July/August IUIs

[beaglemom]

Does the trigger typically leave earlier? I totally forgot to test mine out this time. But if I start testing at 10 dpo I will assume it is gone...it has always been gone by 6 days after. Good luck with your beta! I know it is driving you nuts!

I will start on bcp. I plan to take those longer than usualy just so I can push my retrieval in to December. I cannot take time during Thanksgiving & I was stressed I was pushing too much in to such a small window. So we decided I could start my meds late Nov & then have the retrieval the first week of Dec. It is a bit of a funky situation. I would stay on bcp about a week or 2 longer...if I do another natural cycle, that would mean the retrieval would be mid December which would squeeze it into another short window because no time for me during Christmas either.

The time off thing is based on everyone's else already having the time off. My manager said not to worry about it, but I do not want any attention brought to myself...and if an exception is made, people will want to know why. So I think think this is the best plan. This will also give me a couple extra weeks to get all the pre IVF stuff taken care of. We are very excited.

 

[raelynn]

I tried testing the trigger out and got a negative at 9dpo so I think that is when it left but since I only had a negative for one day before there was a faint line again I can't be 100% sure

All the scheduling must be pretty stressful especially trying to work around everyone's schedule. I hope you can get perfect timing for it!

 

[Babywhisperer]

I tried testing the trigger out and got a negative at 9dpo so I think that is when it left but since I only had a negative for one day before there was a faint line again I can't be 100% sure

All the scheduling must be pretty stressful especially trying to work around everyone's schedule. I hope you can get perfect timing for it!

Popping in to say hi! Raelynn I hope this is your bfp!!! Good luck with your beta.

Ltruns hang in there girl. You'll have the funds saved up in no time.

Beaglemom I'm sorry about the grant delay. Like we need more waiting on this journey!! Crossing fingers you get it.

Afm it's been rough. There's a lot of stuff going on and it seems when it rains it pours. I'm interviewing and could use all the good vibes and prayers that a better offer comes soon. My office is toxic like Survivor Island and people any me to align myself with them and their plan against my boss. The guy planning this is not a good person. These are men in their 50s. They are behaving like catty women and it's just too much. We all sit practically on top of one another it's hard to ignore the bs. Dh finally sees that while he has no commute he could likely make more if he commuted to the city like me. My nephew is making strides but still in the NICU. He will likely be there for a few weeks. The great news is that he's gaining weight and while he's on oxygen and a feeding tube he seems to have turned a corner!! Woohoo power of prayer!

I had my trial transfer for IVF today which is just measuring and mapping out how to transfer an embryo when the time comes. I'm getting nervous about the cycle. I am scared of the side effects as he's said he will be aggressive. I'm scared it won't work or I will have to decide how many to transfer and choose wrong. And the cost is almost 30k. We thought we could access an emergency fund for it since the trustee which is dh's aunt said we could if the IUI when I conceived Jack didn't work. It did work so we didn't need to draw funds. Now we asked her last week expecting like last time she would say yes, but she has said no with the excuse that it wouldn't have been what dh's grandmother would have wanted him to use the money for. We are livid and going to speak to her on Sunday despite her saying that we will not change her mind. No court of law would take her objection as a good enough reason and if she doesn't allow us to draw funds we will take her to court. She doesn't care that this adds stress for us. All she cares about is the % she gets of the funds as income. If we drawn them down her income goes down. She abuses her power as trustee and it's so upsetting. Dh is so conservative with the emergency fund his grandmother left for him and each of his brothers. Another brother abuses it and hasn't worked in 18mos but kisses the Aunt's ass and strokes her ego. She is like an evil character from a movie. Exactly what you would picture. Who says no to allowing someone to access funds that are theirs to conceive another child??? We've consulted a trust attorney and her reasoning isn't valid or based on law. So add this to the pile of stress. She's just awful. This too shall pass right?

 

[raelynn]

Babywhisperer - That is just terrible! I can't believe all that you're dealing with right now. Hopefully things come through with the trust. How terrible that his aunt won't agree to helping you out. It is so exciting that you're moving forward though. I had no side effects when I did IVF other than minor things like bloating and such. When do you start meds? Will be keeping you, your job, and your nephew in my prayers.

 

[beaglemom]

Baby whisperer. ..so sorry about all the nonsense. I have a thread I have been with for a while. It is a great group. We are all in various stages if ivf. Here is the link if you would like to join.

https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/a...upron-last-thurs-would-love-some-buddies.html

 

[Babywhisperer]

Babywhisperer - That is just terrible! I can't believe all that you're dealing with right now. Hopefully things come through with the trust. How terrible that his aunt won't agree to helping you out. It is so exciting that you're moving forward though. I had no side effects when I did IVF other than minor things like bloating and such. When do you start meds? Will be keeping you, your job, and your nephew in my prayers.

Thanks Raelynn, I appreciate your good thoughts. No one in the family speaks to the aunt or the uncle, they are Machiavellian people and they have done awful things to everyone. The trust is for the benefit of our children and if she had her way there would be no more children since her husbands trust when he dies passes to our kids and not to her. It's called a dynastic trust. What would be better for Jack, a sibling or to be an only child? We found language in the trust document that says we can remove the trustee if they make decisions that are without merit. If we fell she will not budge we will threaten her with removal bc she will not receive any more income off the trust. Even more we could tell her that we will tell everyone else they can also remove her as trustee for her decisions have been documented as having no basis on the law or how the trust was written. It is supposed to cover HEMS, health, education, maintenance and support. She has no good reason to object. She is pure evil.

 

[Babywhisperer]

Baby whisperer. ..so sorry about all the nonsense. I have a thread I have been with for a while. It is a great group. We are all in various stages if ivf. Here is the link if you would like to join.

https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/a...upron-last-thurs-would-love-some-buddies.html

Thank you. This is very helpful. I just feel like it's coming from all angles and I am about to break.

 

[beaglemom]

I am so sorry about your family. I guess it is a good thing you & your husband are so knowledgeable (him being a lawyer). I can see how she could take advantage. I don't know why people get so upity & act like gods because they get a little bit of control. Hopefully you can work it out & the threats will be enough to make her budge.

 

[MomOf3Girls]

Hopefully you guys haven't forgotten who I am. Sorry, I just don't post much at all, and when I do get on, I don't have time to get to everywhere I post at.

raelynn ~ I hope this is your BFP! GL with your beta.

babywhisperer ~ So sorry about the aunt not letting you have the funds to help your IVF. GL with your IVF!

beaglemom ~ GL with your IVF as well!

Hello everyone else!

I got my bfp on Saturday! IUI #2 was the winner. Went to my clinic yesterday morning for my beta, and they called me today with the results. 418 at 14 dpiui. I go again tomorrow for beta #2. Next week will be beta #3. Then, u/s the week after that.

 

[beaglemom]

Hopefully you guys haven't forgotten who I am. Sorry, I just don't post much at all, and when I do get on, I don't have time to get to everywhere I post at.

raelynn ~ I hope this is your BFP! GL with your beta.

babywhisperer ~ So sorry about the aunt not letting you have the funds to help your IVF. GL with your IVF!

beaglemom ~ GL with your IVF as well!

Hello everyone else!

I got my bfp on Saturday! IUI #2 was the winner. Went to my clinic yesterday morning for my beta, and they called me today with the results. 418 at 14 dpiui. I go again tomorrow for beta #2. Next week will be beta #3. Then, u/s the week after that.

Congrats! That is an awesome number for beta #1!

 

[raelynn]

MomOf3Girls - Congrats on the BFP! That is a great beta!

Babywhisperer - It sounds like you have found good reason to have her removed. As beaglemom said, hopefully the threats will be enough to get her to budge but at least you have some legal backing to help you move forward with it.

 

[beaglemom]

Raelynn - any change in the test lines? Good luck tomorrow.

 

[raelynn]

They look darker but I only took the IC this morning since I'm saving my last FRER for tomorrow.

 

[beaglemom]

They look darker but I only took the IC this morning since I'm saving my last FRER for tomorrow.

I think you are going to get some good news tomorrow! Exciting!

 

[raelynn]

Thanks! I'm sure hoping it comes back with good results. The wait has been tough!

 

[Ltruns33]

Congrats momof3! Raelynn hoping your lines get darker and you get a good beta! We need some bfp vibes in here!

 

[MomOf3Girls]

raelynn ~ I have a good feeling for you. I hope I'm right! Best of luck tomorrow!

 

[Byrnhild]

MomOf3Girls, that's great!! Congratulations!!!!!

 

[raelynn]

Beta results are in: 167!! I was at 166 at 15dpo with my daughter so we're already ahead of that. Hopefully it keeps progressing!

 

[MomOf3Girls]

Congrats, raelynn! How many dpo are you? I'm guessing we're due pretty close to each other.