Dealing with azoospermia?

[whlisa19]

whlisa- Good luck!

Thanks Donor is coming over tonight and we are going to do a couple ejaculations into me. He says he may be able to do 3 so I hope he can Husband is going to be there, so hopefully that won't make him nervous

 

[Stinas]

MoBaby - Im excited for you!!! I found this part to be easy....I got nervous after ET because you have already done everything you could, the waiting is the worst.

 

[Soili]

whlisa- Good luck!

Thanks Donor is coming over tonight and we are going to do a couple ejaculations into me. He says he may be able to do 3 so I hope he can Husband is going to be there, so hopefully that won't make him nervous

What made you choose to have actual intercourse with the donor? It's none of my business how other families function, but seeing how there's virtually no advantages over the softcup or syringe methods, I'm curious why would someone choose to make things potentially a lot more awkward... Not to mention, I'm questioning the integrity of the donor a lot here...

Perhaps it's cultural thing??

 

[deafgal01]

Soili- Thanks for asking the obvious question I had on my mind. I would not ever do that to my dh. I rather have a dr shoot it up me thru a tube or the old fashioned fun turkey baster with my dh using donor sperms than to actually have intercourse with someone else but that's me.

 

[BrandyRelax]

Arimas - yes, I think we'd do a TESE (or whatever version of it the doctor wants to do), but we'll see what he says. I don't know if they tested urine after the SA, I know they tested it before, but didn't ask about after, I'll ask him, because I think he has low volume of semen, so that might be something to look at.

Stinas - Our fertility clinic suggested that the field is starting to think lack of production/testicular failure is an auto-immune disease, and given my DH's mother has the WORST Rhumatoid Arthritis, and my DH seems to never get sick (meaning he's got a super immune system), it wouldn't surprise me at all! Yes, we'll probably do a TESE, or whatever the Urologist suggests. I'd rather know that we tried all options before deciding not to have kids than to have given up too early (provided there is no health risk to DH for doing all of this!). I don't want to lose him in the process of trying to start a family! When they do the TESE, can they do it in advance so that if they don't find sperm, I don't have to go through the whole ET process?

MoBaby - You're so lucky that your DH has some sperm coming out!! I haven't done much research on IVF rounds, but I hope everything continues to go well!

 

[whlisa19]

whlisa- Good luck!

Thanks Donor is coming over tonight and we are going to do a couple ejaculations into me. He says he may be able to do 3 so I hope he can Husband is going to be there, so hopefully that won't make him nervous

What made you choose to have actual intercourse with the donor? It's none of my business how other families function, but seeing how there's virtually no advantages over the softcup or syringe methods, I'm curious why would someone choose to make things potentially a lot more awkward... Not to mention, I'm questioning the integrity of the donor a lot here...

Perhaps it's cultural thing??

When we learned that my husband had low sperms count, we felt such a loss as we had been TTC for such a long time!! The fertility clinic gave us information on options but "medical" never seemed right and he was the one who brought up NI as best, but I wasn't sure.

We read a lot of things about emotional and medical considerations. Things like lower chance of birth defects, sperm samples obtained via sexual intercourse contain more sperm and fresh sperms can live 7 days in the female reproductive tract waiting to fertilize an egg. And a direct ejaculation also can help since male scent boosts women's hormone levels and orgasms in females can help fertilization through the uptake of sperm to the uterus and increase fertility.

I was mostly worried about for my husband even though he seemed to be enthusiastic about the idea. So we put off our decision and tried supplements but it never got my husbands counts up and we talked again about getting a donor to help us start our family. We agreed that for us it was the best option.

My calendar starts next tuesday so we are starting with donor inseminations for as much as he can give us now thru my anticipated ovulation. Luckily he lives in the area and so logistics are easy to coordinate so that my husband can be there. Husband is very supportive

 

[MoBaby]

I'm glad you brought this up soili. I disagree with actual relations with the donor as using ejaculate and a syringe would be just as effective. I'd also be concerned With the integrity /intentions of the donor. I couldn't bring myself to have relations with someone other than my dh even for this reason. Your dh may be on board now but once the action is completed he may not feel so great.

Personally I would try the syringe method first. I would feel like a cheater having relations with another man. I know you and dh have discussed this but it seems a bit awkward to me. Have you guys came to some sort of agreement over paternity and such? It seems like if you both have agreed to have sexual relations and you get pregnant then the donor could request paternity, etc and argue its his child since you had consentual sex. I hope you have all the legalities covered and have spoken to an attorney and had papers drawn up. Good luck though with your decision!

 

[MrsC8776]

I just wanted to stop in and say hi to everyone and wish you all the luck in the world.

MoBaby I feel the exact same way about it as you do. Picking a donor and going that route was hard enough. I wouldn't have been able to do it any other way than in a dr's office. We wouldn't even cross the bridge of doing it at home. It does cost more in an office but I know for us it is the only way to have it done. The legal part would scare me also. It is already hard enough for DH to know that biologically the children will not be his. Having the scare that someone could take his children from him would be to much to handle. Also there is no way I would be able to BD while my DH watches. Theres just so many other ways to use donor sperm at home than intercourse.

To each their own though. What ever works in one persons relationship may not work in another. Whlisa with everything said I do wish you luck. Like MoBaby mentioned I hope all the legal stuff is taken care of before anything happens.

 

[whlisa19]

I just wanted to stop in and say hi to everyone and wish you all the luck in the world.

MoBaby I feel the exact same way about it as you do. Picking a donor and going that route was hard enough. I wouldn't have been able to do it any other way than in a dr's office. We wouldn't even cross the bridge of doing it at home. It does cost more in an office but I know for us it is the only way to have it done. The legal part would scare me also. It is already hard enough for DH to know that biologically the children will not be his. Having the scare that someone could take his children from him would be to much to handle. Also there is no way I would be able to BD while my DH watches. Theres just so many other ways to use donor sperm at home than intercourse.

To each their own though. What ever works in one persons relationship may not work in another. Whlisa with everything said I do wish you luck. Like MoBaby mentioned I hope all the legal stuff is taken care of before anything happens.

Thanks! We looked into it and there was no difference in legal risks between AI and NI so like others using a donor we did our best to screen. Our first times went well and more tonight. I'm just so excited to be starting a family - hopefully very soon!!

 

[deafgal01]

Hope that works out... Let it bring a bfp for your family!

 

[Stinas]

Interesting stuff going on in here today lol

Brandy - Yes! DH had his TESE done before I started the whole IVF process. You just need to make sure your Urologist can work with whatever fertility clinic you choose, so hoping they do find sperm they can freeze them for you. Thats what we did. Plus a urologist may find a couple sperm, but an embryologist can find more in the tissue they remove, which is good for IVF. I didnt know this.

Mobaby - I totally agree, but what may work for us might not for others.

whlisa - I wish you the best of luck!!

 

[BrandyRelax]

Interesting stuff going on in here today lol

Brandy - Yes! DH had his TESE done before I started the whole IVF process. You just need to make sure your Urologist can work with whatever fertility clinic you choose, so hoping they do find sperm they can freeze them for you. Thats what we did. Plus a urologist may find a couple sperm, but an embryologist can find more in the tissue they remove, which is good for IVF. I didnt know this.

Mobaby - I totally agree, but what may work for us might not for others.

whlisa - I wish you the best of luck!!

Thanks! Our referral to the Urologist is from the doctor at the fertility clinic, and she mentioned that there is good coordination between the two. I don't know if there is an embryologist involved, but will definitely ask the question of what they can do with the TESE or whatever procedure they recommend. I just hope they can find something. I'm not in objection to paying a ton of money for ICSI and IVF (who needs to retire anyways?!), I just want to know there is a chance.

 

[cbergs]

Well, today was the day that I found out that I will NEVER be able to have a biological child with my husband. Did mTESE...not a single sperm in all the tissue from both testicles. OH, and my SIL had her baby today.

Not even thinking about other options right now...need to heal from this. Prob won't be back on until I have good news to share.

Hoping all your luck is far better than mine.

Take care.

 

[whlisa19]

I'm so sad to hear of your disappointing test results. Hopefully you two can find what is right for your relationship and possible family!

 

[deafgal01]

Oh cbergs. It's never easy. If it's one thing it's another.

 

[Deb111]

Cbergs - im so sorry. Have they sent any tissue away to be looked at in more detail?

Im sorry ive been awol lately and i feel bad ive been neglecting you all. Ive been dealing with a couple of things that i felt were insensitive to bring into this thread. Anyway i will have a good catch up later x x

 

[snd80]

So sorry cbergs! Hope time will help heal you!

 

[SunUp]

Sorry Cbergs. Please know you are not alone.

 

[MoBaby]

Cbergs I'm sooo sorry take as much time off as needed. Understandable

 

[CanadianMaple]

cbergs- I am so sorry. It takes a fair bit of time to digest the news and then start looking at other options. Azoo is not fair.