Sorry need to vent:
Hey ladies
Not sure if I am losing my mind or it's actually my Dh. Here is my story... Be my judge and jury.*
Dh leaves for a friends (Mike) party sat morning at 7am, I was aware of this party because Mikes' wife had called my Dh so they could surprise Mike. My Dh was going to act as a decoy to get Mike out of the house to watch football at some bar so Mike's wife could make the appropriate preparations..
I left for work the same day to start at 11am-7pm, during my 8 hr shift tried 3 times to call Dh but 'not available' (recorded voice message!) After 7pm on my way home Dh calls me and says still at party, since there was some left over food did not want to say anything negative. I got home at 7:30pm & ate, slept on couch only to wake up mid-night and Dh still not home!! Called him and he says will be home in the m'ning and offcourse I could hear music in the background. *I told him to get his priorities right that's when he told me to speak to Mike if I wanted to confirm.... I told him Mike is not*
my Dh..Gosh I did not want to speak to Mike I wanted him home. *I hang up in frustration.*
Woke up at 8am to see a missed call at 7:38am no voice message. I decided to go to church before work as I was working this weekend so left the house at 9am for 9:30am church service (mass). After church went straight to work to start at 11am -7pm again. *Noticed I had 19 missed calls when I left church and by the time I was at work had 38 missed calls. I decided to ignore as I was frustrated just to talk about the whole ordeal of someone deciding whilst at a friends party to sleepover.
Decided to just send a text that was at work and he called my friend to confirm as I guess did not believe me!!! ( so much for someone who has slept out!) anyhow i called him back during my lunch hour and he just could not hear me, he was all over the place with 'i cheat that's why I do not trust him, if I did not cheat then I would just trust him' my point was it was not about trust it was about making a decision to sleepover without discussing it with me.. So now the blame shifted to me...his questions ' Why did I leave the house without letting him know?? ... I did not have the energy to answer as don't man know that when a wife is upset the least they want to do is be the obedient wife -notifying!! He felt It was revenge so I could have revenged by cheating on him too the very same morning.. (with all the progesterone in my vagina, honestly!) did not know it was that easy to find a man the same morning and just have sex. *My Dh was cheated on by first wife thus the insecurity..
When I got home all 'hell' broke loose, he insisted that I talk to his friend and I did not want to drag him into this. I said NO but he insisted and put his friend on the line.. I told his friend that I'm not related to him, I do not need to talk to him. Ladies all I wanted was to just get an explanation as to why he decided to sleepover and an apology.... That's all, he went on to talk about the nasty issues about me to his friend how I don't respect him and that I am doing all this because I am carrying his embryo!! He said that to me and worst he said i was prostituting before I met him that's why my tubes where blocked and that's why I was never blessed!! Whilst I was bathing*he snatched my ring and said I do*deserve it after not wanting to speak with his friend.!!! After all this trash talk I decided to zip it... He then said we are done, and if pregnant he wants an abortion, yes he said that.. Offcourse *I will never go for that.
Tell me how a most wanted BFP *can turn into an unwelcomed one!!*I slept on the couch as he had taken my bed.
SarahAk I thought about you after this incident. *Am trying to find my faults but I cannot. I feel so content and what will be will be.
My question to u all is did I over react and was I wrong?