Thanks for all your wonderful support everyone. This is really turning into a hell of a day... After a 25-minute cry in the bathroom, I composed myself enough to return to my desk. At that point my mom called. I had OH call her knowing I wouldn't be able to handle hearing her voice... Well she called me crying and then I completely lost it and had to run outside and duck into an alley. We had a long conversation with lots of tears and when I turned around a co-worker was behind me having a smoke. It's someone I really like and she was genuinely concerned, so I told her about why I was so upset. There was really no hiding it. She was sympathetic and I actually felt better talking to someone.
Well, later on OH called and I told him I was caught crying in the alley and had to tell. He got very upset with me (the last thing I needed) and said I shouldn't trust anyone, "The cat was out of the bag", "The jig is up," etc., etc. He was really upset with me for revealing what I was going through, certain that this co-worker would gossip and I put myself at risk of losing my new job. I do not believe that first of all this particular co-worker would tell, I don't work in a gossipy place and I'm not doing anything wrong. It is my right as a human being to start a family. I said to OH it is not like I'm secretly interviewing for another job and crying because I didn't get it. The only thing I have ever wanted to be in life is a mom and right now I'm not sure if or when that is going to happen. Do you guys think I made a mistake telling my co-worker? On one hand, this was my safe place where no one knew what I was going through in my personal life. Now that's not the case. I ended up telling another girl I've become close with when we went for coffee. She told me her parents tried for 7 years with her, how her step-grandmother would constantly harass her mother about having a baby and it has strained their relationship to this day.
So that brings to what Sleepy said, what a thing for your MIL to say on your anniversary. Ouch! Would you ever consider telling her you have been trying and that you are doing everything you can? It's none of her business, but maybe if OH had a heart-to-heart she would understand?
It's 5:30 here and I'm actually here at work. Pretty much everyone saw me flee my desk in tears and for the rest of my team, they basically tip toed around me for the rest of the day. Because I'm going away next week for 17 days, I have too many deadlines to meet before I go away. Just focusing on my work actually helped distract me and I think I am going to hit the gym for either a Hot Yoga or Spin class in a few minutes.
Thanks for your support everyone. I don't know what I would do without this board!