Anyone else now trying again STRAIGHT after a mc? NTNP?

[Clobo]

Hi Ladies

Its a nightmare this waiting isnt it, justwaiting so sorry you have had to go through this twice. Its really good that they are referring you to a specialist though, brilliant news. Yes my husband is a bit like that, wants to carry on trying but not thinking about it, dont think he realises that for us women its not quite that easy!!

Ive kind of been having what feel like ovulation twinges today ... probably not though, that would be far too lucky!! Im on day 2 of my diet though and did some exercise yesterday, acupuncture tomorrow, i cant wait!!

Garnet, glad you have stopped bleeding, its a big milestone isnt it ... good on you for trying straight away. Glad you are seeing a specialist too, hopefully they will be able to help you get past the 2 month mark.

We can do it

xxxx

 

[ickle pand]

Hello everyone,

Well I finally called the fertility clinic today to remake my appointment with the consultant etc. It's a phone call I've been putting off because it's felt like the final thing I had to do to put our lives back to where they were before I got pregnant.

I'm due to see the consultant in September so I really need to get my finger out with the weight loss. I put on half a stone after the mc which won't make things any easier. I've got to lose 40lbs to keep our place on the IVF waiting list, which is an average of 2lbs a week. It's going to be hard going but I have to do it. I went out for a 2 mile walk last night and my plan is to do it every night after work.

I'm back on agnus castus to help sort out my hormones and I'm going to start charting again soon (I keep forgetting when I wake up!). So I think we're ready to TTC next cycle. I'm not going to worry too much this cycle - if it happens it happens but it's been nice to have some time off.

 

[firsttimer1]

Garnet and Justwaiting - good luck to both of you - X'd fingers for our BFP's!!

ickle pand - you can TOTALLY do it and it will be sooooooooooo worth it. We will give you all the encouragement you need!

 

[Clobo]

Hi

Kas, how are you?? Not long till the big day, are you getting excited??

Amanda, have you tried looking at a Low GI diet?? They recommend it for people with PCOS as often it causes you to be overweight. Im on it as its also supposed to be good at balancing hormones/insulin etc etc. Mainly its high protein, low fat and wholemeal rice, pasta, bread etc. Lots of water and no caffeine or alcohol. Look up online, i did it rigidly for about 2 weeks on the trot before i ovulated naturally for the first time in ages!

xxxx

 

[firsttimer1]

OMG im sooooooooo excited for it. The hen do weekend is this week - got a cottage in sussex with an indoor pool, CANNOT WAIT!!! so looking forward to being a Mrs its crazy. Nervous though!

any of you married ladies got any tips or things to avoid lol??!!

How are you cloey? have you started bedding now that the bleeding has stopped? its stopped right? xxx

 

[firsttimer1]

BTW im pretty sure im about to OV which would be when i wud OV if i had not have gotten pregnant. so odd. maybe im wrong though! Not doing tests so cant be sure. xxx

 

[justwaiting]

Hi ladies,
I'm really confused I thought I was ovulating have had lots of ewcm in the last few days and a few pains on my right side(I can usually feel when I o) but my dr just rang me and said on friday 5 days ago my hcg was still at 9 could I possble have o'd that fast? I have been bd every few days for the last week thinking I would be at zero by now and time to get bding again but now I'm confused. Obviously will keep bding as it's fun but I've always been able to tell when I was about to o and this feels like it.
I'm going to the FS on the 2nd of june after 2 mmc in 5 months but am not missing an opportunity for my forever baby.

@First timer - marraige is easy if u don't let it change ur life nothing should change but ur name. Always think before u say something u shouldn't and don't speak at all if u know it's not going to change anything. console when needed, cheer up when needed and laugh. Whether we have kids or not, now and in the end hubby and I will only have each other as the kids will leave home one day so making time for each other is the most important thing. take comfort in the smallest things like that feeling you get when they hold you tight. I love being married and I hope u do too

 

[ickle pand]

Thanks for the support ladies!

I went out for another 2 mile walk last night. I nearly didn't go but I pushed myself and I'm so glad I did.

Clobo, I'm trying to be healthy with my diet and eat lower GI food, but I'm not sticking rigidly to anything. I always fall off the wagon when I try to change the way I eat too much, so I'm trying to make little changes here and there rather than doing it all at once.

First timer - we've been married for just over a year and I've loved it. I did get a bit down a few months after the wedding because I didn't have a wedding to plan anymore and I really enjoyed that part of it. Just make sure you enjoy the day - any small thing that goes wrong will only spoil the day if you let it. A friend of mine played the bagpipes at our wedding and a couple of months before he told me that one wedding he was due to play at, the sister of the groom died on the morning of the wedding - I'm not sure if they cancelled it or just went ahead with the ceremony. It made me realise that as long as nothing like that happened and that we actually ended up married, then anything else was just a story to tell the grandkids about. The wedding is just a day, a marriage is for a lifetime

 

[firsttimer1]

justwaiting - thats really lovely, about marriage. Thanks so much Im sorry about all your OV confusion but just keep doing what ur doing and it will happen for you besides, trying IS fun lol

Thanks icle pand - thats a sad story, i wonder if they went ahead with the wedding. Must have been soooo hard. But ur right, only things like that can change the day. If something small goes wrong - so what!! Well done on your walk hun make sure u keep it up! I know what u mean about dieting. I always fall off the wagon if i try ti hard and try to change too much

 

[BritD]

I MCd 9 days ago, and I go in for a follow up tomorrow. As long as we get the go ahead we'll be trying again right away

 

[Clobo]

Hi BritD, whats your story??

Justwaiting, aw chick how confusing, although from the things ive heard and read our bodies have been messed up by the mc and so it takes a while to get back to normal, ive almost stopped bleeding but i kind of have ewcm but tinged with spotting ... very abnormal! Perhaps just carry on with the for now and your appointment will be soon, if your appt is anything like my first one i was asked a load of questions, sent for blood tests and then given a prescription for clomid!! Ben had already done his sperm analysis which was fine. Really hope they can do something for you quickly

Kas, wow your hen do sounds fab, hope you have nice weather!! Marriage advice, well it sounds cheesy but Ben and I really are best friends, we have similar interests and make sure that although we have our own lives that we make time for each other!! Really hope you are ovulating now, catch that eggy!!

As for me, well i thought id started bleeding again yesterday but i think to be honest its just all the leftover gunk coming out (sorry TMI if you are eating!!), just hoping that my first session of acupuncture goes ok this afternoon and kick starts something!! Going to start the asap now!!

Massive hugs, i like all this positivity on this thread, I always make sure i save it till last to read!!!!

xxx

 

[firsttimer1]

Good luck BritD

Cloey - hope you enjoy it this afternoon, make sure u tell us about it as im very intrigued

tmi but the last couple of days ive had tiny bits of clear gunk come out when i go to the loo- i hope this is normal? Its almost like tiny bits of clear balls of glue? sorry for the tmi!!! I think its just a bit of leftover stuff no blood etc so i think its ok x

 

[Clobo]

Yep that sounds similar to mine but mine are tinged ... i guess there is a lot in there to get rid of .... i cant believe how long it takes sometimes. I just want to be back to normal again!!

Yes ill be on here later and ill let you know how it goes!!

xxx

 

[Rocky]

Hi ladies,
I've just finished reading this thread.
I too have just had my second miscarriage on the weekend after 9 months of trying.

I will def be TTC as soon as I can as I'm not getting any younger. I'm 41 this year, and wondering if mother nature is not on my side for much longer.

I hope that the 3rd one is quick, so going to try make the most of this "fertile" time. Going on holiday next week, so hopefully things Dont take to long to get back to normal. I usually have only a 23 day cycle. So who knows I maybe luckily and O while away.

Also hopefully getting referred to specialist, see if they can help.

Thanks ladies for starting this great thread.

 

[ickle pand]

Rocky have you thought about charting your temperatures and other fertile signs on a site like fertility friend? That will help you to pin point if and when you ovulate and also when the best time for baby making sex is. It's a bit complicated to begin with but FF has tutorials to help you work out what you're doing and there's plenty of women on here who chart who can help you out if you get stuck.

HTH

 

[Rocky]

Thank you Ickle Pand

That's good advice. I will take a look at that sight.
I has been taking temp, but a little confussed what it all means. So hopefully that will help.

Thanks again

 

[firsttimer1]

good luck rocky - this is a great thread for positive vibes

Ive just realised that im TOTALLY expecting to get pregnant this month. As i got pregnant last time the first time of trying, ive not considered anything else this time. So im trying to mentally prepare myself for if i dont get pregnant this month - but so far its not working. I just keep thinking i will..... not good. I think im going to be disappointed!

 

[Rocky]

Firstimer1

Thanks for your good wishes.

Please try not to worry, but stay positive. Every woman is different and you just might be one of the lucky ones who will conceive straight away.

They say that it's not common to miscarry back to back.

My sister had a baby, lost one and then got preggers the very next month and now she is 24 weeks along. So it does happen.

Good luck for your wedding.

Also, Ickle Pand, thanks for your recommendation for the fertility sight. Have signed up and ready to start temp tomorrow morning.



 

[Clobo]

Morning

Welcome Rocky, so sorry to hear about your two losses but good luck on the temping, I do it too, put a link in your sdignature and we can see and help you along??

Ive heard if you have one mc then you are 80% sure to go on to have a good pregnancy the next time too. So there is hope for us all!! I have friends who conceived straight away too, lets hope we are all lucky too.

Kas, you are VERY lucky to have conceived the first time trying, it shows that your sperm and eggs are good, tubes are working etc etc and so no reason why its shouldnt happen again soon, if it doesnt happen this time then it WONT be long!!!

Have a fab hen weekend this weekend and forget all about TTC!!

I had my acupuncture last night, it was really good, he asked me LOADS of questions, some really random ones, kept feeling my pulse and looked at my tongue, I said i was a really hot person but with cold feet and he told me to wear warm woolly socks all the time if possible!! Then he asked all about TTC and MC and then started with the needles, some in fleshy bits of my hands and feet, ankles and one in between my eyes (ew!). Then i lay there for 10 minutes and then he took them out and off i went!!

He was so positive, said i was really young (32!) and there was lots of things he could do and Id be having a baby soon!!!! Im feeling a lot more positive and actually feel a lot cooler than normal today!! Im going back on Monday!!!!

 

[ickle pand]

Good luck with the temping Rocky. If you get lost with it all, come back here and I'm sure between myself, Clobo, and any other charting chicks we can help you out

I started temping again this morning, my temp was quite low for me when I compared it to my other charts so I'm hoping today is O day

Clobo - Thanks for telling us about the accupuncture. What exactly does he expect it to do for you? I know a few people who've had it for pain relief or a pinched nerve but I'm not sure how it helps fertility. I'm facinated by it though!

First Timer - try to just concentrate on your wedding and forget about TTC for now, of course I hope you get a honeymoon baby but just enjoy your big day. You will have enough stress without stressing over testing etc.