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[bash73]

Update Ladies...surgery is scheduled for Tuesday to remove the mass near my right ovary. Hoping there was no damage to my tube or anything wrong w/the ovary. Until then...prayers and baby dust for all.

 

[Emmi]

Update Ladies...surgery is scheduled for Tuesday to remove the mass near my right ovary. Hoping there was no damage to my tube or anything wrong w/the ovary. Until then...prayers and baby dust for all.

Sending lots of positive thoughts your way

 

[Kat S]

Bash, less than a week! I hope it goes perfectly and leaves your parts ready for the TTC game!!

 

[Pescadita]

Bash, good luck with the procedure!

 

[bash73]

Best news ever today (thought I'd never say this) HCG down to 4!!!!!!

 

[Kat S]

Best news ever today (thought I'd never say this) HCG down to 4!!!!!!

Who hoo!!! Cake and champagne!! Oh, wow do I know how that feels . Congratulation!

 

[bash73]

Best news ever today (thought I'd never say this) HCG down to 4!!!!!!

Who hoo!!! Cake and champagne!! Oh, wow do I know how that feels . Congratulation!

Thanks Kat! No booze or cake, I need to eat clean until the surgery because anesthesia and I do not mix well! Didn't stop me from eating 2 Kashi CC cookies though.

 

[Juniperjules]

Best news ever today (thought I'd never say this) HCG down to 4!!!!!!

Congrats!! Wonderful news for you!! Good luck with ur surgery- I'm sure it will go fabulously. Let us know how ur doing when you are able. May the force be with you! ; )

 

[Emmi]

Okay Ladies - AF is here (boo and hiss as I really hoped that I would have my BFP just before IVF as awonderful irony!!!) So I have booked my pre-treatment and Antral Follicle scan for Tuesday 30th. Kind of excited but so bloody scared!! Thankfully - hubby has a day off so can come with me.

Just praying so hard that this is the beginning of something wonderful

 

[Emmi]

Best news ever today (thought I'd never say this) HCG down to 4!!!!!!

Fabulous news!!!

 

[bash73]

Good Luck Emmi!!!

 

[bash73]

Thanks everyone for the well wishes, I'll be in touch once I can focus from the anesthesia, that's the worst part of it all!

 

[Emmi]

Good Luck Emmi!!!

Thank you!!

 

[tigerlilly]

Hi I just wanted to pop by and wish you luck and send you all heaps of baby dust. I also wanted to say I understand how you feel Sending you all lots of love and I'll be holding your hands every step of the way

 

[Emmi]

Hi I just wanted to pop by and wish you luck and send you all heaps of baby dust. I also wanted to say I understand how you feel Sending you all lots of love and I'll be holding your hands every step of the way

Awww - thank you for that!! Baby dust and positive thoughts always welcome!!!

 

[Emmi]

Though I have a very lovely sweet hubby - he is really busy with work and other things that sometimes I think that he just doesn't get what I am going through.....It's like that I know he is supportive but he just doesn't show it the way I want him to - does that make sense??

I am so nervous and anxious about my pre-test and follicle scan on Tuesday but he hasn't seemed to register it.

Is it normal for OH not to be as stressed as us about it all?

 

[Kat S]

Oh, Emmi, yes it's very normal! My husband totally doesn't get it. If I'm crying on the couch he tries to comfort me, but he doesn't feel what I feel. That's why I'm here! This is the only place I can go to talk about things and feel understood.

 

[Emmi]

Glad that it isn't just me.....It's so hard.....

But I suppose the plus side is that if they fell apart as much as us - we would all be such a horrible mess of tears etc.

But yes - at least we have this as an outlet!

 

[Juniperjules]

Emmi, trust me Kat is right! Ur not alone. My OH is a lovely guy too. And after I had my HSG and it was VERY painful & traumatic, he was sympathetic & happy to have me order him around getting me cups of tea & hot water bottle etc while I lay on the couch with cramping.... But then he said 'is it ok if I go see Aaron's band play tonite? It won't be a late nite & ur not feeling good so ur just gonna be resting on the couch- ill b back by 11pm'.... At first I was gonna have a go at him.. Then I realised! Men just have different brains to us! They are very logical, rational & at times completely unemotional in how they look at things & make decisions. He didn't think it should be a big deal if he went out for a few hours.. And really it didn't matter.. But if the roles were reversed- no way I'd have gone out to see a band with him lying on the couch feeling sorry for himself.

I also think guys sometimes are a bit more optimistic, they have that attitude of 'its all gonna be ok, so don't go getting all stressed out before you actually have any answers'. Infact I wish I was that way inclined to look at things.

To be honest, it's my OH optimism and unfaltering assumption that we'll be parents eventually that is what's getting my hopes & spirits up. I don't ever want him to lose that positive perspective bcos I need it to keep me going.

But also Emmi, if u really are feeling down, or scared, you maybe should come straight out and tell ur hubby. Sometimes men as nice as they may be, can also be dense & hopeless at picking up cues that women spot from a mile away! He maybe just doesn't realise how ur feeling.

And if all else fails, that's wot all these amazing girls in here are for! ; )

 

[bash73]

So I haven't O'd and not sure why. Last cycle (which was my first after metho shot) I did. Very frustrating. It doesn't matter at the moment since I'm having the surgery on Tuesday but what's going on w/my body??? I can't seem to lose any weight either. My blood work was immaculate so it has to be that I'm eating wayyyyyy too many calories. I'm a personal trainer and I'm def exercising enough. That will come to a screaching halt Tuesday for at least 2 weeks. I hate buying clothes in a bigger size!!!