Dear New Moms: I've decided to write you this letter as you near your EDD in order to dispel the ugly rumor that having your baby is going to make you fall apart and turn into a crazy woman. This simply isn't a fact. Occasionally, it happens, and nobody should feel badly for that. I'm not saying it can't. There are, of course, circumstances like PND that make what I'm about to say untrue...and I'm not discounting that. But for the MOST part.... When people tell you you'll never have any time with OH anymore... NOT TRUE. My husband and I have two kids, ages 4 and 5, and we still don't feel like we 'don't get our time'. Our children have always had normal bedtimes, we take time for date-nights... we feel just as connected as we always have. When people tell you you'll be a crazy-woman with no sleep.... NOT (necessarily) TRUE. Your sleep will be interrupted by baby. If you're lucky, it will be a few times a night. If you're unlucky, it will a few times a night x10 But... your body will adapt. You will fall back asleep. You will have nights where you're frustrated and don't want to wake up... but you're not doomed to walk around a zombie. You find ways to make it work. Take naps when LO does until they are no longer waking up so often, etc... When people tell you it's impossible to get out of the house.... NOT TRUE. Have a diaper bag filled at night and ready to go. Give yourself extra time. But yes, you can get out of the house. And yes, once you're out of the house, you can enjoy yourself. And you will. I took my first LO everywhere with me. I guess....Just take people's well-meaning 'advice' with a grain of salt. Having a baby does not have to turn your life upside down. It does not have to be a time in life where you 'grin and bear it' as the 'ultimate sacrifice of a mom'. Having a newborn was one of the most peaceful times in our life...both times so far... EVEN with a colicky 2nd baby and a 15 month old who needed us, too. Get ready for the best time of your life... Jackie ETA: P.s. When people tell you "You'll never have your body back...it's just part of the sacrifice.. but it's alllllll worth it for your LO...."... well, I want to smack them. Pregnancy is hard on your body. Yes. And at first, it won't look the same. And it will (unless you're one of the blessed, blessed lucky ones) take some work to bring it back to a body that you feel good about. But if you're unhappy with your body after baby, some hard work will bring it back. I swear. You won't even notice your faded stretchmarks... they just become something that's there... they fade... and if you eat right and work out, you can look just as hot as you want to-- if that's something that is worrying you.