Breastfeeding Support - 6 months and beyond!

[cleckner04]

Ok..I'm fuming right now. I was checking out this girls facebook wall and this is her latest post and the comments that went with it. I'm not friends with her but her husband and my husband work together on the ship and she is the leader of a USS Carl Vinson wives group on facebook(my husbands ship)...So DH was talking about her husband today and I decided to have a nosy on her page. I'm so sorry I did now..

CC
I've been trying to figure out why this women was cradling her toddler the way she was...oh she's breatfeeding him.
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AB OMG lol...its just like Grown ups lol
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CC Breastfeeding* ugh I know right, he had to be over a year if not a yr and half
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AB I wonder if she still counts his age by months like in Grown Ups

How old is he?
48 months.
You mean 4 years.
Yea same thing
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LB They could be poor. In other countries, women breastfeed until the child is like 4 to 6 because food is hard to come by or too expensive.
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CC Well she is with three kids, but she obviously works in the health care industry. I'm all for breastfeeding don't get me wrong...I just don't care to see your whole boob in public..nipple included.
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CT hooray boobies! =D lmao jkjk
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MD Thats fucking horrible to breastfeed a ttoddler
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MD Unless i guess ur poor but still i breastfed my daughter for a little while but a toddler oh no no no no!!!!!
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While reading it all I just got this heated up feeling in my body because I'm so pissed off. Why is everyone so incredibly ignorant in this world? It's no wonder I have trouble finding friends that understand me. Most people my age probably think I'm disgusting!

 

[hivechild]

Cleckner, f' 'em. The only one's who suffer for their ignorance is them. Not to mention that obviously there was no boob on display until the woman had to go out of her way to nosey and try to figure out what was going on.

 

[Miss_Bump]

Cleckner I used to get so annoyed with people like that but I honestly couldn't Care less

I know it's awful that they are so ignorant and uneducated but as hivechild said, f'em lol

 

[spidey]

Cleckner- it's a shame that people have that attitude. Screw her and now you know that she wouldn't make a good friend! I just joined a local attachment parenting group on yahoo with the hopes of making some like-minded local friends for play dates etc, so perhaps they have a similar group in your area. A few of the ladies have already mentioned co-sleeping and bf toddlers in their posts, so I'm feeling good about it

 

[cleckner04]

Thanks girls! Stuff like that just completely bothers me. And now I keep checking back to see if anyone else has commented on it. I had just got done telling DH today that this girl seemed a bit stupid because she often asks girls if they want to go out and party on our wives page. And she has a six month old baby at home so it's kinda odd IMO. DH just told me it's not our kid so I shouldn't worry. And now she said this so it has my back up a bit. I kind of wish she was my 'friend' so I could say something. You guys are right though. F' her.

 

[cleckner04]

Ooo crossed posts with you spidey..You know I am to the point that I'm done trying to meet new people. I'm seriously just worn out with it. I've lived here only since April and I've already met 5 girls that ended up being complete jerks. And 1 that was amazing and we had so much in common and our kids got along well, etc...but she just moved away 2 days ago. So now I'm back to nothing. And the one that was amazing I met through BnB!! She's not even from america! I probably need to go on the hunt again with another local group but it's so hard to join a new group that's already established! I'm so shy at first. It's been amazing that I've even met as many girls as I have here, because back in Virginia I only had 5 friends and that was over a period of 5 years meeting them.

 

[hivechild]

I would totally love to hang out with you and the lovely little miss Emma is we didn't live on opposite sides of the country!

I have family (2 of OH's brothers) that live in San Diego. Maybe next time I'm out that way we can have a play date!

 

[Nimbus]

oooh, some people. Yeah it annoys me too that people can be so nosey and silly over things that really are not their business. What ever happened to mum's know best?

Still, i think my reaction may be because i've been getting some looks again whilst out and about and from my collegues. Most the time i have the strength to ignore them and get on with stuff but i've been struggling since being back full time (been off with PND). I've been told to keep going by the dr to help with bonding etc, so continue i shall!

Keep strong hun. If you can, ignore their comments and be wise and don't look at what they're saying... enjoy your nursing and remind yourself at how much your babe enjoys it - focus on that

 

[Dragonfly]

it does get to you though people acting like that even when we say ignore it but its hard when so many see breastfeeding that way.

sigh
https://www.babyandbump.com/baby-club/521692-why-do-able-bodied-mothers-decide-ff.html

 

[Leesie]

First post in this thread

Cleckner, hope you meet some like-minded mums soon. I was at my monthly LLL meeting this morning and realised how nice it is to know there's somewhere I can go and be understood and accepted even if I end up BF'ing my LO till he's 8 lol

Sorry you're having such a rough time of it re. friends, that FB exchange you posted would have had my blood boiling too

 

[lynnikins]

well it didnt even take 24 hours before MIL asked when i was weaning him and the look on her face when i said he was weaning himself when he was ready was priceless lol then she asked if it hurt lol she never got past the pain in the beginning with any of hers its like she didnt know the human body could produce milk as long as i have ??/ lol was uber funny i was trying not to laugh

 

[hivechild]

You should have said, "It doesn't hurt at all, here do you want to see for yourself?" and whipped your boob out for EJ.

 

[cleckner04]

Ooo lot's to catch up on this morning!! Okay here I go..

hivechild- That'd be awesome!! Although if I really like you, I may beg you to stay here.

Dragonfly- I think that's the worst part for me. The fact that someone would see me as disgusting for doing what is natural.

Nimbus- You keep strong too hun. Don't let those people bother you. It must be hard when colleagues don't approve because you have to see them every workday. You're doing amazing hun!!

Leesie- :wave: Welcome to our thread!! You know, I could probably search for a LLL group here. I've never really even considered it. I think I'd be really nervous to go to one. What do they do at them? Is it kind of like a playdate? How do all the kids keep occupied?

lynnikins- Your MIL sounds funny. I love the random questions some people can come out with. My FIL was SUPER curious too when Emma was a newborn. He asked a million questions about it. Wondering how I knew how much milk she was getting and shouldn't I pump it so I know what she's getting. He was constantly worried because my boobs don't come with 'ounces' on it to show how much she's getting.

 

[Miss_Bump]

Cleckner I'd love to meet with you too but I'm across the pond

Hope everyone had or is having a nice Friday

My supply is all over the place and I'm guessing it's due to the twins??

Welcome Leesie

 

[Leesie]

Leesie- :wave: Welcome to our thread!! You know, I could probably search for a LLL group here. I've never really even considered it. I think I'd be really nervous to go to one. What do they do at them? Is it kind of like a playdate? How do all the kids keep occupied?

thanks!

LLL meetings are worth looking into. I really enjoy going to mine. Usually the group leader will suggest a topic for the meeting (can be anything like NIP, weaning etc..) but usually we sit around talking about general parenting/family- related topics (not always BF'ing related) and the kiddies play and get boobies whenever they want Sounds a bit boring when I explain it like that, but I've met some really lovely ladies through LLL and it's nice to see all ages of LOs enjoying their booby milk - from newborn to 5 years old. Most of the ladies in my group are also into baby-wearing and co-sleep etc... etc... so lots to talk about and share experiences.

I was nervous the first time I went to one but I really needn't have been

 

[hivechild]

hivechild- That'd be awesome!! Although if I really like you, I may beg you to stay here.

You wouldn't have to twist my arm! I love San Diego. It's the hubby that would need convincing.

Mind you, even if you don't really like me, beg me to stay anyway to spare my poor feelings!

Leesie - Welcome to the thread! I kept meaning to go to an LLL meeting but just never made it. Luckily I have at least one friend close by who's an extended bfer and has no shame whatsoever about it! It's so nice and refreshing since everyone in the mum and baby groups I'm in seem to be big on the nursing covers and I could just never get on with one and Ronan hated it!

 

[Dragonfly]

Dragonfly- I think that's the worst part for me. The fact that someone would see me as disgusting for doing what is natural.

That annoys me also. The ignorance of it. Its the way society is now and a sad state of affairs. It dosnt take to long for someone to see through that even if your not used to seeing it, any smart person can see through that. I used to think it was gross before I had William, only because I was lead to believe it was. Didnt take long to change my mind.

 

[littlepne]

Dragonfly- I think that's the worst part for me. The fact that someone would see me as disgusting for doing what is natural.

That annoys me also. The ignorance of it. Its the way society is now and a sad state of affairs. It dosnt take to long for someone to see through that even if your not used to seeing it, any smart person can see through that. I used to think it was gross before I had William, only because I was lead to believe it was. Didnt take long to change my mind.

I'd never really thought much about it before getting pregnant. I suppose I'd just assumed I'd FF - because that's all I really knew of babies being fed! I only found out my SIL bf when I was pregnant.

If/When I get pregnant again, I want to get LO a bf doll, someone posted a link the other day to one I like. I want her to see bf as the normal way of feeding babies.

 

[spidey]

Leesie- good idea about the LLL meetings

One day I will get brave enough to try and make more mommy friends. Kira has only been around 2 other kids from 2 of my co-workers. Both were warned that I will whip out my booby whenever Kira wants it, LOL, but neither of them cared. I am shy so it'll be hard to try to get out and meet a bunch of new people for the 1st time.

Cleckner- if you ever need a place to stay if you're traveling thru Maryland, I have a room for you!

About breast feeding dolls- I have a really cute movie as me as a 2 year old... I'm carrying about my baby doll and then I lift up my shirt and hold the doll to my chest to feed it. So I knew the right way to feed babies from watching my mom feed my little brother.

 

[trynitey]

Can I join? I haven't been on these forums lately, but would like to become active again. Last time I was active was when I was in my first trimester with my son.

Tristan is now almost 7.5 months old with no signs of weaning in the near future. I'm hoping to nurse for atleast 18mos but don't really have much support in that. Everyone, even my husband, thinks I should cut him off at 12mos. Tristan is a happy healthy baby who loves breastfeeding and refuses a bottle most of the time.