Waiting for our BFPs! Please hurry :-D

[MrsBroodyPant]

I know. I feel so hurt by how she did it. She is totally selfish. She isn't a close friend but still, u would think she would have feelings x

 

[HappilyTTC]

Hilslo: Good luck!

Nina: Yay to a positive OPK!!! And morning Wishing you

Mrs B: Wow! How insenstive of her! I cannot imagine what you felt. And knowing that you are trying... she is something else.

Cath: I am doing okay. Have that follow-up finally this week. It feels like it's been forever- time is creeping by. I will know more about a timeline on Thursday. I felt the same way when people would announce their pregnancy. I was over the moon for them, but at the same time sad for me. Not jealous, but some feeling I couldn't put my finger on.

As for me, this weekend was spent catching up with old friends and their family. No one knows about my looming hysterectomy, so everyone (especially those who just had babies or are pregnant) kept asking me when we were going to have a baby. First of all, like it's that easy. Second of all, well, I can't. It was tough. I know that no one meant any harm, but it was still a hard pill to take over and over again.

 

[hilslo]

Urgh. Why do people ask???? If you are pregnant but are trying to keep it private it's awkward and if you're trying and failing or just can't it's awful. Surely the chances of making someone feel good about this question is so slim people should just never ask it!

How are you feeling about Thursday? I hope finding timelines etc at least lets you start to plan. I'll be thinking of you.

LL - how is af treating you? Is it still super painful or has it eased off a bit?

Afm no sign of a temp rise this morning but a lot of pain on my left hand side this morning so hopeful I will see a rise tomorrow and that next month I o from the right.

 

[ladyluck84]

Hi I'm feeling much better though extremely tearful still the smallest things are setting me off. I'm just hugely unhappy I'm hoping my appointment Friday will be my referral and something good to focus on. I'm back to temping and using the fertility monitor. I know it's stupid but they let me feel more in control of things.

How is everyone feeling about Christmas approaching? I usually really love Christmas but I told my family I was pregnant on Christmas Day and there was lots of talk about "this time next year we will have a baby in the house" that this year I'm dreading it. I'm hoping that nearer the time I will be in a better frame of mind and it will cheer me up

 

[MrsBroodyPant]

Happily im sorry u had to go through that. Beats me why people have to ask! Must of been very hard for you with what you are dealing with. Xxx

Ll84 I feel the same about xmas. It should of been so different! Im going to buy a childrens book for my future child. I bought one last year too. It will be hard but I will be pleased when 2013 is over.
Xxx

 

[Nina83]

Hmmm.... Not sure if I'm loving the new look... Will take some time to get used to!

Lady, I totally understand how temping and the small things can make you feel in control- it's not stupid at all! We don't celebrate Christmas, but I know what you mean about the holidays. It's tough, but I hope we all get a nice December surprise

Happily, People need to start minding their own business. Especially the new parents. They're the worst. It's like they've formed a club and are on the hunt for new members.

Cath, where are you dear?

AFM- Still have heartburn, insomnia, O pains and stupid nausea. All the weight I've gained has gone straight to my boobs. I really like being sort of flat. Oh well
DTD last night as well, temp went slightly up this morning, but I also woke up about an hour earlier this morning to drive DH to the train. BBT adjuster said to ignore. I really hope this is the month

 

[ladyluck84]

Nina how does bbt adjustor work?

 

[Nina83]

I'm not sure, maybe just calculates the average?
I have a feeling temping this month is not going to work! Maybe it's for the best.

 

[hilslo]

Well today is the day I've been dreading. The "how far along would I be" question is now "what would I be doing with him/her".
I feel sad but not too bad thankfully. I knew when I had my mmc that I wouldn't be pregnant by my due date so I guess I've had a couple of months to accept it.
Well onwards and upwards and I'm not entirely sure but think I got my temp rise this morning. I woke up at 5.30 and in my groggy state thought it was later and took my temp (36.2) then promptly fell back to sleep. I then took it when my alarm went off at 6.45 (36.4) but pressed snooze and fell asleep again until 7 when I normally take it and it was 36.5. No idea why I went a bit mental with the temping this morning. Well that's a blatant lie, I do know. I was so hopeful/worried about o that I woke up early and kept it up!
Anyway, I've chalked my chart up as 36.5 as today of all days I need to feel like I'm a step closer. If it's down again tomorrow I'll deal with that tomorrow!

Nina - v jealous. I wish when I put weight on it went straight to my boobs. I'd be stuffing down a lot of cakes!!

 

[ladyluck84]

Fingers crossed that is your rise.

 

[Nina83]

LOL Hilslo! It finds it's way to other places as well!
Did your temps continue to rise?

Mrs.B, That's a nice idea about buying a childrens book. I found that sometimes buying for my future children gives me a calming feeling. Something to look forward to.
All the stuff I bought is patiently waiting for my little bub to wear/play with.

I think I'm coming down with something I knew temping this month would be bad. I have a sore throat. I drank so much tea yesterday I gained 1 kg of water weight. Yikes. At least I know it's from water!
Insomnia as well, I don't know why. I'm not terribly worried or stressed about work. I just tossed and turned in bed. I hope my spike in temps stays that way and is not because of my sore throat.

A girl I work with who I told about my MC, and she told me they were TTC told me a few months ago that they did genetic testing and she's positive for Tay–Sachs, and now her husbands is testing. If he's clear they're OK to go.
I felt horrible for her, they've only been trying about 3 months or so and now put it on hold until they get answers.
She told me that even if he's negative, they'll have the option of IVF to choose a healthy embryo. Or whatever it's called. I don't know why, but it got me angry that she has the option of getting better health care even when nothing is wrong, and I know IVF isn't fun, but I'm not even getting tested until 3 MC happen. Why do I have to wait?
Everyone here does genetic testing, well, only one of the parents. If a test comes out negative, or positive, whatever, then the other parent tests.
She then went on to say that they are NTNP right now, but if they do get pregnant at least she'll be happy to know that she can get pregnant and that's already a good sign. I was kind of sitting there like... Yeah, so what? I can get pregnant and? It doesn't really mean anything.
A tiny bit of me sighed a relief that I won't have to hear her announce her pregnancy for a little bit more though. I feel like a horrible person
I'm just so bitter that 2 girls in my office had oopsies and everything is fine. I feel like a failure.

 

[HappilyTTC]

Thanks, Mrs. B.

@ Nina! Hahahaha. They're on the club and are on the hunt for new members? That's hilarious!!!!!!!!!!!! That made my morning.

In other news, the hubs and I got a puppy! Pics of it in my journal. He's a cutie. (of course, I am biased.)

 

[cathgibbs]

Afternoon everyone how are we all?!

Iv just read what everyone wrote and completely forgot what was said lol im soooo tired!

Happily!! Hes gorgeous!! GL for tomorrow hun (sorry if your apt isnt tomorrow my head is fried lately) xxxx

 

[HappilyTTC]

Afternoon everyone how are we all?!

Iv just read what everyone wrote and completely forgot what was said lol im soooo tired!

Happily!! Hes gorgeous!! GL for tomorrow hun (sorry if your apt isnt tomorrow my head is fried lately) xxxx

It is tomorrow! Thank you! I am looking forward to some resolution and some final answers.

And thank you! He is super sweet, too!

 

[cathgibbs]

Let us know how it goes hun ill be thinking of you xxxx

 

[ladyluck84]

Thinking of u tomorrow happily. Let us know how u get on

 

[MrsBroodyPant]

Good luck Happily xxx

 

[hilslo]

Thinking if you too Happily. Fingers crossed there is some resolution. xx

 

[cathgibbs]

Ladies I have a Q - We will be stopping ttc Feb in readiness for the wedding - what would be the best way to prevent getting pregnant (kills me to say that after trying TO GET pregnant for the past 2 years ) pill - condoms (although DF hates them) - dont want the implant or injection as iv had them before eurgh xxx

 

[Nina83]

Since I stopped BC 4 years ago and until we got married we used condoms. The night of we started using the pull out method as well as condoms.
But that's also taking a chance, if you're willing to.