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[melissasbump]

Hann, or anyone, a bit of advice please...
Im in absolute AGONY, Its been bad for last 3 days but getting worse to the point i can actually barely walk. So much pain through my pelvis and groin, i cant begin to tell you how much, needless to say ive been in tears several times today over it.
I think it could be that SPD, dont know why all of a sudden its come though, maybe baby has turned or dropped?
Is there anything i can do or is this how its gonna be. Im actually beside myself thinking its gonna be like this till then.

 

[Hann12]

I'd go to the Gp to see what they think as they might be able to tell you if the baby has changed position. From my perspective I had excruciating pain when Annabelle dropped as she was resting on my disc and nerve, as you have back problems its likely that similar is happening - maybe not the disc part but the nerve, especially if its in your groin, sounds like that to me. If it is I think the only thing they'll do is give you co codamol, which will dull it a bit but unless the baby moves or comes out it won't necessarily go. Sorry I know that's not what you want to hear, I totally sympathise though as it really hurts. Do you have a bump support? It might help a bit maybe? I'd go to the dr though just to get a second opinion. I think it's unlikely to he SPD at this stage though - pressed nerve is much more likely. I'm so sorry Mel
Xx

 

[melissasbump]

Thanks Hann, the only other worry i have that the baby is pressing on my section scar. I was warned that was a really bad thing by a MW earlier in pregnancy, but rare too. Ive never known such pain other than when i was in labour, i will see how it is in the morning and more than likely contact someone. Do you think GP or Ante natel? I have a feeling the GP may just refer me anyhow.

 

[Hann12]

Maybe antenatal then? I have no clue about c section scars - is it worth posting in 3rd tri to see if anyone knows? Would that cause groin pain though?

 

[melissasbump]

i have no idea really, il ring someone tomorrow, in the meantime ive had a nice warm bath and now a hot water bottle as you suggested.

 

[Hann12]

I hope that helps, I know it won't do anything dramatic and I really feel for you

 

[melissasbump]

you have really been a help, we are thinking baby has maybe turned and dropped... x

 

[Hann12]

It does sound like that to me, I know I had intense pain when that happened to me last time. Can you imagine the pain I had when she then went into the birthing canal and pressed even more on my sciatic nerve and disc?! I literally have never felt anything like it - no wonder I needed the epidural! That's my worry about labour this time as my backs a permanent problem so I think I have to face facts that it more than likely I'll be getting an epidural as the pain is too much! I hope yours eases off a bit

 

[mummySS]

Ohh Mel I've just seen this, it sounds horrible, I'm really sorry to be of no help as I've no idea what it is, but I think you should call midwife/antenatal first thing in the morning. Xxx big hugs to you

Will post properly in a bit x

 

[caz_hills]

Mel poor you. Just seen your posts. Han has given awesome advice (as always!) - I hope the bath helps. Is Alan off work tomorrow to help you? And your parents are away, what bad timing.

Simmy - Neel saw you like that photo of Seema and Sachin as well and he told me about it today small world!

Han - how annoying that she showed off her flowers grrrrrrr MIL's!

So today was been nice. Neel made loads of food including a feast of Indian dishes and a nutella cheesecake.... mmm. We went for a lovely walk in the forest near us and then relaxed this afternoon. Neel started to feel ill though at about 4 pm and thinks he has flu. Poor him, he is lying on the sofa feeling sorry for himself. I have two babies now! So the 2nd half of mothers day wasn't a rest at all it was manic looking after them both! x

 

[mummySS]

Mel - having read through all the mother's day efforts I vote Alan the winner!

Hann - boo to greg for not using his loaf... I remember last year's saga and i really thought he would too, and would have taken a bit more effort this year! I mean, flowers and a card are nice but he could have personalised a bit more! Oh well, as you say, you have to drop it now, and I feel greg just hasn't got that empathy/thoughtfulness thing honed down, so you may just have to accept that about him and love him for his other qualities!

Caz, oh dear the cooking clearly exhausted Neel! I don't know why i think it's quite amusing (in an ironic way) that you end up looking after both of them today! Oh dear! Well i'm glad at least a half of your day was nice...

Maria, bless martyn for doing his bit and doing the dishes, every little helps

Georgie, how did bathtime etc go today? xx

Well AFM I got a nice card (handmade with a little heart and some scribbles) and some chocolates. He gave me the chocs on Friday when he got back from Poland and by Saturday lunchtime I had already finished them lol! (very nice posh lindt ones from airport duty free haha). It wasn't really a proper mothers day as paul flew off to Norway at 3pm today. We had a nice dinner last night though. Today i've been at my parents as we had a load of family/cousins round, it was very manic but fun. Absolutely shattered now!

night night all xx

 

[caz_hills]

I agree Alan's the winner Neel stood no chance bless him! Man flu he definitely has - he is feeling very sorry for himself! x

 

[melissasbump]

The benefits to an older man. Lol. Thanks girls in still in a lot of pain,think Hann has hit the nail on the head though, maybe il get lucky in the nightand the baby will shift a bit.
Anyhow im in bed now which is where im most comfortable. Will catch up properly in the morning. Nite! X

 

[Hann12]

Mel - how are you doing this morning? Really hope you got some sleep and its not too painful now.

Simmy - I'll have to get you to remind Greg next year that he needs to do something more thoughtful! When we went to bed be actually said that he would be much better next year and I just replied that I won't hold my breath because he said he would be better this year and he wasn't! He said nothing!
It was the way that MIL asked what I got, I said flowers and then the was probably a long 5 second pause where she just stared at me (not sure if she was expecting me to real out more stuff) then she just said 'can I show you my lovely flowers then, and my favourite roses were there right in my face while I was given her crappy Lilly's which I hate as they stain! And they remind me of her!! And Greg always says that they smell of poo!
Mel I think you are right about the older man thing with Alan, my mum pretty much said the same thing, she said that she's taken years to train my dad into getting lovely thoughtful things for her and that it will just take a while for Greg to wise up.

Simmy - I hope you are okay with Paul gone again. I'm joining you this week as Greg is off to Cannes tomorrow until Friday. My parents are coming here though tomorrow until Thursday though as I start NCT classes on Tuesday night so I needed a hand. Will be funny doing Nct again so soon and it will be all the same old stuff from 2 years ago but I'm doing it in the hope I meet some nice people so fingers crossed.

Caz - hope you have a good fast week at work. Are the inlaws getting Ajay on Friday again? I was thinking that if they are you should just save money and pay for a half day. At least you get some benefit that way.

Monkey music this morning but no other plans. Might go and get myself some nice flowers this afternoon to cheer myself up! Seriously I can't even look at the stupid Lilly's which is bad I know as Annabelle supposedly chose them!

 

[freckles09]

Hey everyone, sorry for my absence lately!

Hope you all had a nice Mother's Day?

I haven't had time to have a read and catch up properly but will try to soon. Just thought i'd let you know that unfortunately I had a missed miscarriage. I knew something wasn't right from that early scan I had as baby measured so small and I was sure of my dates. But anyway we went to our 12 week scan and there was no heartbeat, baby had stopped growing when it was about 8 weeks. Had my operation Thursday to remove from my uterus so just recovering at the mo. Guess it wasn't meant to be but still doesn't make it any easier.

Will try to catch up soon, hope everyone is doing well.

 

[Doodlepants]

Oh Becks I'm so sorry I wish there was something I could do. That's so awful hun, I'm really sorry xxxx Thinking of you xx

Mel how are you feeling this morning, I've only just seen your message, hope you're OK x

 

[caz_hills]

Becks I'm so sorry too. Poor you. I hope you are recovering well and that you are ok. xxxx Huge hugs xxxx

Han - glad Greg gas high hopes for next year - fingers crossed!

Mel - hope you're doing ok today as well.

Neel has proper flu. Bless him. He was boiling up in the night and feels terrible this morning so I was up early getting Ajay up and out to the in-laws as I had a 8 am call for work which I had to do. Poor him, he looks terrible and is feeling rubbish. And Ajay had nightmares last night so I'm going to be exhausted this evening! x

 

[melissasbump]

Oh Bec so sorry to hear your news, so sad. Hope you make a quick recovery, big hugs to you xx

Hann, go buy yourself a HUGE bunch of flowers on Gregs credit card and chuck the Lillies away! Nice that your parents are coming tomorrow, hopefully you can get a break

Simmy, hope your week goes quick with Paul away!

Caz, poor Neel, and you sounds like your day has got off to a flying start! Hope it goes fast for you.

AFM i had an ok sleep, wasnt in so much pain when i got up but its kicking in again unfortunatly.
Off to my grandads for lunch today, thats about it!

 

[Hann12]

Bec i'm so so sorry. I had no idea how common your experience is but you are the 5th person I have heard this happen to around me in the past 6 months. I don't think theres enough information or support out there for early miscarriages. I really hope you have had lots of support from your family and lovely cuddles from Elliot - we are always here if you need us x

Mel - its good you got sleep but so annoying to have the pain back. Its worth a call to your mw though i suspect its a position thing and can't do much thinking of you xx

Caz - how awful for Neel - i take it he didm't get a flu jab? i forced Greg to get one this year! Really hope he starts to fee better soon and that you are okay. Its hard work looking after a sick man, mind you your mil could do some of it for you.

I know it sounds silly but i emailed greg about how i was feeling as i didm't feel like i had got it all out and was still teary this morning. I feel bad for him as he knows he has screwed up and is sorry but i'm still really upset so i had to get it out!

 

[LittleSpy]

Bec -