IVF or FET November/December 2015 - chat thread

[Disneyfan88]

I've been "feeling" like it worked, and I've been somewhat crampy for days, but the tests still show negative as of this morning (6dp5dt). I got a faint positive in February at 5dp5dt and a really dark evening positive at 6dp5dt with DD. We shall see what happens... My official beta day is Friday. If I get a positive home test tomorrow morning, I'll swing by the doctor's office for the beta tomorrow because I'll already be out that way for acupuncture.

Darn you, progesterone and your confusing side effects!

For now, I'll reduce my expectations just a tad, but I'll continue to hold on to that tiny bit of hope with the understanding that it's still somewhat early in the grand scheme of things.

 

[amanda1235]

Hey guys!!!!! So sorry I've been MIA! This last cycle has been a nightmare, with ectopic scares, which seem to have resolved itself, to very slow dropping betas. I did my last beta last Thursday, and my levels were at 11, so still not 0. I left for Budapest Friday, and I was still spotting. Which means up until yesterday when it finally stopped, I had been bleeding since May 30. Now, I have NO idea when I will get my next AF, but hopefully not until I get back. Thankfully this trip has been exactly what we needed. Too busy touring and visiting family to even think of fertility which is such a relief. I absolutely love Budapest (4th time here) but it is HOT! Haha we leave for Manchester tomorrow morning to spend the week with my parents. Looking forward to relaxing and a break from the heat

I have tried to read back and catch up on everyone, sorry if I missed something or get something wrong!! When I have more time I will read properly

Wish, that's great that you are going to use DE. I'm also using donor gametes, and have really thought about it, and doesn't matter whether they share your genes or not, they will be your children.

Klik, to answer your question, I guess if you tell your children, then if they ever date another child from donor gametes, they can look up the donor number to be sure? Hehe sorry your priming cycle got cancelled!! Boo!

Disney, PUPO!! Hoping for a nice BFP tomorrow morning!!!!

Boopin, so great that things are getting closer for you

Aster, sorry that DH is still drinking. I completely understand, and it must be so frustrating. Hugs!

 

[Disneyfan88]

Thanks, Amanda! I hope you continue having fun and that AF stays away until your trip ends.

 

[boopin4baby]

Fingers & toes crossed for you Disney!!

amanda - I'm glad to hear your safe and enjoying your trip. It sounds like your having a blast. It's nice to NOT be thinking ttc stuff all the time. xx

klik - Do your OPK thang girlfriend!! GL!!

Aster - DITTO!! We truly are Strong Women for dealing with all that we do!!

AFM - My Kaiser OB/GYN has ordered all 7 blood tests. I'll test in the morning, as one is fasting. I dodged that OOP bullet!! I'm going to test my beta again, too. Last week it was down to 13. Hopefully, I'll start my period within a couple weeks and then I can schedule my saline sonogram.

 

[Disneyfan88]

Thanks, Boopin! Good luck with your blood work!

I'm starting to feel like I'm maybe out. We're doing my beta tomorrow (a day early) since I'll already be in the area. Even if it's early, my doctor says we would at least know by tomorrow if it's even slightly positive. We shall see what happens. I definitely knew by now with my previous 2 pregnancies. I'm going to drive myself mad until I know one way or another.

 

[Asterimou]

Hang in there Disney, the last few days are so tough. Thinking of you x

Amanda: it's good to hear you had a nice break, so important to switch off for a bit.

Well I had my consultation but not sure this place is for me. It seemed a bit too impersonal and I was hoping to meet the main guy but got another doctor. She was very good at explaining things and I felt she covered it all but there are so many extras at this place that my mind was whirling afterwards. The minimum it will cost is £10K and I can see how it could spiral way over that. She did say in our case she feels we have a 60 to 65% chance per cycle there, which is the best odds I've ever heard. She said each cycle is different and just because embryos were bad last time doesn't mean it will happen again. During the 14 days of stimms they give you a blood test every day and a scan every other. This is why they feel they are better. So I guess I need to decide if I think this place is worth the premium. I'm in two minds to go for a consultation at another clinic that I've heard good things about and then decide, but time is ticking!

 

[klik]

Amanda: hope you're enjoying Manchester! It's good to see you're doing well. I'm sure beta will be down to zero by the time you get back, and then the whole ectopic scare can just go away. And it's excellent that in the meantime you're getting a real break! Yeah, re. donor gametes, that makes sense--it's just that everyone needs to talk to everyone else a bit more. Until my friend mentioned it, I thought, "who cares who the biological family is anyway?" but actually there is this one realm where it matters... But it's so worth figuring out! Enjoy your family, and the rest of your holiday!

Disneyfan: That's really tough, being in this limbo... I'm glad you can get a beta tomorrow. Gosh, I hope it's positive... Til then, hang in there...

Boopin: I'm still hoping you DON'T start your period within a couple weeks!

Asterimou: Sorry you got a less-than-stellar impression of ARGC. My word, those are amazing numbers--I wish I could get anything close! But yeah, they're crazy expensive... Good luck with whatever you decide!

AFM: Still nothing on that OPK... Patience is the name of the game at the moment!

 

[Disneyfan88]

Popping in to give a quick update, but I can't stay for long. I'm sorry to say that my test results came back negative. Again. I'm waiting for my doctor to call me to discuss. I'd be lying if I said I expected different results as the home tests were still negative as of this morning.

 

[boopin4baby]

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I'm so sorry Disney. Sending you BIG HUGS
Even BIGGER HUGS
And the BIGGEST HUGS your way!!

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[Asterimou]

Oh Disney, I'm so sorry I know you will be so disappointed and I know how hard it is to get back up when a cycle fails. Time heals and you will be okay. I'm really sorry it didn't work out how you hoped xx

 

[Hope16]

Sorry to hear the bad news Disney. Sending

 

[klik]

I'm so, so sorry, Disneyfan. You did absolutely everything you could. Absolutely everything. You deserve better. I'm really, really sorry... I hope you can find moments of comfort in the difficult mourning you're having to do... I'm sure your DD will help... And you'll come out of this eventually... But it is just too sad for words. I'm sorry...

 

[Wish2BMom]

hello lovelies -

disney - ugh, i'm so sorry this didn't work out for you. I hope you're finding solace in DD and...maybe some wine. huge hugs to you. We're here for you to throw things at, if you want.

klik - gurrrl, you didn't offend me! I was on vacation!! I hadn't thought of that, actually, so that's a good point. We will be meeting with a counselor to go over questions like that, I'll see what they have to say! I was just thinking that sites like Ancestry.com are going to go out of business b/c you can't keep track of this stuff. Also, if anyone is interested, a friend of mine from HS actually just wrote a novel with this as a subject, called True North. I intend to get a copy. The storyline she wrote sounds so interesting!

boopin - FX'ed on a little miracle LO!! I'm so hopeful for you.

amanda - Budapest sounds so exotic!! So glad you had a great time and got to clear your mind of TTC for awhile. It can just be so consuming.

aster - that is quite the rigorous schedule but I'm loving the odds! let us know if you stay with this place!

afm - our vacation was wonderful, except for the constant snipping DH and I did to each other all week. I swear it was like it was 'cool' and 'funny' to just be irritated with me all week. I was gonna kill him or divorce him by Thursday, but then we woke up ok on Friday and even BD'ed. Ahhh marriage! So now starts all of the DE prep - I have to call to make appointments that I need to fit in and around all of my work travel/stress I have coming up this month. Or i could just wait until Sept but I want to get some things out of the way. We can't get the keys to the donor site to make choices until we do that.

 

[Disneyfan88]

Thanks, ladies! We are of course very disappointed with the outcome of this last transfer. With everything that we tried, and all of the testing that we did, I was a little too sure that it would work this time. I still can't figure out how we went wrong with THREE genetically normal embryos.

Having DD definitely makes it easier for us to accept our outcome. And we've actually decided to try for one or two medicated IUIs later this year since all of my meds are still fully covered through the end of the year. We'll see what happens.

In the meantime, we've decided that it's definitely time to do something for us, so last night, we booked a vacation to Disney's Hawaii resort for this coming October. DD keeps asking to go to Hawaii (seriously! ), and it'll be nice for us to get away. We'll probably look at doing the IUI(s) after that trip or after our post-Thanksgiving Disneyland trip (our last trip before our annual passes expire).

Regardless of what happens with us, I still want to see you guys succeed on your individual journeys. We're taking a break from actively TTC, but I'll still be around cheering you guys on as often as I can. Thanks so much for all of your support!!!

 

[Wish2BMom]

all of those plans sound WONDERFUL and great things to look forward to! (I can't even believe we can mention the holidays already, but they are there!!) I'm glad you're feeling better about things, Disney. And never lose hope in what may be - a woman on a DE IVF thread just got pregnant naturally!! Crazy stuff.

 

[klik]

Wish: Phew! So glad that not only did I not offend you, you were actually on vacation! How awesome! Where did you go? As for Ancestry.com, maybe they (or someone like them) will start making a living exactly out of all this, these dual family trees that more and more kids are starting to come from. I'm curious what your counsellor will say!

Disneyfan: I really am sorry that these FETs didn't work. 3 good-quality normal blastocysts, from such a young woman... that's really unexpected. I'm glad you'll try medicated IUIs. I love it that your DD keeps asking to go to Hawaii! I think she can sense what's good for you! Awesome that you've booked it already! You so deserve some nice, quality vacations!

I'm still using my OPK and still nothing, but it's now way past the time when I should have ovulated. Thing is, I got the EWCM right on time, and then I felt (or imagined!) something going on in my right ovary exactly when I thought ovulation day would be... So, at least in my imagination, my body's getting back to normal! So now I'm faced with a mini-conundrum... I'm expecting to get AF a week from Saturday... If I don't, I'll have a teeny tiny bit of hope that maybe I'm pregnant (that there was some follicle hiding behind my huge cyst), so maybe I'll test on Sunday, which will be my birthday. But there's, like, a 99.9% chance that I'm not pregnant, so I'll probably just be setting myself up for disappointment on my birthday. What I don't understand is where this insane hope comes from. Oh, well, I just can't help it!

 

[klik]

So quiet here! I guess none of us are actively cycling... May baby dust fall upon us all!

 

[boopin4baby]

Hi klik - I'm just preparing right now for my FET in October. Lot's of immune testing (so far everything is coming back normal). I started AF today!! I'll be contacting my nurse tomorrow to schedule my saline sonogram. I've also changed my vitamin regimen. I'm taking folate instead of folic acid in my prenatal vitamins. And I've added extra iron to my daily mix of pills.

I see your current feeling is "worried". What's going on hun?? Are you okay?? xx

DITTO!! Baby Dust to ALL!!

 

[Wish2BMom]

yepper - same here - cd1 yesterday/today-ish, so going in on Sunday for my cd3 bloods and then just set up my saline sono for 8/15.
I really really hope that you get that miracle baby!! I get it, though - slim chances, but there IS a chance. I don't know where the optimism comes from either. 3 yrs of trying and I still wonder if the odd BD will result in a BFP for us!

 

[Disneyfan88]

I got a big 'ol box of fertility meds from UPS today. My doctor ordered up enough meds for a cycle of IVF or medicated IUI since insurance is covering all of my meds through the end of the year. The plan is to do one or two IUIs following our trip(s). If we change our mind on IVF, we will have the meds, which will still be good next year.

We're definitely not doing the IUI before we fly to Hawaii in October. I'm undecided about doing it before our planned Disneyland trip, which will be right after Thanksgiving. I'm leaning towards doing it after then, too.

My RE gave me a list of supplements that she recommends for helping fertility, so I'm on a lot of vitamins at the moment.