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  1. Laura2806

    Laura2806 Mummy to DS & PG w/twins

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    Oh you only have to say one little word wrong or upload a pic and there's someone bound to pull you apart for having the temp 1degree out of light an inch too high lol so different to here :) x
     
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    4WW Status: BFN WITH FMU. 13dpo - 9 days late for would be period. No real symptoms other than being cranky, bloated, and constipated (tmi).

    Laura: Don't be discouraged about househunting. When I bought my house I was single, POOR, 21 years old, and I apparently had horrible credit because my real mother ran up bills in my name when I was a child...I worked really hard to dispute charges on my credit, produce all of my taxes and other really cumbersome things for 1 full month...IT WAS HELL! However, FOR SOME REASON (I am still shocked) I was able to buy a BRAND NEW Townhouse, for $60,000.00 less than it was worth (housing market crash). I installed woodfloors later on when I had a bit more money, and I still own it. I rent it out all by myself - I do the credit checks, process the mortgage, and ensure that my tenants are happy. If I can do this, you and OH can too! I'm telling you, it can be done. (When I say I was poor, I WAS EFFING POOR)! I know that the UK is different, but probably not all that much in terms of housing...so, just keep your head up and don't take no for an answer. You might get turned down by a few lenders, but just move on to another (find a good broker). Also, (I don't know if you have Credit Scores in UK) pull your credit report (it's usually free once a year), so you know your standing.

    Anyhow...not gunna test again until after the 4th.
     
  3. Laura2806

    Laura2806 Mummy to DS & PG w/twins

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    Sorry to hear its another BFP :-( I was 14dpo before AF arrived though, I think anyway lol could just still be too early ;-)

    It's more the cost of them here, where we live it's £40,000 more for a brand new house slightly smaller with less garden and serverly overlooked than one 20mins away! The cheapest new build we can get here (3bed) is £179,000 not good when we think we can only get a max of £120,000! But anyhow we get one and it'll be what we want :) like my mum says its took them 22years to get their house just how they want it. Plus the our neighbours son is a financial advisor specialising in people who struggle to get credit ratings, mortgages, deposities etc so I know we'll get there......eventually lol

    And go you! Girl power all the way :happydance:
     
  4. teenah99

    teenah99 Well-Known Member

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    No AF...14DPO...didn't test...will wait until tomorrow or tonight if I can't hold out! I feel fine today. Thirsty...but fine. Possible sore nips, but it's only if I press in on them...LoL. Slept well lastnight, lots of vivid dreams, and some other less clear dreams of being pregnant.

    FX'd....
     
  5. Laura2806

    Laura2806 Mummy to DS & PG w/twins

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    It's so hard to tell whether your bodies building upto a BFP or AF isn't it! I find it so frustrating, FXed it's a BFP for you :))

    I did an OPK this morning and got a faint positive (CD10) as its my first month properly charting/testing I'm not sure it's invalid/too early etc so gonna test again when I get home from work, dying to pee ATM but holding it in!! Lol

    Gonna keep charting/temping and see how I go, might call the docs just now too! Xx
     
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    Laura2806 Mummy to DS & PG w/twins

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    Ok so I got another faint positive OPK last night followed by an invalid one this morning so i did another this morning, got the test line and control line but with 2 lines in. Between them too??! Im gonna guess this is invalid too! Lol another OPK tonight!
     
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    teenah99 Well-Known Member

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    Speaking of OPKs...I am got a positive one this morning!!! WTF?! It's cd42 of a typically 31 day cycle, I'm 15dpo. Had two BFN's this morning (one turned faint positive after the time limit)...OH...and I had a faint BLUE line positive within 1-4 mins of taking a test last night, but then it started fading as the test dried! By the time DH got home, he examined it and said he "saw something." SOOOO frustrating.

    Maybe symptoms:

    Runny nose (off and on for the last 2 days)
    HORRIBLE TUMMY ACHES after eating
    Low Libido (still BD last night tho)
    Got really irritated last night for no reason (actually told DH that I was not mad at him I was just feeling an overwhelming feeling of hatred and angst!)

    That's all...P.S. Today is supposed to be AF the second...(remember the whole late ovulation thing moved my original AF from 12/24 to 1/4)

    Laura:
    How is temping going? I know that you are doing OPKs too, but don't get too hung up on them if you are temping, bc temping is the best indicator of Oing. KEEP ME POSTED! Don't go to the docs until after this month of charting (or a BFP), ok? You might be suprised to find that you are an early or late O'er and that might help you when it is time to see the doc.

    FXed
     
  8. Laura2806

    Laura2806 Mummy to DS & PG w/twins

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    Wtf?! I feel so sorry for you :-( hoping for a BFP for you!

    I was dead confused with my OPK this morning, 4lines??! Temps seem to be staying around the same so gonna keep going, that's what I said to my mum and she said to go still, I'll leave it till next month and hope for a BFP this month lol

    Oh and my OH got a new job today, so we're actually gettin somewhere finally!! Be nice if this our month all round :) xx
     
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    CD43 of a typically 31 day cycle...16dpo...BFNx2 1 Answer test, and 1 Clear Blue Digital...not even a HINT of a line.

    Frustrated...

    Also, I would like to state FOR THE RECORD that I have NEVER been this late, or had a cycle THIS LONG. EVER. Something has to give!

    Laura: Yay for the new job! This is awesome! Things are looking up, I am sure that this delayed BFP for you is going to be for the best, maybe the "higher being" wanted to wait until you all are snug in a new house with this new job?! How's the OPK looking today?
     
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    Laura2806 Mummy to DS & PG w/twins

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    I think it was Sarah who said she was 19dpo before she got her BFP so there's still hope hunni :) I've had cycles 47days long too!

    As long as it not too delayed lol it could be 6months before we can look for a house, who knows. We bought a fish tank Monday too lol

    Got and indent line on my OPK this morning so I'm hoping O is imonent lol

    FXed for you Hun ;-) xx
     
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    teenah99 Well-Known Member

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    CD 44...BFN on ClearBlue Digi...17dpo...Have doctor's appt on Monday to get a blood test if AF is still MIA...I am up and down about all of this...sometimes hopeful and other times sad and discouraged.

    Anyhow...I realized that I forgot to mention that I have tattoos too! I don't count how many anymore, but I have the tops of my feet, my entire back and a 3/4 sleeve on my left arm. :) Also, I don't LOOOVE reps, but I do like toads, lizards (small), baby crocodiles, tortoises, and horny toads.

    Also, I seriously looooove animals...like I have a problem. I've owned the following:

    Geese (Roger and Samantha Swaty Big Bird *loong story)
    Duck (Ducky)
    Chickens (too many to name)
    Rabbits (too many to name, but my fave was Strawberry)
    Dogs (too many to name)
    Cats
    Toad (Edgar)
    Tortoises (Tootsie, a momma tortoise that laid eggs that resulted in two BABIES!)
    Fish
    Tadpoles/frogs (too many to name)
    Hamster (Vanessa)
    Rat (Kimberly)

    LoL!
     
  12. sarahuk

    sarahuk ❤Proud Mum of 2 & TTC❤

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    Hi ladies!!!!!!!!!

    Im baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack!!!

    So sorry ive been MIA. Had stuff going on for the first part of the year but im back now to terrorise you!!!

    Thanks so much for the updates and info and im about to do the same so you know a little bit more about me now :)

    Grats on the new job to the fella Laura! Such good news and will defo help you get that home sorted!!

    Teenah id get to the docs and get some bloods pulled. Some women ive read were unable to get positives on a hpt, but there were some i read of that managed to get their bfp from the opk instead and went on to get it confirmed from bloods. Worth checkig out!

    So..update on my position before I get down to the nitty gritty!! I -think- im back in the 2ww again! I think I OVd yesterday so 1dpo, unless i OVd in early hours of this morning. Ready to go this cycle. A good friend I met through here who has been trying for ages and sadly lost a baby the week after me, has just found out shes got her bfp! So happy...so excited...and so ready to get mine now!

    Ok...here goes - with a mahoosive wall of text:

    ME
    Age: 31
    Height: 5Ft8
    weight: Im fat. No word around it :p Im comfortable in my skin though and i know the weight is coming off slow. Slow being the operative word lol.
    hobbies: Oh lordy..well, I used to be a MAHOOSIVE gamer, but I quit that about 4 months ago actually and found that im heavily into reading again. Always loved it, love the distraction it gives me too. Other than that ive been baking cakes and such now for about 6 months which I find always helps with the stress relief, specially after a BFN or the witch arrives lol. Other than that I have been teaching myself to crochet so i can make lovely baby stuffs, and I cross-stitch too. Damn, I sound like a grandma haha. Hard to believe I used to be all about going out and partying with my friends when I was young! My dog is our world too...shes gorge :D


    DH
    Age: 30
    Height: 6Ft4ish
    weight: Pretty much average. Not fat, not a skinny which. Hes a nice shape with nice mustle mass (which I put down to being a viking lol)
    hobbies: Our dog is his everthing, hes like a damn teddy bear with her lol. Hes also into gaming and movies...the norm really!

    Our lives are somewhat like yours Laura. At the moment we are also living with the rents while trying to find our own full-time place. Our living arrangement has been hard by how we originally met.

    See..Matt and I actually met in World of Warcraft. Go on..have a laugh...I did!! I was playing with his real life friends and up he popped. He was a bit of a lost soul at the time. Proper party boy, out with his mates all the time and not really settling down with any one woman. He was known as the cassanova of his group. But you could tell there was something different about him. That there was something underneath the surface that was making him a troubled soul and a bit of a bad boy. So I gave him a chance at my friendship and we spent hours and hours talking and hanging out together in the game. We took that offline, to being on Skype for 18 hours a day. Later to webcams, and after only a few months of knowing each other I had that feeling that we were heading into something special. I wasnt looking for anything, neither was he. But somehow we just knew. He calmed right down, was spending all his time with me in any way we could, and so it left only one step left.

    Meeting. It was heading into 4 months of "being together" and we decided to meet. It took planning since hes Swedish and im English, but we arranged to spent 5 weeks together in england over christmas. It was one of those really romantic moments for me (and I dont normally do romance). I was stood at arrivals scared as hell, and he runs to me and sweeps me up and kisses me, tells me he loves me. And from that moment on everything we did and planned was around getting him here. That was in August 2009.

    At the time we knew we were forever. Infact, we were engaged before he returned home to sweden in the second week of January. Wed decided that we wanted the whole thing..house, dog, baby. So I basically came off birth control afer that first meeting. Since he had things to solve there bfore we could be together full time, we met up 4 more times before the big move. Finally, in December 2010 our dreams came true and there were no more goodbyes :)

    It was at this time that we decided to hit everything with all systems go. I was temping every day, I found this site, made some good friends, got a lot of advice, and tried to be patient and wait for it to happen. The first month was hard ill admitt, since I didnt know what to expect. Before that had been mostly just geting in a lot of sex while he was here and bugger whether the timing was right or not.

    It was in my end of January cycle that things got a bit complicated. I knew something wasnt up. Id had a bunch of symptoms in the first part of feb and I just felt like something was off. I was feeling sick as a parrot on car journeys which id never had before, my boobs were sore, waves of nausea on and off and was tired as hell. I figured...this is my month I just knew it! So i started testing early, and ofc, I had bfn after bfn. I have a 14day LP and I never spot, so when I started to spot from 12dpo I figured hang on...what the hell? Still more negatives. And then 14/15dpo the spotting became light bleeding. Now my periods arent exactly heavy but the consistency isnt light and watery. And this bleeding was. My instinct was telling me someting was wrong, but my body was saying I was getting the witch. I decided to leave it since it was Friday and see how things were on Monday...but it was still the same. Temps still up too. So I did a test just to clear my mind of worry and...the feck...its positive? I called the doctor who informed me that I was probably having what they call a threatened miscarriage so Id need to go in for blood work to see if my hcg levels are rising or declining. And if they are rising, if its doubling every 48 hours since less than doubling numbers indicated ectopic pregnancy which also has bleeding as a symptom.

    I have the tests and all is good. Infact, my numbers are doubling. Im pregnant! YAY! They book me in for a scan about 10 days later just past the 6 week mark to make sure all is well. But that following weekend, the bleeding seems stronger, and im in some discomfort. So a call to NHS direct says I need to rush to Emergency at the hospital and get checked out. I do, they urine test me (still positive), they beta check me (still higher...I went from 124 to 1048ish) and all looks ok. But the bleeding is a worry so I get transferred to a different hospital and they arrange for me to be looked at internally and have an internal scan. Cervix still closed they tell me...good sign! They say bleeding can be very normal too. So I let myself hope that things are ok.

    I have the scan and the nurse turns to me and says that unfortunately they cant find anything in my uterus, despite having a thickened lining. She says that sadly, ive miscarried the pregnancy. Our world crashed down...and we were sat there waiting for my discharge papers both in fits of tears. It was the single most awful experience of my life. Something I wanted so desperately is being ripped away. I go home, for 3 days I grieve and am so upet about the thought of going back to the hospital at all. But they wanted me back for final bloods to make sure my hormones are going within normal levels. But I go and I cope and go back home to grieve again.

    The next morning the consultant calls me. They say that they have news...they are happy but shocked to inform me that the pregnancy is still viable! My hormones are going up and increasingly GREAT rates and they dont quite know what to say other than it must be that I was just too early for them to see the sac on the scan. So I get another scan date. We are so damn happy and I let the grief dissapear and Im shocked but so thankful that everything is ok agian.

    We go for the scan a week later and the nurse is really quiet and she wont discuss the results with me so we have to wait for the doctor, and when he comes in he quite simply states that the feutus is growing next to my right ovary and it needs to come out. Thats why they didnt see it in my womb and if I dont have treatment it will rupture and could take the tube with it. World crashing down round two. So I have to spend the day in hospital waiting for some injections that will "make me better".

    In the end...I wasnt discharged from the hospital until 12 weeks later. It was a horrible experience, one that ive learned much from, but one thing I know for sure is that I hope to god that never happens again. It was bad enough knowing the joy of two lines, to then having to be blood tested every other day at the hospital to check progress and wait for it to be over. I bled the entire time also btw which was horrible. As weird as this sounds..I was very happy and relieved to get a negative pregnancy and blood test by the end.

    One thing I knwo for sure, is that such an experience has really shaped how I look at things. I thought id be pregnant again by now but im not. But most importantly I know what I want with everything I am. I want that feeling back again when you see those two lines :)

    OMG wall of text...massive....SORRY!!!

    I should start a TTC journal with that essay!! Hang on....I think a copy and a paste is in order!!

    xx
     
  13. Laura2806

    Laura2806 Mummy to DS & PG w/twins

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    I bloody hate posting from my phone I've just wrote loads and it's frigging gone!!!

    Here goes again in short!!!

    You almost made me cry Sarah I can't even begin to imagine how horrendous it must have been! Such a lovely story pissed on by bad news!

    Teenah: Haha brilliant :) I lost one of my crested geckos last week and now the other one is gettin a lil bit sad so I might have to get her another friend if she doesn't cheer up.

    I so so so hope it's a BFP Hun you deserve it ;-)

    I'm waitin and hoping I ovulate, if not I'm gonna get really discouraged as its another with no BFP and a month closer to the 12 month mark :-(

    Let's hope we all get those BFP's we do desperately want and deserve!
    FXed ey ladies xx
     
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    Laura2806 Mummy to DS & PG w/twins

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    Oh and I'm feeling a bit up and down ATM too, worried I'm not ovulating but wanting to ride it out this month, try and relax a bit and most importantly have lots of sex! Lol
     
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    sarahuk ❤Proud Mum of 2 & TTC❤

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    I have days like that too sweetie where Im convinced something is wrong. That im barren, or that im not ovulating. I think its natural that we have so many worries even though it often leads us to start worrying about a bunch of things!

    Im sure we are ovulating and everything is fine! I read a study that said that its normal to take more than 12 months. We will get our babies!

    I did get a bit emotional as I hit the 12 month mark, but then Im making sure to attack this next 12 months even harder!

    Do you know when youre due to OV?

    xx
     
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    Laura2806 Mummy to DS & PG w/twins

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    In about a week I think so ages yet! Lol i know it will happen I'm just impatient lol

    I think that if I got the docs they'll just tell me to loose weight and my fiancé to stop smoking (which he's trying to do). It's just very difficult some days. But I do get to go shopping for my friends little files first birthday soon then my godson's 2nd birthday :))

    Oh and is it difficult to crochet?
     
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    sarahuk ❤Proud Mum of 2 & TTC❤

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    Its one thing thank god my doc hasnt said to me. I think hes too polite lol. Though its all a load of croc anyway. My sister was a size 32 and got pregnant very fast and had no issues through her pregnancy. And didnt take me too long the first time around. If you ask me its too easy these days to blame weight rather than find out the real answer!

    Crocheting scared me. I always wanted to learn but thought it looked too complicated. Ive since been teaching myself and you know what? Its fidly learning new patterns, but the stitches themselves are a doddle!! Its not hard at all!

    I started properly in the start of october. Within a week id made two scarfs and decided to upgrade to blanket. I went on to make a double bed sized blanket in striped colours and even managed to teach myself how to make these lovely little crocheted flowers which I put in each of the corners. It was a fantastic distraction and its not as old fashioned as it used to be!

    I follow some patterns from a website called raverly.com which is amazin. But for the learning theres a youtube channel called crochetgeek which has all the instructions in realtime with slowmoes so you can learn while watching.

    If you fancy it...try! The materials are so damn cheap and once you get going ive found it addictive. Its saved my nerves a whole lot in the 2ww lol xx
     
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    Laura2806 Mummy to DS & PG w/twins

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    It'd be nice if my docs were polite about it Lolita think because I'm not happy with my weight myself I presume they'll use it as an excuse.

    I want to make a patchwork quilt for when we have a family so gonna go into Birmingham in a fw weeks the the rag market I think :) I've always loved things like this and get a huge sense of pride when I complete something. I made a wall frieze at school which is still standing so I could do another one ;-) I'm gettin ahead of myself with nursery stuff but I figure if I ant to do things like this news the time to start cause those 9months will no doubt fly by when I get a BFP anyway!

    I love baking and cooking too, generally being a housewife! Lol

    Glad your loving crochet, I love little pink croched cards for baby girlies :)
     
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    sarahuk ❤Proud Mum of 2 & TTC❤

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    And the booties!!! I need to learn how to make those :p One of the ladies I met through here a year ago and stay in good contact with has gotten her bfp yesterday and I want to buy something for the baby but also make something too! Plus I have a load of cross-stitch whinnie the poo to do for when i get my bfp! Its nice to have plans eh?!

    Id love to learn how to do that! I should be asking if THATS hard?

    Stop worrying about your weight honey...we are as nature intended!

    Man im so happy to have you girlies and this thread!!
     
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    sarahuk ❤Proud Mum of 2 & TTC❤

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    I hope its ok but ive added you in my sig <3
     

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