Nicolefunnel - I'm so sorry to hear that you've been trying for so long and not conceiving. It makes me so mad that all these wonderful people like you who want a baby so bad can't, and there are people who are getting pregnant who don't even want or aren't ready for a baby! It is SO not fair.
I have to vent a little. This weekend we went on a mini-vacation with some friends, they are 20 weeks along, their baby is due just a few weeks after ours was due before I had the miscarriage. They had their 20-week ultrasound done on Friday and they brought the sonograms with them. They KNOW that we had the miscarriage. She actually had the nerve to say to me "oh look at our sonograms - isn't she so cute, look at those little feet. Oh and this is her grabbing her toes". I did my best to hide my feelings, but I wanted to be sick. The LAST thing I wanted to do was look at her sonograms.
Everyone on this thread that is posting their OPK results and their EWCM - everything is sounding good! Keep positive thoughts!
Thanks for venting and "letting it out", girlfriend - that is much better than bottling up inside, and that's what we are all here for, to listen!!!
Oh man, nothing is worse than that situation. You want to be happy for them but at the same time, you are so sad for yourself. It just doesn't seem fair. Sometimes I think "well, they have every right to be happy, and they should be allowed to share their feelings - so maybe I am the one with the problem for getting upset?" But the reality is, it's NOT RIGHT what some people do. Is it to shove it in our faces? Is it a competitive thing? Do they really not know any better? Do they think it's actually making me feel like I'm included and to have hope? So many things...
I have a similar situation. Our best couple friends and us were trying to get pregnant around the same time. I got pregnant first and felt so sad to tell her I was pregnant but I knew she would be happy for me, and she was! Right after I miscarried, she got pregnant, and miscarried. We were both able to be there for each other through it. Now she is pregnant again and I couldn't be happier for her - although I am still sad, for US. But she is a really good person and friend, and knows boundaries. She knows when its OK to share something, and the limit. She is happy to share her experience but also knows to make me feel special and included and stays positive.
Conversely, I have another friend who has always been competitive with me. She got pregnant unplanned and her baby is now almost 2 - she keeps telling me to "relax" and "enjoy time without a baby because everything changes". I know this is true, but it's frustrating to hear because she never had to WANT a baby, it just happened for her. So we were at Wal Mart together one day last cycle and I mentioned how nervous and anxious I was, as I was in my TWW and couldn't wait to test. She didn't even respond and just started walking down an isle. I followed and she picked up a box of pregnancy tests and held it up - I thought she was joking about like telling ME to test with it. But then she threw it in her cart to buy it. I looked at her and was like "wait, are you pregnant?" (She had told me they weren't going to start trying again for a couple years)... and she responds "well I haven't gotten my period and been feeling really nauseous so you never know!" and I was like "I thought you guys were waiting a couple years?" and she goes "ya that's what we want to do, but I miss being pregnant and I am already sick of being back at work..." I don't know if I was just being sensitive? Or if that was just so insensitive of her to just do that, in the moment of an emotional conversation about how anxious and stressed I am about conceiving.
Sorry for the long post. BUT I am just trying to show you, there are different kinds of people in the world. Wether they intentionally do or say certain things, we will never know. But the point is to "not let it get to you" (I know, easier said than done). Realize that on this forum, we are ALL here for each other and UNDERSTAND exactly what we are all going through - sometimes we feel so alone, but here, we have support.
And remember, VENTING IS OK!!!!!!!!!!
