Thanks for all your answers, truely appreciate every single one of them.
A few questions answered:
*Is he miserable in his job? Yes. Very. But I wasnt to know that yesterday (the day i sent the second photo), he had sent a lengthy email to the head of the company, recieved a date for a grievance meeting AND been in contact with several solicitors to help with legal advice. (All of this i discovered this morning, we saw eachother very briefly before he left for work.)
*Have we discussed out "banter/practical jokes"? No. I guess i feel its always been our way of having fun & being affectionate. I admit though, that in the last few months it jas got my back up more than normal, i tend to snap at him & ive let it build up inside. So sending thpse photos did feel lile total revenge. That sounds awful. I like to joke around with him, when we first got together it was definately a plus that we both shared a mischevious personality. I felt it fun & exciting & that we werent a "boring" couple, & if i call a stop to it he will view me as "boring". My friends who visit me some evenings, have commented on our behaviour (we dont hold back on playfighting etc when we have guests) & have said sometimes they feel worried for me. & my mum has commented on bruising before, from things such as when ive tickled his feet (he hates it) & hes grabbed my arms & thrown me to the floor or whatever.
I would like to add that, although sometimes he says hurtful things (he will tell me im fat when we know im not, so not true hurtful things, but things that still get us as women) & we have physical play fights, he by no.means physically or mentally abuses me. I know he loves me to the moon & back. I guess you ladies are opening my eyes to the fact maybe this behaviour is odd though. I should add we have only been together 9 months.
Add also, i read this back & feel you ladies must think im one naive dumb woman, but im not, ive had shit relationships & this is not like them, i had honestly not been in love before until i me this man.