Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[4magpies]

1. Ex lttcers who forget what its like when they get pregnant
2. Same lttcer bemoaning the pregnancy symptoms (especially when she was so annoyed at other pregnant cows doing this when she was still lttc)
3. Have to sit near aforementioned ex lttcer and know that had i not mc my baby i would be a couple of weeks ahead of her
4. Crying in the minging toilets at work because of all the aforementioned points, plus still trying to get over mc, plus feeling like i won't be a mum ever.

I know a few like this.

Boils my piss.

 

[wannabemummyb]

1. Ex lttcers who forget what its like when they get pregnant
2. Same lttcer bemoaning the pregnancy symptoms (especially when she was so annoyed at other pregnant cows doing this when she was still lttc)
3. Have to sit near aforementioned ex lttcer and know that had i not mc my baby i would be a couple of weeks ahead of her
4. Crying in the minging toilets at work because of all the aforementioned points, plus still trying to get over mc, plus feeling like i won't be a mum ever.

I know a few like this.

Boils my piss.

I can't believe how quickly they forget!

 

[SadTeacher]

Thanks CaliDreaming, made me smile x

 

[JJKCB]

big thing on the news today that they have exposed with undercover footage but wont prosecute doctors who illegally preform sex selection abortions

If your going to kill your child just because its a girl and you would prefer boys then really you shouldn't be allowed ANY child regardless of sex

I would try everything for another and I would be ecstatic with a boy or girl

It's a sick problem related to misguided cultures that think men are more valuable than women. I don't even want to think about how they would handle a child who ends up being homosexual or transgender.

I agree that I would love and cherish any child I have.

whats more shocking is the exposed it in our culture, in my country

it appears to not just be an eastern or 3rd world issue anymore, with people now opting to have on average only 2 children they seem to want more right in choosing (with 1 girl & 1 boy being most popular and two girls being least popular)

 

[Plex]

When u suddenly stop and realise nearly all your time together since getting married and before has been about TTC

 

[jabish]

I have spent the last 6 years of my life doing fertility treatments...peeing on all kinds of stix for ovulation and
pregnancy..doctors visits...taking medications..forking out money for it all...getting my cervix worked on...attempting IUI and failing misserably I am soo drained..i am 37 and hubby is 42... I wonder how much more can i take..i am loosing this battle and cant handle it...when do you call it quits....i am dying inside...i have never felt so out of control in my life!!!!!!!!!!

 

[CaliDreaming]

I have spent the last 6 years of my life doing fertility treatments...peeing on all kinds of stix for ovulation and
pregnancy..doctors visits...taking medications..forking out money for it all...getting my cervix worked on...attempting IUI and failing misserably I am soo drained..i am 37 and hubby is 42... I wonder how much more can i take..i am loosing this battle and cant handle it...when do you call it quits....i am dying inside...i have never felt so out of control in my life!!!!!!!!!!

jabish. I haven't been trying nearly as long as you, but I've often thought about quitting too. TTC is such a roller coaster. I've started seeing a therapist to sort through my feelings. It's such a personal decision with no clear answers.

In talking with my therapist, I was able to figure out that I am not going to be okay with quitting until I've explored all of the options that me and my hubby are willing to take. For us, that means everything short of IVF (due to the cost). Otherwise, I'd never be at peace even though TTC is really taking its toll on me.

 

[moose31]

great got a UTI just in time for "fertile days" (<-----not that mine are actually fertile) but I like to pretend

 

[Myshelsong]

If one more lady at work jokingly makes a comment about "How I need to have children already" I am going to punch them in the face.

Guess What ... I KNOW I AM GETTING OLDER ALREADY!!! Shut the FUp!

 

[PyrusEK]

4. Crying in the minging toilets at work because of all the aforementioned points, plus still trying to get over mc, plus feeling like i won't be a mum ever.

I know exactly what you mean. I am currently trying not to lose it at work and have to hide out in the bathroom. I just found out a former coworker (who is a bit of a "mean girl") and her husband (who is an alcoholic) are having a baby. They only had to try for about 6 months.

My sister told me the other day that her "psychic" friend predicted I will get pregnant around the holidays, and her husband had a "vision" or something that I will give birth in 16 months. (Apparently that happened earlier this year.)

If only I believed in psychics and fairy tales, maybe I could will my body to do what they predict. Unfortunately, as we all know very well, it doesn't work that way.

 

[JJKCB]

talking of psychics:

one stopped me and my son the other day randomly on the street as I went in to have one of my fertility tests done (she was trying to sell 'charms' which where actually wedding confetti and looked like she was on something) looked at my son and said my 'daughter' will grow up to be a dancer and soon I will finally be blessed with a 'son'

how bad a psychic can you be

 

[CaliDreaming]

LOL. I broke down and got a fertility reading from an online psychic when I was TTC the first time around. The psychic took several months to get back to me and thought she had just run with my money. By the time she gave me the reading, I was already 4-5 months pregnant and of course she completely didn't see it in her reading. I think there are some psychics are legit but obviously the one I consulted was not one of them! I think her name was Ruby.

 

[Aradia]

Ugh! I found out last week that one of my Facebook friends is pregnant again. She was pregnant when DH and I first started TTC, and this is the second time since then that she's gotten pregnant. All because her husband chickened out on getting a vasectomy. Twice! She keeps whining about hating being pregnant, and having morning sickness, when I would give ANYTHING to be pregnant even if I had to go through the worst of the worst morning sickness.

I am ashamed to admit that I had a bit of a tantrum when I found out. I had to hide her from my newsfeed because if she posted one more thing about her morning sickness I am pretty sure I would have ended up telling her off. Meanwhile I'm going through Provera Hell trying to put an end to a cycle that's been going on for over 5 months now.

 

[nobump]

So bloody annoyed...... week late, bit of spotting.... never late.... had a hospital appointment today for a flexible cystoscopy due to finding blood in urine whilst trying out the clear blue ovualtion monitor. I am LTTC, well VLTTC.... so head is a bit up in the air over being late, never late.... so thought would ask them to do a dip stick for me, all test I have taken so far have been negative, but until she shows, there is hope..

Gave sample to a nurse, spoke to another nurse, who took my BP, explained above, and she went to see if they could do a test for me, but they had threw the urine away... so asked me to give another sample afterwards. She gave me a container for the sample.

Had flex test, not very pleasant, thankfully all ok, one of those things apparently for a small percentage of people. A nurse walked me out of the room to a disabled toliet to get dressed in!!!! A disabled toliet, felt horrible, why a toilet!!! Anyway got dressed, provided the sample, think it was mostly saline, as they fill your bladder with that during the procedure.

Gave sample to nurse, asked her if it would be ok for the preg test as I thought it would be mostly saline, and they said they were not doing a preg test as not required for the procedure as they can do the procedure why you are pregnant.

Was not a happy bunny, vented at them, said I was not happy at getting changed in a toilet! and said that I had been told that they would do the test!

Home, but in pain, feel very emotional, booked an appointment to see GP, but appointment not for another week!

 

[SadTeacher]

Just had a thought...

Will never, ever be able to watch the first five minutes of 'Up'. Too devastating and close to home now.

If any of you ladies haven't seen it, steer well clear...

 

[Myshelsong]

About a year ago my sister told me if we needed help she would be up for being our surrogate. I thought the gesture was very nice but since we just started talking to our dr about fertility issues and havent even gone through IVF ourselves I told her that we probably wouldnt be doing them.

On the phone my Sister told me today to hurry and and decide if I want to use her as a surrogate as she is getting to old to carry a baby. .... she is younger than I am

 

[Myshelsong]

Just had a thought...

Will never, ever be able to watch the first five minutes of 'Up'. Too devastating and close to home now.

If any of you ladies haven't seen it, steer well clear...

Broke down watching that part with my hubby last month. Totally forgot it was in there. Ruined my whole night.

 

[wannabemummyb]

Just had a thought...

Will never, ever be able to watch the first five minutes of 'Up'. Too devastating and close to home now.

If any of you ladies haven't seen it, steer well clear...

I cried so hard when i saw it

 

[JJKCB]

Just had a thought...

Will never, ever be able to watch the first five minutes of 'Up'. Too devastating and close to home now.

If any of you ladies haven't seen it, steer well clear...

I cried so hard when i saw it

it makes everyone cry

 

[JJKCB]

ive been stabbed so many times with needle ALL my vein seem to collapse if you even think about drawing blood... 2 nurses, 2 appointments, an hour each and multiple stabbing and they finally managed to get a small amount of blood to test progesterone

why is this so painful, they know I terrified of needles so its like torture... like being kicked when your already down