our age is the biggest issue as time is against us.

I keep wishing I was just 3 years younger, even that would be something!

 

[dancareoi]

Finally got a BFN and I cheered!

Funny how life goes, in a couple of months time if I see that I will be sad!

OpK also a negative. Hoping OV round corner now. Signs are there, increased CM but not EWCM.

I have a cold now so temp has increased, so FF thinks I have OV, very helpful!

 

[Creative]

Finally got a BFN and I cheered!

Funny how life goes, in a couple of months time if I see that I will be sad!

I remember that moment!! Congratulations!

Double wammy for me today. I wake up on the day my LO would have been due only to find AF here.