Due Sept 2017

[Dani_b]

Urgh I'm sick again.
Fed the kids and had my tea (had the same as them) and now I've got a bucket as a friend for the evening

 

[Savasanna]

Sorry to hear that, Dani. Hope you're feeling better soon!

 

[MrsKChicago]

Oh no! I hope you're feeling better soon, Dani.

I always hated it when parents hid the name before birth, and then I saw how opinionated some people get. My mom is really curious but she's incapable of keeping her opinion to herself. If the curiosity gets to you too much you can pm me, I just don't like to post because I'm not exactly hard to identify here, you know?

 

[Savasanna]

ha - No, I totally get it. I always hated the idea of hiding names as well. But it's different when you're the one choosing. We have a very close couple friend (who struggled to conceive at the same time we struggled, and just had a baby so we were pregnant together for a while) who we've cued in on some considerations.. but not all of them. My SIL is the only person who we've shared the true list with. But now that we've "chosen" Callie we've decided to not even tell her.

Which is hard, because I'm dying to tell her!

I was nervous to even post it on here, but I needed SOME feedback! (and I at least try to be anonymous on here as I post things in my journal related to foster care)

 

[MrsKChicago]

Yeah, I have a few trusted friends who I share names with. I want to make sure I'm not missing some major issue, like naming her after a porn star or giving her awful initials or something. It's good to have a little feedback, it just has to come from the right people - ones who will tell you if there's a real problem but won't flip out because they just don't like it. We got a few raised eyebrows over Constantine even from those people, but I expected that.

 

[Dani_b]

Thanks, luckily I've got a day off tomorrow so I can use that to get work done they I was planning on doing tonight.

 

[Tess08]

Oh Dani that's not good. Hope you feel better soon and you aren't coming down with a stomach bug or something.

I have to say I'm really glad there are some of you struggling with names too coz we are really stuck! We decided on James as a middle name for a boy years ago when we first started trying for my daughter as it was my DH's 2 grandads names so that is still set in stone. As for a first name we have nothing in the running. DH literally only likes 1 name and I don't like it at all. Basically it was the name we picked for a boy when I was pregnant with my little girl but since then, I have completely gone off it. I don't want to say it as it's quite a normal name so I don't want to offend anyone incase you have children or partners etc of this name lol. Anyway, we've honestly had so many arguments over this because DH isn't budging on this and just shoots down every other name I suggest. He keeps going back to 'but if Lucy had been a boy, this would have been the name' and he just can't understand why I don't like it anymore. I don't know why I don't like it anymore either but the bottom line is that I don't and he just needs to deal with that lol. I think he had it in his head that if he just sticks to his guns that I will eventually change my mind back. I have a whole list of names that I like that I have suggested to him and I would be happy to go with any of them if he liked even 1 of them but it just doesn't seem to be happening... x

 

[Dani_b]

Oh Dani that's not good. Hope you feel better soon and you aren't coming down with a stomach bug or something.

I was sick a few days ago as well, it's usually just the once when it does happen and then I'm ok again

 

[MrsKChicago]

That sounds so frustrating, Tess. I'd be pretty mad if DH wouldn't even discuss it. We've had our girl first name for years and years, but I'm not feeling the middle name we'd have used if Teddy had been a girl, so I know how you feel. I'd have been disappointed if DH decided he didn't like our first name after all this time, but I couldn't just force him into it.

 

[Savasanna]

Yea - names pass sometimes. There were names I loved a year ago that I wouldn't consider now. It happens. I can understand how it could easily happen if it was a "chosen" name (as it was in your case, Tess). We desperately wanted to adopt two of our former foster children (I called them Fish and Panda on here). We had new names picked out for them and everything. I LOVE the names we picked for them, but I absolutely couldn't use them for this bean. Even though they're not being used, they've been taken in my heart. That's that.

Constantine is a big name. That's how I feel about Callahan. But big names can be awesome! I get why some people are, at least initially, taken aback from them. If we do end up going with Callahan, I think we'll probably announce to the world over email/text, just so we don't have to be there for any of the initial reactions. haha.

We had the middle name Elizabeth picked out, as that's my SIL's middle name and my wife wanted to use it in her honor. But I'm not in love with it, personally. It's just the middle name, though - so if she really wants to do it that's fine with me. If we adopt Peanut then she'll get my middle name, which is a family name, so I sort of feel like my wife can have dibs on Newbie's middle name. But again, if we end up going with Callahan, I might try to see if she'd be open to something else. I don't love Callahan Elizabeth. Maybe.. Callahan Eliza? Or Callahan Eli? orrrrrr... something completely different?

 

[MrsKChicago]

Yeah, our last name is kind of long and ethnic, too (I think there are like 6 of us in the US)... This next baby's name is shaping up to be long, too. I remember when I was a kid, I couldn't get my own library card until I could write my whole name, so now I joke that our kids won't get theirs until they're in their mid-20s.

I can totally understand not using a name you'd planned to use for a foster baby. That name is already attached, you already have associations with it.

 

[ladybrown33]

I think we have settled on a name, I would like to look at her face to be sure it fits her. This child has had a million names and it does appear that people are really opinionated when it comes to names.

In other news I am now 31 weeks and baby is huge. She was measured to weigh about 4 lbs 13 oz and is the 96 percentile. I will be induced no later than 38 weeks just to make sure she doesn't get too large for a natural delivery. The good news is she isn't big due to my diabetes, she is just a big baby on her own. The doctor says that if her tummy was big then that is a sign that the diabetes has affected her growth but she's just a big girl.

 

[Savasanna]

Wow! So you're at a 7 week countdown now!

(I agree - even though we are getting close to "choosing" a name, all bets are off if she's born and we don't feel that it's right in that moment)

So my wife has come around to Calliope. So on the table right now we have Calliope, Callahan and an open slot to anything else that could come up to be a formal name for Callie. Getting closer!

 

[ladybrown33]

Yes it is countdown time!!! Exciting and makes me feel like we are so unprepared at the same time. Time to get ready...

I like Calliope at least you and your wife are able to agree on something. I have been given the right to name anything I like since we can't agree on anything at all.

 

[TFBG]

Been a while... I am now 32w2d and had my 32 week ultrasound today!! Baby boy is doing good. Measuring large and in the 83rd percentile. Long legs measuring 36 weeks lol and already 5 lbs. interested to see how big he gets 😬 Dad and I are both pretty tall.

 

[MrsKChicago]

I'm glad things are looking good, TFBG. I'm looking forward to getting another peek at our girl on Thursday.

I'm feeling so stretched out lately. I compared photos and I don't think I'm carrying that differently this time, but baby is definitely beating me up more. Maybe it's the anterior placenta. I'm not sure how another 2 months of baby are going to fit. How are the bumps looking? I see a lot in the Facebook group but not many here. This is 32+3.

 

[TFBG]

MrsK looking good! It's always so exciting to see baby. Mine had both hands over his face so I couldn't see it. Hopefully he cooperates next week for the 3D ultrasound. Everyone says I'm so tiny even though I don't feel that way. Hope I have enough room for baby to continue growing without stretching mommy out too much lol

*how do you attach a photo?

 

[MrsKChicago]

I'm more anxious to get another confirmation that she's a girl. It seemed clear enough but I'm always paranoid until the birth. I bought a lot of little dresses!

You have to go advanced, and there's a little paperclip above the text box to add an attachment, you select a file there and upload it. It opens in a new window, you can close it once it says your photo is uploaded. It's finicky about image size, though. I can't upload straight from my phone, but I can upload photos I put onto Facebook and then save again.

 

[TFBG]

A teeny tiny part of me was hoping there was a mistake even after the DNA and 2 ultrasounds, that it would still somehow be a girl. It was reconfirmed today that he is still most definitely BOY.

Thanks for the photo help. Hopefully I did this right.

 

[MrsKChicago]

Looks great!