Feb 1~~~CD1~~~ buddies anyone?

[Desperado167]

truely cracking up now despie!
(hope you dont mind me calling you that-i see you a lot on LL's threads!)

so right now!

U have give me a lift today too so thanks babe and call me wot ever u want ,

 

[Bonnie1990]

i wonder if i can find it about town somewhere and start tonight!!
oh how evil am I? I mean we! muwahhhhaaaa!

 

[marathongirl]

Yea I also use softcups and the clear blue fertility monitor and pre seed and guiffasen and give oh horny goats weed wen he can't manage it

Desperado - WELCOME! You crack me up!! You've got quite the arsenal of baby making materials don't ya girl. Sounds like you've been through a lot with the losses and I'm sorry for that. You will find so many wonderful like-minded women on these boards - I'm so glad you are here.

Skweek - I know the feeling about friends around you getting BFPs. No doubt you are truly happy for them but then you have this nagging feeling of "what is wrong with ME?" I remember trying for 2.5 years with DS and we were in our late twenties so friends and family were producing offspring like dang fruit flies!! Alas my BFP came and then 10 months later another came and that was twins so I swear it's either feast or famine sometimes! I'm rooting for ya and hope those new tests will bring BFPs!

Marathon Girl - I keep meaning to ask if you are a marathon runner. How are you doing? When are you testing? I tested again this morning and got a BFN! My guy is kind of funny in that he's got a science type brain and just does't understand why, if we do everything at the right time, I'm not pregnant. Even this morning with the BFN he kept staring at this stark white stick saying "I see a line - I swear I do - don't YOU see it?" It was so sad - to see him want something so badly. He's 49 and has never had kids and he swears he KNOWS we are going to have twins. I hope he's right but....

Bonnie - what's up girl? Are you in school? You mentioned something about homework. Don't worry much about not getting the bd in at the "right" spot. I swear I was taking a break and trying NOT to get preggers last January and avoided sex many days before the O time. AND that was the month I has a BFP. Honestly sometimes I think if I could only slip back into that mentality and NOT try so friggin hard that maybe.....

Fx'd for us all!

Faithmum- thanks for asking. Yes I am a marathon runner and I have also done 5 ironman triathlons including the big one in Kona I am not doing crazy things like that right now as I know it can affect your fertility....
My dh and I love to run together and I have stopped all together just a gut feeling that it's better but it's very hard for me.
Welcome Desperado I'm glad we meet again
I do also find it hard to understand why when you time it all right you still don't get the BFP dh also struggles with it but I try to explain! Lol
I won't test until at least next weekend as I am only 4 dpo and I can't take seeing the BFN's
Fx'd for everyone

 

[faithmum]

Argh!!!! Can I VENT??? I swear if I were an obgyn I'd be so much MORE empathetic than mine!!! She made me feel so stupid today for asking for a preg test. I was THERE for another matter but hello??? She is my doc! She also made me feel stupid for using opks and bbt and told me things I ALREADY knew like bbt gives you information about O after the fact. Meanwhile she peaks at my chart and says at my chart and tells me it looks great. She looked ate crossways and responded to my request for a preg test 12dpo with "But you're not even late yet! We can't test - it's too early". I get it but I'm also 45 with a very finite number of chances here and could use some undestanding!

Thanks for listening/reading. I really needed to vent. Took test with fmu and neg - not looking good for me

 

[faithmum]

I am venting from my phone - sorry about typos!!

 

[Desperado167]

Argh!!!! Can I VENT??? I swear if I were an obgyn I'd be so much MORE empathetic than mine!!! She made me feel so stupid today for asking for a preg test. I was THERE for another matter but hello??? She is my doc! She also made me feel stupid for using opks and bbt and told me things I ALREADY knew like bbt gives you information about O after the fact. Meanwhile she peaks at my chart and says at my chart and tells me it looks great. She looked ate crossways and responded to my request for a preg test 12dpo with "But you're not even late yet! We can't test - it's too early". I get it but I'm also 45 with a very finite number of chances here and could use some undestanding!

Thanks for listening/reading. I really needed to vent. Took test with fmu and neg - not looking good for me

Am sorry she was an ass

 

[Bonnie1990]

Vent away
Some docs have no bedside manner
An why wouldn't they be for us being proactive and OPK and temping?
I look at it this way....if I need to go to the doc or see a specialist down the line I have data. Data that the doc can't collect in one visit
What if they told me to go spend another 2-3 months OPK and bbt and then come back and see what it shows? No I have it in hand already.
I am maximizing my chances at conception by using easy to obtain tools
Not hocus pocus. Not black market illegal as dangerous methods.
Wtf! Why do we have to have more flipping common sence than a damn doctor?
It's not always about blood works and drug!
Grrrrrr god I feel for you and I'm not even there yet!

Oh and dpo12....hang in there a bit longer. It's not over yet. Save yourself a few bucks and a stick by some poke happy teenager. Lmao

 

[Desperado167]

Well said bonnie

 

[Bonnie1990]

I really felt insecure with myself when I started all of this. I thought I was going overboard. Researching and temping and OPK'ing. But it had been an amazing learning experience and if god forbid we need to take further action I feel I steps ahead in the game. So what if DB thinks I'm a little nuts. God if he knew half of what I did or spent! Hahahah

 

[Desperado167]

I really felt insecure with myself when I started all of this. I thought I was going overboard. Researching and temping and OPK'ing. But it had been an amazing learning experience and if god forbid we need to take further action I feel I steps ahead in the game. So what if DB thinks I'm a little nuts. God if he knew half of what I did or spent! Hahahah

Same here ,my oh would kill me

 

[marathongirl]

Faithmum- Sorry your doctor was such an ass as Despie said. I am so done with my doctor. After my mc he had the audacity to ask me why I wanted to have another child so badly!!WTF. Like it's his business anyways. It was like he was judging me for wanting to have a baby at the ripe old age of 42. I was so upset. I feel so much better that i will deal more directly with my FS now. He said to come back in 3 months but if I fall pregnant before than to come in so he can follow my pregnancy. I'm done with stupid doctors. I'm done with them judging for us using the opk's and the bbt like we are trying too hard.Whatever I don't think you can try too hard for anything that you really want. That's my piece ladies

 

[Bonnie1990]

WHERE IN THE BLOODY HELL DO THESE DOCTOR GET OFF TELLING US WHAT THE F WE SHOULD OR SHOULDN'T DO!!!

WE ARE PAYING GOOD MONEY( or taxes for nhs) FOR THESE SERVICES SO UNLESS IT IS A DANGER TO OUR HEALTH SHUT THE HELL UP AND HELP US DO WHAT IT TAKES DAMMIT!

Grrrrrrrr!

Sorry. So annoyed at these jackass docs you all have !

 

[faithmum]

Thanks for all that girls!! So well put! I am looking for a different doc post haste. You know what she recommended for lubricant rather than pressed is egg white! Get with the friggin 21st century!!! I fully agree that we are not walking in with some black magic potion - this is BASIC science and well proven to help women conceive. I just hate that superiority God complex they can adopt. Thanks again

 

[Bonnie1990]

Ewwwwe! Can you say SALMONELLA!!

 

[faithmum]

Oh yeah I'm bringing sexy back with salmonella! Gives new meaning to catchin' the egg! By the way Bonnie - I was lmao with the saving my money on the strips

 

[Bonnie1990]

So bfn on dpo 10. Someone please tell me why I bother???!!!

 

[faithmum]

Bonnie - why do torture ourselves?? It's like the 2ww turns us all into masochistic psychopaths?? I didn't test this morning because I Wanted to just have a day before AF walks over the threshhold where I can hold on to a bit of hope.

I am really hoping you get your BFP this month girl!

Oh - forgot to comment about your classes. You are an awesome mom going back to school (grandma too although you look WAY too young for that). I went back when the kids were in elementary. I'm so happy I did but I know how hard it is to do when you've got a family so rock on sista - I'm proud of you.

 

[Desperado167]

So bfn on dpo 10. Someone please tell me why I bother???!!!

 

[Bonnie1990]

(grandma too although you look WAY too young for that)

Lol thanks faithmum-but the profile pic is my daughter and son and his baby! I wish I looked 17 again!

 

[faithmum]

Hey Marahon Girl - I was so mad yesterday I forgot that I wanted to comment on your running. I have several girlfriends who, in their late 30's decided to start running and many of them have done half marathons. They have all felt an incredible sense of accomplishment after they finish - no matter what the times are or even if they had to walk some. I'm impressed with you!!! Triathlons too? Amazing!! Glad you're taking time off for now though. I ttc DS (14) for 2.5 years with unexplained fertility - finally after I finally did fall preg my doc said that my BMI was way to low. That's not a problem anymore!