April mummies baby club :-)

[HannahGraceee]

DANNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNAAAAAAA x i missed you

 

[mz_jackie86]

Awww sounds like some of you gals need a big HUG!!! SO SENDIN LOADS TO YA ALL!!!

Arianna woke from 5am till 8pm she had a couple 10 minute naps but thats it i hope she sleeps thru!! Xx

 

[mummy to be]

ohhhhh guess what... Layla slept from 10pm till 3.45am!!! I couldnt believe it!!! it was great! I am so proud of her. She then fed untill 4am then slept untill 6am. then has been feeding every 2 hours since....

Has anyone got any hints to make her sleep more or not feed as often???

 

[lyndsey3010]

I'm so full of cold I feel like crap. And when you really want babies to sleep so you can, they're not interested are they. Typical!

Mandy cooper has only been feeding once during the night from day one so don't have any advice sorry Hun. But keeping it all crossed that it carries on. How are your nips doing?

 

[HannahGraceee]

arghhhh ava was 2 hourly last night 10-2 2-4 4-6 6-8 plus all she wanted to do was sleep on me! so i got hardly any sleep

 

[mz_jackie86]

Hey girls,
I dunno whats wrong but i am feelin so down and had a horrible night last night!

Bubs woke up at 3 but then wudnt go back to sleep after her feed and it got to the point i just put or on my bed and walked out i just wanted to shout at her to shut up and everytime i looked at her i thought to myself i hate u! I just wanted to punch somethin i was so tired and she wasnt sleepin had been up all day so needed sleep!

I calmed down and went back in the room and got her to sleep by walking around and rocking her, but then couldnt stop cryin cos of what i had been thinking! She is so beautiful and she is mine and i love her so how can i be thinkin that stuff, i would never hurt her or shout at her but thinkin about shouting at her and leaving the room cos i was angry she wudnt sleep isnt good!

She woke at half 9 this morning and i got her changed and fed her and just cuddled her cos i felt so bad for last night! I feel like a shit mum and such a bad person now for it!

Do you think i might have PND or could it just have been a bad night?? I havent ever felt like i did last night and i feel ok now and will never allow myself to think like i did last night but i really cant get rid of the guilt of feeling how i did!!!

I think maybe cos her dad was here for 4 days and now im back to bein alone maybe thats what caused it!?

I just wish i could be a happy person right now but bein alone and doing this is so hard, i no i have family and friends but it really isnt the same as having her dad around...even tho we arent together it was so nice havin him here as a familyand now alone again...

Sorry for ramblin on i dunno if any of that made sense! xx

 

[lyndsey3010]

Jacq massive hugs hun I have so much respect for everyone who does this alone. We've all been there I'm sure, tiredness and frustration are a terrible combination. I handed Cooper over to OH the other night as he wouldn't settle, he wasn't hungry but was just buggering about. If I didn't have OH to pass him to so I could have time out I would have been the same as you. You not a bad mummy, you're doing an amazing job I think it's just adjusting to your OH going back and you flying solo again. That's incredibly hard for you to cope with, never underestimate that.

We're all here for you darling. And anyone else having a tough time. Don't doubt yourselves you are all amazing and our little ones are lucky to have us. X

 

[mz_jackie86]

Thanks hun i just dont wanna feel like this! Glad to no im not alone, i dunno what i would do without you guys to talk to! When i tell someone round me how i feel they kinda just say its normal and brush it under the mat and thats not what i need! x

 

[mellllly]

Jac you are seriously doing an amazing job, As Lyndsey said if I didnt have OH I would be the same. By walking away and letting yourself calm down is the best thing you can do.

I am lucky as if she has had a bad day then when OH walks in from work I can just hand her over to him and have a nice hot bath to chill out. I think I may take that for granted seeing what you are going through.
Perhaps you can see if your mum or someone close can look after her so you can have a little me time? Thats the best therapy! The bath and playing netball are my best friend!! haha xxxxx

 

[MelanieSweets]

Hey girls,
I dunno whats wrong but i am feelin so down and had a horrible night last night!

Bubs woke up at 3 but then wudnt go back to sleep after her feed and it got to the point i just put or on my bed and walked out i just wanted to shout at her to shut up and everytime i looked at her i thought to myself i hate u! I just wanted to punch somethin i was so tired and she wasnt sleepin had been up all day so needed sleep!

I calmed down and went back in the room and got her to sleep by walking around and rocking her, but then couldnt stop cryin cos of what i had been thinking! She is so beautiful and she is mine and i love her so how can i be thinkin that stuff, i would never hurt her or shout at her but thinkin about shouting at her and leaving the room cos i was angry she wudnt sleep isnt good!

She woke at half 9 this morning and i got her changed and fed her and just cuddled her cos i felt so bad for last night! I feel like a shit mum and such a bad person now for it!

Do you think i might have PND or could it just have been a bad night?? I havent ever felt like i did last night and i feel ok now and will never allow myself to think like i did last night but i really cant get rid of the guilt of feeling how i did!!!

I think maybe cos her dad was here for 4 days and now im back to bein alone maybe thats what caused it!?

I just wish i could be a happy person right now but bein alone and doing this is so hard, i no i have family and friends but it really isnt the same as having her dad around...even tho we arent together it was so nice havin him here as a familyand now alone again...

Sorry for ramblin on i dunno if any of that made sense! xx

Trust me its normal Jackie, i am going through same thing, its bloody hard and i have OH and my family to help but yet i still get frustrated and i cry for having bad feelings, he wouldnt settle yesterday and i said while OH was home and when i was putting bubs down in moses basket if you carry on i will be going back to work and putting you in childcare lol ....

Its bloody hard and you your doing a fab job on your own ? I have so much respect for you its perfectly normal to have pants days where you could just hand them over to anyone else that is there, alot of it is lack of sleep because your like a zombie and cant concentrate on what your doing your not alone and if you wanna talk am here. massive

 

[HannahGraceee]

im so tired

 

[mellllly]

Aww Han

Had Sophie weighed this morning and the is 11lb 2ozs!! Little Piggy!
Think she is a little collicy as well as everyday at 8.15 she will just cry for abour half an hour to an hour. I bought some colic drops yesterday and put it in her bottle earlier and will for the rest of them to, hopefully tht will help her.

I dont know what to do for the rest of the day now Graham took my car back to work when he went back at lunch, I have polished and cleaned the kitchen and done some washing. I just need to hoover but the hoover needs emptying and I hate doing that! Should just get my arse into gear really! haha!

 

[QueenMummyToBe]

Oh I am so f*cking annoyed!

So yesterday/last night all Amelia did was cry and cry and cry.. I had had enough and was crying myself.. OH had been up since 5am and was knackered and couldn't handle her crying because it was upsetting him.. so he passed her to my sister and stormed off..

My mums husband then followed him and started b*tching at him, telling him to calm the f*ck down blaa blaa.. when in my opinion he did the sensible thing by walking away.. OH was so close to punching him..

My mum has come home from work n told me I'm definitely going to get PND because when Amelia cries I get stressed and upset..

F*cking b*tch ARGHHHHHHHHHH!!!

xXx

 

[mellllly]

Oh dear! He did the right thing by walking away and handing her to a calmer person and walking off to calm himself.
When they are upset they can also sense you feeling upset too and I think that makes it worse.

I dont think you are going to et PND, Its emotional being a mummy and if all she has done is cry then of course you are going to be knackered and get upset that all she has done is cry.

Us April mummies are having a right old time of it at the mo arnt we!?
for all xxxxx

 

[mellllly]

I finally started a parenting journal!! Its long so you dont have to read

https://www.babyandbump.com/parenting-journals/135419-raising-my-gorgeous-girl-sophie-grace.html

 

[HannahGraceee]

Oh I am so f*cking annoyed!

So yesterday/last night all Amelia did was cry and cry and cry.. I had had enough and was crying myself.. OH had been up since 5am and was knackered and couldn't handle her crying because it was upsetting him.. so he passed her to my sister and stormed off..

My mums husband then followed him and started b*tching at him, telling him to calm the f*ck down blaa blaa.. when in my opinion he did the sensible thing by walking away.. OH was so close to punching him..

My mum has come home from work n told me I'm definitely going to get PND because when Amelia cries I get stressed and upset..

F*cking b*tch ARGHHHHHHHHHH!!!

xXx

he defo did the right thing by walking away, like mellly said babys can sense you getting annoying which makes them cry even more!!

and about the pnd, just because sometimes you get stressed and upset doesnt mean you will get pnd, i get stressed and upset too, and i bet load of other new mum or mums in general do too! just take each day as it comes, everyday is different

 

[HannahGraceee]

I finally started a parenting journal!! Its long so you dont have to read

https://www.babyandbump.com/parenting-journals/135419-raising-my-gorgeous-girl-sophie-grace.html

i love it hun, i wanna make one now!! x - every time i hear the story of how you and your OH starting dating remind me of the time you had sex on the bench

 

[mellllly]

bench!!?? The Beach! I have a little class

 

[HannahGraceee]

LOL!!!!!!

I must have read that one wrong then!!! LOL! LOL! i thought you had sex on a bench not the beach lol lol lol

 

[mellllly]

lol, you must have thought i was a right chav having sex on a park bench or something

mind you the beach isnt much better haha