Baby On Board - Due August/September 2014

[tropicsgirl]

Sorry I've been away...no internet access for 1 week...can't believe I survived! haha! Anyway, nice bump pics! I am def. starting to "show" because now people are asking me if I'm pregnant haha. In the morning there's not much but by afternoon it's pretty big (well compared to my usual size). I feel like lots of it may be bloat though...

modified, feel better soon! Being sick AND pregnant is not fun. I always buy stuff when I'm feeling down...not sure if that's a good thing for my wallet, but who cares! I haven't bought ANY baby stuff. Mostly because I can't afford it now...but also because I don't know the gender yet. Will find out this Saturday!!

My baby also doesn't move everyday...or at least I can't feel him/her everyday. A couple nights ago I felt what could have been a strong kick but not much since then. I know it's normal though so not too worried.

Ilovelucy, my DH also seems to want sex at the times I am most tired or not feeling well...I think he's sad because he thinks our sex life won't ever be the same (and let's be honest...it may not be...) poor guy. But that's real life I guess...

 

[I Love Lucy]

MomWife, there is really no saying when you'll get your AF back with breastfeeding. Some women get it back right away, others don't get it back until they have stopped breastfeeding all together. For me, my first AF came around 6 months PP. It was a 60 days after that before AF arrived again. And then I got pregnant after that AF. The website Kelly Mom has a lot of info about getting pregnant while breastfeeding (amongst tons of other breastfeeding info) so that might be something you're interested in reading.

tropicsgirl, so excited for you to have your scan!!

 

[babydust818]

Modified - i hope you're feeling better now. Your bag is super cute. I am infatuated with owls! My kitchen is in owls lol.

JJsMom - sounds like you have a very caring son! That is wonderful he was there to your rescue. I'm glad LO's fever broke. Is he still sick or is he feeling better now?

Momswife - i don't have any advice about breastfeeding since this is my first, but it's nice to read what everyone has to say about your questions because i too want to breastfeed!

Tropics - i too am huge by days end! I think a lot is bloat, but it makes me feel better at least because in the morning i feel like i have nothing to show for

How was everyone's Easter? It was really nice weather here for it. Had a dinner and invited a few relatives of DH's over. It was nice. I'm starting to get a little bigger so i went and bought some summer dresses vs maternity clothes. Much cheaper on my pocket expenses lol. Plus super comfy! I think i felt a strong kick last night, but nothing after that. Then i start second guessing myself and wonder if i'm making some of it up. I have a scan a week from Thursday. Will be my 20w anatomy scan. I really can't wait!!

Here's a recent bump shot. Took it yesterday. I feel like the stripes helped my bump look bigger lol.

 

[I Love Lucy]

Lovely bump!

As for Easter we ended up going to see DH's family which resulted in DH and I getting into a fight. I hate his family. MIL thinks she can still tell my 27 year old DH what to do and my DH never says anything. He just ignores her because he says he doesn't care what she says but ignoring her just lets her think it's ok for her to behave that way in my opinion when it's not. Plus I don't think he even realizes that he does what she asks. Like yesterday he was tossing DS in the air which DS loves and MIL yelled at him for it and then DH stopped. DH says he didn't but he did. I swear he's in denial.

My one SIL thinks she's an expert on babies and has the right to tell everyone what to do. DS has started to get a rash which I've been monitoring but not overly concerned about because it doesn't seem to be bothering DS and one if the vaccine papers were saying a rash can develop a week or two later as a side effect in some babies. Anyways SIL was saying if it doesn't clear up in a week then I need to take him to the doctor to get cream for eczema because that's what she did when her daughter had an allergic reaction to Johnson and Johnson around a year. Then she tells me she didn't even use the cream the doctor gave her. Uh what's the point in going to the doctor if you're not even going to do what they tell you.

And my FIL is a real piece of work as usual. I try to talk to him as little as possible because he's never been anything but rude to me. He's called me lazy and said im the best at doing nothing, harassed me about getting a job even though his wife doesn't work and DH didn't want me to work, said my toes were deformed when he saw me after giving birth to DS and already wasn't feeling the best about my appearance as I had no make up and such on, told me 2 weeks pp that I needed to suck it up when I told him I was in pain after he asked how I was feeling and then proceeded to make fun of me to his guests. The list goes on but you get the idea. Anyways, he didn't acknowledge me at Easter until he was making a comment about my pale complexion. I don't remember what the conversation was about but his exact words were, "pale like DH's family". So me AND DS. This caused the biggest fight between DH and I as he doesn't understand why I got so mad about the comment because he doesn't think being pale is a bad thing. I don't think it's bad but given my history with FIL and how he's never been anything but negative towards me I can't see how his comment was supposed to be anything but an insult. I don't expect better of him so him insulting me doesn't come as much as a surprise anymore. I expect it. But the fact that he grouped DS in with me when he made his comment infuriated me. I look at my DS and I see this beautiful, innocent child and for FIL to say anything negative about him leaves me fuming.

On the plus side, I did have a pretty good Easter with DS and DH before we went to DH's family party. DS loved finding his eggs but as soon as he found one he would put it in his mouth so I would have to take it away or he would have never found any of the other ones. Lol

 

[I Love Lucy]

Sorry about that epic post. My in laws make me crazy.

 

[babydust818]

Brittany - holy cow! Can not believe your DH's family. His father is extremely rude. I know what your DH is saying about the pale comment, but i would take it the SAME way you did because of your history with his dad. The things he said about your feet is so mean. That is bullying. Your DH should be sticking up for you in times like that. Have you ever told his dad to just shut up and that some of the things he says is hurtful? I would never want to go around his family with them treating me that way. Sorry they're so rude. Something needs to be done with that situation because it can't go on like that forever. I can relate to your SIL story. I know a few people that think they know what's best for every child when in reality they just need to shut up. It's nice to share your story with someone with having a similar experience, but to go as far as diagnosing their child is wrong. Glad you had a good Easter beforehand. I can't wait for all the holidays ahead to share with my LO.

 

[I Love Lucy]

DH doesn't understand why I automatically assume the pale comment was supposed to be an insult but FIL has never been anything but rude to me, I don't believe that he's suddenly going to say something to me and it not be meant in a negative or hurtful way. I tried explaining this to him and he still doesn't get it. Had anyone else made the comment I wouldn't of thought anything of it but FIL was the one who made it so it immediately puts me on the defensive.

It doesn't help that the comments FIL makes to me are done so when I'm alone or DH isn't around to hear him. So then DH doesn't even know anything had been said until I tell him later. So it becomes a he said she said kind of situation. Sometimes I kind of wonder if DH thinks I'm just exaggerating what his dad says to me.

Regardless, having to be around his family gives me anxiety and I avoid them as much as humanly possible.

 

[JJsmom]

Momwife, I got my cycle back 1 month after I stopped bleeding from birth but my cycles were off, some would be longer/shorter, and the time I had AF would very too, from 2 days to 7 days. I had to go back to work after 6 weeks and couldn't pump enough. I was determined to BF DS2 as well. I had the most wonderful lactation nurse at the hospital. She was determined to get a good latch going before we left the hospital.

tropicsgirl, no internet for a week!!! Gasp!! Have fun at your scan on Saturday!!

Brittany, sorry your inlaws are rude! I deal with my MIL which she talks crap about me to DH and he doesn't stand up for me. So when she starts in on me, I throw smart comments at her and she gets baffled not knowing what I mean and other ppl chuckle. She told DH that he needs to NOT get this job that she submitted his application for him because she wants him to get a different one. Well he's going for this one anyways and going for 3rd shift. She told him no, he needs to do 2nd shift. But he'll never see us. We think that's what she wants. in laws....just have to deal with them

 

[Jett55]

Wow reading everyone's comments reminds me so much of my inlaws. Glad to know I'm not the only one whose in-laws drive me batcrap insane.

 

[jacky b]

Gorgeous bumps ladies!

Brittany sorry your in laws are so mean. I have a similar problem with my mil. Really with love if they moved away like they say they will. Sounds like we all have "interesting" in laws.

Question for those in no 2 and beyond - bh this time round? Bad, worse, earlier? I'm in agony and its heaps earlier and worse than with my dd. Its actually more painful than labour. Walking down stairs are impossible without dropping in pain. Did anything help?

 

[babydust818]

Got a question. Was wondering if anyone had experienced this and if it's normal? Anyways, i still haven't felt much movement. If i do it's down below my pubic bone. I use my doppler a lot so that is the only reason i know the baby is always on the left side. Well, when i try to lay down and lay on my left side i feel fine, but when i go to flip i can feel pain down near my hip and can feel something real heavy just kind of float from hip towards the center of my left side of stomach. Is that the baby? I have no idea what i am feeling. Was just curious? It's at the point now to where i can't lay on my left side at all.

 

[I Love Lucy]

Jacky, I haven't noticed any BHs yet but the round ligament pain is really bad this time around. Almost had me in years a few times because it's so strong. Im just trying to do as little bending down, stair climbing, and carrying DS around as I possibly can.

Babydust, it might be round ligament pain. That tends to be around the hip bones for me and sudden movements like turning over in bed can trigger it.

 

[JJsmom]

I haven't really been feeling any BH's yet. I didn't really feel them last time until they hooked me up to the monitor and asked if I felt them. I thought it was just baby moving. I'm pretty busy running around though and dealing with DS2. Have lots of back pain from lifting him up, other than that, I feel lots of round ligament pain this time too.

I agree with Brittany, it sounds like round ligament pain as when I turn over it gets really bad on one side at times. It very well could be baby moving as well because when you roll, baby tends to roll as well and reposition themselves to get comfy.

 

[tropicsgirl]

Brittany, I can relate with you regarding your in-laws. Although your's sound especially hard to deal with it! The FIL sounds quite rude...my FIL isn't rude, but he the most emotionless man I've ever met in my life. He's NEVER told my DH that he loves him and he never smiles and I think he has depression but self-medicates with alcohol. Anyway, I think you're very lucky if you happen to get in-laws who you can actually get along with.

Babydust, I too think that sounds like round ligament pain. I get that sometimes as well and it's no fun.

I saw for the first time the baby move in my stomach today!! Thought it wouldn't be this soon! My DH wasn't here so he wasn't able to see it. But I felt poking coming from the same area and looked down and when the poking started my stomach was moving up and down in that same spot! Pretty crazy! These movements feel so...weird. I like them, but the sensation is so strange to me! I've been feeling more and more movements lately, especially when I get home from work and relax.

How's everyone else feeling?

 

[I Love Lucy]

tropicsgirl, seeing the movements on the outside is so exciting. I remember when I was pg with DS he would go crazy kicking if I decided to take a bath to relax at the end of the day. I always enjoyed watching him move around. Emily has had a few movements that feel like they were definitely strong enough to be felt on the outside but I haven't actually seen any yet since she usually doesn't do it again when I'm actually paying attention.

 

[modified]

I was lying on the couch this morning and one of my cats came up and lay on my stomach. Pixie wasn't impressed... neither was the cat I don't think she understands why my belly is kicking her

 

[I Love Lucy]

My cat Mila thought my belly with DS was just a seat for her.

 

[JJsmom]

This past week we started feeling them on the outside too!! DS1 hasn't felt her yet, but he does try. He just can't concentrate enough to pay attention to his hand as his brain is constantly going. Also seen my belly move when I feel Vivian has the hiccups too! HAHA! I love it! I can't believe we are over halfway through this pregnancy already!!!

I feel so bad for DH! He was interviewing for a new job. He got through all of their tests and had 1 left. He failed it because he was too busy trying to go so fast like she told him he needed to rather than paying attention to the details. He feels stupid because he saw an 18 yr old walk in and do the job and was hired and him being a college graduate couldn't do it. I told him he just had too much on his mind and he needed to actually inspect the work and not just rush through it. It's for quality control. They told him he can try again in 30 days! So I told him to go ahead and put in for vacation at his current place as he has 3 weeks available to him and he'll end up losing them. But he's worked every day since January and he finally had his first day off last week. He is so burnt out from that place he brings attitude home with him too. I have to remind him that we aren't the ones making him work and not take time off. But on his day off we got the yard done! Sticks picked up and burned, the grass cut, and talked to the neighbors who are renting a tiller and will till up a small area by our house so we can have a garden! So excited!

 

[tropicsgirl]

Well, went to the anomaly scan today!

Everything looks great. And were are having a GIRL!!

I was convinced it was a boy, but DH was convinced it was a girl. Haha...guess he won this time around!

The doctor said I have an anterior placenta, so that explains why I've been feeling movement, but not a lot. The baby was moving like crazy during the U/S. I guess DH will feel something eventually.

JJ'smom, that too bad for your DH. My DH isn't working at the moment (long story,) and he wants to find a decent job as well but it's not easy. It is nice to have DH around though (though sometimes I just need my ME time haha!)

I wonder what my parent's dog will do when she see's me...I would love to have a cat to lounge around on my belly but DH doesn't really like cats.

 

[I Love Lucy]

JJsmom, I've thought I've felt hiccups from Emily twice now but both times they weren't very consistent so I figured it was something else I was feeling. I remember with DS it was like a pattern where I could go 1, 2, 3 hiccup 1, 2, 3, hiccup, etc.

Sorry about the situation with your DH's job. Hopefully things go better the next time around. And the 3 weeks vacation should be nice too.

Topicsgirl, welcome to team DH was right in both of our kids genders though this time I was leaning towards thinking girl but was hoping for a boy. With DS I was convinced he was a girl from all the old wives tales.

Afm, we are closing on our house Tuesday at 1 pm. Will probably not be around much since we'll be busy getting things fixed up/painting done in the new house and packing and moving our stuff and then there is the unpacking.

Will try to stop in and read posts when I can though.