Breastfeeding Support - 6 months and beyond!

[Dragonfly]

I havnt ever had a genuine reason why someone couldnt breastfeed its always they dodnt want to. Here my heart goes out to woman that tried but I never seem to meet them in my dailiy.
My aunt: ewww I coudlnt do that formula is the same and my kids are ok

My friend: ewww yuk how can you do that ? I want to keep my social life I like drinking and thats just not for me.

Friend: The nhs are talking crap they just dont want you to take the free formula in the hospital

handful of other poeple: why didnt you just give him a bottle to give you a rest , we used it and our children are fine.

friends on facebook: oh its all hype this breastfeeding formula is actually better with more vitimins init and breast feeders look down on formula mums

doc: you need to stop breastfeeding to get a life.

HV: your milk is no good after 6 months, still says it, then when I said I was pregnant , you need to stop breastfeeding now.

Mum: well formula was good enough for all you lot

Doc in hospital from zimbabwa: OMG !!!< yep her reply (without even asking what age my son was so it wasnt the shock of his age) then followed by "why didnt you ever give him a bottle?" followed by me feeling like I had wronged my son in some way.




oh then the endless questions on why I bother from strangers, countless shocked faces and not in a good way either. And why is formula on sale if its not good for babies then asking me to explain the difference when I really dont care about formula, sorry but I choose to feed my baby with my milk its not a statement of rebellion or saying formula is crap its my choice the same way as they expect their choice of formula to be viewed.

My aunt dosnt have any contact with me what so ever, sick of her mumbling on about how her kids are fine on formula though I have never answered her when she said that ever, i think she left as she was offended.

The only place I met nice poeple was anti natel clinic about it, they all want to have a look at william in the waiting room when they hear I am still breastfeeding him. Or have seen him and are near stealing him. I dont think i should be awarded medals for feeding my baby in that way, i dont look for glorification or a pat on the back but i do not ask for negative comments which is all I seem to get.

There was a girl in the waiting room that was far older than william with a bottle and a dummy and william has never had any of that, she freaked when it was taken off her but when William seen that he kept making sure that baby didnt forget her bottle but she was snapping it off him.

anyway there have been more than enough times i have been accused of being higher than someone for how they feed when all I was trying to do was post info to new mums about breastfeeding, I have since given up on that as I am sick of rowing with mums on facebook who have older children who call everything I post a load of crap and how they are sick of breatsfeeding mums with info, they know it all apparently so why post it (ie not allowed to let any one else know).

 

[Eve]

Might not sound that nice, but as far as Im concerned its the ones who say they are sick of breastfeeding moms and facts are the same ones who feel like shit for not bfing their baby or feel guilty because they gave up too soon etc... which there is no point in being bitter... I mean my mom used to always say to me, you made your bed, now you lay in it.

 

[Eve]

Mum2J&K- While I agree that this mother should follow guidelines, I truly think she is just listening to her doctors advice. I was also told I could start solids with Emma around 3 months but I knew better and actually laughed in the doctors face and told her that wouldn't be happening. It sounds like this woman just honestly doesn't know the guidelines. I've seen it time and again on FB too about women weaning too early but I just keep quiet because it's not my place I guess. I hate to be confrontational with people. Good for you for standing your ground and telling her your opinion! I have a feeling it won't go over well though.

I, too, hate seeing people just act like breastfeeding is no big deal or give out random excuses to why they didn't breastfeed. I know some women genuinely try and have issues and I really feel bad about that but i've heard just about every excuse in the book now and it's a shame really. I get a twinge of sadness when I'm out in public and see someone mixing a bottle of formula. I know thats so judgemental of me but it's just my first gut reaction. Than I realize it's their choice and I don't know their story so I'm awful for even thinking such things.

I just wish doctors werent so stupid too. It bothers me to know that baby will probably end up with stomach problems because of it....

I feel the same way.... I cant help it. I also feel like that with the CIO methods etc... too.

 

[Dragonfly]

I wish I was raised differently for its caused problems in my life today how my parents done things.

 

[Eve]

Same here... I find myself being affected by my father's actions as a little one...

 

[spidey]

My doctor asked if I was feeding Kira solids at the 3 month checkup and I said no. My doctor is actually really good because she never tells me I should be doing something. She just asks an open ended question and I answer it, and she never judges me either BUT... I have a friend who started giving her LO solids at 3 months because her doctor said it was okay. Most people take their doctors advice very seriously.

 

[Dragonfly]

I know a girl who was feeding solids at 3 weeks old! she was in chemist, she isnt wise in the head but had the baby with her and was getting jarred food and one of the girls asked her was it for her baby and she said yeah , baby hungry! I feel sorry for that baby as some of her kids where taken away and her boyfriend is a rapist pedo but i wont go into that apart from my heart bleeds for it already. She shouldnt be allowed kids really she was shouting it all around what she was doing, always does with her business. Even my mum was horrified.

 

[Eve]

My doctor asked if I was feeding Kira solids at the 3 month checkup and I said no. My doctor is actually really good because she never tells me I should be doing something. She just asks an open ended question and I answer it, and she never judges me either BUT... I have a friend who started giving her LO solids at 3 months because her doctor said it was okay. Most people take their doctors advice very seriously.

Sounds like you have a pretty good doctor! Mine is like that, well he is all for how I do things which makes me feel good

I know a girl who was feeding solids at 3 weeks old! she was in chemist, she isnt wise in the head but had the baby with her and was getting jarred food and one of the girls asked her was it for her baby and she said yeah , baby hungry! I feel sorry for that baby as some of her kids where taken away and her boyfriend is a rapist pedo but i wont go into that apart from my heart bleeds for it already. She shouldnt be allowed kids really she was shouting it all around what she was doing, always does with her business. Even my mum was horrified.

OMG.... She sounds like a moron! Wow... makes me sick!

 

[AnnaBanana9]

 

[jms895]

I was thinking the same

 

[celine]

I have a friend on fb who bfs and she started her daughter on solids at 12 weeks! I was shocked but she claims her doc said it was ok, my other friend who also bfs started her lo on solids at 13 weeks - whcih now makes sence to me as when i visited her in South Africa her daughter is younger than my son and they are 6 weeks apart, she was HUGE just about double the weight of my son and wasnt even 4 weeks old and my son was about 6 months but not yet on solids at all cos we were travelling (dont get me started on what ppl said about THAT! - but in Holland I asked the doc and they said it was fine as we were returned when my son was almost 7 months and we could start solids then)

Alos I have a friend who did bf and said to me my milks no good after 6 months (in fact she gasped in shock that my son was surviving on my milk at all) anyway I took my son swimming and asked if she does too, and she said no some of the pool are so gross, last times she went her son got an ear infection and I wanted to say well maybe he if he was breastfed for longer you wouldnt have had that as Gabriel goes swimming every week and is fine hehe

 

[Dragonfly]

seen in another thread here a baby died from ready brek, was 3 months old and fed smash and gravy and ready brek. Sad but some parents have no clue and that should not have been given to a 9 week old!

anyway i think one of my boobs has went to collostrum? william gags when i give him the left one and will take from right one?

 

[jms895]

Smash and Gravy

 

[Eve]

Oh wow! Such a shame

 

[Eve]

I have a friend on fb who bfs and she started her daughter on solids at 12 weeks! I was shocked but she claims her doc said it was ok, my other friend who also bfs started her lo on solids at 13 weeks - whcih now makes sence to me as when i visited her in South Africa her daughter is younger than my son and they are 6 weeks apart, she was HUGE just about double the weight of my son and wasnt even 4 weeks old and my son was about 6 months but not yet on solids at all cos we were travelling (dont get me started on what ppl said about THAT! - but in Holland I asked the doc and they said it was fine as we were returned when my son was almost 7 months and we could start solids then)

Alos I have a friend who did bf and said to me my milks no good after 6 months (in fact she gasped in shock that my son was surviving on my milk at all) anyway I took my son swimming and asked if she does too, and she said no some of the pool are so gross, last times she went her son got an ear infection and I wanted to say well maybe he if he was breastfed for longer you wouldnt have had that as Gabriel goes swimming every week and is fine hehe

Oh wow... I can't believe some people think that... what are their doctors thinking...?????

 

[Kaybee]

Celine - it is nice to hear a few of your friends are bf even if they are choosing to start solids really early. Not that many of my friends have babies & the ones that do FF. My sister BF and 1 of my friends did to start with but gave up when she got mastitis (sp) although she really regrets it now.

Dragonfly - that is so sad about the baby being fed solids and passing away at ONLY 9 weeks!
When is your due date? You'll be hoping the right boob keeps up the milk supply for William for a little while yet!

BTW ladies I am on FB if anyone wants to add me just send me a PM.

 

[Dragonfly]

nov 16th 9 weeks away. I hope it does then when all milk comes in and it better all come back as I read far to many saying they dont get milk etc then william is welcome to it also. I will be like a cat lying there being milked lol

 

[Eve]

nov 16th 9 weeks away. I hope it does then when all milk comes in and it better all come back as I read far to many saying they dont get milk etc then william is welcome to it also. I will be like a cat lying there being milked lol

hahaha Meow!

Really? Like, the milk doesn't come back well after the birth of the baby sometimes?

I hope it does for you! William is too much of a boob man to lose it now!

 

[Dragonfly]

I hope I have no probs! I think reading everyone's probs that couldnt breastfeed does make me paranoid.

 

[celine]

I hope I have no probs! I think reading everyone's probs that couldnt breastfeed does make me paranoid.

i think you are doing awesome - i am ttc atm and if I do get preggy I hope to follow in your footsteps
At the LLL meet last week i met a mum who has a 2 month old and a 2 year 8m old and she had taken a photo of them tandem feeding (she didnt bring it) but she has had no probs thruout the pregnancy nor now.