ANC
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Ohhh I'm sure we can all add to THIS one.
I just had a super annoying conversation at a family party, and I wanted to vent.
Grandma-in-law: "Hey, did you all hear about cousin's pregnancy?" (Yes.In Detail.Kill me)
"Ashley, you guys sure are behind!" (Thank you for that. I hadn't yet noticed, but I appreciate the insight) Husband:Silent Me:"Ok. We'll get on that"
"Various other comments that I must field as my non-confrontential husband cowers in fear of my later repercussions"
That, I can deal with. Annoying, yes, sad, yes, but she's old, and we chose not to tell her about our problems, so it's to be expected.
but I still love how people like to tell me that I'm behind their timeline.
THEN, things really got fun. My inlaws are super helpful with all this..they're helping pay for my treatment, which is obviously a huge deal. But I'm always getting the feeling/advice that I need to pretty much suck it up and deal with it.
Cousin is pregnant. My husband will be out of the state for 2 monnths on rotation so he won't be around for Easter, which is held at his cousin's house. we talked and I told him I was already dreading easter. I have gone to everything..every party, every baby thing whatever. I really don't want to go to this. It's been a hard winter. I'm trying to learn to put myself first sometimes.
So we decided not to go. It isn't a huge deal, we see these people all the time. I told him he could go and I'd fake sick or something.
so tonight his mom is like "well, I'm not happy about this" and "if it was your family you'd go, or are you missing everything with kids ever now?" And of course my husband just sort of sat there..he isn't huge on confronting things.
I love my in laws, but I don't understand what makes people think they know what I'm dealing with.
Yes, missing all holidays isn't healthy, or good. But i's OKAY sometimes. You can't judge me for something you can't understand.
Me being there would not be a big deal to them. Me being there would be hugely difficult and exhausting for me.
GRRR. I love boards like this where you can vent without being judged. Right or wrong, we're allowed to feel how we feel, and deal how we deal.
I wish this all came with a manual. I wish I knew the perfect way to handle it. But I don't so I just have to feel it out as we go...
So, anyone else have a story like that? Iiiiiiii bet you do.
I just had a super annoying conversation at a family party, and I wanted to vent.
Grandma-in-law: "Hey, did you all hear about cousin's pregnancy?" (Yes.In Detail.Kill me)
"Ashley, you guys sure are behind!" (Thank you for that. I hadn't yet noticed, but I appreciate the insight) Husband:Silent Me:"Ok. We'll get on that"
"Various other comments that I must field as my non-confrontential husband cowers in fear of my later repercussions"
That, I can deal with. Annoying, yes, sad, yes, but she's old, and we chose not to tell her about our problems, so it's to be expected.
but I still love how people like to tell me that I'm behind their timeline.
THEN, things really got fun. My inlaws are super helpful with all this..they're helping pay for my treatment, which is obviously a huge deal. But I'm always getting the feeling/advice that I need to pretty much suck it up and deal with it.
Cousin is pregnant. My husband will be out of the state for 2 monnths on rotation so he won't be around for Easter, which is held at his cousin's house. we talked and I told him I was already dreading easter. I have gone to everything..every party, every baby thing whatever. I really don't want to go to this. It's been a hard winter. I'm trying to learn to put myself first sometimes.
So we decided not to go. It isn't a huge deal, we see these people all the time. I told him he could go and I'd fake sick or something.
so tonight his mom is like "well, I'm not happy about this" and "if it was your family you'd go, or are you missing everything with kids ever now?" And of course my husband just sort of sat there..he isn't huge on confronting things.
I love my in laws, but I don't understand what makes people think they know what I'm dealing with.
Yes, missing all holidays isn't healthy, or good. But i's OKAY sometimes. You can't judge me for something you can't understand.
Me being there would not be a big deal to them. Me being there would be hugely difficult and exhausting for me.
GRRR. I love boards like this where you can vent without being judged. Right or wrong, we're allowed to feel how we feel, and deal how we deal.
I wish this all came with a manual. I wish I knew the perfect way to handle it. But I don't so I just have to feel it out as we go...
So, anyone else have a story like that? Iiiiiiii bet you do.