Beach Bump Graduates!

[SugarBeth]

Yeah, Katie decided that she then wanted to share. She took some of her bite out of her mouth and tried to put it in my mouth. She acted terribly heartbroken when I pretended to eat it, she knew the difference and wanted me to REALLY eat it!

 

[Hann12]

Lol lovely but yes I can see Annabelle doing that. She also hands me the end of chewed up or slobbery food that she doesn't want. The joys of toddlers!

 

[Blue_bear]

Hi guys, sorry ive been MIA!! Josh has had yet another stomach bug that he cared to share with me so we've been literally house bound for the last week. Its been really tough as we've all had it at the same time but hopefully were on the mend now!

Ive only read the last couple of pages so far but will try and catch up. Hope your all ok xxx

 

[caz_hills]

Hi all sorry I've been rubbish at posting too. Mad day yesterday and off to work now so will message later x

Ps I LOVE the name Henry

 

[Hann12]

Thanks Caz

Woke up to more people apparently contracting and having early labour signs at 37/38 weeks. Just annoying now, surely not everyone is going into early labour except me?! It feels like I'm the only one on target for my due date or overdue and everyone else is having stuff happening. Quite depressing! I know I should just stop reading it all if its annoying me me

 

[melissasbump]

Hann, dont let it get to you, you really dont have long now which ever way you look at it, also as you said to me, the longer they stay put with no issues the better!

H has got into a lovely habit over the last 2 weeks of sleeping in past 8am, its lovely! probably wont last. Hes still in bed now!

Docs for me today and hopefully the day i can stop my BP tablets. Im also hoping to get a referral to get a mole removed. I dont think its suspect but it changed during the pregnancy and now is just annoying me.
Boo to the rubbish weather today!

 

[Hann12]

I'm not so much bothered about going overdue - in fact the best time to have it from a Greg work and family perspective is a week late, I just don't want to go past that week late! Plus it's just irritating me that everyone thinks they are in early labour etc. they can't all be!!

Hope the doctors goes well!

 

[Hann12]

Been on my own with Annabelle since 10 and am exhausted. Didn't help that she only had a little sleep. I think my back is caving in on me! Can't wait for Greg to be back later. What a day!
Got the physio at 8am tomorrow, early rise but looking forward to getting more done.
So happy that my mum is going to be here on Sunday for next week. Can't believe how slow time goes when its just me and Annabelle now!!

 

[caz_hills]

Ah Annabelle bless her and bless you Han - it must be so tough but like Mel said its not long now.

Mel this weather has gone crap hasn't it! Cold again!

All is good here - work yesterday was excellent, I ran a conference type thing and it went well so yay! Then we ha our exam at college and today at work was fine.

I've officially put on a stone since returning to work. So I went for a run after work and Neel watched bedtime tv with Ajay. So I'm hoping to start mfp again to sort this out. I'm honestly wobbly and the heaviest I've ever been in my life - apart from pregnancy x

 

[Hann12]

You still look fab Caz! Mfp will help though if you want to lose it. I'll be joining you on it soon, although this time round I'm hoping it won't be too hard to shift the weight as if the baby is indeed bigger then I lose more weight immediately and I've only put on 22 pounds so hoping with BF I'll be back in my old clothes in a few weeks. That's the plan anyway!!
Had physio this morning and am now in worse pain, the baby also pushed against my back really badly earlier as I think it was turning which is good but it hurt so much I thought I had gone into active labour! So weird. Anyway it stopped so I'm not lol.
Got to go as apparently Skype is going on so we can do our Saturday mil Skype yawn yawn!!

 

[mummySS]

Evening all!

Goodness i'm absolutely shattered, I took Leo to softplay this morning on my own with some NCT friends, it was lovely but I'd only had about 4 hours sleep (pregnancy insomnia) so was knackering. Then this afternoon we went to buy carpets, just spent a LOAD of money on some really nice carpet for our whole upstairs. Ouch! So no nap or resting for me today...

Hope everyone else is well.

Hann ouch i'm sorry to hear the physio didn't help Glad you got through yesterday with Annabelle, and now greg is helping and your mum will be here soon you're on the home straight!

Caz, i'm sure you don't look wobbly hun, it's amazing isn't it though how you can put on weight so easily at work, this happens to me too, i just sit at my desk and snack the whole day Anyway hopefully MFP will be successful for you - i found it brilliant last year.

Georgie sorry for all the sickness, glad you're all better now and good to have you back.

SB - yup Leo has the same sharing habits as Katie, they're all gross aren't they?! lol

Mel - wow you're so lucky with H sleeping past 8am, i hope it lasts! Well done on getting back on your bike too.

Julie hope the feeding is still going well with Vi and she is still a good baby! I was laughing at your FB post about feeding during the night. hopefully we can provide some entertainment as most of us are awake during your night time.

 

[Hann12]

With you on the insomnia Simmy - 3-4 hours last night for me too, mega annoying!!

 

[mummySS]

Omg - I just read that a woman was found underneath the rubble of the collapsed factory in Bangladesh and had given birth to a baby boy underneath all that!! Slightly puts into perspective our hopes and fears for labour Apparently the woman and baby are doing fine.

 

[caz_hills]

Blimey Han, that's scary stuff! The images from there are horrible and so frightening.

So girls, I really need some advice. Neel and I had a lovely evening last night - we ate dinner, chatted and basically started talking about having another child. We basically ended up talking about how I am only really 50:50 about having another child. We both just assumed we would always have two kids - assuming we can if you know what I mean - and right now, sometimes I (and this is really selfish) just feel so happy now, I don't want to change it. I dread the early months of no sleep, worry that we'll have a nightmare child and I find it hard as (I didn't say this to Neel) but I feel like the majority of the work is done by me. He was a bit suprised and then we had a wonderful heart-to-heart about it and said that he doesn't want to influence me. He basically said that he wants me to think and come to my conclusion first - how the hell do I do that? How did you all decide how many of have? I need some advice! xx

 

[SugarBeth]

Im not really sure how we decided how many to have. We established while dating that we were both interested in a big family. But he wanted like 8, I wanted about 4. We settled on trying to reach four and seeing how it goes after that. My absolute top is 6 though, but I think 4 will be perfect. We'll have to see when we get to that though. So far there's been no doubts that we want more.

It's not a decision you have to make right now though, could you just wait a few months or even years and come back to it later? Maybe you'll get the stirring to have another, and if you don't, then you have your answer that way too.

 

[mummySS]

I'll be honest Caz, the reason first and foremost that we wanted to /decided to have another child was to give Leo a sibling. We both grew up with a sibling and didn't want for Leo to be an only child. I didn't really do it for my benefit or to have a nice 2.4 children family - in fact I'm still a bit daunted by the prospect of having two, and having the time, energy and headspace to devote to two. But I think it'll be worth it in the long run when Leo grows up and has a sister that he is hopefully close to.

I can totally understand your reservations about having another baby, especially after what you went through last time post birth. I'm so pleased that neel is being sensible about it and not putting any pressure on you. I think you just have to weigh up what's important to you, and maybe your own health and stability is the most important thing at stake. There's no right or wrong answer - either way you have advantages and disadvantages. Plus there's nothing to say you have to decide now, it kinda sounds like you're not in the zone right now but maybe that would change in a year or few?

Xx

 

[Hann12]

I don't think you have to make a decision now, I think it sounds like one baby is what you want at the moment and you just hold fire with any thoughts if another one. If you decided later down the track to have another then hopefully you'll have no issues and it will be, but if not then you've not had to make a big decision because that's what you were aiming towards anyway. I know plenty of people who stopped at one and that was the best decision for them. It's better in my eyes to have one and be able to be happy in the rest if your life too than have more because that's what is expected and always look back and think that you have struggled with more. I know you and it will never be at the detriment to the child so don't think that, but it could be at the detriment to yourself as I know you'll want to give everything you can.
Hope that all made sense

 

[Hann12]

Oh and I should add that I really really want three children but gregs not sure on the 3rd - for no reason except money. So I may have to stop at 2 which breaks my heart but I know that if we have to stop at two then its the right decision in the long run. Thankfully we don't have to decide yet though!!

 

[melissasbump]

Caz, we have decided on two and we wont be having any more now, Its obviously a very individual decision though. Our reasons are similar to Simmy in that we didnt want Harrison to be an only child and that they would grow up together, hopefully getting on and be there for each other throughout their lives. Two is also ok financially for us, and we will be able to provide for them comfortably, i think with 3 we would be stretching it.
Dont get me wrong, having them this close in age is bloody hard work and im still wondering how il cope when Alan goes back to work next week, its probably the hardest age as if they were closer in age H wouldnt understand so much but if the age gap was larger at least he would be more self sufficient, hes obviously still a baby himself bless him. If you are happy as you are then no need to rush it, when/if the time is right for you, you will know. x

 

[Hann12]

Wow you still have Alan at home? You're so lucky! I think Greg will be able to take 3 weeks but that's the maximum - and even that I thought was pretty good as most men are only off for 2 weeks standard paternity leave.