TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[Oasis717]

Thanks Lisa it was at 1am so kinda day before and yesterday in a way, got some cramps again today I'd love to know what goes on inside lol. I'm really pleased to be back to 6 lbs under my wedding weight and a 12 dress size, its took a year to actually get in the right frame of mind and there was a lot of start stops with falling off the diet wagon and pregnancies and losses but I've now lost 2stone 8 so at least in that sense I'm winning! Xx

 

[Left wonderin]

Wow Becks that weight loss is amazing !!! Bet you feel fabulous I agree with dance bd before ov is scientifically proven to be more effective than the day of ov . There is science behind it . Something to do with a transformation sperm has to go through before meeting the egg . It has a name but I've forgotten it .

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks Regina. It does feel good I've always been an 8/10 size since a teenager til my first mc so I hated being overweight and I feel more like me again. I really don't think I'll be successful in having another lo but I feel like I have to try for a bit longer although I don't think there's much chance this month! I think dh has accepted we won't have anymore. He's started making plans for the future which is good in a way, he knows I have to try still and is happy to but he doesn't believe after 9 losses we will have another and I doing blame him. I think he doesn't want to see me go through the pain of another loss either. Ah well I guess that miracle could, maybe still happen. I can't help but hope still! Xx

 

[dancareoi]

My DH felt the same after the loss of our LO in Jan 12, he didn't want us to go through the pain again. Glad we did though, because we now have Caitlin.

I think women are a lot more emotionally involved as its our bodies that go through it. I can fully understand why you need to keep trying.

Well done on the weight loss too, that can only help.

What about some of the eating habits my acupuncturist recommended?

- at least 2 eggs every day
- kale
- beetroot
- Kerry gold butter
- spinach
- good steak, not over cooked.

This was to help improve blood quality, which would then help the blood flow quality through the womb.

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks Lisa I do eat a lot of eggs on this diet lol but I def could add in a couple of others, I think I've just reached the point at 44 (just about) that I'm really pushing thinking I can have a successful pregnancy, just a couple of years younger and I might be in with a shot but I think my eggs are def past being viable now, I think i need to accept it like dh has xxx

 

[Oasis717]

Second evap in this pack talk about get my hopes up! Xx

 

[TTC74]

Second evap in this pack talk about get my hopes up! Xx

I got an evap 2 days before my BFP. So, I'm crossing my fingers that this is a sign of good things to come.

 

[Oasis717]

Ah thankyou xx I had one like this Tues then stark white til this last night and now I've run out lol. But I think they are fakes, so annoying, I'm only about 4/5dpo so its too soon for a line like that, hope you're OK xx

 

[EverythingXd]

Have you got any new tests yet Oasis?

CD1 for me today... boo to the bad old witch! Don't darken my doorstep again for about 18 months, thank you

 

[Oasis717]

Lol aw so sorry hate that witch! Yes got some v good wide 6 day early hpts off Amazon, nothing at 8dpo thought I saw a squinter but no symptoms so prib nothing xxx

 

[EverythingXd]

Lol aw so sorry hate that witch! Yes got some v good wide 6 day early hpts off Amazon, nothing at 8dpo thought I saw a squinter but no symptoms so prib nothing xxx

I didn't know you could buy a 6 day early one! I guess it would still only show up at 8dpo if implantation happened before 7dpo though? Hope you're getting better than a squinter now x

 

[Oasis717]

Well the test says 6 day early but whether that's true or not is another thing! No I think its just the indent on drying as did a couple more same thing, I'm def out I've had my usual pre AF spotting xx

 

[EverythingXd]

Blurgh, hate pre-AF spotting as it always makes me wonder 'could this be late IB?'

Good luck for next cycle hun!

 

[TTC74]

Fortunately, I don't get pre-AF spotting. I did get late IB spotting after my BFP, though. That was nerve-wracking!

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks girls I'm starting to wonder if I'm heading into perimenopause as my cycles now are 25/26 when before the mc in May they were always 27/28 all my life! So is it that last mc that messed me up considering my periods took 10 weeks to return or am I perimenopausal? I have no idea when or if I o as I had two lots of positive opks. I. So confused. Don't think I have much chance this cycle, it will be my last actively trying xx

 

[EverythingXd]

Thanks girls I'm starting to wonder if I'm heading into perimenopause as my cycles now are 25/26 when before the mc in May they were always 27/28 all my life! So is it that last mc that messed me up considering my periods took 10 weeks to return or am I perimenopausal? I have no idea when or if I o as I had two lots of positive opks. I. So confused. Don't think I have much chance this cycle, it will be my last actively trying xx

I wonder if I am peri-menopausal for the same reason - my cycles are also around 25/26 days but used to be 3-5 days longer. I read up on it, but it seems they do get shorter as you age but it isn't necessarily peri-menopause, which usually is when you start missing O here and there, and start with other symptoms such as hot flushes.

I am sure I still O every month (although I don't do temp, I get pp around O time, very clear changes in CM and then bb pain within a few days of O happening).

I would guess that when you got first +OPK, your body geared up to O but it didn't happen, so it then tried again later and succeeded (hence the second +OPK). My body quite often does that and I've heard it is common in women of all ages.

I hope you don't mind me asking, but why is this your last month actively TTC? Did you just decide there has to be a cut off?

 

[Oasis717]

Really? That makes me feel a lot better, I hope you're right! Hopefully by temping this cycle I can check I am actually o. Like you I get v clear o signs too. Course I don't mind you asking. I think that nearly 4 years TTC even with succeeding with Brooklyn (thank god) we still have suffered 9 losses including 2 12 week losses where I hemorrhaged with both which was pretty terrifying. After that last 12 week loss in May I feel as if I'm at the end of the road with luck and I literally think of nothing else except tests, getting pregnant etc etc, its so consuming, my life has been on hold for so long that I just can't put myself through it anymore, we will obviously not prevent and if a miracle happens I'll be over the moon but I think after this month I have to say, enoughs enough xxxxx

 

[EverythingXd]

Aah bless you, I totally understand not wanting to keep putting yourselves through it any more especially after so many losses. I'm as close to NTNP as we can get already (I don't temp, do opk's or anything). I do take pre-natal vitamins though, and I have just started coq10 as well.

I don't take HPTs every month either, I can usually wait until AF is due. But I'm always aware of what cycle day I'm on and I can't let a fertile window go by untried!

 

[Oasis717]

Lol I know same, I hate it if I miss a day in my fertile period even when ntnp, I will carry on with the pre natals too cause I've been on them since 2012 anyway. I hate getting hung up on faint squinty lines on hpts so it will be a relief not to worry after this cycle! Xx

 

[EverythingXd]

Lol I know same, I hate it if I miss a day in my fertile period even when ntnp, I will carry on with the pre natals too cause I've been on them since 2012 anyway. I hate getting hung up on faint squinty lines on hpts so it will be a relief not to worry after this cycle! Xx

Good going! We only DTD a couple of times each fertile window! Both of my boys were conceived in a month where I'd "given up" being in the Every Other Day club and we'd only DTD once in the fertile window, so I feel like we have a better chance if I do that lol x