IVF sucess now in 1st Trimester

[Bma11]

Aimze- that really does suck about the adoption. Are you supposed to do anything in particular during those 12 months? Hope your concoction works !! how is your pup??

Pcsoph- amazing news!!! I am so happy for you and DH. glad baby is good.

AFM- my cerclage went great last week. Thanks for all the well wishes. Today is my last appointment with my fertility specialist. And I actually get to see him instead of the nurse. Wednesday I go for my nuchal screening. And hopefully we will know the sex of the babies. Then after that my cousin wants to take some pictures of us should I decide to announce it in fb. Which I'm not a big fan of because I'm a little shy, but DH has family that we never see not talk to on the phone and fb is the way we connect... I HATED FB PREGNANCY ANNOUNCEMENTS when I was trying, good thing is most of my friends have kids soo... I don't think anyone is struggling. But I don't dare assume that so if I do announce via fb I will say something about my struggle.

Oh I can't wait to find out the gender of my sweet babies!!!

 

[aimze]

Bma I also hate fb announcements...it's really harsh but as soon a they do I tease an upset myself reading all the well wishes...

My best friend had her 12 week scan today...1 week before mine should have been...

As soon as she announces it I'm going to have to remove her status updates...took her 3 months....3 months of which she complained how long it was taking :-/

Yes it really does suck...the 12 months are for you to grieve...well what if I dnt need to grieve! Maybe I'll get myself a natural bfp instead if adoption doesn't want me!

BMa great to hear you're well! X

 

[Bma11]

Aimze- I would do the same thing. I've had to hide a like 5 girls from Facebook and one of the girls husbands. It was like a double whammy every time they went to the doctor. Oh and this one girl tried once and was upset when she found out she was having a girl and not a boy. I wanted to slap her. She's also my sisters best friend. Ugh! I still honestly do not like the overload of pictures some - scratch that most of the pregnant girls post. Every dr visit. Maybe I'm too harsh.... I will not be an over sharer on fb. Like I said I'm still debating on whether I should announce it on fb. Most of my other bnb buddies have told me that I deserve to do it etc... So I feel better about doing it. We shall see. DH isn't an over sharer on fb either.

Well I sure do hope you get your natural bfp! That would be wonderful. It happens alot! I've known people to get pregnant as they are doing the adoption process so they end up having one adopted and one biological at the same time!

 

[pcsoph2890]

're fb hubby and I have decided not to publicly announce it. Purely based on how we felt there must be others going thru the same going thru it in silence..... I've . Messaged the people who I want to know and knew about the ivf, so happy to keep it that way. I'm a, lot more conscious of others who will be going thru this. They don't know about our ivf journey to get where we are so they'll just think we got caught naturally!!!!

 

[hmommy219]

Thanks girls!

Soph, loved reading your post!! Congrats!

Went for a 10 week ultrasound today. Baby's heart beat was 161 and he has little arms and legs..it was amazing..I could have watched it all day. I have been released from bed rest and diagnosed with a subchorionic hematoma. I'm told its common but they'll have to keep an eye on it- which means more frequent scans (the up side)

Will try to make it through the next two weeks quietly hiding my bump then let the cat out.

I totally agree with you all about the Facebook announcements...they always made me sad.

Aimze, that stinks about waiting a year!! Have you considered China?

 

[pcsoph2890]

Hmommy - that is brill news But great that you get regular scans..... Great for the baby book later on!!

Aimze - i can understand what they do that. There will be many couples whose knee jerk reaction is to go for adoption straight away. The time gives you time to grieve for what can't be in some cases, make sure that this is the right option for both of you. There are open days you can go to to get more info about the procedure as there are many different options such as no contact at all with birth parents, some contact with them etc, so you'd have to see what option would best suit both of you (but more than likely they'll have some bizarre names for the children that their birth parents gave them!!)

Also use this year to enjoy being married, as a lot has happened to you in such a short time. You need time to get your heads round what has happened/what can happen/what can't happen.
And perhaps the pressure being off you both and considering all the options you have things might happen naturally - you just never know.

But if adoption is right, the year will zoom by and i cannot see any problem with the application procedure (long i know and drawn out, so that'll will have it's own stresses and strifes) but the child you are destined to have is possibly out there or just being made for you at this time. When the right child is destined for you you'll not look back.
A guy at work his best mate went through adoption and has just had the offical ceremony at court with the judge and family/friends that the children are offically theirs, so it is such a wonderful thing to do.

Doors are not closed, but slightly ajar for you and still being so young the world is your oyster and there are loads of things out there that you as a couple will acheive. This time next year you'll look back and who knows what will have happened.

Keep your chin up, keep smiling even at times you may not feel like it - but things all work out in the end for whatever reason.

xxxx

 

[bbblues]

Heading to my dr appointment today. They are doing the nucial fold test today. Hope I get some good pictures, I'm bringing my daughter with me. Hope everyone else is doing well.

 

[Bma11]

Heading to my dr appointment today. They are doing the nucial fold test today. Hope I get some good pictures, I'm bringing my daughter with me. Hope everyone else is doing well.

Me too! can't wait to see pics!

 

[Peachy1584]

Aimze I am praying for a natural bfp for us both! Had my post op appt and the pathology came back that baby was a boy and had trisomy 15 which is fatal. Dr said we don't have to do genetic counseling because it is rare and not because of hubby or I just a fluke that has less than 1% chance of happening again. I however have learned to hate statistics as I am never on the right side of them. For the next few months we will try clomid and see if we can get my left ovary to kick in and my short tube to pick it up. I have never tried it before so may as well give it a shot while I lose some weight anyways.

Glad to hear everyone else is well and hmommy huge congrats on your u/s!

 

[aimze]

Peachy good to hear from you...

I hope you don't mind me saying but I felt it a lot easier to take knowing my last pregnancy was molar, it meant my poor baby was always too precious to be born...Do you feel the same with your little boy having trisomy 15?

Massive hugs to you xx

 

[pcsoph2890]

Here is my little one, big nose (like hubby) and sticking it's tongue out....

 

[Peachy1584]

Aimze yes I do believe God felt he was too perfect for earth. I wish you had gotten to get some answers for what happened this time. I have one frozen one left but will probably be too afraid to use it. I wonder if this would have happened had I not done ivf. A lot of people say when you finally give up is when it happens. I had a teacher once that had been trying for years and finally got to adopt a baby boy and 3 months later she was pregnant with another son. I think stress can be such a bad thing.

Pcsoph what a neat pic!

 

[bbblues]

Pcsoph what a great pic. So cute sticking his/her tongue out

 

[bbblues]

Our scan from yesterday

 

[pcsoph2890]

BMA - hello little one!!!! The face is really detailed isn't it????

 

[Bma11]

Yes it is!! So sweet. Love both of y'all's pics. I got mine yesterday after my nuchal screening but haven't uploaded it yet. I got a girl and boy in there!!! Yay!

 

[Bma11]

MY GIRL
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MY BOY
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[pcsoph2890]

Omg how did they sex them in the UK the easiest they say they can sex is 16w3d????

 

[Bma11]

My ob ordered me to have a nuchal screening test at 12 weeks for downs with a specialist. She said sometimes they can tell the sex. I asked and he said it was a boy and girl. He showed us baby a and he had something between his legs and baby b did not have that! It is not 100% but that's what he thinks and what we saw

 

[bbblues]

Bma they are so precious. I can't believe you found out the sex already. I didn't even think to ask. Didn't think they could see much yet lol. So happy for you and hubby though