Is there anyone who is in there 40's ttc?

[minted69]

Mrsp how r u
I am on cd10 doing opk, i have irregular cycles ranging from 19-48 days and havent got a clue for ovulation ever over months, any tips be grateful

 

[Garnet]

Hi Garnet, Donna, Desperado, Spoomie, MrsP,Malaguetta, Jax, LBean,Minted, marathongirl,

and everyone else

sorry for your loss minted I have my fingers crossed for you that you will succeed

thankyou for all your support things are going ok here day 2 of mc not much happened today so may take a few more days. Have a bit of flu which is boring so no running today but hopefully I will feel up to it tomoro.

How is everyone else going? Anyone testing soon?

Madeline xxx

Are u sure it is the flu?

 

[Garnet]

hi everyone

Here are some quotes on fertility and age I thought you could find interesting ;

"According to Dr. Kutluk Oktay, a reproductive endocrinologist at New York Medical College-Westchester Medical Center, who studies fertility preservation and diminished egg reserve, the rates of “spontaneous pregnancy” might actually be higher, since lower stats are often influenced by studies with women experiencing fertility problems. A healthy 43-year-old woman could expect her chances of conceiving naturally to be closer to 3 to 5 percent during a given cycle, he argues."

"Dr. Richard Paulson, a fertility specialist at the University of Southern California Medical School, agreed there was a lack of data of natural conception for fertile women over 40. He said he’d heard so many anecdotes about 43-year-old women getting pregnant on their own that he estimated the number could be much higher."

"The second factor is that such statistics are averages. They might include the woman who underwent premature menopause in her mid-30s as well as Fertile Myrtle who reproduced well into her 40s. Every woman is different, and she should never rely on these figures to make important fertility decisions. Paulson says “... we just don’t know how many 43-year-olds are getting pregnant naturally in the privacy of their own bedrooms.” ( "Reille Hunter Beat the Odds" by Sarah Elizabeth Richards Health & Science 2009)

There is so much negative generalisation online re women's fertility in the 30's and forties I thought it was important to point out that they just don't have the research to back it up and further that many of the comments come from fertility specialists engaged in IVF who arguable have a conflict of interest on this issue.

I wonder myself how different this experience of TTC would be if we were allowed to approach it as though it was perfectly natural and we could be as relaxed about it as anyone else....


Madeline xxx

I am on day 3 of my miscarriage, it is all pretty much over now and I am just tired and coming to terms with it. I just read the above post and wanted to say that I had no worries about getting pregnant at 40, I knew I would fall pregnant and I knew it wouldn't take me long, I just had a feeling! However I now feel a little differently due to a rather thoughtless young doctor at the hospital, who told me only half an hour after me finding out my baby had died at 6 weeks ( I should have been over 11) that perhaps I should consider an egg donor! I asked her if my egg could have been faulty and would that be the reason for my miscarriage and she said no, that would not have caused the mc. So I asked what she meant, and she said that at my age the eggs aren't always so great and it could take me a long time to get pregnant. I explained that I got pregnant in my second month of ttc'ing and she said that I should consider it if I didn't get pregnant again soon as it wouldn't be fair on the baby having an older Mum.... How dare she!!! I will be writing to the hospital to complain. I know I should just go back to my original way of thinking and just go for it, but she has got me worrying now about the state of my eggs!

So sorry about you MC. Those young doctors are so rude. Well I had a healthy boy at 40. The nerve of some people.

 

[Donna210369]

Hi ladies,

Jlondon, so sorry for your loss. I cannot believe what that Dr said to you, how bloody rude!! GRRRR!

Madeline like Garnet says are you sure it's flu hunni, make sure you're not brewing an infection.

hello everyone else, hope you're all good.

well af arrived after my chemical pg this month and is horrible. Dh works on a ship and we're going to meet up when the ship comes in but will prob not be until cd13. Might be too late as I can ov earlier than that some months xx

 

[never2late70]

Hello lovely's

Sorry to read and run. Super busy here at the hospital today and I had a crazy busy weekend as well.

I am going to be testing tomorrow morning I am 10DP HCG and 11 DP IUI ..I'm so excited! I really hope this is our month. I really don't think I can hanlde another month of Clomid

Prayers and Blessings to you al!!

~Angie (41)

 

[Donna210369]

Good luck for tomorrow Angie xx

 

[Desperado167]

Goid luck angie ,Donna big big hugs ,madeline keep an eye on your temps and if they are raised go to the docs ,

 

[Garnet]

Hello lovely's

Sorry to read and run. Super busy here at the hospital today and I had a crazy busy weekend as well.

I am going to be testing tomorrow morning I am 10DP HCG and 11 DP IUI ..I'm so excited! I really hope this is our month. I really don't think I can hanlde another month of Clomid

Prayers and Blessings to you al!!

~Angie (41)

Good luck.

 

[Garnet]

Hi ladies,

Jlondon, so sorry for your loss. I cannot believe what that Dr said to you, how bloody rude!! GRRRR!

Madeline like Garnet says are you sure it's flu hunni, make sure you're not brewing an infection.

hello everyone else, hope you're all good.

well af arrived after my chemical pg this month and is horrible. Dh works on a ship and we're going to meet up when the ship comes in but will prob not be until cd13. Might be too late as I can ov earlier than that some months xx

My husband travels alot lately and in his next job so it has been three years of hurry home I'm ovulating.

 

[Deco]

I am on day 3 of my miscarriage, it is all pretty much over now and I am just tired and coming to terms with it. I just read the above post and wanted to say that I had no worries about getting pregnant at 40, I knew I would fall pregnant and I knew it wouldn't take me long, I just had a feeling! However I now feel a little differently due to a rather thoughtless young doctor at the hospital, who told me only half an hour after me finding out my baby had died at 6 weeks ( I should have been over 11) that perhaps I should consider an egg donor! I asked her if my egg could have been faulty and would that be the reason for my miscarriage and she said no, that would not have caused the mc. So I asked what she meant, and she said that at my age the eggs aren't always so great and it could take me a long time to get pregnant. I explained that I got pregnant in my second month of ttc'ing and she said that I should consider it if I didn't get pregnant again soon as it wouldn't be fair on the baby having an older Mum.... How dare she!!! I will be writing to the hospital to complain. I know I should just go back to my original way of thinking and just go for it, but she has got me worrying now about the state of my eggs!

I'm so sorry for your loss, and for the uncalled for insult to injury. Your Doofus Doc deserves the response "it's less fair that your kids have a tactless mum".

 

[Deco]

Hello lovely's

Sorry to read and run. Super busy here at the hospital today and I had a crazy busy weekend as well.

I am going to be testing tomorrow morning I am 10DP HCG and 11 DP IUI ..I'm so excited! I really hope this is our month. I really don't think I can hanlde another month of Clomid

Prayers and Blessings to you al!!

~Angie (41)

FX and praying for you.

 

[JLondon]

Thanks for the support girls. Thank goodness she was not my regular Dr. I have been staying with my Mum to help her out as she has had a recent back op. It all started here so had to go to her Dr and be referred to a local hospital, the Dr is question was very young and totally lacking in patient care. She was the first person I saw after the radiographer had told me the baby had died. Upon meeting her, she introduced herself and then asked "and how are you today".... Um not too great thanks, I've just found out my baby died 5 weeks ago!!! I have a friend who works for the NHS who has very strong feelings about patient care and she will help me compose a letter and make sure it is sent to the right people.

 

[Spoomie]

JLondon

I'm sorry for your loss, that is an outrageous comment and thank goodness you have the strength to complain about it. More training really is needed in how to deal with the bereavement of mc. I had a similar experience following my last mc; it was at 12+2 and my DH and I quite literally held our lost little one in the palm of our hands after the trauma of delivering him/her. As I was transferred to the ward I will never forget the words of the porter who asked if I was taking all my belongings with me. I guess it is an easy mistake, and that I was obviously reading greater significance into his comment, but definitely not the right choice of words for a woman who is leaving her baby behind to be transferred to the Ob/Gyn ward.

Although you are focused on the trauma of your loss, I pray that when the time is right for you, you are able to conceive again quickly and that you can stick a metaphorical two fingers up to the ridiculous comments of the medical staff you encountered. Incidentally, my son was born when I was 40, conceived at 39, the month after a mc, donor eggs as standard at 40 - pah!

 

[Madeline]

hi Garnet, desperado, Donna, Spoomie, Deco and everyone

good luck today nevertoolate hope you are feeling better JLondon.

how is everyone going today? Things are good here, thks again for the advice I am watching the flu to make sure its not an infection. So far no discharge or fever so I think its just normal flu.

I hope everyone is feeling fertile cause I want to c some bf's ladies




Madeline xxx

 

[Garnet]

Yup that would be nice. Glad it is the flu Madeline not infection. Hope everyone has a nice day.

 

[minted69]

Baby dust to everyone x

 

[minted69]

]Hello all

Had my 1st lh surge today, hoping everything goes ok,
now its down it fxs. Hope everything is ok with everyone.

 

[Madeline]

hey minted thats fantastic fingers crossed

hey everyone thought you might find this interesting

"In 1999, a group of researchers at Liverpool Hospital in the UK, one of the largest miscarriage clinics in the world, examined the histories of more than 700 of their patients in whom no cause of recurrent miscarriage could be found.

As you can see in their results in the table below, even when a couple have experienced several miscarriages, there is a very high probability that their next pregnancy will go to term:

Chance of next pregnancy going to term based on age and miscarriage history:

Age
(years} Number of previous miscarriages
2 3 4 5
20 92 90 88 85
25 89 86 82 79
30 84 80 76 71
35 77 73 68 62
40 69 64 58 52
45 60 54 48 42
Brigham et al . Human Reproduction 1999


ps the numbers 2 3 4 5 should start at the second column the represent the number of mc's

Madeline xxx

 

[minted69]

Good luck never2late have everything crossed for you x

Madeline, how r u feeling today x

 

[Jax41]

Hi y'all!!

Minted, you get going

JLondon, hope you forget completely the words the Dr said to you....

Madeline, you are stats queen

Deco, can't wait to hear what your test brings in the morning!!

AFM, DH hopefully went for his SA today.....and I'm wondering is anyone here on this thread 40+ and TTC#1 still or am I alone in the world