Congrats Mommies! Just got my BPF yesterday. Looking for journey friends. EDD OCT 27

[Amy1123]

I get a scan everyone time i go to the specialist and I think that's every 3 weeks, I can't quite remember but they watch the growth really closely since I'm diabetic. People say babies of diabetic mothers are huge but in reality they are average of maybe 8 pounds which really isn't bad. My son was a month early and 5lbs, watch, this time I'll have a 10lber! Hahaha just kidding...I hope!
Either way they will do a c section at 38 weeks (if I make it that far)
It sort of feels like it's going faster for me now, anyone else feel like that?

 

[Amy1123]

My emotions are everywhere too!

 

[mrsholland713]

Thank you everyone for such a warm welcome! I wish I could be further along like y'all, but I agree that time moves faster after the first one. I have my first ultrasound in two weeks and I am very excited about that. I am also pretty crabby, but my worse symptom is extreme fatigue. I hope this gets better over the next weeks. Best wishes to those of you who have appointments coming up. A gender reveal at 12 weeks would be awesome- we are praying for a girl.

 

[Amy1123]

I was extremely fatigued as well but it has gotten better, thank goodness. I literally could not get myself to do anything other then care for my 18 month old

 

[flipporama1]

So is anyone having issues with your SO about baby rearing? As y'all know, this is dh's first baby and my fourth. He's terrified of me breastfeeding in public, cloth diapers, making my own baby food, not vaccinating(medical reasons) and he just doesn't get it. He has this idea that babies are all formula fed, you have to vaccinate, etc etc. He's driving me nuts and Idk what to do...

 

[nmpjcp2015]

We talked about a lot of that stuff before getting pregnant and we def have different parenting styles, but I think the key is compromise. Not making him feel like because you've already had children you know more and are "right" and he couldn't possibly know how to make the proper decisions. This will be ONGOING (like he already mentioned that he doesn't get "bed times" ---- yeah right buddy, it's lights out at 8 p.m.)

It's his child too, so he should be able to make some decisions and contribute (beyond the obvious monetary contributions).

I would say - decide what's absolutely important to you, and be willing to give on the things that are just preferences. Maybe you could cover up when breastfeeding in public or do it in the car before you go inside a restaurant. I know that with my husband showing him the cost savings of breast feeding and making my own baby food spoke volumes.

Also, I'm curious as to what medical reason you have for not vaccinating... I don't mean to spark a debate, but I've heard this a lot lately. Maybe it's not that he doesn't "get it" it's just that he doesn't agree and wants to be heard as well. GL.

 

[flipporama1]

We talked about a lot of that stuff before getting pregnant and we def have different parenting styles, but I think the key is compromise. Not making him feel like because you've already had children you know more and are "right" and he couldn't possibly know how to make the proper decisions. This will be ONGOING (like he already mentioned that he doesn't get "bed times" ---- yeah right buddy, it's lights out at 8 p.m.)

It's his child too, so he should be able to make some decisions and contribute (beyond the obvious monetary contributions).

I would say - decide what's absolutely important to you, and be willing to give on the things that are just preferences. Maybe you could cover up when breastfeeding in public or do it in the car before you go inside a restaurant. I know that with my husband showing him the cost savings of breast feeding and making my own baby food spoke volumes.

Also, I'm curious as to what medical reason you have for not vaccinating... I don't mean to spark a debate, but I've heard this a lot lately. Maybe it's not that he doesn't "get it" it's just that he doesn't agree and wants to be heard as well. GL.

I have a seizure disorder from getting a DPT shot when I was 18 months old. I've died (flat-lined) from them over 30 times in my life. Non of my children are vaccinated and their pediatrician agrees it's not safe to vaccinate them...

 

[Amy1123]

So is anyone having issues with your SO about baby rearing? As y'all know, this is dh's first baby and my fourth. He's terrified of me breastfeeding in public, cloth diapers, making my own baby food, not vaccinating(medical reasons) and he just doesn't get it. He has this idea that babies are all formula fed, you have to vaccinate, etc etc. He's driving me nuts and Idk what to do...

It sounds like he may be uneducated about somethings and has a lot of older generation parenting info. My best advice is to have him research or give him reading material on the subjects. And take him with you to one of your appointments and have the doctor talk to him about some of these issues, maybe that 3rd person will help especially being a doctor.

 

[mrsholland713]

So is anyone having issues with your SO about baby rearing? As y'all know, this is dh's first baby and my fourth. He's terrified of me breastfeeding in public, cloth diapers, making my own baby food, not vaccinating(medical reasons) and he just doesn't get it. He has this idea that babies are all formula fed, you have to vaccinate, etc etc. He's driving me nuts and Idk what to do...

This will also be my husband's first, my third- so I understand what you are saying. I think alot of it has to do with simply not knowing. I bought my husband The Pregnancy book for Dummies for Dad book and he is actually reading it. I also make it a point to send him info from my pregnancy app everyday. I just signed up for a pregnancy information seminar at the hospital- although I am a pro at this, I have to understand that he is not. Definitely try to compromise- Although I know what's best because I have been there done that, I make an attempt to value his opinions

 

[flipporama1]

Thanks ladies. He also comes from a completely different generation, being 20 years my senior so he was not taught about breastfeeding and childbirth and nobody was open about that stuff when he grew up. Me, on the other hand, I was raised all natural. My mom had 6 kids naturally and i have 3 step brothers. We were breastfed, cloth diapered, had homemade baby food & my was very cautious with vaccines after what happened to me. Dh just doesn't understand that i am willing to compromise. I will try my best at listening to his ideas it's just sometimes it sounds so clinical and or something

 

[nmpjcp2015]

Wow. That's a scary vaccination story. GL with your situation Audra, I think it'll all work out. It sounds like you guys are coming from polar opposite experiences.

OAN: I'm going to 2nd try next Saturday. It's crazy!!!! have you guys had anyone touch your belly yet? I had my first yesterday. It was strange...

 

[flipporama1]

I'm sure it'll all iron itself out its just frustrating and more annoying especially since I'm pregnant and super hormonal.... we typically agree on most things and we're really good at supporting each other on other things in life. So hopefully soon we can come an agreement and compromise.....

 

[Amy1123]

Just take a break from it for awhile.
Has everybody been picking out names? I've been looking since we were trying to conceive. I have a boys name (we are hoping for another boy but if we have a girl we will be equally excited and probably shocked lol)
I have the first name for a girl, I'm just trying to find a one syllable middle name that I love.

 

[flipporama1]

For a boy we like Matthew, Alec, Daniel, Austin. No middle names yet but we have some ideas. Maybe William or Steven after my late father. For a girl I'm stuck on a name that I'm gonna keep to myself until we know what we're having ☺

 

[Amy1123]

If we have a boy we are going with Harvey Vincent (Vincent is a dear uncle that recently passed)
And Vera for a girl...I like Lane as a middle, but I'm still not sure, looking for one syllable name
Usually it's THE name if you keep going back to it

 

[mrsholland713]

Just take a break from it for awhile.
Has everybody been picking out names? I've been looking since we were trying to conceive. I have a boys name (we are hoping for another boy but if we have a girl we will be equally excited and probably shocked lol)
I have the first name for a girl, I'm just trying to find a one syllable middle name that I love.

We are hoping for a girl this time since we have 2 boys. She will be named Jo'Marie after both of our mothers...we haven't even thought about boys names yet

 

[Amy1123]

Just take a break from it for awhile.
Has everybody been picking out names? I've been looking since we were trying to conceive. I have a boys name (we are hoping for another boy but if we have a girl we will be equally excited and probably shocked lol)
I have the first name for a girl, I'm just trying to find a one syllable middle name that I love.

We are hoping for a girl this time since we have 2 boys. She will be named Jo'Marie after both of our mothers...we haven't even thought about boys names yet

That's sweet!

 

[Amy1123]

So excited to get my first sonogram tomorrow!

 

[flipporama1]

Congrats Amy! Can't wait to hear about it ☺

 

[goneawry]

Oooh exciting Amy!