anyone over 35 going for fertility treatments this year? IUI, IVF etc

[sarahincanada]

ok...first of all the blame would be on your hubby...he should know better

on the "twins" conversation... you need not disclose IVF at all...twins can happen to anyone at any age, family history or not. There are many things that can increase the likelihood of twins but it can happen to anyone...

What other factors affect the chances that I'll have more than one baby?

While identical twins generally happen by sheer chance, there are several factors that influence your chances of having fraternal twins:

Heredity: If you're a twin or if twins run in your family, you're slightly more likely to have a set yourself. Women who are fraternal twins have a one in 60 chance of bearing twins.
Race: Twins are more common than average in African Americans and less common in Hispanics and Asians.
Age: The older you are, the higher your chances of having fraternal twins or higher-order multiples. A 2006 study found that women over 35 produce more follicle stimulating hormone (FSH) than younger women. Ironically, increasing levels of this hormone are a sign of failing ovaries and declining fertility. But FSH is also the hormone that causes an egg to ripen in preparation for ovulation each month, and women with extra FSH may release more than one egg in a single cycle. So while older women are statistically less likely to get pregnant, if they do get pregnant, they're more likely to have twins.
Number of pregnancies: The more pregnancies you've had, the greater your chances of having twins.
History of twins: Once you have a set of fraternal twins, you're twice as likely to have another set in future pregnancies.
Body type: Twins are more common in large and tall women than in small women.

SOOOO many things can factor in to twinning and does not automatically mean you had IVF

omg Im both old, large and tall LOL well Im not that large, but could lose 30 pounds!! theres twins in my family, I know that I wouldnt have to say they are IVF but I guess i would be more likely to explain that with twins as Im an honest person. perhaps it doesnt make sense but in my mind it does!!

 

[sarahincanada]

Sarah when you live overseas your time with your mum is really precious, and your inlaws really should understand that, I used to be a basket case the day before my parents went back, and my mum would start crying 48 hours before the big airport bye bye.

So even without the IVF/bedrest story, your MIL is clomping all over sacred ground here but that message that Friday is not a possibility should really come from your husband rather than you being the bad guy.

I agree, although in their family it seems to be the women who make all the decisions. hubby probably said that as he wasnt sure what to say, he is no good at lying!!

and thanks thats a good excuse to say we will be emotional, hopefully she just wont pry as to why friday is not good and accept it.

 

[LLbean]

ok...first of all the blame would be on your hubby...he should know better

on the "twins" conversation... you need not disclose IVF at all...twins can happen to anyone at any age, family history or not. There are many things that can increase the likelihood of twins but it can happen to anyone...

What other factors affect the chances that I'll have more than one baby?

While identical twins generally happen by sheer chance, there are several factors that influence your chances of having fraternal twins:

Heredity: If you're a twin or if twins run in your family, you're slightly more likely to have a set yourself. Women who are fraternal twins have a one in 60 chance of bearing twins.
Race: Twins are more common than average in African Americans and less common in Hispanics and Asians.
Age: The older you are, the higher your chances of having fraternal twins or higher-order multiples. A 2006 study found that women over 35 produce more follicle stimulating hormone (FSH) than younger women. Ironically, increasing levels of this hormone are a sign of failing ovaries and declining fertility. But FSH is also the hormone that causes an egg to ripen in preparation for ovulation each month, and women with extra FSH may release more than one egg in a single cycle. So while older women are statistically less likely to get pregnant, if they do get pregnant, they're more likely to have twins.
Number of pregnancies: The more pregnancies you've had, the greater your chances of having twins.
History of twins: Once you have a set of fraternal twins, you're twice as likely to have another set in future pregnancies.
Body type: Twins are more common in large and tall women than in small women.

SOOOO many things can factor in to twinning and does not automatically mean you had IVF

omg Im both old, large and tall LOL well Im not that large, but could lose 30 pounds!! theres twins in my family, I know that I wouldnt have to say they are IVF but I guess i would be more likely to explain that with twins as Im an honest person. perhaps it doesnt make sense but in my mind it does!!

Well in that case it is up to you but my point was that TWINS are not going to "unmask" you for doing IVF...

I don't wantto tell anyone in our family we did IVF either although my hubby is such a child he thinks it would be cool to say as if we made a bionic child LOL

Him and I will definitely discuss it further. But again, your call. Don't let them intimidate you into having one or two or any...that's allowing them too much power.

 

[sarahincanada]

Well in that case it is up to you but my point was that TWINS are not going to "unmask" you for doing IVF...

I don't wantto tell anyone in our family we did IVF either although my hubby is such a child he thinks it would be cool to say as if we made a bionic child LOL

Him and I will definitely discuss it further. But again, your call. Don't let them intimidate you into having one or two or any...that's allowing them too much power.

yes you are right as I was typing it out I was thinking it sounds so silly to have that come into the decision. I guess because singletons are more common and twins are not, when I would be telling people its twins I found feel the need to blurt out and explain how that happened!! Im not embarrassed about it and will probably tell everyone. I just have a sensitivity to his family as Im soooo different to them in so many ways. Im not religious and they are quite catholic, in fact my sister is gay so I had to bring that up to them after they had made some stupid comments about gay marriage. Im not domestic in the slightest and the higher earner in the relationship where they are all serious cooks and homemakers!! and now we have turned to technology for a baby!

and LOL thats so cute your hubby thinks of it as a bionic child so do you think you will be able to get going again in january?

 

[LLbean]

Well in that case it is up to you but my point was that TWINS are not going to "unmask" you for doing IVF...

I don't wantto tell anyone in our family we did IVF either although my hubby is such a child he thinks it would be cool to say as if we made a bionic child LOL

Him and I will definitely discuss it further. But again, your call. Don't let them intimidate you into having one or two or any...that's allowing them too much power.

yes you are right as I was typing it out I was thinking it sounds so silly to have that come into the decision. I guess because singletons are more common and twins are not, when I would be telling people its twins I found feel the need to blurt out and explain how that happened!! Im not embarrassed about it and will probably tell everyone. I just have a sensitivity to his family as Im soooo different to them in so many ways. Im not religious and they are quite catholic, in fact my sister is gay so I had to bring that up to them after they had made some stupid comments about gay marriage. Im not domestic in the slightest and the higher earner in the relationship where they are all serious cooks and homemakers!! and now we have turned to technology for a baby!

and LOL thats so cute your hubby thinks of it as a bionic child so do you think you will be able to get going again in january?

Yes that is the plan so I hope and "pray" it works!

 

[sarahincanada]

Yes that is the plan so I hope and "pray" it works!

from reading in the assissted folder theres a lot that it works first time, but so many people get 2nd time lucky. one girl is pregnant with twins 2nd time, it just blows my mind how random it all is. I was reading some interesting info on blasts last night in a sheet from my clinic, I will post it here later.

 

[LLbean]

Yes that is the plan so I hope and "pray" it works!

from reading in the assissted folder theres a lot that it works first time, but so many people get 2nd time lucky. one girl is pregnant with twins 2nd time, it just blows my mind how random it all is. I was reading some interesting info on blasts last night in a sheet from my clinic, I will post it here later.

well I am working in my egg quality... you know quantity was not an issue for me either LOL... so I hope by January they are better

 

[sarahincanada]

Yes that is the plan so I hope and "pray" it works!

from reading in the assissted folder theres a lot that it works first time, but so many people get 2nd time lucky. one girl is pregnant with twins 2nd time, it just blows my mind how random it all is. I was reading some interesting info on blasts last night in a sheet from my clinic, I will post it here later.

well I am working in my egg quality... you know quantity was not an issue for me either LOL... so I hope by January they are better

can you remind me on day 3 how many embryos you had left, was that before the testing?

I suppose you having the testing is both good and bad....at least you know ahead of time what are not good but it really cuts down the numbers fast. I was reading an interesting blog in which the doctor was very pro 5 day transfers and feels day 3 transfers are just too unreliable. he felt that clinics do day 3 transfers as the patient feels better doing that and then just getting a bfn, rather than trying for a day 5 and having nothing left. I thought he made a good point. my clinic sheet said they feel that an embryo who doesnt make it in the lab to day 5 wouldnt have made it in the body, and testing is often done on those that failed and they usually had chromosome problems. but I know some people feel that embryos do better in the body.

have you ever wondered if the testing could hurt an otherwise healthy embryo or is that impossible?

 

[crystal443]

Morning ladies!!!

My FS always said a 3 day transfer, however she is full of sh*t and her reasoning was better in then out, and in actual fact she would have transferred on Day 2 not Day 3. The new FS I'm going to see aims for 5 day which is what we want if we can get the numbers if not I guess we'll hope to get enough to do a 3 day.

I don't know that I would tell anyone I had IVF only because I can't imagine going into detail how a baby was made in our bedroom lol, if I were chatting with someone and they were having issues I would def tell them I had IVF. Other then that I probably wouldn't share..once I had the baby/babies I'd just want to move on with raising him/her/them lol. If you did want to tell your MIL, she'd get over it or she'll miss out on one or two beautiful grandbabies that wouldn't be here without IVF. You decide what you want Sarah, if you transfer 1 and get a BFN you'll regret not having 2 put back which is why you originally said you wanted 2 put back You could also have 1 put back and end up with identicals..there's never any guarantees

 

[35_Smiling]

Hi ladies i was hopeing my Beta would be higher but its only 423.79. i have to get it done again on Saturday morning. sighhh

Thus far my chats are:

Beta #1 Nov.2 = 6.43

two days later Beta #2 Nov.4 = 18.60

six days later Beta #3 Nov.10 = 206.69

six days later beta #4 Nov.17 = 423.79

 

[crystal443]

I hope everything is fine 35_Smiling !! Will keep positive thoughts for you

 

[LLbean]

Yes that is the plan so I hope and "pray" it works!

from reading in the assissted folder theres a lot that it works first time, but so many people get 2nd time lucky. one girl is pregnant with twins 2nd time, it just blows my mind how random it all is. I was reading some interesting info on blasts last night in a sheet from my clinic, I will post it here later.

well I am working in my egg quality... you know quantity was not an issue for me either LOL... so I hope by January they are better

can you remind me on day 3 how many embryos you had left, was that before the testing?

I suppose you having the testing is both good and bad....at least you know ahead of time what are not good but it really cuts down the numbers fast. I was reading an interesting blog in which the doctor was very pro 5 day transfers and feels day 3 transfers are just too unreliable. he felt that clinics do day 3 transfers as the patient feels better doing that and then just getting a bfn, rather than trying for a day 5 and having nothing left. I thought he made a good point. my clinic sheet said they feel that an embryo who doesnt make it in the lab to day 5 wouldnt have made it in the body, and testing is often done on those that failed and they usually had chromosome problems. but I know some people feel that embryos do better in the body.

have you ever wondered if the testing could hurt an otherwise healthy embryo or is that impossible?

I had 8 that made it past day 3...all the way to day 5

 

[LLbean]

35_Smiling hope all is ok. Keeping a good thought

 

[sarahincanada]

Hi ladies i was hopeing my Beta would be higher but its only 423.79. i have to get it done again on Saturday morning. sighhh

Thus far my chats are:

Beta #1 Nov.2 = 6.43

two days later Beta #2 Nov.4 = 18.60

six days later Beta #3 Nov.10 = 206.69

six days later beta #4 Nov.17 = 423.79

I dont know much about betas but I hope everything is ok

 

[hockey24]

Sarah - good luck tomorrow! Can't wait to hear the numbers!

 

[LillyLove]

Good luck tomorrow Sarah! You will do great. Go bean (or beanies)! Know whatever you decide will be the right decision. Forget the rest of them..YOU ARE THE MAMA-TO-BE!



Sleep tight. Positive thoughts and excitement!

 

[LillyLove]

PS: I wrote "forget the rest of them" in reference to your in-laws

 

[LLbean]

Sarah what time is the transfer tomorrow?

 

[Milty]

35: They are climbing so I think that is good


Sarah: my in laws live 2 house down oh and all my grandmothers twins were after 35 so I don't think anyone would even question it if you had twins

 

[GreenFingers]

Good luck today Sarah ...really hope it goes well. Hope you manage to spend the night with your Mum, it is really important not to be stressed so you have to be strong and put yourself first. Can't wait to hear how many you have by today and how many you decide to put back in, please make that decision for yourself and not anyone else.

Smiling_35 really hope things work out for you x x