Breastfeeding Support - 6 months and beyond!

[Eve]

Oh I see Cleckner, maybe the 15 minutes every few days would be a good way for both of you, ease in to it lol. I am up around 6am every morning, and go to bed around 11pm. Sometimes 10pm. Mark is up around 6am too, but doesn't go to bed until around 12-1am.

 

[cleckner04]

Well I gave Emma a bath at 9, than did a massage with lotion, brushed her teeth, and put on her burn creme and wrap for her hand(she has a severe friction burn from shoving her hand under the treadmill while I was jogging if anyone didn't know). Than I shut all the lights and laid in bed with her and nursed her to sleep! She was asleep by 9:45 and I slipped outta her bed and now I'm in my own. It's so strange. But now I'm going to try to sleep. I don't know how long this will last. But so far I'd say it's a good start to a new bedtime routine! Thanks for all the advice girls!

 

[Miss_Bump]

Fingers crossed it continues to work for you and poor love with her poorly hand

 

[Seraphim]

The other night I had 2.5 hours sleep I really started to imagine in great depth what it must feeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeel like to have a baby who sleeps 12 hours straight. The best we've ever had is 10 hours, it's usually 4-6 at best. I started to wonder whether formula would have been a good price to pay for (so far) a years worth of sleep

I know the last 2-3 weeks have been abnormal, and thankfully the last couple of nights have been far more settled, but I am absolutely frazzled.

 

[AnnaBanana9]

Hope Emma's hand is on the mend! Hooray for the progress with bedtime!

Alyssa is 22 1/2 months old and I can probably count on one hand the full nights' sleep she's had... I've not had unbroken sleep of more than 5 hours since I was in 3rd trimester! Personally though, I do not feel that formula would have changed how Alyssa sleeps; she's just one of those little ones that doesn't need much. I think she would sleep just as little if she had been formula fed, and the benefits and closeness of BF are far too important to me and hubby to have gone down the formula route. Just my opinion though I do know how hard it is to not have any sleep.

xx

 

[Eve]

Well I know formula didn't help Kayleigh (I don't think she got the memo lol) we've been using some instead of cows milk where she still isn't a big eater and it's better for her than cows milk... and she still wakes (not for food, hasn't done that for a while... the odd time) but we just give her the soother and blankey and she is back out. I get where you are coming from Seraphim but sadly, probably wouldn't have helped anyway.

Yay for Emma going to sleep earlier! I hope you sleep well and enjoy your bed, your whole bed We won't be co-sleeping anymore Kay went down for a nap in our bed and I built it up around her so she couldn't roll in her sleep... it was quiet so when she woke up we go right in and get her... well she decided to be sneaky and quiet and crawled off the bed We felt so bad... but she is fine... still. I felt like such a terrible Mommy!!! She will be in her playpen in our room and then her crib soon in her own.

 

[Seraphim]

...It's not a serious dilema but I can't help but be curious about the number of FF babies who sleep through in comparison. I don't think its the milk itself at all. But regardless my grass is green enough, its just such a very different shade it seems a world away.

 

[jaybee]

That is now my new year resolution lol

I might try netmums??

xx

Have you a surestart centre close by, they we brilliant for me to begin with. Also speak to you HV they should be able to suggest some baby groups to go to.

Hope you find some Mummy Friends, mine helped so much over the last 8 months.
If we were closer I would say we should meet up. xx

 

[cleckner04]

Well, she lasted 1 hour 45 minutes before realizing I wasn't in bed with her and she came out looking for me. She saw me in my bed and came running as fast as she could, climbed in, latched on for 2 minutes and fell back asleep. But she slept much more soundly and we didn't wake up until 9. So I do feel much more rested today than I have in a while. I'll keep at it but I kinda like putting her in her own bed and her making her way back to me. She's such a big girl.

 

[Dragonfly]

upset and cant rant on facebook as OH will see it!

I am fed up of having no one to actually talk to. No friends at all they are flakey and I havnt seen my so called best mate since june! so I gave up on her as she did me after she moved away. I just want some adult convo! so some peple called down and everytime they do my oh goes out with them! he told me at 6pm he wold be home in 20 mins! nope i needed him so i could go and cook williams dinner and both kids where screaming at me and i was stressed. he didntcome in till now ! said he was playing billiards in the castle! fuck him! I wanted to go over for a look about and i wanted craic and what i get to sit here with two kids crying my eyes out because i Havant spoken to an adult other than him or rowed with my mum in ages and i am sick of looking at the bloody state of this place and clothes everywhere! he always talks over me to when i speak like i am not fucking there changing the covo i am having which was interesting just because he isnt interested in it. at this rate I will have to pay for friends or something. Or have a home start thing which my hv feels sorry for me and keeps referring me to but i am to embarrassed to admit I am a loner to her and have someone paid to come and see me. how sad would that me. A whole new person to argue about parenting styles over! so the selfish prick has gone back over to play billiards i am sat here in tears and told him to fuck off over and leave me alone i was used to it anyway! promised of this and that when he does something wrong but they never come true just all bull shit. And if William wakes and screams the place down as usual I think i will cry some more! he complains he dosnt get sleep when he dosnt realise i am awake feeding all dam night two kids! he gets pissed when i cant get to william as i wont take Alex off as he needs it more. tandum feeding is hard in bed with a big toddler.

And if i hear my dam phone tell me its low battery once more its going to die!

 

[Eve]

upset and cant rant on facebook as OH will see it!

I am fed up of having no one to actually talk to. No friends at all they are flakey and I havnt seen my so called best mate since june! so I gave up on her as she did me after she moved away. I just want some adult convo! so some peple called down and everytime they do my oh goes out with them! he told me at 6pm he wold be home in 20 mins! nope i needed him so i could go and cook williams dinner and both kids where screaming at me and i was stressed. he didntcome in till now ! said he was playing billiards in the castle! fuck him! I wanted to go over for a look about and i wanted craic and what i get to sit here with two kids crying my eyes out because i Havant spoken to an adult other than him or rowed with my mum in ages and i am sick of looking at the bloody state of this place and clothes everywhere! he always talks over me to when i speak like i am not fucking there changing the covo i am having which was interesting just because he isnt interested in it. at this rate I will have to pay for friends or something. Or have a home start thing which my hv feels sorry for me and keeps referring me to but i am to embarrassed to admit I am a loner to her and have someone paid to come and see me. how sad would that me. A whole new person to argue about parenting styles over! so the selfish prick has gone back over to play billiards i am sat here in tears and told him to fuck off over and leave me alone i was used to it anyway! promised of this and that when he does something wrong but they never come true just all bull shit. And if William wakes and screams the place down as usual I think i will cry some more! he complains he dosnt get sleep when he dosnt realise i am awake feeding all dam night two kids! he gets pissed when i cant get to william as i wont take Alex off as he needs it more. tandum feeding is hard in bed with a big toddler.

And if i hear my dam phone tell me its low battery once more its going to die!

I don't even know what to say.. I know Jake's dad felt like he should be able to go when he wanted as I would be home with him etc... and it bothered me so much! I always felt like my life was put on the back burner but his didn't change If I were closer I would so come visit you... I am a big big ocean away... Like I said before, if I am ever over there (I will be someday) I am coming with coffee or tea and we are going to enjoy ourselves... and maybe go out!

You are doing great with your kids and it's not fair of you to have to go it alone. Sometimes men can be such buggers!

 

[Eve]

Well, she lasted 1 hour 45 minutes before realizing I wasn't in bed with her and she came out looking for me. She saw me in my bed and came running as fast as she could, climbed in, latched on for 2 minutes and fell back asleep. But she slept much more soundly and we didn't wake up until 9. So I do feel much more rested today than I have in a while. I'll keep at it but I kinda like putting her in her own bed and her making her way back to me. She's such a big girl.

Awe bless her

If it helps you sleep better and her sleep better then yay, even if she sneaks back in your bed after. She sounds so darn adorable!

 

[AnnaBanana9]

Huge, huge DF.
You are doing amazing! You're my BF inspiration, that's for sure! I know it's not the same as being there face to face, but if you would like it I will PM you my mobile number so we can chat. At least we wouldn't ever argue over parenting styles! I consider you a friend, and I'm always here for you.
xxx

 

[Miss_Bump]

Sorry to hear about your situation DF I feel just the same.

I wish I were closer too and we could take the kids out for a stroll to the park

My DH is turning out to be a dick now and I wonder if I want to be with him anymore then I think about our mortgage and that me and Evie would have nowhere to go

Evie is majorly teething and had the worst night last night

When I put her down I wanted a bit of cuddle time with DH but he was tired and wanted to go to sleep. Didn't even give me a kiss goodnight. As you can imagine made me very upset and I didn't sleep until about 12 then Evie was up and down for the rest of the night and every time she stirred DH would just mumble 'for fuck sake'

He has a habit of thinking out loud when he thinks I'm not listening

For example, a while back I was chucking up in the toilet and when I finished all could hear him saying downstairs was 'un fucking believable' cos he was meant to go out and couldn't as I was ill.

Then before Xmas I suggested doing a food shop at about 7am as that as when we were all up. I wanted to avoid the rush and over heard him say 'fuck what mummy says' and I didn't hear the rest

He gets so short tempered with me and we never hug or kiss anymore.

Getting me upset thinking about it and I only have 1 mummy friend who has a 4 year old but hardly speak to her.

I hate the fact noone make the effort when you have a baby

I really know how you feel DF, I really do

 

[littlepne]

I also feel the same. We only have a few friends with babies but hardly ever see them, know a few mums but with them and with family it comes down to disagreeing with parenting styles also!

Whether it be bf, or BLW (give her some baby rice - no it tastes rank I've tried some), the fact she doesn't sleep through yet (don't think there's much I can do there) so I end up just keeping my mouth shut because it's easier.

And on a side rant - why do people seem to think that my baby wanting to be with me is a bad thing?

some more for all

 

[AnnaBanana9]

Big for everyone. So glad we have each other!
xxx

 

[cleckner04]

I also wonder why people think it's a bad thing that I always want Emma with me. I've tried to meet other military wife friends and each one I've met acts like I'm crazy because I don't WANT to get a babysitter for Emma to go out. I want to be with her all the time. I'm a SAHM for a REASON!

I'm sorry you're having troubles DF. I truly understand how it feels. Although I don't have a husband around to piss me off. I have one good friend in this area and I met her on BnB. I have tons of friends back home. But I'm stuck 1300 miles away from everything I know so I try to make the best of it. I've met about 6 other women since moving here in April and each and every one of them didn't get me at all. They didn't understand how I parent, they didn't understand my wanting to be with my daughter all the time. In the end, I deleted and blocked them all on facebook and haven't seen any of them since. One told me I'm a horrible mom and Emma is going to have problems in school because she's going to be so attached to me. Little did she know, Emma is now super independent when out in public. Attachment parenting has the opposite affect. And I told the girl this at the time and told her to read a book. She kept telling me I need to let Emma cry it out in her own bed and that I need to let her down when I had her in the carrier.

 

[TigerLady]

I don't understand why others are so judgemental of AP. If they don't want to parent that way, fine, but don't judge me for being an AP!

 

[Miss_Bump]

It's the things that people don't understand they must feel threatened and therefore attack

I'd say I'm 80% AP as I don't co sleep or babywear. I love having her with me all the time and she loves it too

I wish I did co sleep and babywear tho

Cleckner, how did emmas 2nd night go?
xx

 

[Eve]

To everyone! My OH can get in a jerky mood sometimes and it peeves me off too. Men are programmed like that I think. We are known to be hormonal, moody etc... but seriously, men are just as bad, if not... worse lol.