Beach Bump Graduates!

[mummySS]

Hann, i hope little Annabelle slept a little more after your post! How's the routine going today? I'm *sort of* giving it a try today... He hasn't stuck to the sleeping (i think leo just generally sleeps less - he all but skipped the 11am nap). And i'm doing a lot of it the wrong way round (eg play then feed then sleep). BUT... what really helps is having a vague guidance of how much time to spend on each thing. Let's see!

BV poor jillian - hope she managed to sleep loads. I couldnt survive without coffee either!

Freckles you must have been mega worried with the blood, i would have been too. Glad it wasnt anything bad.

Jen - what kind of work do you do? Sounds intriguing!

 

[Hann12]

Hi sorry I've not read all the posts yet - hope everyone is okay though

Simmy - the routine has gone a bit looser today because I had to be at the baby clinic at 9.30 and then at the Doctors at 10.45 so I wasn't able to do exact timings but thats to be expected really if you want to have some kind of life! She is asleep now though. I'm still demand feeding and she has fed a lot today. I think that the routine is useful to know how long you should be spending on each thing, thats kind of what I am using it for, that and to make sure I'm not making her over tired. I think I did that a lot before.
Hope it works for you!
I will be trying the bed time routine again tonight so hoping it works a bit better. - she did end up sleeping 4-6 but then wouldn't go back to sleep so I have been up since 6. I culd be napping now but the plumber is meant to be coming and I know that as soon as my head hits the pillow he will arrive!

I had her weighed this morning and she is now a huge 9 pounds 4!! She is following the 25 percentile line but her length and head size are both 50th percentile. I think she will be tall like her mummy and daddy! Hopefully she hasn't inherited Gregs big head!!
MIL is on her way so should be here in about an hour. I am going to do my best to be very nice to her and not get annoyed. Fingers crossed I manage! She is here for less than 24 hours so I'm sure I can cope.

Hope everyone else is well. Just read over the posts....

Bec - hope Elliot is okay, I would have been scared at the blood too but its good to know thats fine. If it ever happens at least I won't totally panic so thank you for sharing.

BV - glad the shots went well! Brave little Jill I'm glad you have been able to get out and meet some people. I am doing the same. I signed up to another post natal group thats every week starting this monday for 4 weeks. I will meet some more local mums so think it will be good. I'll be able to extend my friend circle here because at the moment I only have 4 local friends. I also signed up to an exercise class in september thats 6 weeks long (once a week) for post natal mums and you can bring your baby with you. Again I though it will help me meet people plus I can get some exercise!

Jenni - sorry you have to work again so soon its good that its from home though. I can work from home once a week normally.

Caz - yay for Ajay and the sleep and cute cuddles! I was going to ask you about work. I remember you work in HR - what kind of company? Are you going back? If yes when? I think I'm going back in August next year, not that I want to now! I just sent off for information on the day nursery next door, its £80 per day! Its going to cost me around £1300 a month to have her in nursery for 4 days a week! I need to have baby number 2 so that I can give up work - there is no way I'd pay £2600 a month for two of them. Who knew childcare could cost so much!!

 

[DragonMummy]

Hann can you and hubby get childcare vouchers from work? They save a lot of money.

 

[Hann12]

Yes I can - how do they work though? I have no idea!!

 

[DragonMummy]

Am so angry and upset. I've been on Dianette for a week now, and have noticed over the past couple of days that my milk isn't as abundant so I Googled it, just to rule it out. Apparently not only does it DIRECTLY affect lactation but could potentially HARM Sophie. I just assumed it was safe to take as he specifically ASKED me if I was still BF. It was my post natal check ffs! Just seen a pharmacist. I've got to dump all the milk in the freezer (explains why Ive only been getting 4oz for the last couple of days) and pump as much as I can to get my supply back up. Obviously I also have to go and see my gp tomorrow (not the fat miserable incompetant bellend i saw last week) and get some new contraception for now. I feel so stupid because I KNOW that you shoukdnt take the combined pill while bf'ing but I just assumed this brand must be ok as we had literally just been discussing how I was getting on with BF!

 

[DragonMummy]

Yes I can - how do they work though? I have no idea!!

basically you buy them from your wages before you've paid tax and NI. If you use the full allowance each it saves you about £200 a month. You dont really see the saving but it's £500 you and hubby arent having to pay tax etc on!

 

[Hann12]

That's terrible! Some gps are totally incompetent! How annoying about the frozen milk too. At least you found out now so hopefully it won't be in your system too much. I think the pill takes a couple of weeks to get going. Hope Soph is okay

 

[Hann12]

Yes I can - how do they work though? I have no idea!!

basically you buy them from your wages before you've paid tax and NI. If you use the full allowance each it saves you about £200 a month. You dont really see the saving but it's £500 you and hubby arent having to pay tax etc on!

Oh I see - that's great, I'll look into it more. Thank you!

 

[caz_hills]

Linds that is terrible! We have to be able to trust the doctors and for them to do that is awful. Feel so bad for you. Hope you manage to sort it out tomorrow. xx

 

[DragonMummy]

Well tonight I am going to pump and dump, try and get my supplies going again. I just pumped and only managed to get 2oz off both boobs. I can normally get 4oz off of one in the evenings, 6oz in the morning! For the last couple of nights Soph has been restless and fussy, The poor bugger must have just been hungry. I had 20oz of milk in the freezer, that's all been ditched. Start again tomorrow. Even the fact that the bloody freezer bags are so expensive is annoying, not to mention that this has buggered up her sleeping through so today I am ruined (coupled with Harry waking up in the night and husband snoring so loudly that I actually have grounds for divorce)

 

[DragonMummy]

Hey, i got a message from Britt wanting to pass thanks to anyone who donated money. No update on her or kinley. but she did send a pic and asked us to keep her little girl in our thoughts and prayers

https://i30.photobucket.com/albums/c306/lefunch/untitled-9.jpg

 

[kelzyboo]

Beautiful, adorable little girl! I'm praying for all of them xx

 

[mummySS]

Thanks for the update linds - and Britt if you happen to be reading. Kinley is gorgeous. Am still thinking about her loads.

DM - sorry to hear about the pill fiasco - outrageous behaviour from your gp!

Hope everyone is well today. Leo's been a delight today compared to yesterday, FX it lasts! Bless him, I went to an NCT girls meet up and he was the best behaved baby there (not that it's a competition of course - christ we all have our moments!). I'm so pleased the meet up wasn't yesterday, i'd have had a mare!

Off back to the old hood Ealing tomorrow to register the boy's birth. Am quite excited actually!

 

[Hann12]

Thanks for the update linds, what a gorgeous girl and still thinking of them.

Simmy - glad you had fun today! Annabelle was the worst behaved baby at nct so I am envious! Enjoy registering the birth! Remember to get a few copies!

Husband rant:
Okay so my routine was messed up because mil is here and I felt bad taking annabelle off at 7 for bed so I kept her out until 8 and then she wouldn't settle as she was over tired until 9. Then I thought I'd just leave her to sleep through and try again but Greg was insistent I should wake her up and feed her. So I stayed up Iuntil 11 and fed her but she was so sleepy she barely took anything (prob about 2 ounces I reckon). So she started stirring at 2.15am and normally she does this but if left can fall asleep again however Greg gets up and uses the toilet then comes back in the bedroom and starts going on about whether he should go in the other room for the rest of the night and how he feels bad leaving. Well he goes in the other room every night when she wakes up so there really is no need fir this 'shall I go, I feel guilty etc' like he should just go!! So by the time he has done all this she of course is wide awake and screaming and I have to get her up and feed her which is totally annoying because that means her 'long stretch' of sleep has only lasted 3 hours 15 minutes when it was lasting between 5-6 hours before I started the routine. I am annoyed with Greg for making the noise even though she may have woken anyway but it's just infuriated me because he was going to go anyway! In my head I was screaming 'for ****'s sake just go!!' and now I'm really fed up because she will be up again now before 7am because she has woken up so early!

So now my question is do I abandontje routine in favour for having her sleep longer at night so that she goes back to her 5/6 hour stretches? Or do I pereservere on the basis that it should improve on this schedule?

 

[Hann12]

So annoyed i am still up, I can't settle annabelle and am feeling even more resentful! She is now back on me trying to feed. She has spent the past hour just going on and off falling asleep then waking up etc. Just wish she would either eat or sleep so I can get back to bed! I know it's not her fault but I am so tired and just want to get back to sleep! Part of me just wants to take her into Greg and tell him to sort her out as he woke her in the first place but I know I can't and I'm just being moody.

Ughh bad night for me!!!!!

 

[Clareabell]

Beautiful picture of Kinley gorgeous girl

Hann - To me the most important thing would be longer periods of sleeping at night time, for sanity reasons but would keep bedtime routine loosley.

As you can see I'm up both N and D are asleep but I feel so rough! Ate dinner late and is majorly repeating on me, it's like being in third tri again

 

[mummySS]

Hann sorry to hear you are having a bad night (and you too Claire!). In the middle of the night everything is so much worse as well. Paul and I get really cranky with each other at night. If A was sleeping better without the routine maybe it's best to stick to what she was doing before - babies often find their own routine. But if you want her to shift to specific timings it will prob take some perseverance, especially as she's still quite young. In my current zombie state I'd probably choose the 5/6 hour stretch of sleep

 

[Hann12]

Thanks Claire and Simmy, I think I have reached the same conclusion and will go back towhat I did previously I.e. Let her dictate her bedtime and not wake for the feed. I am still going to do the nap, feed then playing approach with her for the day but have her dictate the timing on that rather than me. I think trying the routine has given me a good idea of how much sleep she needs and how much playtime but is probably too rigid.
I think that's what some of you said at the start ha ha oh well it was worth the try anyway! And I feel more confident that I know what I need to so there has been some good lessons learnt!

Claire - hope you feel better, so annoying for you!

Simmy - hope you have managed not to kill Paul! I am a lot happier now so Greg is off the hook. When A woke up she was all cute an smiley so I could hardly be in a mood still!!

 

[mummySS]

Haha that's it, when they give you a massive smile in the morning you just melt and all is forgotten!

Lol no I didn't kill Paul Although we have been really narky with each other lately. It's the lack of sleep for sure - we even realise it as we're arguing so will always apologise to each other later. It's like a daily ritual now! Lol.

 

[caz_hills]

Simmy - same here with me and Neel. We get up with best intentions, nit pick at each other and then apoogise, same every day too. He is on holiday this week and I think it's actually worse (!) when he is off as we are in each others pockets as we're both at home. But have loved having him off work as it's great to have him to help and spend time with Ajay.

Linds - thanks for posting the photo from Britt. Britt - thinking of you. xx

Hann - hope you and Greg are ok this morning. Such a shame you had a bad night and how annoying that he woke her up! The smiles just melt you and how can you be angry with the little ones, but you can def by angry with hubbies!!!! I would prefer the sleep over routine to be honest, but it could work out that the routine is better in the long run but who knows????!!!! It's all trial and error.

Clare - hope you're feeling better.

AFM - ok night with Ajay. He slept his longest from 10 pm - 4 am and then woke for a feed. I woke naturally at 4 am and came downstairs to find Neel ironing and Ajay stirring! Sent Neel off to bed and I fed him but he has been a pickle ever since and falls asleep, wakes up, falls asleep etc so I've only managed another 1/2 hour sleep. Never mind, it's enough.

Am with my Mum now for two days which is lovely as Neel is away so Grannie time and she is fantastic so know we're going to have a great time plus she will help out lots too.