Beach Bump Graduates!

[Blue_bear]

J had his jabs today and is being super grizzly now hubby at work till very late so im gonna have to sit this one out alone!

 

[Clareabell]

Calpol Georgie, great form of sedation Niamh slept like a trooper the night of her jabs after having it.

 

[Hann12]

I should have bought some calpol - would try anything now!! She was stillscreamingso I put her in the bath at 6.15 and got 10 mins of peace as she loves water. By this point I was in tears and feeling really awful, she was also in tears! Out of the bath she screamed until I fed her. Then fell asleep feeding her, woke up at 7.20 and swaddled, winded and put her into bed. Managed to get back to the kitchen before the crying commenced. I left it 3 minutes and she didn't settle so I am now feeding her again. She is gulping it down. I'm hoping after this she falls asleep.

I have never felt so utterly helpless! To try everything and have her still cry uncontrollably is sole destroying! I had 2 minutes on the phone to Greg and told him that I didn't care if he had to work tomorrow because by the time he gets in tonight if she is still crying he will just have to do his bit as white honestly I don't know what more I can do!
It also annoys me because he has no idea what it's like to have hours and hours of constant crying. The most he has experienced is 1.5 hours when he then handed her back to me to feed.
It's also really bad that it's made me grumpy with him for having a stupid work drinks thing tonight so he can't be home to help me, which I unfair as that's not his fault.

Fi and curlew - how are you getting on? Are yours in bed yet?

 

[Blue_bear]

He had some earlier, dont know if it has worn off but he is really unsettled now. hopefully he will go to sleep soon!

 

[melissasbump]

Evening all.

Have been reading but forgotten some of it so apologise in advance, im so tired!

Linds, thanks for the update on Britt and her little girl, still thinking of them both.

Fifi, so sorry things are tough right now, i dont have much suggestion other than what i think Hann said, we use Dentinox and it really helps bring up the wind.

Hann, sounds like a really tough night for you too! Sounds like Annabelle may be having a growth spurt? is there any chance of Greg coming home early to help you? you must be exausted. I dont really have any other suggestions im afraid, im not much help am i!
Harrison loves the bath too, its my favourite time of day,, he had one with Alan tonight and you could just tell he was loving it.

Georgie, glad you got through the jabs day, im dreading it already and ours isnt till the 19th!

i almost feel guilty for saying this but Harrison is sleeping really well at the mo, hes done 7 1/2 hours from 1015pm to 545am the last two nights, touch wood it lasts although im fully aware this may just be a flash in the pan
Although now im a bit unsure about how to drop a feed once he starts going slightly longer, do i drop the amount of feeds but increase the amount of milk or do i keep the same amount of feeds but just move the timings?

Well yesterday me and Alan went and saw the wizard of oz at the london paladium, it was great and thr kids in the audience were loving it, i cant wait to take Harrison to things like that! We had great seats 3 rows from the front too.
Today Alan had to go back to work, first time since the birth so that was tough for all of us, we have had it too good! I went to Lakeside with my parents so the realisztion of being on my own hasnt hit yet, maybe it will tomorrow!

Oh another thing.. we were very silly last night, we DTD and didnt use anything.. i havent had a period yet since the pregnancy.. is there any chance i could get pregnant? It was a stupid thing to do, im really hoping that ive got away with it....

 

[Hann12]

Thanks Mel! She has been asleep since 8.25 and I am not doing the wake for 11 feed tonight. Going to bed myself soon. Greg still out but should be home around 11/12 and I've told him I might need him to help out tonight if she is difficult. I hope she isn't though.

As for the could you get pregnant - yes of course! I got my AF yesterday and when you BF that's so unusual that this time but apparently if your body feels ready it can just start ov again! Chances are you will be fine though.... Keep us posted!!

Thanks to everyone for all your kind words and support today, it has been without a doubt the hardest day so far for me!

 

[fifi-folle]

thanks for your support today. I just wish I knew why he cried so much. Was speaking to a friend and she was saying infacol can actually make reflux worse, certainly fits with timing of it all getting worse.
Hann, no Cam isn't in bed yet, heading there soon
Hope everyone is having a better evening x

 

[mummySS]

Hann glad she is finally sleeping, soz I would have commented earlier bit must have missed your post. I hate those days where they cry and cry and you just can't settle them.

Fi, hope Cameron settles too.

Mel - glad you had a great time at wizard of Oz - and good luck for tomorrow on your own - I'm sure you'll do great! Don't feel guilty about H sleeping though but do consider yourself very lucky! Am so jealous!

 

[DragonMummy]

Sophie rarely sleeps in the afternoon. She's like a teenager. She sleeps all morning, is grumpy all day and happy at night!

Fi does feeding calm him down? Is he definately getting enough?

 

[Jenni4]

Hi!! Well it looks like it has been a rough couple of days for a few of us!! so sorry to hear about the troubles....I thought it was only my baby....at least we all have company during the rough patches. Max didn't sleep last night, or tonight. It's 4am and he is wide awake! I got about 3hours sleep last night, went to work today for 9 hours! So much for a short first day!! And of course he slept all day and everyone said....ahhh what a nice baby....he just sleeps.... Grrrrr.... Of course he's f'ing sleeping!! He was up all freaking night!! And now another bad night and work again tomorrow!!! CRAZY!!! I'm at the point where i have had so much caffeine that i am no longer feeling sleep deprived... Just a tad mental! I just have to keep telling myself that this is just a phase....and I'm bummed because with such a busy day I didn't get to do my p90x....very disappointed....but, a positive note, I was so busy I hardly ate! I figure it's a wash! Okay....well, hope you are all fairing better than me in the sleep department! Goodnight!

 

[mummySS]

Wow Jenni 9 hours at work is hardcore! Aww little max has gone all nocturnal, I hope he shifts his pattern soon. But then how would you manage to work with an awake baby? Really hope you manage some more sleep tonight.

Btw what is p90x ???

 

[curlew]

hann and fi - hope u r both managiung to get some rest.

bb - poor Joshua hope he recovers from his jabs soon. Logans aren't until the 13th aqnd DH came home tonight and announced he has put in for a course in York which is on the 13th so he will be staying away on the 12th and 13th - couldn't believe he had forgotten

Mel - glad you had a nice day out with your parents.

Doodles - hope Naomi is okay after her jabs.

Jenni - 9 hours at work wow that's a lot especially when you are so sleep deproved and have Audrey to look after too. Hope you get some better rest tonight.

AFM - Logan settled after his bath but there again no suprise as he did the most humungous poo in the bath Joshua fortunately had been mucking around getting ready for his bath and hadn't got in yet for once I was glad of his procrastination!!

 

[Hann12]

Curlew that is so funny! Sorry for the tmi but when a baby poops in the bath is it liquidy or does something solid come out? I don't know what to expect!

Jenni that is rough! You must be shattered, I'm thinking of you and hope you get some rest. Do you have to work weekends or are you at least able to get a break then? Is you DH helping you out or is he away again?

AFM - Annabelle slept from 8.15 - 12.30 when she started her in sleep straining which went on until 2.15 - technically she was still asleep for it - it was just me that was actually awake. In the end I picked her up and wiggled her legs and she passed wind about 5 times. After that she just sat looking at me giving me some of her biggest smiles. The wind must have been causing her a lot of pain and she was so happy it was out. To be honest they were huge farts - if I released them I reckon I would have had bad trapped wind so she must have been really uncomfy. Now i'm just topping up her feed before she sleeps again, though I know there will be less sleep for the second part of the night. Nearly the weekend.....

 

[Sherri81]

I've been reading everything, just finding it hard to post with the schedule we're keeping.

I wish I could help people with their feeding/sleeping/scheduling issues, but since we can't get on one here I don't see how I could possibly help.

So no, things aren't much better here. I'm lucky if I'm dressed by 1PM or so. I try to get the two kids together before then, but I'm a whole other story.

I don't know what to do really, with Colby. Greg came home on a 4 hour schedule. He ate at 8, 12, 4, 8, 12, 4... Basically, we fed him upon waking him, which was what we were taught to do (in answer to some of the questions about when to feed them). Now, Greg and Colby are the same for eating. They both take an hour. So we gave him a bottle, played a bit, then I would put him down and he'd go to sleep until his next feed. If he wasn't settling when he was a bit older, I would just put him on a blanket with some toys and go do what I needed to do (shower, laundry, dishes etc). I would just move his blanket to whatever part of the house I was in at the time. When he fell asleep, I would put him in his bassinet or crib. He went into his crib at about 4 months corrected age, basically when he was too big for the bassinet.

Colby, well... he takes an hour to eat. Then I usually have to do a pumping session, which could last for 45 minutes to pump out. Usually he won't settle between feeds, so I have to listen to him screaming the entire time I'm pumping. I can't just put him on the floor on a blanket, because of the dog. So he has to be in his swing or his bassinet. So I listen to him screaming the entire time I'm pumping. Then, when I'm done, I usually have to hold him to calm him because I can't stand the screaming anymore. If I'm lucky, he will settle and fall asleep and I can put him down after about 40 minutes. Most times he won't settle and I end up holding him til his next feed.

It really depends on my mindset and how much sleep I've had as to how much gets done around the house. If I've had some sleep, then I can handle listening to him scream it out a bit, and I'll sneak off to have a shower and do dishes etc... Other days, I just can't stand listening to it, so dishes, laundry, showering etc... doesn't get done. And since I won't leave the house unless I've had a shower to wash the sick and the poop off of me, then most days we don't leave the house...

Its a bit of a vicious cycle really...

The only thing that is sort of scheduled, is his feeding. He is still doing bottles; about 60/40, FF and EBM. We haven't found a good formula for him yet though. We were suggested Alimentum, but it was sooo expensive and only available in little pre mixed cans, which I don't like. So we found the same sort, but by Enfamil, called Nutramigen. I don't know if its doing any good though. He still cres and is fussy, but now, he has diarrhea every day. And when I say diarrhea, I mean it is all watery, and sour smelling. There is nothing even sort of solid about it. The smell makes me want to gag and I have to cover my nose, and I have worked in some bad smelling places... So that is saying alot... I'm starting to wonder if there is no milk allergy, as when we've tried him on regular formulas, he is still just as fussy, but his poops are more solid. So I don't really know what to do about that...

Anyways, he feeds on a 4 hour schedule, just like Greg. Mainly because he doesn't like to eat, so he isn't usually too bothered about feeding... Well, I shouldn't say that. He will wake and scream for food... gulp back 1 ounce, and then fall asleep and want nothing more.

This is one of the reasons why we can't go for more than 4 hours, if we're lucky, at night. He sometimes only takes 2 or 3 ounces at his 12AM feed. Well, there is no way he can go the entire night on 3 ounces. So he wakes again between 3 and 4, if we're lucky... sometimes 2:30, and he will take another 2 ounces, over the course of an hour. Then he usually doesn't go right back to sleep. If I want to sleep, I usually have to sleep holding him after this feed. I want to cut this one out, but I can't do it if he won't eat.

 

[Hann12]

Oh Sherri it sounds like you have it tough! Colby is such a sweetie but he sounds like he is giving you some tough times. I hope he starts to sleep better, I was told 3 months it gets better.

Annabelle ended up being awake until 4 then slept 4-7. I'm feeding her now. I am totally exhausted, I had no idea it was possible to be this tired! I tried to wake Greg to help last night but he was sleeping so deeply then this morning he got up and left and didn't even leave me a note or text. I felt totally abandoned and like he has no clue how exhausted I'm feeling! I just spoke to him and he just says he'll do loads tonight but I know that won't happen as I have to get up a feed and he sleeps through her crying because apparently he is so tired!! He has no idea.....
It's so hard not to be grumpy with him!
Feeling pretty low today from the tiredness

 

[BlueViolet]

Hann, big !I hope A takes some naps today. Sounds like your husband needs to help out loads this weekend to make up for the last few days.

Fifi, I can totally relate feeling like your sanity is slipping away due to all the crying. Jill won't nap during the day except on me and the scream fests are killer. Sometimes the only thing that helps is walking around with her while bouncing her slightly...tough to keep it up indefinitely. Hang in there! That growth spurt is awful!

Sherri, sounds like you have it so tough this second time around and now you have Greg to take care of too. You must be so exhausted.

Curlew, it's funny about the bath poo. We always fear it's going to happen.

Jenni, big to you too. Being expected to work 9hrs on so little sleep is inhumane. Hope you catch a break soon!

Mel, glad H is doing so well!

DM, Jill has a similar schedule to Sophie's. So tough to get anything done.

I'm hanging in there. Some days are better than others. My parents and my uncle are visiting. Normally I'd go nuts cleaning before they come, but I've given up...whatever gets done gets done. Also, in order to schedule Jill's baptism, the minister wants to do a house visit to meet with us. Ugh! I hate the thought of not having time to get things in proper order.

On top of it, the weekend after this one we have a house guest - my husband's college friend who I can't deal with most days. This is going to be after I'll be getting my other wisdom tooth out. Grrr!!!! I don't know how I agreed to it. But hey, if he wants to subject his friend to my hormones and shot nerves, bring it on! I think I am totally going to flip out if they don't clean up after themselves. Normally they drink and I deal with the clean-up, but not this time. I'm putting my foot down.

Meanwhile, my MIL has offered to help once again. I don't know what to do...whether to take her up on it or let it go. By help she means holding the baby while I get stuff done around the house. It's tempting, but I usually stress about her visits and try to clean up before she shows up. Then I feel like I have to entertain her. Perhaps I need to figure out a way to relax. She knows I'm human and she has been very supportive since Jill was born. She also offered to have me go to her house and take a break. Maybe I should try it one day. I just feel like it might be more trouble than it's worth. I don't know why I'm so reluctant. I should be jumping for joy that I'd be getting some relief. I'm going to blame it on hormones like I do everything else. Perfect excuse!

 

[melissasbump]

Morning all

Hann, sounds like Greg needs to pull his finger out, maybe you should sit him down and have a serious chat about how difficult you are finding things and that you need his help more, i know he works hard but that doesnt mean he shouldnt help you out. Hope today is a better day for you and you manage some rest

Sherri, i so feel for you, Colby sounds the total opposite of Greg, i really hope things improve for you soon

Curlew, Logan pooing in thr bath made me laugh, bless him!

Jenni, i have NO IDEA how you managed 9 hours at work especially on so little sleep! I hope Max sorts his day from his night real soon

Fifi, hope you are feeling better today.

AFM, Well my bubble burst last night! Harrison slept from 1030 till 3am then woke up and was so wide awake and hungry, i ended up feeding him at 4am, (we have been going till 545am lately) and he took ages to settle after that, then Alan got up at 530am so that woke me again.I thinkHarrison has hit his growth spurt as he was wide awake wanting more food at 7am. Im shattered on the upside though ive managed to get showered, both of us dressed, washing and bottles on.
My friend and her baby are coming for lunch so that will be nice. Hope everyone has a better day today xx

 

[caz_hills]

Hi everyone,

sorry being mia recently. I'm with my mum and have been reading but not had time to post, plus Internet is really slow right now!

Sherri - sounds like a tough situation. I feel for you. Hope your day is going ok.

Mel - I think Harrison is a good boy still, his sleeping is quite good still! Hope you are not too tired today.

Jenni - you are superwoman! I don't know how you work such a long day on such little sleep!

Curlew - yuk on the poo in the bath!

Sorry I know I have missed people - it's not intentional but I am on iPhone and can't read previous pages!!

AFM - ajay was good last night slept from 9.15-3 and then 4.15-6.45 so not bad. Mum bless her got up with me for the night feed so it was nice to have company. We have been on two long walks in the lovely weather and also round the shops. Ajay slept for three hours while we shopped so we had anlovely uniterupted lunch, what a good boy! I hope he behaves well tonight.

 

[fifi-folle]

slightly better day today, went out and about as soon as we were up and fed and he slep in the sling for almost 2hrs, this led to generally happier baby. Couldn;t get hv spoke to someone in Boots who suggested colocynth granules (homeopathic) which we are trying. Had a nap together which was nice now dh is taking us out for dinner for surviving this week!

 

[Blue_bear]

glad youve had a better day Fi!