Hi cupcake, hope you're alright.
Yeah I hear intervention just leads to more intervention and feel like it would just ruin my last birth experience. DH thinks I'm worrying too early, but I need to know what's happening, I can't wait until Easter then start asking people if they would mind dropping everything when I call to come sit with whichever children are home at the time, and I need to let school know who will be allowed to collect ds4 if the situation calls for it. His family are also notoriously unreliable, saying they will do things and then just not mentioning it again/not turning up. Honestly it would be easier to just go it alone but then he's missing.
I've even considered saying that I've got no other risk factors, last time I bled a minimal amount, the midwife will have stuff with her to stop/slow bleeding and an ambulance crew will be called as a precaution in that situation, so can't I just have a home birth again?