Beach Bump Graduates!

[Doodlepants]

Oh Simmy that really made me giggle about your nanny! I don't know why lol! I'd be the same as you though- I hate confrontation too so well done for saying something! Have you booked to have your bloods done yet?

I hope it goes OK today Mel- your poor hands! I hate having blood taken! I can't believe how close some of you are!!! This is very exciting!!!

Thinking of you today Caz, I hope the results are good for your Sister x

That's fantastic that Annabelle's ears are better Hann! at having to skype MIL though

Naomi and I are off to Holly's school this afternoon to watch their Mothers day performance I'm secretly dreading it though as Naomi is murder that time of day and won't sit still but everyone's busy so I have to take her with me- hopefully if I take some toys it will distract her- I don't want to miss any of it! I'm also dreading it as one of the Mums is annoying the hell out of everyone- long boring story that I will explain (vent about!) soon when I have a sec! x

 

[Blue_bear]

I was the opposite Hann, my pregnant and labour with M was a breeze compAred to j!

 

[Hann12]

My pregnancy with this one has been easier than Annabelle so I'm biased to thinking that girls cause the problems lol!! Still voting girl!

Maria - hope the afternoon goes okay and N sits still. Do tell about the mummy drama, always like a bit of gossip!!

Annabelle managed 3 hours woo hoo! Got to sort out lunch for us now (rather belated!) but just not hungry these days!

Oh and you'll laugh, I got an email this morning to say my carrycot order has been cancelled!! Apparently stock mistake (6th time!!) so ordered the black and white one from bambino direct and just had a text to say its being delivered next week. Lets hope it's 7th time lucky!!

 

[LittleSpy]

Well Mel, the first April baby was born yesterday. She was due 2 days after you and 2 before me.

 

[LittleSpy]

Simmy -- That is gross about the nanny! I think you were far more tactful than I could have been about it. I got really irritated at my MIL last Thanksgiving for trying to feed Maisie off of her spoon. I just always think about disease and stuff. Apparently like 1/2 of all adults in the US have oral herpes. So I'm always thinking "OMG, you're going to give my baby herpes!" though I have no basis for thinking she may have it other than statistics. My stepfather has Hep C and I want to PUNCH him any time he lets Maisie put her hands anywhere near his mouth or whatever. I know it's all highly unlikely to catch that mouth-to-mouth or whatever, but even a small risk is too big of a risk IMO! Strange to me it didn't occur to her to use a different spoon in the first place, but glad she took it well!

Mel -- Hoping your appointment goes well today! And I can't stop pooping, either. It's like 2-3 times a day now (I'm a 2 times a week girl, so this is WAY too much time spent doing that for me ). And I'm pissing myself half the time when I cough. I am truly glowing right now. I lost part of my plug last Friday but the rest of it must still be up there. Wasn't too much. I figure I've just dilated and effaced a little but not all that much. My OBs start checking me next week so I guess we'll see. Not that it means anything at all. I walked around 3cm dilated and mostly effaced with Maisie for 3 weeks. And I don't think I'm really anywhere near that now because I'm not as uncomfortable as I remember being those last few weeks. I'm still hoping to go around 39 weeks but expecting to go over 40 again.

Hann -- Fx Annabelle naps forever for you again today.

 

[Hann12]

Julie - hopefully only 5 weeks to go now though! Exciting!! I know 5 weeks probably sounds loads but hopefully it will race by for you. I have to say I remember being very uncomfortable for a good couple if weeks with Annabelle so inclined to agree with you on that! I remember feeling so much pressure on my cervix and needing to go to the toilet everytime I got up lol. Looking forward to that again! You never know you might have her at 39 weeks. I'm expecting to go to 40+ - possibly even 41. Figure if I just accept that then those last few weeks won't feel too torturous! I'm sure I'll be on here moaning though by 38 weeks lol.
The girls on my may thread (28-32 weeks) are all moaning massively about how they can't see how they will last another 9/10 etc weeks. Makes me laugh because a) I'm sure we were all like that first time b) because it gets soooo much more uncomfortable than what they are feeling now!

 

[LittleSpy]

I know, Hann! I'm that awful "you think you're uncomfortable now... just wait" pregnant woman now! I try to keep my mouth shut most of the time because no first timer wants to hear that. And don't even get me started talking about labor or perineal tears! I know in the history of women it probably HAS happened (or so some woman somewhere has claimed) that someone didn't know they were in labor and went to the hospital (or wherever) and they were already 10cm dilated and pushed once and baby came out and there was no tearing and breastfeeding was perfect. But... for most of us, no. Absolutely not. Shit happens and I'm the kind of person who likes to be mentally prepared for it. So, when people say they're "so worried" they're not going to know they're in labor and that they plan on ebfing for 12 months but haven't prepared for it at all, I can't help but roll my eyes and think, "You WILL know when you're in labor. It feels like you're dying. Dying to death. And and some point during, you'll probably even wish you were actually dying. And then you won't be able to sit down without wanting to die again for 3 weeks! And you'll never have sex without lube again! And you know what? There's a chance you stupid boobs won't work, either. No one ever mentions that, do they?" So, I just don't comment anymore. But I'm obviously signed up to do it all again. It's a freaking awesome thing. It's just not all roses, and it doesn't have to be to make it worth it. I guess the idealistic view of it all just drives me nuts. And they're all in for such a rough surprise for the first couple of months with a new baby. It's not that I want to crush their vision of it all, I just want to help them understand the reality a little more. But I guess that's something you're not going to understand until you do it yourself. Someone on the April thread was talking about how she'll be "relaxing with a glass of wine while reading" a couple weeks postpartum (while ebfing, of course). It was all I could do to not laugh at her, really. I mean, come on, seriously? I know I had idealistic thoughts about labor/delivery/motherhood that were smashed (mostly about going well past due date, tearing, and breastfeeding... oh, and having a baby who screamed nonstop for about 10 weeks ). And that's with me being a fairly realistic person. I can't imagine the shock someone who has ideas like that is going to experience. Kudos to Maria and the rest of the not first-timers on this thread!

 

[Doodlepants]

The Mothers day thing was so sweet! Naomi was fab too and sat quietly the whole time despite being really tired, she did so well!

Ugh- the annoying Mum.....
Such a long story as it's been going on for ages (since the girls were at nursery). She's just so annoying- and weird!-It's not just me that thinks it either as all of the other Mums don't like her either.
She's just so odd- I've tried sooooo many times to make an effort with her but I just don't have the energy- she cannot have a conversation- she has to turn everything into a competition which is infuriating. For instance- Me: have you booked time off yet for your holiday? (they're going to haven or something this month)
Her: No not yet, I hope they let us take it off.
Me: you should be fine, they approved ours pretty quickly (we're going to Disneyland next month)
Her: (virtually shouting in the ridiculous fake posh accent she tries to do- the woman has spent her life on a council estate so how she developed this accent is beyond me- especially after hearing the way her family talk) Yes well we're going to Disneyland next year!
Me *smiles* I wasn't bragging but she feels the need to then go on for the next 20 mins about how they're going to Disney too...

Our friend got a new car
Me: Congratulations!!! IT's lovely etc etc
Annoying woman: Well I'm getting one of those and mine is going to be custom and pink with a personalised number plate....
Our new car friend: How are you going to get 3 car seats in it?
Annoying woman- *silence*

It's like you can't say anything without her chipping in trying to go one better iykwim?

I don't know.... I know that all sounds SO petty on my part but you literally cannot have a conversation with this woman! They got a new (to them, it's very old!) car and quizzed Martyn saying "does your car.....? Pft, ours does!".

Also, when our friend was pregnant she went up to her and said "you don't have much of a maternity wardrobe do you?"!!! Then when our friend lost her baby (she had the same thing that Kelzy had and nearly died herself), she was asking around for "the gossip", I mean really?!!! Who says stuff like that.

Plus, every Birthday party that is held- she won't just take the children herself, she has to turn it into a family outing and sits there with her OH (who is just as bad), whispering and pointing and giggling at everyone.

I know that's turned into a massive rant LOL and I know it all sounds very petty but that isn't even the half of it. I've really really tried my hardest with this girl but she's just so odd!! I was talking to M's mum about it and she thinks maybe she's jealous but I don't know. I just don't get her. I probably sound like the childish one for moaning on about her but I can't put everything on here or I'd be here all day! She's just so annoying and I was dreading today as she sits there gossiping with her Mum, looking at everyone else like they've crawled out from under a rock!
Anyway, that's the annoying woman. Sometimes I feel bad for her as most people ignore her now but we've all tried with her and she's got herself in that situation. I've heard from others that she's said some pretty nasty things

 

[Hann12]

Lol Julie your post has made me chuckle because its sooo true! I know, Maria and the others must have had the patience of a saint for all the silly stuff we probably said because its driving me up the wall now! Every day it's something else, always the same people - my ribs hurt, there's pressure in my cervix, my plug has gone because they get discharge, my BH are sooo frequent I must be going to have an early baby etc etc!! I think your description is brilliant of how it is. I really hope I get no tears or have to have an episiotomy this time!! I just hated the pain and discomfort of that!!

Maria - the woman sounds a nightmare! I loath people that always have to go one better than everyone else. It was really like that in Richmond and used to drive me mad! I think she sounds insecure so she's bigging up her life etc so that she looks like she's got everything and is soooo happy. Normally people like that wish they had everything they say they do but really the reality is different. I'd say try and ignore it all but it's easier said than done!!

Caz - how's your sister?

 

[Doodlepants]

Yeah, I'm normally good at ignoring her and rising above it but she's annoying me lately for some reason!

Hope your Sister's OK Caz.

I forgot to say Hann- what a nightmare about your carrycot!!! Hopefully the 7th will be the one!!

 

[melissasbump]

Littlespy, loved your post too, so true! Some of the threads i read make me lol but i know i was probably as bad at the time.

Hann, you and carrycots dont have much luck! If any consolation I got my tandem and a few other bits from bambino and were very impressed with them.

Maria, great rant! lol i understand though people like that can be so annoying, I can imagine we will be meeting more people like that as our children grow up.

Caz, hope your sister is ok?

AFM Im ok ,my bloods came back ok today, so havent had to go back to hospital and hoping i wont have to now till next friday when i have consultant and scan. The likely scenario is though if things are still as they are my section may be at 37 weeks which is little over a week away! Scary but exciting!
Alan has been amazing, dont know what id do without him!
Tomorrow we have to entertain friends of his whome ive never met as the have recently moved back here from new zealand. I cant remember a time i least felt like entertaining, i look like crap and thats not really how i want their first impression of me to go!! Not a lot i can do though lol

 

[caz_hills]

Hi everyone,

Sorry for the late post. I picked my sister up from hospital as they discharged her. They can't find anything wrong which is worrying but also good news and hopefully it's nothing too scary. She is positive. I'm staying with my parents tonight with my sister and then driving back tomorrow. I am missing Ajay like mad actually pining for him but I know it's only one night and Vicky needs me. Thanks for your lovely words.

Tee hee about first time mums!!!! I bet we were the same - Maria how did you cope with us when you were on your second baby?!?!

Han I cannot believe that about the carrycot. I really hope it is 7th time lucky for you

Simmy it made me smile as you 'liked' a photo of our mutual friends Seema and Satchin on Facebook. I forgot you knew them too!

Mel hang on in there and I'm so glad that Alan is being so wonderful - bless him he is lovely.

Maria sorry that woman is driving you mad. But glad that Naomi was well behaved today.

Julie wow your plug has gone awesome! So close now!

In laws picked Ajay up from nursery (occasionally apparently is every week now!) so I'm hoping we can have a quiet weekend just the three of us. Fingers crossed! x

 

[Blue_bear]

I have a horribly constipated screams baby stupid gaviscon

 

[caz_hills]

Oh no Georgie! Poor you. How is J? x

 

[Hann12]

Does the gaviscon cause constipation Georgie? I think I remember it doing that but can't quite remember! When Annabelle had bad tummy moments we used to hold her upright and move her legs up and down to get things moving! Might be worth a try? Really feel for you you know where I am x

Caz - that's good news about your sister! It's weird that they have no clue what is causing it but great that its not serious. Lol about the inlaws - give them an inch and they take a mile!! Hope you have a lovely weekend with Neel and Ajay

Mel - it's great that the bloods are back and are good! At least as well if you are having the baby at 37 weeks your mum will be back - so you've hung on yay! And I don't blame you about not wanting to entertain but hopefully you'll have fun anyway. Funnily enough I've just arranged to have gregs brother and my SIL and their two children here when I'm 36 weeks too - and I have a wedding the following week at 37 weeks (actually its 19 days before I'm due arghhh!!) hopefully I won't feel too gigantic! Thought it might be a but much but then I remember Caz going to that all day Indian wedding just before Ajays born so that's my inspiration lol. Although this does depend on the back!

I'm being kicked like crazy tonight, so painful, I hope this baby is going to come early as I don't know how long I can cope - lol only kidding!!! Couldn't resist

 

[mummySS]

LOL Hann!! Oh I have been laughing at all the funny stuff the first timers on your threads are saying! Julie your post made me cackle, so true. I second the kudos to maria, i remember asking daft questions and you were so patient with me, bless you. I totally avoid my new july group tbh, I just dont have the time for it and there are too many people. Maybe i'll get in touch again after the baby's born as I might need more support then from people with babies the same age.

Maria - omg, this woman sounds atrocious! Even from the few examples you gave i can see how you'd just want to throttle her! Don't worry you dont sound petty at all, I can't bear people like that. At least most people don't like her and you're not in it alone... Anyway aside from her being there it sounds like a fab lil concert, bless N for being so well behaved!

Hann on the carrycot! Really hope it comes through for you this time, I really hope the baby likes being in it after all this...! Oh and LOL at Caz being the inspiration for your wedding attendance, i remember that too - didn't it start your labour caz??

Oh i'm so glad your sis is out of hospital and ok - is this your twin with the little boy? Must be hard for her to be away from him too. And yes funny that we know the same people - i'm not friends with seema and sachin on FB but my sister was tagged in that photo which was why i 'liked' it.

Mel - great news about the bloods and yay for hopefully hanging on til your mum gets back! Hope the entertaining goes ok, will probably be knackering but hopefully also enjoyable.

Julie - wow you dropped that in subtly - sounds like you're almost in labour! And ahem, seriously you normally only 'go' twice a week?? that's nuts! LOL.

Georgie - hope you're ok hun, poor tilly, and i forget how distressing it is to have a screaming newborn... Did you get any good advice on what to do about josh?

AFM Paul finally got back this evening - yay! We've had a domino's and watched some Hustle, had a lovely evening. We're both knackered so paul's gone to bed while I catch up here. We've only really got tomorrow as then he's off again at 3pm on sunday... So i'll try to make the most of it! He's giving me a night off tonight and will take the monitor and let me put my earplugs in, I need it - as you know Leo chats a lot in the night so wakes us up, so i really need some uninterrupted sleep!

 

[LittleSpy]

LOL, no, definitely not almost in labor. I was FOR SURE an annoying firsttimer with Maisie thinking I would be going into labor at any point from about 36 weeks on! Got the craps from 36 week son, nonstop BH contractions, lost my plug and was 3cm dilated at 38 weeks, etc. We all know how that turned out (born at 40+5... after elective induction! ).

So I'm not taking any "sign" seriously at all this time. I'm not worried I'm going to be walking around and the baby falls out or anything, but I do think I'm likely to not take very early labor seriously this time (majorly assuming I actually go into labor on my own and don't get induced at 42 weeks!).

Hann -- Silly! Hehe, all these ladies thinking they can't cope with being pregnant anymore and here I am sitting with my legs crossed thinking I won't be able to cope with 2 kids on the outside! They are SO much easier to take care of when they're INSIDE!

Maria -- How annoying is that woman?

Caz -- Good to hear about your sister. It must be so annoying not to have a reason but at the same time must be such a relief to rule out serious issues.

Mel -- In a week!??! No way! I am seriously so in denial! I just found out last night that my neighbor a couple blocks away, who is 2 weeks ahead of me, is having a c-section on March 14 (next Thursday). That freaked me out enough! I am so unprepared. And I feel like I'll remain completely unprepared until we close on our stupid new house.

Georgie -- I did the bicycling of the legs thing similar to what Hann was describing with Maisie. I also erm... stimulated her a bit with a cotton swab a couple of times when she was especially uncomfortable.

 

[Doodlepants]

Oh I'm glad your Sister is OK Caz- I know some answers would have been nice but at least it's nothing serious. I be she's glad to be home!

I hope you have a fab weekend with Paul Simmy!!

Hann when is your carrycot due? I'm keeping everything crossed that it arrives!!

Julie I had the same view with Naomi- i wasn't going to symptom spot like I did with Holly- then when I went into labour I was in such denial that Martyn had to drag me to the hospital- I even left my labour bag in the car yet they assessed me as soon as I arrived and was 6cm!

Wow Mel this is so exciting!!!!! It's good that you're being well looked after by Alan too I'm sure you look lovely and I hope entertaining isn't too tiring for you- I'm sure your guests will understand that you're tired.

Georgie. Gaviscon sounds like a no-no then How is she now?

Just back from Holly's swimming lesson now waiting for Martyn to get in from work so we can go out!

 

[Hann12]

Arghh someone on our may group apparently contracting at 31+4 has told the doctors to just 'get them out' because she's fed up now! I seriously wonder about these people - the baby could now spend weeks or a couple of months hooked up to a ventilator! Again nothing wrong with mother or baby grrr

 

[caz_hills]

Blimey Han, that group is weird! We weren't that bad were we?!?!?!

Simmy - lol yes, it was five hours after we left the last function for thr weddng that I went into labour Always works a treat!

Julie - sounds like a good approach to labour, just see what happens!

Simmy - sorry Paul is off again tomorrow but like we said in the week, it's good that he is getting it all out of the way now and yay for him giving you a lie in!

Mel - how are you doing today?

Maria - hope you all have a nice afternoon as a family. What are you up to?

So drove back from my sisters today. She is getting better very slowly but she is still living with my parents so that's good. They are exhausted though bless them but I suppose once you have kids the responsibility never ends!

Neel and I then rushed Ajay round the supermarket and had a quick lunch before Neel's football match. He is taking his mum out for dinner tonight for Mothers day so I'm home alone tonight. I'm tired to be honest so quite looking forward to some peace and quiet and an early night - on a Saturday!!!!! x