Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[cntrygrl]

Thank You Myshelsong

 

[sugarpi24]

VENT: okay so i logged onto a thread on here and a lady was TTC for #5 and was going to go in for testing because she hadnt become pregnant yet...her oldest is 20...then 16...etc...whatever....then the next day she posts "oh well i got a BFP guess i dont have to go through all the testing" MUST BE FREAKING NICE!!!! MUST BE FREAKING NICE!....okay i feel a little better..

 

[cntrygrl]

Some people are ridiculous Sugarpi

 

[SadTeacher]

Have a friend who has been divorced, remarried and now has a seven month old in the time I have been trying.

Had an argument the other day with her (about the teaching strikes- I'm a teacher and she's concerned about having the take the day off to look after her child in five years time...), and she actually used the phrase 'you're not a mum, you wouldn't understand', fully knowing what I'm going through.

Genuinely don't think I can speak to her again, I'm so upset.

 

[JJKCB]

Have a friend who has been divorced, remarried and now has a seven month old in the time I have been trying.

Had an argument the other day with her (about the teaching strikes- I'm a teacher and she's concerned about having the take the day off to look after her child in five years time...), and she actually used the phrase 'you're not a mum, you wouldn't understand', fully knowing what I'm going through.

Genuinely don't think I can speak to her again, I'm so upset.

pretty much 6 years... all the reception classes round here are still open (they dont count in the stike) so it sounds like she doesn't have the faintest clue anyway hun

 

[Myshelsong]

I am ovulating late and my husband is in another Province. sad face
FML, I really wanted to give it a go this month.

 

[Miaw]

I am ovulating late and my husband is in another Province. sad face
FML, I really wanted to give it a go this month.

Awww I'm sorry hun I know how it feels, it happened to me a lot too before me and my fiance lived together.

Next month will be there before you know it.

 

[JJ1983]

"All the girls from your hen do now have a baby! Except you" yes, thanks for pointing that out.....

 

[SadTeacher]

"All the girls from your hen do now have a baby! Except you" yes, thanks for pointing that out.....

Think that sort of comment deserves a punch in the face. Hearty congrats that you managed to restrain yourself!

 

[sugarpi24]

VENT: why the heck do I have to pay a crap load of money to have a kid with IVF when kids themeselves cost a crap load themselves!!! Ugh!! This doesn't make sense!!!

 

[madtowngirl]

I just read on article about the health of children produced via IVF, and I could not believe the comments coming from people. There was a girl who actually said you were infertile for a reason, that it was nature's way of dealing with overpopulation, and this world doesn't need more people!

Unreal.

 

[JJKCB]

I just read on article about the health of children produced via IVF, and I could not believe the comments coming from people. There was a girl who actually said you were infertile for a reason, that it was nature's way of dealing with overpopulation, and this world doesn't need more people!

Unreal.

yeah but that's just a strange to you... I get that stuff from my 'real' dad all the time + the stuff that disabled people should be irradiated because they're a drain on society (my mam and her side of the family are heavily disabled)

some people are just bitter

 

[PyrusEK]

I heard on the news today about a dad shooting his kids in their sleep then killing himself. I had to stop myself from bursting into tears. Then I heard about the man who was arrested for assaulting a 6-month-old, and I couldn't restrain myself anymore.

I would do anything to have a child, and here are these awful people, having kids and doing horrible things to them like their lives don't matter at all. Just give them to me. I'll shower them with all the love they need and deserve. They'll want for nothing, and I would let no one lay a finger on them without incurring my wrath.

Why do these people get to have kids and I don't??

 

[wannabemummyb]

I heard on the news today about a dad shooting his kids in their sleep then killing himself. I had to stop myself from bursting into tears. Then I heard about the man who was arrested for assaulting a 6-month-old, and I couldn't restrain myself anymore.

I would do anything to have a child, and here are these awful people, having kids and doing horrible things to them like their lives don't matter at all. Just give them to me. I'll shower them with all the love they need and deserve. They'll want for nothing, and I would let no one lay a finger on them without incurring my wrath.

Why do these people get to have kids and I don't??

Couldn't agree more and think it all the time, even when when i hear mothers screaming at her brood of kids

 

[SadTeacher]

Finally started Clomid this month, after two years of waiting and a further four months of further tests 'just in case'.

Boy, it does not sit well with me. Getting throbbing pains, headaches and nausea.

And it probably won't even work as I already ovulate. Effing fantastic.

As for the above posts regarding the whole system of not giving fertility treatment to people who cannot conceive alone because that's just the way it is, perhaps we should take away doctors and nurses from them. Next time they break their arm or are in a serious accident, let's see how they feel about letting nature take its course. Bet they change their minds then.

 

[SadTeacher]

Just re-read my last post... Wow, sounding bitter.

Mainly because I am, I'll be honest!

 

[madtowngirl]

Sadteacher, I completely agree! Why is it that infertility is "nature's way of dealing with overpopulation," but it's not a problem that television networks have tv shows featuring couples with 8+ children, or that there are other shows that glamorize having children when you're not ready (16 and pregnant, etc)????

Now I'm the bitter one!

 

[Briss]

if infertility was "nature's way of dealing with overpopulation," than Chinese and other overpopulated countries would be the first to suffer from infertility. this does not happen so it is not logical. Still, it pains me when people make such remarks. how dare they!

 

[Countrygirl13]

I get these 'overpopulation' comments all the time in discussions at work. That's because i work with teenagers and their ability to empathise and think about things outside of their personal experience is still developing. Some people never get beyond their know-everything teen years do they?

 

[madtowngirl]

Countrygirl13 - no, unfortunately many people never do get beyond that attitude. I'm sorry that you have to deal with it at work, too. That's not fun.

Ugh, I am such an idiot. I've been keeping my m/c pretty much on the dl among my acquaintances, but last night I was at a party, had too much to drink, and stupidly blurted it out in front of a girl who didn't know. She then told me that I probably miscarried because I had been drinking at the time (I didn't know I was pregnant, and had just lost a friend in a biking accident). Thanks for reminding me of all that guilt I carry.