CheerCoach
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Hi Ladies....
I'm an older mom, 38. Hubby and I have 2 daughters, 17 & 15. Brittany, our older daughter will be graduating H.S. June 3rd, just a few weeks before I'm due. She turns 18 July 14th. Hubby and I have our 20th anniversary July 16th. Anyway, Brit has had a serious b/f for the past year. He's a great young man. He's already turned 18 (in January).
He's leaving for basic training in the Army on June 21st and they've been talking about getting married. *SIGH* I guess I'm not opposed to it...after all I met my husband when I was in high school and we've been together ever since. So I know young marriages can work...doesn't mean they will. I think hubby and I are in the minority.
Brit and I talked yesterday about this. Their unofficial plan right now is he goes to basic training and then a specialized training, he'll be gone for about 4 months...so back home on break somewhere around mid-October. If they've not moved on his parents said they'd pay for the wedding!
I was suprised because to me this has nothing to do with the financial aspect. His mom didn't talk with me about it at all. Once my daughter turns 18 I feel it is her option and if she decides to marry her b/f I'd be supportive...but it pisses me off that his family would offer to take care of things without involving me and my husband.
My conflicts are so varied here.
1. I'm concerned that they are young, but they are both 3.5 + GPA students both are very athletic and active in school activities. Neither of them drinks or uses any drugs. They have been sexually active but are responsible and use protection (this isn't a marriage based on pregnancy). Both are responsible and have talked about their paths in life and how they can work together to make it work. I was very impressed to hear somethings they've talked about.
2. I hate to admit this but with her b/f going into the military I am so scared that they'll get married, he'll leave and be injured...or worse...and then Brit has that to live with forever. I know this worries her also.
3. The b/f's mom stepping on hubby & my toes. Okay, should they decide to get married I know my daughter and I are close enough that this can be dealt with...just really ticks me off. I really don't like that woman.
Anyway, I guess I'm mostly venting. Hubby keeps saying, well they're in love just like we were in love. How do you argue that? I'm not for or against it...just wish they'd wait another year at least.
Done venting lol
I'm an older mom, 38. Hubby and I have 2 daughters, 17 & 15. Brittany, our older daughter will be graduating H.S. June 3rd, just a few weeks before I'm due. She turns 18 July 14th. Hubby and I have our 20th anniversary July 16th. Anyway, Brit has had a serious b/f for the past year. He's a great young man. He's already turned 18 (in January).
He's leaving for basic training in the Army on June 21st and they've been talking about getting married. *SIGH* I guess I'm not opposed to it...after all I met my husband when I was in high school and we've been together ever since. So I know young marriages can work...doesn't mean they will. I think hubby and I are in the minority.
Brit and I talked yesterday about this. Their unofficial plan right now is he goes to basic training and then a specialized training, he'll be gone for about 4 months...so back home on break somewhere around mid-October. If they've not moved on his parents said they'd pay for the wedding!
I was suprised because to me this has nothing to do with the financial aspect. His mom didn't talk with me about it at all. Once my daughter turns 18 I feel it is her option and if she decides to marry her b/f I'd be supportive...but it pisses me off that his family would offer to take care of things without involving me and my husband.
My conflicts are so varied here.
1. I'm concerned that they are young, but they are both 3.5 + GPA students both are very athletic and active in school activities. Neither of them drinks or uses any drugs. They have been sexually active but are responsible and use protection (this isn't a marriage based on pregnancy). Both are responsible and have talked about their paths in life and how they can work together to make it work. I was very impressed to hear somethings they've talked about.
2. I hate to admit this but with her b/f going into the military I am so scared that they'll get married, he'll leave and be injured...or worse...and then Brit has that to live with forever. I know this worries her also.
3. The b/f's mom stepping on hubby & my toes. Okay, should they decide to get married I know my daughter and I are close enough that this can be dealt with...just really ticks me off. I really don't like that woman.

Anyway, I guess I'm mostly venting. Hubby keeps saying, well they're in love just like we were in love. How do you argue that? I'm not for or against it...just wish they'd wait another year at least.
Done venting lol