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ok right so i totally understand people are entitled to their opinions but i totally do not agree with what happened to me today..
me and OH were out shopping and decided to pop into Wetherspoons for a quick drink ... and I decided to have 1/2 pint stout (like Guiness, only not lol) which I have been doing every other weekend throughout my pregnancy and it has done me, nor baby any harm at all. Alot of people I know always say their grandmothers or generally older generation used to drink this as its full of Iron and Vitamins .. I dont know if its true or not, but I believe I am entitled 2 half whenever I want. So, OH ordered and the barman, or should I say BOY, said to me "is this for you?" and I answered "yep" whilst going to get my ID out of my bag, thinking this is what he wanted, but he said to me "are you pregnant?" so I obviously answered "yeah" and he took the glass away from me!! and said he wasnt happy to serve me because I am pregnant! I was completely gobsmacked, my mind started racing thinking "when did this happen?" as in, I thought I had missed the new rules of LAW and I said to him "excuse me, its my body and my baby and if I want to drink it I will, its not the law" but he totally refused to give me the drink and said its against what he believes, so my OH by this point who was seething asked for manager, so the boy storms off and then 2secs later comes storming back saying "ive got to let you have it" and took our money! my OH spotted the duty manager and took her 2 the side and said he was completely offended by the barBOYs attitude and comments and he had really hurt me, which he had, I was just too shocked to say much else, too which the manager apologised profusely and said he just feels strongly against pregnant women drinking, but agrees he shouldnt have refused me it or lectured me basically. So...I took the drink and proceeded to drink it, but by this point it felt as though everyone in the whole pub was staring at me, and I felt very uncomfortable The gentleman stood next 2 me at the bar was also very shocked and couldnt believe it...
Like I said before, I completely understand people are entitled 2 their beliefs and opinions but I do not appreciate a member of staff telling me off when I am a paying customer. He completely made me feel like I am a bad person and that I dont care for my babys well-being, which is completely wrong. I have taken care with everything I eat and drink or activities I take part in throughout my pregnancy and for me to be treated like this at the last hurdle as completed taken the wind from my sails..
I do not drink excessively on a weekend, half a pint every other if I feel like it, I do not take drugs and I do not smoke, some of which lots of women continue 2 do throughout their pregnancy and all though this is frowned upon, nothing gets said.
Please dont think I have anything against ladies who smoke through pregnancy cos I dont, I am merely saying it because I didnt smoke pre-preg either and I know lots of people who have/do and their babies are fine...
Sorry rant over, I am just completely irritated by peoples audasity (spelling lol) and sticking nose in where its not wanted...
...i hope u all agree 2 some degree...
xxxx
me and OH were out shopping and decided to pop into Wetherspoons for a quick drink ... and I decided to have 1/2 pint stout (like Guiness, only not lol) which I have been doing every other weekend throughout my pregnancy and it has done me, nor baby any harm at all. Alot of people I know always say their grandmothers or generally older generation used to drink this as its full of Iron and Vitamins .. I dont know if its true or not, but I believe I am entitled 2 half whenever I want. So, OH ordered and the barman, or should I say BOY, said to me "is this for you?" and I answered "yep" whilst going to get my ID out of my bag, thinking this is what he wanted, but he said to me "are you pregnant?" so I obviously answered "yeah" and he took the glass away from me!! and said he wasnt happy to serve me because I am pregnant! I was completely gobsmacked, my mind started racing thinking "when did this happen?" as in, I thought I had missed the new rules of LAW and I said to him "excuse me, its my body and my baby and if I want to drink it I will, its not the law" but he totally refused to give me the drink and said its against what he believes, so my OH by this point who was seething asked for manager, so the boy storms off and then 2secs later comes storming back saying "ive got to let you have it" and took our money! my OH spotted the duty manager and took her 2 the side and said he was completely offended by the barBOYs attitude and comments and he had really hurt me, which he had, I was just too shocked to say much else, too which the manager apologised profusely and said he just feels strongly against pregnant women drinking, but agrees he shouldnt have refused me it or lectured me basically. So...I took the drink and proceeded to drink it, but by this point it felt as though everyone in the whole pub was staring at me, and I felt very uncomfortable The gentleman stood next 2 me at the bar was also very shocked and couldnt believe it...
Like I said before, I completely understand people are entitled 2 their beliefs and opinions but I do not appreciate a member of staff telling me off when I am a paying customer. He completely made me feel like I am a bad person and that I dont care for my babys well-being, which is completely wrong. I have taken care with everything I eat and drink or activities I take part in throughout my pregnancy and for me to be treated like this at the last hurdle as completed taken the wind from my sails..
I do not drink excessively on a weekend, half a pint every other if I feel like it, I do not take drugs and I do not smoke, some of which lots of women continue 2 do throughout their pregnancy and all though this is frowned upon, nothing gets said.
Please dont think I have anything against ladies who smoke through pregnancy cos I dont, I am merely saying it because I didnt smoke pre-preg either and I know lots of people who have/do and their babies are fine...
Sorry rant over, I am just completely irritated by peoples audasity (spelling lol) and sticking nose in where its not wanted...
...i hope u all agree 2 some degree...
xxxx