Nic18 Thanks! Although i cant help but get the feeling that i've made that same speech at least once before. But you know how that goes..![]()
Honestly if you cant take the heat, get out of the kitchen. Coming into the vent thread "just to read" the vents is like looking for trouble. Anyone who decides to scroll through most likely will find SOMETHING that offends them....
ITS LIKE GOING TO ANOTHER COUNTRY AND BEING OFFENDED BY THEIR CULTURE.
but this vent thread was set up for people to get whatever is bothering them off there mind without offending anybody, because they are not talking about anyone of this forum (i hope)
I find this thread to be mean to mothers and the way they raise children. Vent over in TTC #1 if you want to rant against women who already have children or them not spoiling a child.
Honestly if you cant take the heat, get out of the kitchen. Coming into the vent thread "just to read" the vents is like looking for trouble. Anyone who decides to scroll through most likely will find SOMETHING that offends them....
Pot, meet kettle.
You seem to be the one who can't take the heat. I am free to post my opinions, just as anyone else.
ITS LIKE GOING TO ANOTHER COUNTRY AND BEING OFFENDED BY THEIR CULTURE.
Your analogy makes no sense. What exactly qualifies as a TTCer? Is the fact that I have three children already and haven't been trying for X amount of months an automatic disqualification? I find it really insensitive that you would discriminate against me when you don't know what I've been through in the past or where I'm at now. I am TTC and I was offended by her vent. Plain and simple.
I came in here to post a rant and got sidetracked when I read over the last couple. Hence the reason my post is only a couple after hers.
but this vent thread was set up for people to get whatever is bothering them off there mind without offending anybody, because they are not talking about anyone of this forum (i hope)
Maybe this should be expressed in the first post, which I did read for rules.
I find this thread to be mean to mothers and the way they raise children. Vent over in TTC #1 if you want to rant against women who already have children or them not spoiling a child.
This. Exactly.
havestar, sorry if any over our posts have offended you, but you have to understand when we get post offending us its not nice. when we vent we don't want to offend people at all! and no you are not disqualified at allbut when its peoples first which i agree this should be in ttc#1 because we have a different view for people ttc there 2nd/3rd and so on
. so please don't take anything to heart, or feel you cannot post on here because you can, but everyone needs to respect each others views, but cannot have a personal attack!
I am ttc and I am ready to give it up. Being TTC makes you so much more alert then I wanted to be. I don't want to know who's pregnant, or hear another person brag about their BFP! I don't want to wonder and hope. I am ready to let it go.
havestar, sorry if any over our posts have offended you, but you have to understand when we get post offending us its not nice. when we vent we don't want to offend people at all! and no you are not disqualified at allbut when its peoples first which i agree this should be in ttc#1 because we have a different view for people ttc there 2nd/3rd and so on
. so please don't take anything to heart, or feel you cannot post on here because you can, but everyone needs to respect each others views, but cannot have a personal attack!
I can agree with that. And maybe in retrospect I should have just PMed her (I'm assuming we can do that, I've never messaged anyone) and told her what I thought.
I do apologize if whatever I said seemed excessively harsh, but my statement about whenever she has kids she'll understand was not intentionally mean or neglectful of her TTC journey. I was simply pointing out that until you've been in the same situation you have no idea what it's like or how you'd react.