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[BethMaassen]

My mom was just at the ER yesterday. Because she had fallen Wednesday night and hurt her ribs. She had been having severe congestion before hand... She refused, like always to go to the ER... Until she could not breathe anymore.
They did a CT and x-ray ( I think my brother said) And sent her home with oxycodone and a regimen to help with the congestion and prevent pneumonia.

They did another CT scan and x-ray today. She has pneumonia and several fractured ribs. Her nose sis not broken. But her cheekbone is. It is really bad, had it been worse they would have to do surgery.

DH, My Brother, and I all agree that the ER Doctor sent her home with the fractured ribs and pneumonia yesterday..

 

[Aphy]

I'm so sorry about your Mom Beth! That must have been scary and worrying! I hope she makes a full recovery very soon

 

[FLArmyWife]

oh beth that's terrible. hope she is doing better and things quiet down for y'all


hope all our ladies are doing well and enjoying their weekend

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

Beth!

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MIL was here this weekend.....

 

[Disneymom1129]

Beth so sorry to hear about your mom . Hope she heals quickly.

How are our new babies doing? Little Sylvie and Ellie?

 

[BethMaassen]

My mom is okay. Stable at least. I think she is on the mend. For the first time since landing herself in the Hospital this time, she called (at 3am) to complain. Usually the complaints start flying the moment she enters the Hospital.
They insisted that they start palliative care... So hospice will start coming in once she is home.. She does not understand that means they will stop trying to stop her illnesses. Once she realizes this she will put a stop to it. There is no definitive date in which she can come home.


There is nothing personal to report.
Been spending a bit.
Got Athiliya new clothing, pajamas, socks, and shoes.
Got Moira some new socks. We are blessed with her. We get clothing thrown at us left and right from friends and neighbors for her.
Got service on my phone. I have not had cell service since 2011. And this is a new phone which was bought for me on my Birthday last month.
I also replenished some make up and beauty supplies. I rarely put makeup on. So this is an expense every few months.

I am beat. All the hospital trips and shopping has my body so exhausted.

 

[AugustAngel15]

Beth- sorry about your mom.

I'm still reading. I hooe everyone is doing well. Ellie is a wonderful baby! I had to go to the dr last Friday for a fever. Turns out I had a real nasty uterine infection. I feel much better now.

 

[BethMaassen]

August: UHG! That's horrible! I am glad you are feeling better! Glad to hear Ellie is wonderful baby!

Update on my Mom:

I did not go to see her today. She said that she didn't want to expose the girls anymore (To what, I don't know.).
Mom called at 3am, complaining about the nurses and wanting Bobby to come up. So he got up and went to the Hospital. He just got home maybe 1.5 hours ago.
She had a paracentesis yesterday, which they had initially refused to do saying it would only worsen her condition. Turns out. They don't know their heads from their bottoms.
Mom has been up and alert since 3am. She had eaten her meals, drank, took her medication, sat up, and remained coherent. Bobby left as they were helping her up to use the bathroom!
This is big news! There is still no ETA on her release, but I say this does look promising

 

[lilmisscaviar]

Glad to hear your mom is stable, Beth. Let's hope she recovers quickly.

August I had a uterine infection and a UTI after my birth too. It was really painful so I can only imagine how you must have felt. I hope you feel better soon xx

How is everyone? It has been kind of quiet here the past few days.

 

[Disneymom1129]

Beth glad your mother is on the mend. Glad you were able to buy your girls (and yourself!) some new things.

August sorry about the uterine infection! How do they even diagnose that? Glad Ellie is doing well

Lenora hope all is well!

Lilmiss doing well over here, how are you and baby doing?

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

i think im gearing up for another gallbladder attack... it just feels that way- spout of runs, then not eating, sea sickness feeling all day.

im POAS just in case but so far BFN.

 

[lenorajoy]

Beth - So sorry about your mom! I'm glad she seems to be improving, though.

Quick update - I seem to have very little time with two hands available for typing! I'm thinking of you ladies, though, and reading when I can. Sylvie is doing great! We actually had another hiccup with breastfeeding, but we're doing great now! A family friend came over last Tuesday through Sunday to help out around the house. (I know how lucky I am to have so much support!) She was my mom's best friend growing up, so she's like an aunt/third mom to me. When she arrived Tuesday I was so backed up... The funny thing is I didn't realize how back up I was until Sylvie really started eating and actually emptied some of the ducts. Suddenly I could feel how sore I was. Mary brought some gifts for us/Sylvie, one of which was a baby neck pillow. We started using it to improve Sylvie's positioning. The positioning made all of the difference in the world! Her latch is vastly improved and now she can latch on easily with or without the beck pillow. And even without any pillows for support at all. Unfortunately due to not having the hang of this until she was nearly 2 weeks old, we were a bit behind the 8 ball with weight gain. At her first checkup with the pediatrician she was almost a full lb down from her birth weight. We did another weight check a week later and she had lost another ounce. A few days later last Friday (just two days after Sylvie really started eating well) down another 1/2 ounce. Monday she finally started gaining. We bought a scale so we can weigh her at home to make sure she's gaining before going to the next weigh in and over the weekend she was gaining 1/2 - 1 ounce per day. Unfortunately we're so behind, though, we had to start supplementing with formula just to play catch up, so hopefully it's temporary. Sylvie has thrown up after eating formula 3 times now, but it doesn't seem to be an intolerance or allergy considering I'm eating normal and she dies great with my milk. She doesn't even spit up. I'm thinking maybe she just feels overly full because of the difference of consistency? The vomit doesn't come with or after a burp. She's fine and burps great, but then suddenly she's gagging and throws up. DH can't drink thick things like whole milk on an empty stomach without having the same reaction, so he suggested it may be like that. It's funny, she guzzles pumped breastmilk from a bottle, but takes forever to drink 1/2 ounce of formula from the bottle, so I don't think it's due to her eating too fast. We're using a Gerber formula for supplementing, so it should be easier to digest. She also has t pooped since she started taking formula two night ago, so that could be related as well. She gained 4.5 ounces the first day on formula, though!

 

[FLArmyWife]

sorry I'm reading but have been under the weather so not really been posting anywhere

hope all our ill feeling ladies feel better, that all little fab babies are thriving beautifully, and all our fab ladies have a fabulous wednesday

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

please call LLL for help with supplementing- you should fortify your milk instead!!

 

[drjo718]

August- sorry to hear about your uterine infection. I hope you're on the mend!

Lenora- I'm glad you're back on track with breastfeeding. Don't feel bad about needing to supplement. You're feeding your baby and that's what's most important. My baby wouldn't be here today if I hadn't given her formula. She lost 20% of her weight in her first 5 days of life. I never got a good milk supply due to pcos. I struggled with it for a really long time and felt terrible for not being able to provide for her. Just remember that you're doing what you need to to take good care of your baby.

Afm, I had some bleeding this morning. I'm at work and the midwife was able to get me in to radiology for an ultrasound. I haven't gotten a full report yet, but I was able to see and hear a heartbeat at 116 bpm 💓. Baby is measuring 6 weeks. My lmp puts me at 6+4, but ovulation puts me at 6+1. It's given me a little piece of mind for vacation.

 

[FLArmyWife]

Complacency- It's so easy. After years and years of driving we all fall into a kind of second nature feeling when driving. I'm guilty of this. I will say there have been many occasions where after going through a traffic light I realized I couldn't recall if the light was actually green; I'd check to see if the car behind me went through the light and when they did just assumed it was a just a second nature act to read the light and that was why I couldn't recall just seconds later.

Distractions make complacency so much worse. Whether it's talking to someone else in the car, wondering why the baby is crying in the back, or just thinking of all the things you have still left to do. Our minds are several steps ahead of us sometimes. This is when tragedies can take place.

This afternoon while walking in the Sam's parking lot, Sweets walking beside me, we were behind a small SUV. I was dead center of the woman's back window, clearly visible in a rear view mirror, but she was distracted or perhaps just complacent. Whatever her reason she did not check her rearview mirror. She left off the brake and started rolling back. It only took a split second for me to act. An instinct I still am shocked at. I was somehow attuned enough to see this woman not look in her rearview before starting to back up. That split second I scooped up Sweets. He stood tall enough that his head was even with the back bumper. A split second. I could hear a couple screaming in spanish about how the car was going to hit the baby. In that split second though I managed to get him out of harm's way. My blood boiled. This woman's actions could have just caused a serious tragedy. Something that would have easily been avoided had she just looked in her rearview mirror. In the seconds following me scooping up Sweets I realized the woman was continuing to back up. I kicked the back bumper as hard as I could. It was just a split second reaction. This lady first almost hit my child and now that I'd picked him up out of harm's way she was going to mull me down while holding him. She quickly threw the car in park as I stepped quickly out from behind her car. She apologized profusely saying "I didn't see you". I.. Didn't.. See... You! Whether distracted of complacent, she hadn't bothered to follow a rule of driving to check her rearview mirror or turn around to look out the back window. Tragedy was narrowly avoided.
I can't believe how I reacted looking at this woman, as I shakily put Aeneas in a shopping cart. I did not scream. There was no profanity. My words were simply "If I'd not picked up my son, you would have run him over". The woman again expressed that she didn't see me. I had been behind her car before she threw it in reverse (if I see a car's reverse lights on I always let them out first before crossing behind it). So for this woman to say she did not see me... I was just dumbfounded.
But, I know there are times where I am not paying full attention. It's something I believe everyone is guilty of at one time or another. This was a huge wake-up call. I pledge to do my very best to make sure I am very vigilant, not just complacent. I ask that you all do the same. Make a gentle reminder to all your friends and family that tragedy only takes a second to strike.

 

[lilmisscaviar]

FLarmy how scary! I'm glad you are both ok. I can't tell you how many times we were almost plowed over by ignorant people who were either not paying attention or just can't wait to get to wherever they need to go. I understand that people get distracted and into rushes sometimes but that is not a reason to let down your guard. Hopefully that lady learned her lesson. I'm appalled to imagine what would have happened had you have not kicked her bumper and gotten her attention.

 

[Disneymom1129]

Lenora I'm glad Sylvie is doing well, I'm sure she'll start gaining weight well soon enough! I hope breastfeeding continues to work out. You're doing a great job mama!

FLArmy so glad the situation (although scary and maddening!) turned out okay in the end and that you and sweets are both ok. People are honestly oblivious and it's the #1 thing I have taught my 7 year old... never trust ANYONE EVER, lol. She learned it one day when I let her hold on to the shopping cart in the front instead of behind it next to me. A car zoomed past us and another person that was already crossing the street, then had the nerve to get mad at US. A man walking into the store who saw literally said to me "did that person seriously almost run you over and then get mad at you about it?!" So yeah that was the last time I let her hold on to the front of the cart in a parking lot. She was inches from being hit.

 

[BethMaassen]

Hiya Ladies
Sorry I went quiet.
Mom was released Wednesday from the Hospital.
They said they were sending her home because she had one foot out the door and her wish was to die at home.

She laughed and assured me that she wasn't even close to dying. I made her promise me that she was not going to die...

Lastnight.. Well, this morning, She passed...


I am guessing around 4am.
I was in bed and fighting Moira, who was up all night screaming and crying, I am guessing because of gass and an upset tummy. And just about 4:30 I heard my brother screaming.. I ran downstairs, to find him huddled over my mother's body...
I tried CPR, and EMT's tried for 25 minutes... She was pronounced dead.
She is currently in a Funeral Home, and I will have to go in on Monday and arrange a service...

I can't afford this, I am jobless now, and will need to use tax returns to pay bills for a couple of months...

I plan of starting a gofundme as soon as I know what costs I am looking at... and will ask for a bit more to aid in our cost in living while I sort a new job.


My dad and his girlfriend are on their way from Omaha to be with us.

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

Im so sorry. I lost my grandma ( who was more like a mom than my mom) and take all the time you need to heal. She passed in '12 and I still have some hard days.