TWW Support group to help get you through the nitty gritty...and beyond

[BABTTC123]

Yeah I think so... it's less than a week away so I think I can wait.
My spotting appears to have stopped but now my cervix is high-firm-closed which is typical before af

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Bab have you ever gone to see a naturopath? If you are having pms symptoms that bad there is a def imbalance in your body. The Chinese don't have a word for pms because they don't have symptoms or if they are experiencing some form of imbalance they treat it with proper foods and botanicals. They eat different foods at different times in their cycle to nourish the bodies needs at that time. For me I connect with their thought process because they are such a healthy nation (not including any western invasion) where we are not. We treat everything with pills as opposed to getting to the root of the problem and fixing ourselves from the inside out.
I hope I don't sound preachy but I want you to have a Successful pregnancy so maybe another route needs to be explored? I know money was an issue before and this does cost but no where close to Ivf.

 

[BABTTC123]

I haven't yet, but I'm sure I can do some research and avoid any extra costs. I never had a lot of pms symptoms before when I was far more imbalanced so I'm not sure if that is accurate that we aren't supposed to have symptoms. Maybe not the bad cramps many women complain about, those seem like they could be diet based, but sore breasts are a sign that there is an increased amount of progesterone and can cause nausea as well...
Buuuut.... that's the catch, we are supposed to have elevated levels of progesterone before our periods and then it drops to trigger the bleeding. I used to produce such a low amount that I would spot for weeks before I actually started bleeding which meant that I didn't have a high enough amount to trigger a proper period.
Since I've been having these symptoms and have been more regular I think I may be producing too much?
I'm not sure if that's a bad thing or not. I know a lot of progesterone is necessary for a healthy pregnancy but I wonder if it will have some adverse effect on my cycle in the mean time...

I know that the symptoms are terrible mainly because they are deceiving xD
I wouldn't mind being nauseas if it was for a good reason lol

The cramping for me is usually cysts which is caused by the pcos. That can be managed to a degree by diet and exercise.. it really depends on if it is caused genetics or environment/diet which pcos can be caused by either or both.

Either way, I do need to improve my diet a lot more! so the naturopath would help a lot.

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Here is the book https://www.xiaolanhealthcentre.com/books.html I read first on my journey from the past year, it has led me in a different direction as far as balancing my body. It's too bad we aren't closer, I could lend it to you.
So I think I explained that wrong. There are certain things that do occur through our cycle and if they experience what we call pms symptoms they treat it as an overall issue in the body (liver stagnation, qi stagnation, kidney stagnation, etc) rather than the 'oh they just have pms, take some midol' approach.
For me often when I would eat (since I was young) I would feel nauseous, have headaches, feel so tired and would wind up having terrible acid reflux. The acid was so bad that I have damaged the muscle at the end of my esophagus so now it's weak and sometimes food gets 'stuck' going down. Over the past couple of years I have determined it's mainly from gluten and sugar. I have taken it out so many times but always put it back in. After my 6th loss this last year I decided I was taking it out as long as I am still ttc. I now have decided I will never put it back in. I have 'glistened' myself twice in the past 2 months and the headaches are instant followed by the acid. I really don't miss it and there are so many options to substitute.
With that said I have been reading a lot in inflammation and what we in North America are doing to our bodies. Most major diseases are due to inflammation and we 'fuel the fire' by eating so much inflammatory shit. I just can't do it any more. It was hard at first but now it's just how I eat.
Also, I have gotten rid of all the toxic crap in my house and use only natural cleaning products, soaps, shampoos,detergent, etc. I myself just want to feel like I have thrown everything at making myself and my family healthy. If at the end of all of this I still can't maintain a pg than I know it just wasn't meant to be. Holy shit, that was a long post lol. Sorry

 

[ReadynWaiting]

*glutened not glistened

 

[Wishing_]

I think I might check it out too. I've been bloated and feel nauseous a lot after eating.

 

[ReadynWaiting]

It is really crazy how much better I feel now that I don't eat it. Most of my life I felt sick after I ate so just thought my body was super crappy. Turns out I have an intolerance of sorts. Hoping it makes the difference in sustaining a pregnancy too.

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Bab-this https://naturalfertilityandwellness.com/natural-remedies-for-pcos/ was on my fb today. I didn't read it, don't know if it applies but I follow this page because there is tons of info. Just made me think of you.

 

[BABTTC123]

Ready- I will look into all of that, and I think I understand now what you meant about the pms thing lol

Wishing - have you tested yet?

It's officially cd 30 now so af is late.
Yesterday morning hubby and I dtd and I had very bright pink spotting which went completely away after 30 minutes. I think it was from bd..
Anyways, I was hoping that it would trigger my period to start if af is truly on her way.

Took a cheap test just now and it is still blank and negative.
Fertility friend says that I ovulated on cd 17 and estimates my period to start just after cd 31. So I guess I will give it until then to see if I either get af or a baby.
No more symptoms at all though which is both unusual for pms and for pregnancy.
Maybe my pcos is having a fall back and I'm going to have a lengthy cycle
Maybe that spotting on cd 24-27 was a mini period and I'm on a whole new cycle? Who knows...
My opk's should be here tomorrow so I will start using them soon if af doesn't arrive and I keep getting bfns.

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Bab-that is so frustrating! Hopefully you figure out where your body is at ASAP.
Afm-I am right around ov time. I'm not doing anything but checking my cp and cm. only time shall tell.

 

[Wishing_]

Af showed. NTNP is annoying. I ended up getting a UTI on my last day of my mini vaca & I had to call out of work. I feel like I'm going to hear it when I go in tomorrow. I'm on a 90 day probation since I'm new at the store.

Bab & Ready - any updates?

 

[BABTTC123]

Wishing- that sucks that you had to call out
Even now after a year at my work, I am paranoid about calling out lol
Sorry to hear about af as well.. she got me too :/

Ready- how's it going? Do you think you ovulated yet?

Afm- af came and I'm now cd 7.
Going to start using my opk's and see if I ovulate this month. My husband was able to get the same days off as me now so we are going to start going to the gym every weekend (our weekend.) We went Tuesday night and then all of Wednesday we spent the day cleaning the house he and his sisters inherited. The tweakers that were squatting there had finally left!
But we got a nice visit from a couple of their friends trying to rummage through the garbage that the squatters left.
We secured the house and starting throwing the garbage into the garage to make it easier to haul off later. It is really bad...
But used and unused needles everywhere, rotten food in the kitchen and fridges, piles of trash throughout the house and yard.
It's going to be a tough job and expensive to fix.

 

[BABTTC123]

Oh! And more good news!
I had gotten my husband Horny goat weed to help with his low libido and it certainly seems to be working ^_^

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Wishing-I hope you had no issues with work?!
Bab-that house sounds crazy! Not sure I could deal with the clean up. All things dirty and sketchy freak me out.
I have my fx'd that your body cooperates this month. It sounds like you are doing all kinds of good things to keep it on track.
Afm-I'm around 5dpo with not much going on. It's a long weekend here so we are gearing up to go to our trailer tomorrow for a few days. It's the 1st time this season so we are all pretty excited. I'm looking forward to relaxing and not thinking about ttc. I'm not taking any tests with me but by Tues I'm sure I'll be looking to poas lol.

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Hey ladies! How is everyone doing?
I am around 9dpo, an exhausted and have very tender tatas. I am at my trailer with no tests. I'll be home tomorrow and doubt I'll be able to keep myself from testing. I hate that I can't let myself be a tad excited that maybe a bfp is lurking around the corner. I feel anxiety that maybe a bfp is lurking and a miscarriage is after.
I have a friend that just told me a couple of weeks ago she is expecting, she tested around 6 weeks and is just confident al is good because she's sick and why wouldn't everything be good?! So frustrating!!

 

[BABTTC123]

Have you tested yet?
I'm sorry that you are feeling that way I haven't gone through as many as you and I have anxieties about it.

Afm- waiting to ovulate but so far my opk's aren't getting darker.
I have a friend who's fiancé just beat her, again, and cracked a bunch of her ribs. She called the cops and he's in jail but she sent me a bunch of pictures of positive hpt's.
I just know that she is going to use it as an excuse to go back to him. They have 3 kids together already but he NEVER helped with anything. Literally. He's a piece of shit.
Anyways, I told her that she better not take him back. I am prolife but I basically told her that she'd be better off aborting the baby if she really felt like she would need to take him back because of it.
Anyways I will update more later. I have other juicy news to share! Gotta clock into work now

 

[BABTTC123]

Okay so other juicy news...

I got into contact with an old friend who had done something a couples years back that completely betrayed my trust and basically broke my heart.
I was having a hard time because I wanted to forgive her but I couldn't. So I've come to the conclusion that we need to talk it out until I feel better, if I will.
We haven't set up a date but we intend to.
Anyways, she is pregnant and due in July. I think part of me wanting to work out our friendship is because we had been friends since we were 8 years old and it's hard to think that that long of a friendship could just get thrown out. Its hard to think that our friendship could just be forgotten and left in the past when we use to be so close. People make mistakes and accidents happen, so I might as well hear out her full side of the story and hash things out.

Anyways, I'm nervous about it all because I hate confrontations even when they are in a friendly manner like this lol
I hope that this helps me heal, regardless of how things go.

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Bab- you have some crazy stuff happening around you. Make sure to take care of you first. As part of my reiki that I have been getting done this year I have learned to protect myself around people and in situations so I don't take on their shit. For me I ask the Angels to protect me and to keep me safe. If I feel I'm being drawn in I keep repeating that and it does work.
Your friend has to break her cycle and stand on her own two feet. Why you would expose ur kids to that shit I don't get but she obviously lacks esteem and may need support to keep her on the right side of things.
I hope your chat goes well with your friend. I have a similar situation. I have a friend that we have bounced back and forth with our relationship over the years but I know now we are meant to be at an arms length of each other. And I'm ok with that. It has taken me several years to get here.
Afm-af started today, on to June!

 

[BABTTC123]

So far the friend that was in an abusive relationship is so far doing good and acting like she is trying to get her life together and stay away from him. I hope she does.

Now afm....

I FINALLY ovulated! Or at least got a positive opk with tons of ovulation signs like severe hot flashes, nausea, head aches, smell sensitivities and fatigue. Hubby and I successfully dtd and will continue to do so for the next few days. Fx his sperm meet up with this egg and I get a sticky bean!

 

[ReadynWaiting]

Bab my everything is crossed for you!!