Thank you everyone. I am more hurt than anything because I encourage DH to do a lot for his siblings and family and I am the one to remind him of their birthdays, special occasions etc. I've had issues with all of his siblings in some way or another but as DH advised I did not marry them so don't worry about them. I am getting there but our families are so different. My family is so warm and inviting we've been together 13 years and he's never had an issue with any of them.
It is a bit encouraging Raelynn and Beagle to know I am not the only one who married into drama filled loonies lol
Sorry you have to deal with in-law drama, but it's good to know I'm not alone. I have a BIL who is an absolute screw up, 3 dwi's, no job for almost 2yrs, no school, and he's a narcissist. He's always working a scam, never takes responsibility for anything, blames everyone else, and everyone seems to either give him a pass or help him. This kid needs to hit rock bottom, and he's 30. He sees me as taking dh away from him, but he does nothing but cause problems, He sent dh to the ER with a gash under his eye 3 weeks before the wedding, dh got him a job at his law firm and he went out on short term disability only to be caught kayaking on FB when he said he needed 4 mos off to heal from rotater cuff surgery...which should've been 3 weeks. He turned around and threatened to sue the firm, where dh got him the job and where dh makes his living to support his family. He never once thought about how this could impact dh.....and he lies about everything including things I've supposedly said which we end up finding out about and he denies saying it. He blames me for dh keeping his distance...at the end of the day he's a liability. We keep our distance b/c he doesn't care about anyone but himself. It's hurtful but he has never been to see the baby with the exception of when we were in the hospital the week he was born.
Some families are just different. Mine puts each other first and they are selfless. It's all what you learn and what's expected of you. My family has a large circle of friends so we are always going to bdays, engagements, and other things...we have a sense of obligation outside of ourselves. Dh's family doesn't really have a lot of friends and they all do their own thing. Not 1 member of his family ever texted, called, emailed or anything while I was prego to see how I was doing and with the exception of my MIL, no one asks how their nephew is. My brother has been to see us plenty of times to see the baby and they live 2hrs away...dh's family is as close as a mile (1 brother) and 45min being the furthest. It's upsetting to dh and we always invite them to do stuff, but I can't take it personally. They don't get that when you get married your spouse comes first, that is your family now. And don't even get me started with the guilting over holidays!!
So how is everyone doing now that I released that rant! I went for acupuncture yesterday and I needed it badly. Between the Aunt being an evil witch, and now work has turned to me and wants me to sign a new contract because mine is up today. They are trying to coerce me by saying they paid me while I was on maternity leave, which I am entitled to. They actually called it a production deficit!!! And that I should have to pay it back!! They could've put me on disability but chose not to bc I've been here the longest...so they try to handcuff me by saying I have to sign a contract which says I will work off what I made during leave. Yes. This is absolutely insane. Spoke to an attorney and they agree. Never ceases to amaze me. Whatever this dark cloud is it better leave.
I got a + on my opk and decided to try for our natural Hail Mary and will do so again tonight and tomorrow...you never know right!
Monday is the IVF class and meeting with genetic counselor. I wish I could be bump buddies with you ladies...I hope I can get prego again. I would even take tiwns at this point....3 under the age of 2, OMG!
