TWW Support group to help get you through the nitty gritty...and beyond

[ReadynWaiting]

Wishing-I say gyn is ur best bet. Congrats on the new man.
Ren-I understand how ur dh feels but it needs to be a mutual decision. How do u feel about it?
I spoke with my mw today and she is sending. Referral through to a ob-gyn so I can get on the road to figuring out what is going on. Today I am quite achey and crampy. I'm ready for it to be done.

 

[Renaendel]

Ready, we are going to have a good sit down and hash things out from both sides perspectives. I have to say this about my husband. He is 100% dedicated to making sure the marriage is an equal partnership and I love him for it. He is an amazing guy. I am so lucky, I just wish I would have a family with him you know?

I am glad you are getting help. I don't know how it is in Canada but OBs in the United States have zero recurrent miscarriage training. Their focus is on vaginal exams and births of 100% healthy pregnancies. Maybe it is a pride thing but a lot of them won't admit they don't know how to fix us. That is why it is so critical (here at least) to get to an RE and RI, not an OB. I pray that you get get someone willing to run the right tests or refer you further up the chain.

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Ren that is great that he is fantastic. I wasn't saying otherwise I have seen relationships suffer through fertility issues. As long as you 2 are on the same page you are good. It's strange but dh and I have gotten stronger through each loss. He is feeling quite bad for me right considering the physical side of things that my body has endured this year. I told him I need to take a break and see a specialist which he is on board for.
I just booked an appt for next Thurs so at least I can vet the ball rolling. I need to get informed about what to ask for so there are no delays. Dh and I are going to have to be careful when we dtd so we don't get pg before testing is complete. Mw thinks I need progesterone but wouldn't I have noticed an issue during reg cycles of af?

 

[Renaendel]

You wouldn't necessarily notice much of a difference if your progesterone is a little low. They have to run blood tests to know for sure. Do you want me to list the recurrent loss labs that is the standard to run in these situations?

 

[ReadynWaiting]

I would greatly appreciate it if you would. Thank you!

 

[Renaendel]

Day 3 estrogen
Day 21 progesterone
Annual Thyroid Draw
Vitamin D-critical
Iron
Iga-ttg
ANA
AMH

Saline sonohystogram to check for uterine abnormalities like polyps. Some specialised offices can check the blood flow inside the reproductive organs to see if lack of adequate blood flow is causing miscarriages. This can be solved by blood thinners like lovenox or baby asprin. Other offices will recommend a hysterosalpingogram(hsg).

Uterine biopsy- this will check if your lining is in phase with your cycle. They can also check for an excess of nk cells. Sometimes the act of the biopsy is enough to get the uterus to redo the lining in a proper manner.

Karyotyping

DQalpha testing and HLA testing for both of you to find underlying autoimmune issues that cause secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage.

Here are more blood tests from the New York RI. If I had a lot of money, he is who I would choose to go to next because he works with my AI.
https://www.preventmiscarriage.com/Our-Diagnostic-Testing-Panel.aspx

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Day 3 estrogen
Day 21 progesterone
Annual Thyroid Draw
Vitamin D-critical
Iron
Iga-ttg
ANA
AMH

Saline sonohystogram to check for uterine abnormalities like polyps. Some specialised offices can check the blood flow inside the reproductive organs to see if lack of adequate blood flow is causing miscarriages. This can be solved by blood thinners like lovenox or baby asprin. Other offices will recommend a hysterosalpingogram(hsg).

Uterine biopsy- this will check if your lining is in phase with your cycle. They can also check for an excess of nk cells. Sometimes the act of the biopsy is enough to get the uterus to redo the lining in a proper manner.

Karyotyping

DQalpha testing and HLA testing for both of you to find underlying autoimmune issues that cause secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage.

Here are more blood tests from the New York RI. If I had a lot of money, he is who I would choose to go to next because he works with my AI.
https://www.preventmiscarriage.com/Our-Diagnostic-Testing-Panel.aspx

Ren thanks so much for all of this. My biggest problem will be patience and making myself wtt. I hope my dr. Works quickly. The RI (carl laskin) will only see you after all normal testing has been done and comes back inconclusive.
How long would you say all of this testing takes?

 

[Renaendel]

The review cn be up to 6weeks after testing. Most of the blood tests can be done at any time. Estrogen, fsh, and AMH have to be done in the first 3 days of your cycle. Progesterone must be done 7 days after ovulation. So expect those to take a full cycle. Hsg and saline sonohystogram can be scheduled the same time. Some of it depends on the center. I found out pretty soon after each step what was up but the steps took a few months.

I have also heard very very good things about Dr Virro at Markham Fertility. That might be an even better option. It seems like their testing may be more extensive and their customer service a bit better.

 

[ReadynWaiting]

That is good to know. I will look in to him and that clinic. I want to be as informed as possible next week with a plan to give to the ob-gyn so there are few to no delays. Thanks so much for all of the info.
You are in my prayers and thoughts as you start a new cycle of ivf.

 

[BABTTC123]

Ready- my gut is in knots about hearing this again I'm so sorry.
Thank you Ren for helping out and providing so much info for her! Hopefully you can get some answers soon and get onto preparing your body for a little one to grow.

Pers- she is adorable! Congrats!

Afm- I've been busy learning a new position in my department at work. They liked me so much that they decided that they wanted me to become their new employee banker! So far it has been great, but I'm still nervous I will mess up :S
My husband got a new job at my work as well as a security guard and will be starting this Tuesday so we will no longer be struggling for cash after that! Thank God!
As for ttc aspect, still no af and it has been almost 2 months. Bfn'S all around me so I know it is pcos.
I think I have cysts again because yesterday I had some crippling cramps that had me curled up on the floor.
I keep having false pregnancy symptoms as well which is like salt being rubbed in my very open wound. I will get randomly nauseas, head aches, dizzy, moody, spasms in my uterus etc...
It's rather irritating.
I've been really lazy about seeing my doctor because I'm not sure what she could actually do about all of this. I think it's pretty pointless to go to an appointment and wait for her to say that she could just put me on metformin again and prescribe me clomid if I wanted to keep trying.
I'm seriously worn out.
Idk if any of you believe in how tarot cards work, but I decided to do a reading and basically the cards were saying to focus on my job and home life and that I needed to stop obsessing over what I want, aka a baby..

Anyways, that's basically what's going on.
Oh and I just gave back my second foster litter to kitten rescue and they gave me 4 more to take care of for a couple of weeks! One is sooo tiny and skinny! Her whole litter had died before she was found :'(
A different one was caught as a feral and he is still very skittish. He doesn't like being held or touched so I've been working on getting him to at least let me pet him without him pulling away. He so far is fine with eating soft food out of my hands so that's good!
The other two are siblings from an inbred litter. One is SO ADORABLE! She has a slightly short tail that has knots in it and is very stout. It's sad that she is inbred but she has an amazing personality! Her sister is pretty much normal looking lol

 

[Mrs. Burch]

Hope all you sweet girls are doing well. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving and try not to eat too much, who am I kidding, stuff yourself till you can't handle it!!

 

[BABTTC123]

How is everyone doing?
This thread has gone silent and it makes me sad

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Hey bab! I'm still around but I think the "mommies" of the group probably just got busy with their little ones. How are you?
I am ntnp. I have an appt with a specialist in Jan to get some testing done and see what is happening with my body. I have also changed some supplements, cut stuff from my diet, exercise regularly and see a practitioner that is helping me on my path of ttc.

 

[BABTTC123]

Probably lol I was thinking that was why, but it happens to so many threads that I join
I still want baby updates!

I'm glad that you are getting things looked at soon!
I don't have the money to go to a specialist at this time. We have to worry about getting squatters out of my husband and his sisters house that they inherited. Then we have to fix it up so that we can move into it.
So a lot on our plate there..

As for the ttc area of life, we are mostly ntnp. I still try to have us bd when I show signs of ovulation, but I'm not trying to stress out too much about it. If I can lol
Waiting to see if I was lucky enough to catch an egg this month and getting ready to make Christmas presents.

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Luckily we have healthcare that covers most of the costs of specialists. I have Bloodwork that I need to get done that will cost $405 so it has to wait until after Christmas. I am trying to find other things to occupy my mind with as I'm sick of obsessing over every little thing ttc.
Keep me updated on how you make out this month.
Tell me again the issues you have with your cycle.

 

[ab75]

Hey ladies, How are you all doing ?
organised for Christmas?

Sorry to hear that you have squatters bab!!

Hope you get answers in Jan ready.

All good here. Girls are excited for Santa coming. Frazer is walking,giving kisses and cuddles,cheeky and happy. So cute

Hope you all have a lovely festive season xx

 

[ab75]

At toddler Christmas party

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Omg look how big he is! So cute!!

 

[BABTTC123]

Ab- oh my goodness!!! He is so big!! They grow up too fast :'(
I love his expression about seeing Santa. He looks so mystified
He is such a cutie!

Ready- I am very jealous about your health care coverage! I have to pay for anything fertility related
So here's to hoping something happens on its own.
As for my cycle issues, I have Poly cystic ovary syndrome pretty bad. My hormones are all sorts of messed up!
I need to see an endocrinologist but idk if my insurance will cover that.. after Christmas I will find out what I can do to get things sorted out.
But basically due to my hormones being unbalanced I don't ovulate regularly or at all. I had to take Clomid to conceive my first angel and the 2nd was conceived right after I miscarried the first one. So I probably still had some clomid lingering in my system or something.

I totally get needing a distraction. I'm currently painting presents for family members.

Here is my favorite so far:

https://i44.photobucket.com/albums/f11/baghramm/Mobile%20Uploads/20151218_032036_zpsms3dd2bm.jpg

This is really my first time painting so I'm pretty proud of the results, at least for this one!

 

[ab75]

He is growing up far too quickly.

Wow,that painting is lovely. I'd love to be able to paint like that!!
I hope you manage to sort out insurance etc to help you get your rainbow