Keeping Everything Crossed for that BFP

[Kadan82]

Thank god for the weekend !!!! Thats all I'm saying !!!!
I hope you are all well. I hope I don't get a really long cycle every month, it's really boring waiting to ovulate as it is !!!!!


Question for you all: What baby names do you guys like ???

I only have boys names picked out so far which is funny cause I'm really really wanting a girl! My ideal kids would be a girl first and then twin boys...I don't know why I want twin boys, I think maybe I'm crazy! I like the names...
Gage Zander & Gavin Kai. But we will see, I may change my mind by the time I finally have a baby.
What names do you like?

 

[dreambaby]

Well, we must stick together and stay positive !!!

 

[dreambaby]

Thank god for the weekend !!!! Thats all I'm saying !!!!
I hope you are all well. I hope I don't get a really long cycle every month, it's really boring waiting to ovulate as it is !!!!!


Question for you all: What baby names do you guys like ???

I only have boys names picked out so far which is funny cause I'm really really wanting a girl! My ideal kids would be a girl first and then twin boys...I don't know why I want twin boys, I think maybe I'm crazy! I like the names...
Gage Zander & Gavin Kai. But we will see, I may change my mind by the time I finally have a baby.
What names do you like?

Zander is a cool name. I love the idea of having twins too !!!
I like the names Imogen and Brooke for girls. My hubby wants the name Rhys for a boy as it is his middle name.

 

[Kadan82]

I have a question for you girls, I hope you don't mind me asking. Its kind of personal and doesnt have a lot to do with ttc.
Ok would you have a problem with your husband looking at porn? What if it was affecting your sex life to the point that he only initiated or wanted sex maybe once or twice a month? Long story short that's what happened in my husband and my relationship for the first two years of marriage. I didn't know why he never wanted to have sex and I would lie in bed at night crying and thinking he was no longer in love with me. It was so hard for me to understand because before we got married he wanted it all the time. I finally discovered it about 9 months ago and was REALLY hurt. It wouldn't have been quite as bad if it didn't affect our sex life so much. I confronted him and he was honest and said that he did have a problem with porn that it has been going on for months. It had never even crossed my mind because he has always told me how much hebwas not into that kind of thing. When I found out I seriously felt like he had been cheating on me. He promised he wouldn't do it anymore and things got a lot better...that's around when we decided to start ttc. Well I recently bought a magazine with Jennifer Lopez on the front and it was talking about how she lost weight. On the inside there are pics of her and other gorgeous celebrities in swimsuits talking about their diets. I put most of the magazine in the bathroom next to bathtub in a basket. Well over the last few weeks I have noticed that he goes in the bathroom before he works out in the morning and spends a LOT of time in there. I also noticed that every time I would put another magazine on top of that one, that it would be back on the top of the stack after he left. so I know what he is doing but I haven't mentioned it. I told him a couple days ago that it was getting close to my OV time and that now we had to Bd every other day but not more because it might affect his sperm count. So he knows tonight we are suppose to Bd again, but guess what magazine was on the top this morning when he left? So between seeing that and my intuition I know he did it this morning. I am so mad! Why could he not just wait to do it with me tonight? What if that's the reason I haven't gotten pg, because he does "it" too much and doesn't give his sperms enough time to mature? So I don't know what I should do. I just saw him and couldn't help but be mean to him! He was like "what's your deal?" and I told him nothing cause I don know what to say. Should I say something to him and am I right to be upset or not? Sorry this was so long I just really need some advice!! Thanks to anyone who took time to read it.

 

[dreambaby]

I have a question for you girls, I hope you don't mind me asking. Its kind of personal and doesnt have a lot to do with ttc.
Ok would you have a problem with your husband looking at porn? What if it was affecting your sex life to the point that he only initiated or wanted sex maybe once or twice a month? Long story short that's what happened in my husband and my relationship for the first two years of marriage. I didn't know why he never wanted to have sex and I would lie in bed at night crying and thinking he was no longer in love with me. It was so hard for me to understand because before we got married he wanted it all the time. I finally discovered it about 9 months ago and was REALLY hurt. It wouldn't have been quite as bad if it didn't affect our sex life so much. I confronted him and he was honest and said that he did have a problem with porn that it has been going on for months. It had never even crossed my mind because he has always told me how much hebwas not into that kind of thing. When I found out I seriously felt like he had been cheating on me. He promised he wouldn't do it anymore and things got a lot better...that's around when we decided to start ttc. Well I recently bought a magazine with Jennifer Lopez on the front and it was talking about how she lost weight. On the inside there are pics of her and other gorgeous celebrities in swimsuits talking about their diets. I put most of the magazine in the bathroom next to bathtub in a basket. Well over the last few weeks I have noticed that he goes in the bathroom before he works out in the morning and spends a LOT of time in there. I also noticed that every time I would put another magazine on top of that one, that it would be back on the top of the stack after he left. so I know what he is doing but I haven't mentioned it. I told him a couple days ago that it was getting close to my OV time and that now we had to Bd every other day but not more because it might affect his sperm count. So he knows tonight we are suppose to Bd again, but guess what magazine was on the top this morning when he left? So between seeing that and my intuition I know he did it this morning. I am so mad! Why could he not just wait to do it with me tonight? What if that's the reason I haven't gotten pg, because he does "it" too much and doesn't give his sperms enough time to mature? So I don't know what I should do. I just saw him and couldn't help but be mean to him! He was like "what's your deal?" and I told him nothing cause I don know what to say. Should I say something to him and am I right to be upset or not? Sorry this was so long I just really need some advice!! Thanks to anyone who took time to read it.

Porn is one of those things I think that all men secretly enjoy (some just admit it more than others. And some use it more than others). It is very selfish of him to waste his spermmies like that though when you have explained the best ways to catch the egg !!!!
My other half and I have always been open about porn, we even watch it together sometimes. It isn't something I've noticed my other half do too much secretly from me. He does however have times when he's too lazy to initiate sex and I have to be spontaneous and jump on him. I do think men like us to do that occasionally, I think they find it sexy. I dress up for my hubby occasionally too to spice things up!! But as women we also like our men to make it obvious they want us, be passionate and just throw us against the wall once in a while.
I say talk to him and say "We need to make more of an effort with each other, I wish you would just throw me against the wall sometimes and things could be more passionate, I worry you find women in magazines and the internet more sexy than me" And hopefully he'll know then how you feel and say: "of course I find you sexy and throw you on the bed !!! Talk about the porn and ask him if it's something he wants to share with you. I think it's important for couples to be open about the sorts of things that turn each other on.

 

[Morganceravol]

So I had a dream last night that we were having a boy! We were decoration the nursery and everything, oh I hope it's true!

I hope it is for you too hun.

I have a question for you girls, I hope you don't mind me asking. Its kind of personal and doesnt have a lot to do with ttc.
Ok would you have a problem with your husband looking at porn? What if it was affecting your sex life to the point that he only initiated or wanted sex maybe once or twice a month? Long story short that's what happened in my husband and my relationship for the first two years of marriage. I didn't know why he never wanted to have sex and I would lie in bed at night crying and thinking he was no longer in love with me. It was so hard for me to
understand because before we got married he wanted it all the time. I finally discovered it about 9 months ago and was REALLY hurt. It wouldn't have been quite as bad if it didn't affect our sex life so much. I confronted him and he was honest and said that he did have a problem with porn that it has been going on for months. It had never even crossed my mind because he has always told me how much hebwas not into that kind of thing. When I found out I seriously felt like he had been cheating on me. He promised he wouldn't
do it anymore and things got a lot better...that's around when we decided to start ttc. Well I recently bought a magazine with Jennifer Lopez on the front and it was talking about how she lost weight. On the inside there are pics of her and other gorgeous celebrities in swimsuits talking about their diets. I put most of the magazine in the bathroom next to bathtub in a basket. Well over the last few weeks I have noticed that he goes in the bathroom before he works out in the morning and spends a LOT of time in there. I also noticed that every time I would put another magazine on top of that one, that it would be back on the top of the stack after he left. so I know what he is doing but I haven't mentioned it. I told him a couple days ago that it was getting close to my OV time and that now we had to Bd every other day but not more because it might affect his sperm count. So he knows tonight we are suppose to Bd again, but guess what magazine was on the top this morning when he left? So
between seeing that and my intuition I know he did it this morning. I am so mad! Why could he not just wait to do it with me tonight? What if that's the reason I haven't gotten pg, because he does "it" too much and doesn't give his sperms enough time to mature? So I don't know what I should do. I just saw him and couldn't help but be mean to him! He was like "what's your deal?" and I told him nothing cause I don know what to say. Should I say something
to him and am I right to be upset or not? Sorry this was so long I just really need some advice!! Thanks to anyone who took time to read it.

Hey girl! Porn for men is something I can't deal with, like you said it makes me feel cheated on! He was bad before we got married and I found out and he saw how much it hurt me and it hasn't been an issue for us. Maybe like she said if it's something together as an arousal thing, never done it but heard it's good. That may be different. I am so sorry your dealing w this, maybe express how much it hurts you. Praying for you girl!

 

[Kadan82]

Thanks girls for your advice. I know it's natural for a guy to like porn but I think if it's done in secret and is affecting our sex life then it's not right. I hate thinking of him getting off to looking at other women! Some women don't care but it is something that obviously really bothers me. The thing that hurt me most is that he use to go in the bathroom (before I knew about it) and do that while I was sitting out on the couch....he could have been doing it with me but he would rather do it with himself while looking at someone else!! Ugh! But anyways I am going to talk to him tonight....ill let u girls know how it goes . Thanks for the support!

 

[famof6]

Dh says all men do it.After your stories ladies he may be right.We use to have many fights over porn on and off for 6 years.It is a HUGE deal to me.I don't like porn so that is something we would never share because I don't want any part of it.Thats just me.I have cried a many times over it.Even thought once I was ready to leave over it.Kaden it did affect our sex life years ago.It has not been a problem for us for about a year or so.I honestly think some men are addicted and can't stop even if they know how much it hurts their partner.I know I always thought it was me something wrong that made him do it,but it started before he met me.I do understand that some couples watch and look at porn together and think as long as neither has a problem with it then good.Just not for me.

Kaden,I would talk to him because I know how stressful that be on a relationship and hun you don't need to be stressed while you are ttc.It's already stressful enough without adding anything else in the mix.

 

[hlynn]

hey ladies..havent been on for about a week..how is everyone?
i had my hsg done on monday..everything went ok and my tubes are both open
i did have lots of cramping during and cramps with spotting afterwords for about 3 days
but i am just glad that everything looks ok
i did take a break from clomid this month though, so i am just hoping that i do ovulate this month without the meds
the dr doesnt know im taking a break
but i think that clomid may have thinned my lining or done something else that prevented me from getting pregnant like maybe dried my cm up too much
ive heard those things are both pretty common from clomid
so i took it for 4 months and this was supposed to be my 5th
i am gonna start opks tomorrow i am on cd 11 today
i am gonna be so sad if i dont ovulate...but i am trying my best to stay positive!

 

[famof6]

Thank god for the weekend !!!! Thats all I'm saying !!!!
I hope you are all well. I hope I don't get a really long cycle every month, it's really boring waiting to ovulate as it is !!!!!


Question for you all: What baby names do you guys like ???

I only have boys names picked out so far which is funny cause I'm really really wanting a girl! My ideal kids would be a girl first and then twin boys...I don't know why I want twin boys, I think maybe I'm crazy! I like the names...
Gage Zander & Gavin Kai. But we will see, I may change my mind by the time I finally have a baby.
What names do you like?

Zander is a cool name. I love the idea of having twins too !!!
I like the names Imogen and Brooke for girls. My hubby wants the name Rhys for a boy as it is his middle name.

My DD's name is Brooklyn but mostly everyone calls her Brooke good choice.lol

 

[famof6]

hey ladies..havent been on for about a week..how is everyone?
i had my hsg done on monday..everything went ok and my tubes are both open
i did have lots of cramping during and cramps with spotting afterwords for about 3 days
but i am just glad that everything looks ok
i did take a break from clomid this month though, so i am just hoping that i do ovulate this month without the meds
the dr doesnt know im taking a break
but i think that clomid may have thinned my lining or done something else that prevented me from getting pregnant like maybe dried my cm up too much
ive heard those things are both pretty common from clomid
so i took it for 4 months and this was supposed to be my 5th
i am gonna start opks tomorrow i am on cd 11 today
i am gonna be so sad if i dont ovulate...but i am trying my best to stay positive!

Well it's about time!!lol..Been wondering how your test went.I had mine on Tues and both tubes open.I did not have any cramps and just a little spotting the day of.I have heard if you have cramping during you may have had a small blockage and the dye pushed it out.So maybe you will get that BFP this cycle.Mine was painless so I don't think that is my problem but hoping the cleaning out does the trick!!GL I am cd 13 no +opk yet.

 

[Kadan82]

Thank you famof6...it's nice to know that other girls have been through the same thing! It's been really hard on me.
My dh (I don't like calling him that at the moment!) just called and asked what I was doing. I told him I was at the grocery store and he asked what I was getting. I told him grapefruit juice and lemons (I just read the thread earlier about how it helps cm) and he said "why...are you doing the j. Lo diet?"! And I said "u wish! But no it's just suppose to be good for u!". BTW...J. Lo is the person on the freaking magazine that he keeps looking at! It's so funny how naive he thinks I am. Well girls I'm gonna go have a little chat with him! I will keep you all updated. Hope y'all (sorry I'm from Texas) have a great night...I will post later .

 

[Kadan82]

hey ladies..havent been on for about a week..how is everyone?
i had my hsg done on monday..everything went ok and my tubes are both open
i did have lots of cramping during and cramps with spotting afterwords for about 3 days
but i am just glad that everything looks ok
i did take a break from clomid this month though, so i am just hoping that i do ovulate this month without the meds
the dr doesnt know im taking a break
but i think that clomid may have thinned my lining or done something else that prevented me from getting pregnant like maybe dried my cm up too much
ive heard those things are both pretty common from clomid
so i took it for 4 months and this was supposed to be my 5th
i am gonna start opks tomorrow i am on cd 11 today
i am gonna be so sad if i dont ovulate...but i am trying my best to stay positive!

Hey girl! Happy u are back...was worried about u! Congrats on the good news. Stay positive

 

[hlynn]

thanks ladies!
yeah well it could have been possible because i know the minute the dr injected the dye in it went straight through my left one and the right one actually stopped and she said she needed more dye and the other dr gave her more and she put more and then it pushed through the right one and went all the way
so they are both open now for sure..but who knows if the right one could have been a little blocked before and the dye pushed through it
but i havent started opks yet..im cd 11 today
i am gonna start tomorrow i am just hoping that i do ovulate off of the medicine
how is everyone else doing? i need to go back through and read all the pages i missed lol

 

[famof6]

thanks ladies!
yeah well it could have been possible because i know the minute the dr injected the dye in it went straight through my left one and the right one actually stopped and she said she needed more dye and the other dr gave her more and she put more and then it pushed through the right one and went all the way
so they are both open now for sure..but who knows if the right one could have been a little blocked before and the dye pushed through it
but i havent started opks yet..im cd 11 today
i am gonna start tomorrow i am just hoping that i do ovulate off of the medicine
how is everyone else doing? i need to go back through and read all the pages i missed lol

I was hoping mine did that so I would have something to blame for me not getting preggo but it went right thru.Sound positive for you though.I think quiet a few of us are waiting to O so not much been going on.Did you O before you started clomid?

 

[hlynn]

thanks ladies!
yeah well it could have been possible because i know the minute the dr injected the dye in it went straight through my left one and the right one actually stopped and she said she needed more dye and the other dr gave her more and she put more and then it pushed through the right one and went all the way
so they are both open now for sure..but who knows if the right one could have been a little blocked before and the dye pushed through it
but i havent started opks yet..im cd 11 today
i am gonna start tomorrow i am just hoping that i do ovulate off of the medicine
how is everyone else doing? i need to go back through and read all the pages i missed lol

I was hoping mine did that so I would have something to blame for me not getting preggo but it went right thru.Sound positive for you though.I think quiet a few of us are waiting to O so not much been going on.Did you O before you started clomid?

well my story is a little confusing lol but i guess ill write a little book for u ladies here
ok..i was on the depo shot from ages 14 to 15 and then i was off for about a year and ended up pregnant at 16
i got off because it made me gain a TON of weight..and after i got off of it i did get on the pill but after a couple months my dads insurance stopped payin for it so we were just doing the pull out method and ended up pregnant like a month after i stopped the pill
we ended up gettng married when i was about 4 months pregnant and everything went fine i had my healthy baby girl at 17 years old
when we was about 7 months we decided we wanted another one and i was on no birth control but we realized i hadnt had a period in like 4 months..i had only had 2 or 3 after my daughter was born
so we made a trip to the dr who did a bunch of blood tests to make sure it was nothing serious and it wasnt, so she put me on clomid
i got pregnant the first month on clomid but right around when i got a positive hpt i was having tons of cramps and it got me a little worried so i went to the dr and she ordered an ultrasound..well the ultrasound interpreter said the baby was in my tubes..so i went in for surgery and turns out there was no baby in my tubes..she was in my uterus and everything was good
needless to say i was upset for having an unnecessary sugery but also happy at the same time that my baby was perfect and everything was ok
then i had my 2nd daughter healthy and everything was fine with her and me.
so when she turned a year we decided to get my mirena iud out and for the first month i didnt have a period so the dr put me back on clomid and i didnt ovulate the first 2 months but i did the 3rd and got pregnant but had an early m/c
so we took bout 6 months off of ttc and i did have regular periods but never used opks or nething and i started clomid again in september..i ovulated every time on the lowest dose..but my periods got shorter and shorter..like 3 days long at the most and alls they are are dark brown mucousy looking stuff..no real red blood at all...so i guess that is why i think that its something else..i think with getting pregnant 3 times right away DHs sperm would be fine and the dr agrees with me..and now that i know my tubes are open it makes me think even more that it could be my lining or maybe even dried up cm

 

[famof6]

I have seen that alot of ladies on clomid take baby aspirin.Is this to help with the lining?Also I think most either use preseed or take mucinex for cm.

 

[hlynn]

i did take baby asprin yes its used to thicken ur lining..and used preseed and also a supplement called fertilecm that is supposed to help with lining and cm..lol none of it worked

 

[famof6]

i did take baby asprin yes its used to thicken ur lining..and used preseed and also a supplement called fertilecm that is supposed to help with lining and cm..lol none of it worked

Sorry to hear that hun,I hope you get your bfp without the clomid this cycle!!

 

[hlynn]

thank you! im hopeful but not too much..im trying to stay neutral since i know theres a big possibility that i could not ovulate since im not on the medicine..but theres a chance that i could ovulate and probably have a better chance of getting my bfp since i didnt take the meds..it could go either way..but i am gonna start opks tomorrow and see where they get me..i am gonna be super sad if i dont ovulate..but i can go back on it next month if i dont..so thats one good thing..but i am just really hoping to get pregnant off of it..i am still taking the baby aspirin hoping that it will thicken it up while im not even taking the clomid but otherwise im not gonna worry too much about ttc this month..just kind of go with the flow..are we all on about the same cd day and waiting to ovulate? has everyone started the opks yet? i wanted to wait since i am normally a pretty late ovulater..usually do on about cd 16 or 17