Beach Bump Graduates!

[Hann12]

My parents have gone, I'm really sad! For the first time this pregnancy I actually feel like I had proper help for a few days and it was lovely. It makes me wish they lived closer. Its probably pregnancy hormones talking but I feel really sad and emotional now we are on our own which I know is silly as Greg is back later and we only have one more day until the weekend, and then next fri we are off to my parents for the weekend so I'll see them again then. It was just so nice to have them here, Annabelle loves being with them, they don't get in the way and upset me and they are so helpful. My dad literally worked all day for 3 days on the garden putting up a fence and making some of the end of the garden levelled so that Annabelle can play safely out there. Feel so lucky that they could come and help. Sorry I probably sound silly!!

 

[mummySS]

Oh Hann, what a difference to your MIL!! I can totally understand you feeling like that, you do a lot of stuff on your own and it must have been such a welcome change to have some proper help, and have people around who you can be yourself with. Bless your dad for fixing up the garden. Doesn't it make you think what sort of parent you want to be? I hear the stories about these meddling MILs and i vow to never be like that.

Don't worry, you will of course be fine, it's natural to feel a gap after someone has left, Greg will be home soon and it's nearly the weekend!

 

[caz_hills]

Ah Han, don't worry - it might be the hormones but Ive found that since I've had Ajay I really appreciate my parents so much more! And I like I think you do, find it a lot easier with our own parents rather than the in-laws!

Simmy - how's things with you with Paul being away? Hope you're doing ok.

Georgie - Shame that Tilly had a bad night - what constitutes bad as I have eraed those first few weeks/months?! I am sure you will be fine next week hun.

AFM - busy day at work so just logging off work e-mails now. I spoke to Neel tonight as I have been thinking - only thinking - about going back to work full-time. So I know it's only one extra day but I am working my socks off, evenings, weekends and my day off when Ajay is asleep. And I'm not getting paid for it! Plus doing a full-time job as well in 4 days isn't easy. It's not just money it's sort of about fairness really. But I don't want to be away from Ajay as our Wednesdays are lovely..... can't decide..... I think I'll stick with four days and just take the annoyance of less pay and more work!

 

[mummySS]

Caz, it really does sound like you're working too hard for only being paid 4 days. I really think you should talk to your company as it sounds like they are not being fair with your workload... As someone who had no choice but to work 5 days a week I would be inclined to advise you against it - that 1 day is really precious and I would have loved to have it. Plus I found it really exhausting and annoying to not have one day at home. Another option could be to do a half day from home but negotiate that you can do that anytime, that way you effectively get paid for the extra work you're doing... What does Neel think?

I'm ok thanks, I was really dreading this week but actually it's not been too bad. Usually Leo doesn't sleep very well in the travel cot at my parents', but miraculously this week he's slept v well! He's waking up at 7-7.30am as opposed to 5am which he does at home! Only problem is I haven't slept too well as my bed isn't comfortable here, at home I have memory foam! Anyway it's lovely to be here as it's nice to not have to do the dishes, and my mum loves helping with Leo's bath etc. And of course Leo ADORES all the attention he gets

 

[melissasbump]

Oh Hann, so sorry to hear you were feeling down after your parents went, im glad you had a nice time, got some help and most importantly rest! Hope you are feeling better today.

Caz, If i were you i would stick to the 4 days, unless you are desperate for the money in my opinion i thinks its really important that you get that extra day with Ajay, i do agree with Simmy though, you shouldnt have to cram 5 days into 4 so have a word with your boss? Also if you asre going to TTC in the near future too you may be glad of that day!

Simmy, Your parents sound like mine, its nice to take a bit of a step back now and again and Harrison loves my parents so much its lovely to see and i get to chill! Glad your week isnt as bad as you feared.

AFM, Had my 34 week MW appointment today and my baby is breech! lol not that it matters really but ive got so much pressure pain down below i really thought he/she had gone head down! In the last few days im really feeling it, im struggling to walk, getting shooting and intense pain down below and my back feels like its breaking. Im so ready for this to be over! Am also measuring 2 weeks ahead which is kind of scary! Im really scared now of going into labour with a breech baby, have got to go back to MW in 2 weeks time and seeing my consultant in 3 weeks time.
If baby hasnt turned and i do start labour then its almost certain i will have a section, whereas if i had gone into labour with a head down baby, depending how far along i was thery may have tried to get me to go natural. Its all very close now!
We are stopping at my parents tonight and tomorrow leaving H with them so we can get the nursery finished off, at least everything will be finished off by the end of this weekend.
Oh sainsburys have got their 25% off clothing on at the mo, got some lovely bits for H yesterday, its on till sunday i think! x

 

[Hann12]

Hi all!

Mel - wouldn't worry about measuring ahead, did you measure ahead with H? He was still overdue wasn't he? I kind of take the measuring thing with a pinch of salt as it seems so inaccurate for so many people and can really vary depending on how much water you carry. how big was H? It's kind of a good thing for you that the baby is breech then if it stays breech that is as you'll be guaranteed the section
It's funny because you really don't want labour and I really don't want a section lol! Hopefully we will both be happy! So close for you now though, you must be excited, especially as you aren't comfortable now. I actually have doubts that my baby is head down even though they keep telling me it is, I don't feel high kicks, more low to the side and I get cervix pains but I guess that could be punches rather than kicks.

Anyway had a rubbish day, been waiting in for a delivery, well 2. I got a good processor for Xmas and it broke so I had one courier picking it up and another delivering a new one. The pick up happened at 1.30pm but the new one hasn't arrived so have wasted the afternoon waiting for it. Means we have been stuck in all day which is very boring. Annabelle has literally ransacked the house of her toys, they were all out but none were entertaining her so she kept dragging me back to find more. I was sat on the floor for 2.5 hours trying to get her to focus and play but it wasn't working. I've been up and down more times than I care to count and my patience has been tested to the extremes. Makes it very hard to go down the 'gentle' parenting route when she's like that. I have a killer headache too. I just want the next hour to hurry up so I can have her in bed. Greg told me he would be home for bath time and has now gone back on that so I do it again alone. Sometimes I just get p****d off that I do everything! I know he goes out and earns the money but I'm just fed up today and I'm blaming him and its not actually his fault but I have no one else to be cross at.
And we have no dinner as I couldn't get to the shops because of this delivery so either Greg gets something on the way home or we get a takeaway. I couldn't care less though, in such a bad mood!!
Sorry for the rant!!

 

[LittleSpy]

Simmy -- So glad the week has gone well!

Caz -- I completely understand why you'd be so torn about working full-time versus having an extra day off! I've been thinking about easing into maternity leave by taking a day off each week starting in a couple of weeks but I can't seem to convince myself to do it because I know I'll be expected to do the same amount of work I do now. It's hard enough getting it all done on top of taking time off for OB appointments in addition to trying to write about 10 desk manuals so people will know how to do my job while I'm gone (yeah right! I fully expect them to let my work pile way, way, way up expecting me back... joke's on them! Won't be coming back! I'm very disgruntled so I won't be giving them any notice I'm not coming back until I've been on maternity leave for a couple of months).

Mel -- I've been measuring 1-2 weeks ahead each time, too. But we're both sure of our dates so I don't think it really means anything at all. Just extra fluid or (in my case) extra fluff. I will be hugely surprised if labor starts prior to 39 weeks for me. I'm trying not to expect it before my due date at all. Though I will welcome it at any point starting 4 weeks from now. I'm having lots of pressure and waddling and all the fun stuff, too. And still with the KILLER BH contractions. I'm pretty much already in my 4-5 an hour every hour zone (which started several weeks later than this with Maisie). Many of them are even crampy (several a day but no patterns nor progressively intensifying so it's not worrying to me) which isn't something I had with Maisie. Just a lovely little extra layer of discomfort Violet has decided to provide, I suppose.

Hann -- I think it sucks that Greg does so little. Scott is the SAHP for us right now and he bathed Maisie last night for the first time in several months! I'm always the one to do it! I BEGGED him to do it earlier this week because my belly is massive and bending over the tub is difficult right now and I still ended up being the one to do it. I was so relieved I went into the bathroom last night to bathe her and she was already in the tub and he was taking care of it! I know the only reason he ended up doing it is because she got super excited about it while he was running the bath and pretty much demanded to get into the tub immediately. I'm the one who works all week yet I always even end up doing her laundry and picking up after her. Men are just... different. That's all I can say. I can not WAIT to be the SAHP! It'll be like I only have one huge full-time job instead of the two huge jobs I have now. It must be nice to be a male breadwinner and come home to dinner being ready and the kids being cleaned and ready for bed and the laundry being done rather than to come home after work and have to cook dinner and bathe the kids and do all the laundry and dishes yourself. Scott thinks he's supposed to get downtime when I get home from work. And he sleeps in SO LATE when I'm home on the weekends and I get up with Maisie. When the crap do I get down time?! I'm so tired! Haha, well that turned into a mighty rant.

 

[Hann12]

I feel for you Julie although you have it much worse as I don't work!!
I think my moaning paid off - he got back to help with bath and bed, and he's just gone to sainsburys. I said I'd go tomorrow but he said he wanted to get it out of the way tonight. Feel quite bad now - not that I could have got out today to do it anyway because of the delivery that didn't arrive, but still he has been working all day and now is at th shops.

 

[caz_hills]

Don't feel bad Han. You are pregnant and work isn't that bad trust me - sometimes it is easier being at work than being at home. Greg does try I'm sure but you do shoulder a lot of the work with annabelle. I do feel for you.

Julie - I think maybe I'm to strict with neel as I make him get up one morning at the weekends with Ajay. I did pretty much everything when I was on maternity leave. But when I went back to work I really spelt it out to him that I work four days too so he has to do half-half. I know other husbands or partners dont do that but we both have busy jobs so I see it as equal. Although he does have football twice a week so that is his down time!

But you girls need a rest too!

Thanks for your advice re work. I think I am sticking with four days. We always have lovely days together and I have just had a tough weekso I've been feeling a bit tired.

Break through with in laws too- they asked Neel if they could collect Ajay at four from nursery. Neel said they had to ask me as it was my evening to collect him. They did and I felt happy that Neel was putting me first rather than just agreeing things and I find out later. Also (and I know this is selfish and I'd only say it to you girls) since his parents came back from holiday Ajay is less close to them and soooo much closer to me and Neel. It's lovely. I know that's bad....

 

[caz_hills]

Forgot to say mel did you hae a c section with H? I can't remember. I did and it was fine honestly! I hope you're not too worried about it x

 

[Blue_bear]

Well, I had the scariest experience EVER las night...My baby girl decided she fancied a ride in an ambulance! We were just chilling at home and I put her down on a cushion next to me on the sofa when she stopped breathing...she turned an awful purple grey colour and her eyes glazed over and rolled around. Neither DH or I could rouse her at all.
It felt like an age for the paramedic to turn up, lady on the phone at the control centre did well at keeping us calm. Matilda was just taking odd raspy breaths, I have never wanted to hear a baby cry so much in my life!
She came to just after the paramedic arrived and they still took us to hospital to get checked out. Doc ruled all to be fine although they didn't test for anything. Just got to keep an eye on her. The only explanation is that apparently some babies do hold their breath?!

Just so frightening, even sat at the hospital. I was on my own as DH had to stay with J who was in bed luckily.
I slept with her on my chest once we did eventually get home, didnt dare put her down!!

I don't ever want to go through that again!

 

[Hann12]

How scary Georgie! I hope she and you are okay now! Do you have a movement mat? If you don't it might be worth getting one for peace of mind, obviously you can't watch them all the time so at least that way you would get a warning if she did start to hold her breath. Thinking of you

 

[Blue_bear]

Yep have an angelcare but just wasn't risking anything last night, she was really unsettled anyway. Wouldn't be without the movement sensor actually, must remember to pass it on to my pregnant friend.

 

[Doodlepants]

Big hun, how scary!!! Glad Matilda's OK, they are a worry aren't they?! xxxx

 

[Hann12]

So glad you have a movement mat, don't know how people slept before they were invented!! Really hope you are all okay tonight x

 

[caz_hills]

Oh my god Georgie's that's so scary. I saw your fb post and wondered what was happening. I am glad she is ok. That is mega scary xxx

 

[mummySS]

Oh goodness how scary Georgie!! I'm so glad she's ok. FYI this happened to my friend's baby recently. It happened a couple of times and after numerous tests the baby was eventually diagnosed with reflux! With medication he is fine now. Just thought I'd mention in case it's worth pursuing that. big hugs to you xxx

 

[caz_hills]

Morning ladies,
Georgie - hope Matilda is better today. I keep thinking about it and wow it's so bloody scary for you
Simmy - I always know that you'll log in and post whilst I'm asleep - I go to bed at about 11 ish and I try and post before I turn the lights off and it made me smile this morning as I thought, oh I bet Simmy will have posted!

Ajay isn't too great - I don't know what's wrong with him but yesterday he had a temperature and was so grizzly. We went for a lovely walk and he was exhausted. We thought it was just too much walking (only 40 minutes) but then he slept for 2.5 hours which is unheard of so I woke him and he was in a deep sleep. He then was boiling all afternoon and grizzly and he is still asleep now - although he woke a few times in the night. I don't know what it is but poor man..... x

 

[Blue_bear]

Thanks guys, she's been fine since.

Thanks for mentioning that Simmy, it actually may be relevant as we're currently wondering if she's lactose intolerant like J was. Currently all the same symptoms. Off to the gp tomorrow!
Also need to push for J to have an allergy test, something keeps giving him a ridiculously sore bum and I'm at a loss now after excluding all the obvious!

 

[melissasbump]

Oh Georgie so sorry you had to go through that, how scary! Glad all appears well now but bet its a little while before you can relax over it all! xx