Lunabelle33
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Lol, he is forever spraying that stuff ahah. And, not on short notice, he wants to come down tomorrow, I am working all day today and tomorrow.
Two things that mask smells really well (I have two dogs)
Scented candles/Incense
Shake'n'Vac
Failing that, bake some bread (which smells amazing!) and then bribe the Landlord with it![]()
Yeah, we dont have those candles where I live lol...and He was allowed cats...I could be worrying for nothing, i do tend to over react to things that stress me out.
I love to see BFP's beside names. It's one of the highlights!
I think we decided to TTC so young because of how young we got married and simply how long we've been together. We got married just after I turned 18 but got engaged when I was 16. For us our relationship has been solid and just flowed one after another. I had a miscarriage just before we got engaged and that almost tore us apart as he didn't know how I felt and I didn;t know how he felt and we didn't want to talk about it because before that we'd never even considered having children really.
He got drunk and had a mini breakdown nd blurted out to his parents about it even though I had wanted to keep it between us and ever since then they've been suspecting us trying especially after we got married. My MIL tries to bring up children and asks questions in front of me and my Sister in Law to be about when we want children. I know my SIL2b is trying too but if we told her then she'd be far too over excited.
i hoped to be honest I'd catch pretty quickly but thinking back it took us about 6 months to get pregnant with our angel baby though we weren't trying so I don't know how many of those ccles were actually viable if that makes sense?
My DH has just qualified as a secondary school maths teacher and I'm a trainee manager for a retail store. I did my alevels and then got offered the promotion so I'm not on bad money at all. Ultimately I want to be a midwife and have the grades but I wanted to have at least one child myself before appying!
Lunabelle, that is stressful! I hope everything turns out okay in the end. Hopefully considering your OH has lived there so long your Landlord will be understanding
My parents won't be happy at all when we have children, they do kind've know that we were TTC and were really angry. My mum is happy about the concept of being a grandmother, but doesn't want me to become a mum
She wants me to travel the world and spend several years working up a career ladder, buy a better house (well, in a better area), buy a better car and go on lots of childfree holidays.
But she doesn't understand as she never had the erge to become a mum, and she eventually had me at 33.
Ironically though, because of how long we're having to wait (and now will probably be waiting until we can get IVF I think). We're managing to go on those holidays, and buy better cars and start working on 'careers'... just not through choice!
It frustrates me that she knows this is what I want, but still thinks I'm wrong. I'm an adult, who's married and owns her own house. I think I can make this decision now.![]()
I love to see BFP's beside names. It's one of the highlights!
I think we decided to TTC so young because of how young we got married and simply how long we've been together. We got married just after I turned 18 but got engaged when I was 16. For us our relationship has been solid and just flowed one after another. I had a miscarriage just before we got engaged and that almost tore us apart as he didn't know how I felt and I didn;t know how he felt and we didn't want to talk about it because before that we'd never even considered having children really.
He got drunk and had a mini breakdown nd blurted out to his parents about it even though I had wanted to keep it between us and ever since then they've been suspecting us trying especially after we got married. My MIL tries to bring up children and asks questions in front of me and my Sister in Law to be about when we want children. I know my SIL2b is trying too but if we told her then she'd be far too over excited.
i hoped to be honest I'd catch pretty quickly but thinking back it took us about 6 months to get pregnant with our angel baby though we weren't trying so I don't know how many of those ccles were actually viable if that makes sense?
My DH has just qualified as a secondary school maths teacher and I'm a trainee manager for a retail store. I did my alevels and then got offered the promotion so I'm not on bad money at all. Ultimately I want to be a midwife and have the grades but I wanted to have at least one child myself before appying!
Such a touching story. I'm sure it will be a lot more meaningful to be a midwife when you have a child of your own![]()
My situation sounds quite similar to yours Zumba, I'm not intending to tell anyone for quite a while (aside from on here, DH and probably my closest friend; who knows about the infertility and has been there for me the whole way!).
My DH's parents will never know about our kids, unfortunately. They're not good/nice people, and we stopped contact with them just prior to getting married.
I don't believe I'll be throwing my life away, I have good strong plans and I'm really determined about doing postgraduate. We will all make it work, because we want it to!
It's sad that parents will potentially damage their relationships with their children, simply because they don't follow their dream plans for them![]()
Lunabelle, that is stressful! I hope everything turns out okay in the end. Hopefully considering your OH has lived there so long your Landlord will be understanding
Littleone, I'm sorry about your MC, it must've been really hard on you both. Showing that you can go through such hard times and come out of the other side just shows how strong your relationship is
Good luck with becoming a midwife! It will be an amazing job, I kinda wish I'd done it now
Although with being LTTTC I think it would be difficult when you see women who don't care about their pregnancies and stuff like that?
My parents won't be happy at all when we have children, they do kind've know that we were TTC and were really angry. My mum is happy about the concept of being a grandmother, but doesn't want me to become a mum
She wants me to travel the world and spend several years working up a career ladder, buy a better house (well, in a better area), buy a better car and go on lots of childfree holidays.
But she doesn't understand as she never had the erge to become a mum, and she eventually had me at 33.
Ironically though, because of how long we're having to wait (and now will probably be waiting until we can get IVF I think). We're managing to go on those holidays, and buy better cars and start working on 'careers'... just not through choice!
It frustrates me that she knows this is what I want, but still thinks I'm wrong. I'm an adult, who's married and owns her own house. I think I can make this decision now.![]()
I certainly understand what you mean!! Although I'm not very close with my mom at all (haven't spoken with her in months actually-- sadly), she was always sooo against us getting married/having children young (probably because she conceived my sister when she was only 17 and got married at 18) but just because she felt she threw her own life away doesn't mean we all do. My sister got married when she was 24 and my mother told her the day before her wedding that she was too young-- when my sister had been planning the wedding for six months, lived with her fiance and was a hard-working teacher who was always going to grad school.
I've been with my OH for almost 2 years and we have a very healthy relationship but I'm sure if I AM lucky enough for a BFP, my mother will act all heart-broken and tell me I'm throwing away my life blah blah blah. Although I have a successful career, a good degree, and am in a relationship where we're both emotionally ready for a child. That is why I'm going to wait until either my second trimester or until I'm showing to tell anyone... because I don't want to get anyone upset (or excited) about a baby and then MC.
I'm sorry about what happened between your OH's family and you. It's incredible cruel, and scarily similar to my own story. It sounds like they could actually be the same people!
My DH was also in denial about it, although he didn't love his parents much at all, as they'd abused him mentally as a child (and he's still extremely scarred from it). He was basically their workhorse to finance them and their lives. And they weren't impressed when he met me and suddenly his attention was elsewhere.
Like you, I ended up not saying anything. And eventually starting having anxiety attacks at the thought of spending time with them. We actually went on holiday, and so verbally abusive to me and made me so uncomfortable (all behind my DH's back), that I actually became physically ill.
Eventually they accidentally left their phone unhooked and DH heard everything they thought about me (it was truly vile!). And he forced them to apologise, they did 'apologise', but it's the most pathetic attempt I've ever heard. And when I refused to accept it, they kicked their son out of his home.
It worked out well in the end though, we're both very happy and we really don't need them in our lives!
As for the fertility problems; We went to the doctor after a year of TTC, and they did some blood and ultrasound tests on me, which were all normal. Then DH had a semen analysis which came back as high sperm count, but 99% abnormal morphology (so bad shaped sperm). He's just waiting to have a second one done now.
We have also been trying to get onto a trial for IVF, because I'm too young for NHS funded IVF. And they found that I've got 'lower side of normal' AMH levels (so looking at quality and amount of eggs).
On top of this I also have vaginismus, which makes it difficult to BD regularly.
So with all these, the odd are kind've stacked against us![]()