General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[shaescott]

Future I totally wish I could use one. I might invest in one for actual nursing practice or if I end up in a clinical where it’s never quiet and I can’t hear anything over the noise. They’re just so expensive. You can get one that attaches to your current stethoscope, but it’s still like $200. The Littmann kinds where it isn’t an attachment but part of the actual stethoscope starts at nearly $400. Also I worry it’ll just amplify the noises I’m already hearing well and the quieter noises will still be quiet by comparison, so it’ll still be hard to hear what I need to hear.

 

[pacificlove]

Shae, I know you are young, but have you had a hearing test? Depending on what types of noises you have been in, maube you just can't hear a certain sound? (Hearing tests will cover all spectrums and should rule out of its truly a stethoscope issue??) Just a thought....

My job in the oilfield did annual hearing tests, mainly to see if we were using/given enough hearing protection and if our hearing was affected by the noises year to year.

Anyway, just a thought...

 

[shaescott]

PL not since high school, we had hearing tests every year just seeing if we could hear a bunch of different pitches. I always passed them with flying colors, but it’s been a few years. I’ve heard a lot of girls are having trouble hearing BP and apical pulses, so it may just be a lack of practice. I may also have wax buildup in my ears, that’s a possibility. I know my ears can produce a decent amount of wax (my poor earphones are evidence enough) though I’ve never had to have it removed or anything. The practicum is on Wednesday so I don’t have time to go home and get checked for that, unfortunately.

 

[Jezika]

Shae - I have quite waxy ears too and they never became a problem until maybe four years ago when the wax suddenly totallt occluded my ear canal on one side so that I basically couldn’t hear anything. I had both ears syringed at the doc and it made a craaaazu difference to my hearing. The stuff that came out, my God... anyway, I since learned to do it at home. You drop a few drops of olive oil in your ears for a few days to soften up the wax and then you can carefully use one of those bent-tip syringes (actually i Guess it doesn’t have to be bent, it’s just all I had access to at our labs) to repeatedly spray warm water right into your ear canal with as much force as possible as you lean over a sink. Again, the stuff that comes out is crazy. But you do have to be careful of course... I usually hold the tip against the side of my ear canal so it’s not waving around and don’t go too deep. Once I finally get the gunk out it’s soooo satisfying. Anyway, this is just something you could maybe try in the next few days if you wanted to.

Future - I’m so sorry about the loss. How are you feeling?

Wishing that all the sick kiddos get better soon. Tilly had awfully high fever two weeks ago, then I had it the following week, and now hubby has fever over 40 C. Loving these daycare germs.

I’m sorry I forgot everything else. Must sleeeeep.

 

[Flueky88]

Sorry selfish post. V is sick, not horribly but I've caught her cold. Not too bad a minor sore throat and runny nose. Thinking I'll call mom to head over early and let me get some rest. I slept poorly as I always do when sick.

 

[PrettyInInk42]

This morning's test...

 

[Flueky88]

Pretty definitely there!! Knew I saw it on your negative the other day. Congrats

 

[PrettyInInk42]

Thanks, Flueky. It's still early days though. I think I'll test again in a few days. Looks like I'll be keeping that prenatal appt I made. lol

Also, sorry to hear about you and V. Hope you both get better soon and you get some sleep.

 

[Flueky88]

Thanks pretty. My mom is heading over and I'm kinda trying to rest.

Forgot I wanted to post an old wives tale, gender thing before my scan tomorrow.

Heart rate: girl
Cravings: boy
Morning sickness: boy
Bump: boy??
Ring: boy
Baking soda: girl
Chinese gender calendar: girl
Skin: boy


That's all the old wives tales I can think of.

 

[DobbyForever]

Fluek did you use fmu with the baking soda and a regular type? When I used smu and organic it came up girl but when I redid fmu with arm and hammer it was so boy

I vote boy!

Great line pretty! Congrats! When/how are you telling SO?

Future I am so sorry for your loss sending you the biggest hugs

Still overwhelmed so sorry just replying to things I can read quickly

 

[Flueky88]

Dobby I used a fresh box of arm and hammer with fmu. I did it twice and both times a girl.

Hope we are both right about team blue, if not it'll be lovely for V to have a sister close in age.

Sorry things are still overwhelming. Any light at the end of the tunnel at the moment?

 

[PrettyInInk42]

Thanks, Dobby. I really hope things settle down for you soon. You're such a good person and you deserve some peace.

So, my plan going forward is to keep my Oct 23 prenatal appt. They'll give me a requisition for blood work. Once that's confirmed, I guess I'll need to tell SO (I think I'll just call him that from now on). And I think they'll probably tell me to have an ultrasound, just to check for a heartbeat and get a proper EDD based on measurements. So, not sure if I should tell him before so he can come with me, or tell him after once we have it all super confirmed. Sound good?

As for how, I'm definitely gonna have to wait for the "right" time. Read: when he's in a pretty decent mood. Maybe I'll just tell him out right. Maybe I'll see a shirt that says "brother" on it while we're out and suggest we buy it. Maybe he'll make another comment about being ok with a 2nd and I'll say "Funny you should say that..." Just gonna have to wait and see.

Still trying to not put the cart before the horse here though.

 

[claireybell]

Ah Pretty, that’s totally a positive Pink line there eee Congrats my lovely! Im sure hubs will be fine with the news & if not, he will when it sinks in, my SO was the same. Looking forward to seeing some more test pics hehe! I hope your feeling alot better today

Hope your feeling ok Future.. big hugs again

Sorry your poorly Flueks & hope V feels lots better soon. Being poorly when pg is guff

Thanku for the bump pic comments girls, its a compact football bump lol!

Hope your Ok Dobby..

We had a nightmare panic today, so we had sex this morning, well if u can call it sex, i rolled over & was a usual gentle morning jig for him mainly lol, anyway, this is the usual for is atm & never had any issues.. so anyway, used the loo a few times & all fine, used the loo later this afternoon & my whole pantyliner was filled with blood have no idea how long it been trickling out for though :-/ So instantly panicked i screamed for SO all frantic, we dumped kids at his cousins house round the rd & drove straight upto Mat Hospital day unit, baby was all fine, all stats good, they did an internal with speculum & apparently some women have blisters or something like that on there cervix, if they get irritated &/or too big they burst? The Dr named them but cant think what their called, probs in my notes! He said sex probs made them pop & then bleed as there were still some on there but they probs would’ve popped at somepoint anyway, jeeze it scared the s**t outta me!! I dont wanna dtd now until baby is here. Never had it happen at all so far! So much drama & anxiety i feel completely pooped now zzzZ!

 

[Flueky88]

Pretty your confirmation would be a little over a week from today. Too early for an ultrasound to see heartbeat so I'd say tell him after you've confirmed unless the right moment presents itself. I'd definitely tell after confirming and have him go to your ultrasound.

Looking forward to seeing your next test

CB yes sick while pregnant is awful. I like taking zicam to get over a cold quicker. Maybe it's a placebo effect but always works for me.

Oh man what a scare. Glad lil bub was alright in there. I think I'd avoid sex too. Not sure DH would take that very well it was driving him mad when I was healing pp.


Well feel free to vote boy or girl. My appt is in about 12 hours. I'll update in the afternoon most likely.

DH is ill with a stomach virus. Ughhhh too much sickness right now. Also, why is it so hard to sleep when you are sick??

 

[FutureMrs]

CB so glad everything was okay!! I am doing okay, I’m angry and a bit concerned somethings wrong with me but I know in my heart it obviously wasn’t the right time and I hope it won’t take us to long to conceive again.

Pretty congrats!! I hope your hubby takes the news okay, were y’all trying?

Flu I am saying girl!

Dobs I hope your doing well xoxo

 

[Jezika]

Flueks I’m voting girl! If I remember correctly, you’re leaning boy? Sorry you’re sick. That sucks. Glad you can get help from your mum though.

Future I hear you and angry and concerned. I was like that with my CP even though I knew it was common. I conceived the very next cycle though.

Pretty congrats indeed! Very visible line. I think I may have missed something, but do you think there’s a chance SO won’t be entirely happy with the news?

CB that must have been absolutely terrifying. I hate to even imagine. SO glad everything it fine though. I’d probably never have sex again lol

Dobs I hope things calm down for you soon.

 

[mrs.green2015]

Cb- oh my gosh how scary!! So glad baby and you are fine. If that happened to me I probably wouldn't want to have sex either so scary.

Pretty- congrats!!!!!!!
Are you hesitant to tell your SO because he isn't sure wants another right now? Sorry I missed the story.

Flu- I vote girl. I think I have been wrong with every single pregnancy ever so it's probably a boy lol


Ladies who get cramps question: when I was in clomid I remember cramping between ovulation and af due date but I was pregnant both times I took it. Sooo I'm not sure if this cramping is an implantation sign or a sign that I actually ovulated. If you remember, I only ever ovulated once off clomid and I can't remember that long ago.

 

[PrettyInInk42]

Future - No, we weren't trying. We were using condoms for a while, I even asked him a few times (in heat of the moment) if he wanted to wear one. He was kinda yes and no about; no for how much better it feels, yes cuz "no babies". I decided to use a condom a couple of those times, but then I made an executive decision to stop using them and he never asked me to get one after that.

Jez - He never wanted kids. I was like 60% sure he was gonna leave when I told him about my first pregnancy, but he stayed and he's an alright parent. He's told me he'd be ok with just one, but he knew I wanted more. He's made a few comments recently about kinda being ok with another, but never with any enthusiasm. Also, he's a guy, so all he thinks when you mention babies is money and crying and dirty diapers. I'm sure he'll warm up to the idea though cuz he doesn't really have a choice. lol

Green - Ya, pretty much. He also only has a 1 bedroom condo (we don't live together), so we're tight on space as it is.

 

[claireybell]

Thanks girls, totally made me poop myself & i did cry at the time it was horrible but have had pees in the night & nothing this morning.. do fx, all cleared up! I could feel SO was ‘hard up’ this morning when i cuddled him in bed but i think he knew it was gonna be a no Lol so he got up for work

MrsG i only had later cycle Cramps when i was implanting with Nuala, it was around 5/6dpo & it was just too early for it to be period cramps, it only happened over a couple of days & it prompted me more to test early ha, it was 10dpo & morning test was neg, early afternoon test was an oooooober faint blue test but def there & then when i went out & got a pink dye 4 day early one it was there How many dpo you on atm? I need to check out your chart in a minute hehe

Ohhhhhh Flueks completely missed that bit about your scan ahhhhh its today!!! I know you are swaying Boy but i have a feeling its another Girl (sorry Lol) but im excited for you guys & looking forward to seeing scan piccys hehe!

Future, theres def nothing wrong with you hun, sometimes these things happen & theres no reason for it it still doesnt take that heartache away though.. I have no doubt in the next cycle or so you will get that positive again & its’ll be a sticky one hun

Pretty, my SO never really wanted anymore than 2 with me (he has an older son of 14 who lives in London but hasn’t seen him since he was 4) funnily enough, it was his idea fir me to stop taking my mini pill because i was bleeding so much, i buyed a whole big pack of non-latex condoms to use but he just wasn’t interested, he was happy to either pull out in time (which is how i got pg twice) but that never happened even though i told him on number of occasions its my fertile window & il get pg, he was all ‘naaaah we be ok’ seriously lol men! In my heart i feel if he really didnt want anymore he would’ve prompted with wearing condoms or def pulling out :-/ Im sure your hubs will be fine.. you could always say you were concerned with all the sickness you had recently & then your period never arrived so you tested to rule it out? And... oh well lol! & on the other hand, sometimes you can do everything to prevent & still fall pg, if its meant to be it will

 

[shaescott]

CB that’s so scary about the bleeding! I’m glad baby is fine.

Pretty I hope your SO responds well to the pregnancy.

Future have you tested to confirm the HCG is dropping? Or is the bleeding heavy enough that you’re not gonna bother? I’m so sorry you’re going through this, I’d be angry as well.

Stethoscope update: so I’m lying down in my room, not tired enough to go to sleep yet, and I decided to use my stethoscope on myself and see what I can hear. I could hear my apical pulse loud and clear! So I’m wondering if it was either sounds in the skills lab or if my partner’s stomach sounds were just that loud or if maybe her apical pulse just isn’t as loud... idk. My instructor said it’s louder sitting up because while laying down your heart falls back from the chest a bit, but I’m lying down and I can hear mine perfectly. I have very active bowel sounds (I also checked those) but not at the PMI (where you listen to the heart, for non-healthcare people), all I could hear at the PMI was my heart. I’ll have to practice more on my partner. I also need practice finding her brachial pulse. It’s a tough one for me.