First scan

[Bubsta]

Aww, thanks ErinsMummy. That is a very good point. That IS something I need to remember. This is a support site and we do (understandably) see more of the bad than the good. You are right. Your reply was just what I needed to see. Thank you. Xxx

 

[Mizze]

Aw Bubsta hun - its so easy to feel worried - yesterday I was over the moon about booking my nuchal scan but since then ive done nothing but worry that a) its too soon and b) it will be bad news

1st tri needs to be taken with a pinch of salt - its usually the most busy, vociferous and often argumentative place - having been in there four times I now try to stick to some rules 1) dont read the posts on bleeding or mcs' - You just CANT give support to everyone and it wears you out and stresses you out if you try. 2) Threads about immunisations are usually an excuse for an all out fight - flu jab ones in particular so I try and stay clear (dont always but I try) -later on this applies to 2nd and 3rd tri and to FF verses BF too and Co-sleeping/CIO/CC threads too. 4) And sometimes I really really struggle with this one - if you think the thread is just plain stupid - scroll on by and dont get involved (I actually wrote and deleted a really sacastic response to a thread yesterday about medicines prescribed by Drs) and 5) Other people's experiences dont necessarily have anything to do with your experience so dont let it stress you out

When you hit second tri forum it does calm down a lot



Mizze xx

 

[Bubsta]

Thanks Mizzie. Xxx

Your scan isnt far away now, and I'm sure it will just be perfect babe. It was with C so I'm sure it will be this time too. Xxx (so its not just me that is worrying beyond the first scan then. Xx)

sounds like some pretty damn good advice to me! I think I will just back off on some of the threads in there. It's just not emotionally good to take on too much. Xx
FF vs BF? CIO/CC? Haven't heard of those ones (I don't think)? Sounds like it might be a tricky one then. Thanks for the heads up on all of those. I'm glad that it does improve in the 2nd Tri. That is one thing that is great about PAL.... It isn't separated into Trimesters and you get to stick with the same Gals all the way through... Which I am so grateful for. I don't know what I would do without all of your support. Thank you. Xxxx

 

[Mizze]

Aw hun thanks for that!

The FFvBF -CIO etc sorry those are more 2nd and third tri (and Baby Club! ones too) dont worry about those yet!

Sorry if im not clear -
FFvBF= Formula Feeding vs Breast Feeding
CIO = Cry it out (sleep training teqhniques)
CC = Controlled Crying (sleep training teqhniques!


Ive been on here so long I automatically slip into the acronyms!

Mizze xx

 

[Bubsta]

Ahhhh, that makes sense! I've been able to decipher most - and now you've explained them, totally obvious, lol. Yep.... They would be controversial ones... Tbh, I don't really understand why people feel it so necessary to judge other's decisions to do what works for them and in some cases, what is necessary for them. Xxx

 

[Mizze]

Ahhhh, that makes sense! I've been able to decipher most - and now you've explained them, totally obvious, lol. Yep.... They would be controversial ones... Tbh, I don't really understand why people feel it so necessary to judge other's decisions to do what works for them and in some cases, what is necessary for them. Xxx

Well quite but ive seen battles on here you wouldnt believe! -Nuts really but there you go!

Have spent half an hour battling with my lounge adn kitchen and new (horrible and useless) mop and am now getting a cup of tea and going back to bed!

Mizze x

 

[lilesMom]

bubsta im the exact same hon, one day im fine and feel like bub is perfect and great, fast forward a few hrs or a day and im havin niggly doubts creeping, trying to push um out i think every mom has um but espeacially us xxx
last nt i cried cos i wanted a cream cake so i think im ok on the still being preg and hormonal front in my defense i was feeling sick and felt like it would cure it and my shop was closed. even while i was crying i knew it was ludicris but it still happened

mizze im laughing away at ur post, i went on a flu jab thread cos i was trying to decide if i should get it. man it was a big cat fight people were tryin to calm it down.
but the main people arguing kept goin back to their argument in a roundabout way
was kinda funny but not for the poor people who asked d qs in the first place.
needless to say i didnt bother posting my own thoughts, i be lynched
also not sure on bf or ff, but i would never ask on a new thread cos i know all i would get r people saying im selfish to even consider ff . id lov toalk to someone who had done both and see what they think. but most people dont switch .
i use to always post on the bleeding and mc threads to try and help but it makes me too sad, i think or now i have taken my turn at doin that and later if i feel more secure i can go back to doin it. xx

hope every1 is good today xxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Bubsta]

Oh Lilesmom, I'm sorry your shop was shut Darlin'. Damn those pesky hormones, lol. At least you could see that it was your hormones making you react the way that you did. Maybe today you can get that cream cake! The be all and end all. Lol.

As for the ff v bf... I've done both Hun. Started off on bf for about 5months and then ff. I will probably do a similar thing this time around. So any questions, feel free to ask. Xx

 

[lilesMom]

i got one today and it wasnt half as speacial as i thought it would be ha ha
thanks hon xx i think il try bf anyway but if it doesnt work out im not gonna crucify myself, ( i hope ).
how ye all today xxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Bubsta]

Damn on the cream cake front not being all you thought it would be....at least you got one though so now you know. Xxx

Sounds like a good way to go with feeding. I found it really hard for the first little bit (had to see a specialist etc as bubba wasn't latching on properly). That is just it. Never beat yourself up over it. If it happens, then great. If it has to be ff or you decide on ff - then so be it. Bubba is still going to get everything it needs. Xxx

 

[lilesMom]

thanks hon xxx

 

[lilesMom]

i dont think this thread was here at the time but when i went to doc to confirm my pregnancy, i came out very upset, she basically told me that i shoudlnt be preg again and that my copper levels could have caused my mmc and implied they could do again. i cried all the way home. anywy she was wrong and talking out her ass as usual, im so tempted to go in tomor and complain, the more i think of it , the madder im getting. do ye think i sohould r should i just try and avoid her and got to the other docs that r there? but the other docs r only there on tues and fri and the one i trust the most is the fri doc i need to go soonish anyway to figure out what to do about work to go back r what?
anywya i mean do ye think i should confront her or am i wasting my time and money by thinking about her and dealing with her thanks
i have to go there tomor anyway t pick up work certs but i oculd drive both days , it isnt very very far from me , what do ye think ?
should i just let it go, it was 6 weeks ago but i hate the thought of her thoughtless saying something simlilar to someone else

 

[Kerriex]

Hey ladies how are u all? Just been catching up on all ur posts..regarding the threads you avoid..I only come on here every few days now as (no offence to ladies that need advice) I'm sick of seeing the same posts all the time about bleeding and mc..it sets off my nerves again! I only really come on to read ur lots updates lol

Lilesmom I couldnt help but laugh at ur cream cake bit bless u! I'm like that when I decide I NEED something like NOW haha ..also I think its awful what that dr said to u..think I would have to tell someone who woks there that u wernt happy with the way she spoke to u bu as for confronting her might not be the best idea with all these hormones raging not worth getting urself worked up!

I hope all u lovely ladies are well & good luck on wednesday bubsta!

I had my 1st mw appt today it was the same one I had last time she recognised me straight away n I found it good to speak to her about my mmc and concerns this time round. She explained so much to me about the mc (hospital didn't tell me anything just gave me a leaflet about mc after my scan and sent me packing) so I felt better after that. Hopefully I will have my letter by the end of the week fx my 12 wk scan will be next week 2nd trimester is getting close for all of us!! x

 

[lilesMom]

kerrie thanks hon xxx
i decdided not to confront anyway, i would only be upsetting myself and she doesnt have a boss i could complain to, she owns the practise
gald ur app. went well and glad u met someone nice , it makes all the difference xx

 

[Erinsmummy]

Hey ladies hows every1? I'm still feelin bit queasy but think my energy is coming back a bit! Hubby has decided to start a business, he didn't discuss it with me first just done it, in not overly impressed as it means putting a lot of money to it to start with! Grr. Anyway hope ur all ok, and I don't blame you Kerrie about reading posts on mc and bleeding, it just makes you nervous and there are plenty of other ladies here to give advice on it, I do try to help cos of my previous losses but it does make me think " what if that happens to me!?" so I don't blame you for that! Don't cause yourself unnecessary stress.

 

[Kerriex]

I think you did the right thing lilesmom sometimes we just have to let things go as much as they do upset us..Erinsmummy ..wow I can see why you're annoyed about your hubby doing that! Hopefully it will be a success and bring in some good money for your family (fx). Yeah ur right about the posts on here I try to help with some of them think I will be able to once I get 1st tri out the way hope u are all well x x

 

[lilesMom]

erinsmum i would defo be cross on no discussion. xx but like kerrie said fx it goes really well and u can be a mommy of leisure ( if u wanna be xxx)
how r ye all today xxxxxxxx

 

[Kerriex]

I've had a really good day today felt great! But now I feel exhausted and sickness has just kicked in again! Always comes on at night I don't know whether to go to bed or go sit by the toilet for 10 mins

How are u today? x

 

[lilesMom]

oh no hon, hope u feel better soon, i feel much better today and of course it scared me a teensy bit i should just be thankfull xxxx hope u dont be too sick hon xxx

 

[lilesMom]

then again i did have a 2 hr nap today so prob no fear really